I am about to consciously choose to have about 1/3 of our current income going forward. Am I crazy?
A little background. I have been at my current well paying job for about 5 years. After years of schooling and 2 postdocs, and not being able to live as a family of 3 on one postdoc salary in a HCOL area, I took a job that paid ~3x in a much lower cost of living city and gave up on academia. It was the right choice, I am convinced!. We basically finally felt like we didn’t have to think about money at all. And without even trying or budgeting or doing anything differently at all, our bank balance kept growing quite a bit. About 2 years into it I discovered MMM and now it’s growing even more and we are about 40% of where we want to be to FIRE.
That’s all great.
The problem is that my job stressed me out. Immensely! It still basically supported our family while SO worked on PHD, then postdoc which was funded at times and unfunded at others. And that made my job even more stressful. I basically felt like I had no time for anything. All my waking hours were spent on working for my job. Trying to keep up with the demands of it. Trying to even do the bare minimum that was required of me. I worked most weekends, I worked most vacations. I basically ate and worked and slept sometimes. In the meantime, SO started applying for academic positions. Some interviews happened. Last year had one offer that was in the middle of nowhere and wouldn’t really allow for continued research in area of interest. We pretty unanimously and easily decided not to take it.
This year there are 2 offers on the table.
1. In a tiny town in the US that would pay between a little over 1/2 to at most 3/4 of my salary. I could most likely keep my current job. The cost of living would be pretty low. I could probably FIRE in
3-4 years, but SO would want to keep working, get tenure etc.
OR
2. A medium size city with similar COL to our current city but in Europe that would pay SO a little less than 1/2 of my current salary. I could also possibly keep doing my current job part time. (This really appeals to me as I feel completely burned out) it’s unclear how much money we could expect to get from my part time work... maybe nothing, maybe equivalent to SO’s full time work. But even one salary should be enough to cover our living expenses. Not sure we’d be able to save much if anything, though.
Am I crazy and irrational for prefering option 2?? And delaying FIRE? Or is it better to think of it as partial FIRE in a cool international location? Having time and freedom to travel is my top motivation for wanting to FIRE anyway...