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Alternative phrases for 'I don't know'
« on: May 08, 2020, 06:19:25 AM »
While my job experience has been doing down hill for quite a while, I got (mentally) done yesterday.  Unfortunately, I have 1 year, 1 month, and 3 weeks to go until I can retire.  All of my career, I have always been a person with an opinion and often the person who actually knows things.  I would like to stop being that person and become the person who doesn't know.

Aside: I will continue to do my job, and I will continue to take care of the people who report to me and to those I work alongside every day.  But for my peers and my supervisors, I don't need to contribute to those conversations.  There are plenty of other people with opinions and answers.  One small hiccup is that I have a new boss starting in about 6 weeks, and he is likely to ask a lot of questions.  Of course I will answer when the question is factual but not when it is open to interpretation or based on my opinion. If he asks me when a thing happened, I can answer.  If he asks me why a thing happened, I don't know. Now back to my question.

So, I tried it out in a conversation yesterday and quickly realized one cannot say 'I don't know' 10 times in one conversation.  And I certainly can't do it for a year.  So, I need alternatives.  I actually googled it...but those alternatives were along the lines of "I don't know, but I'll find out'.  NOT the direction I want to go.

Here is my list so far:
  • I don't know
    Hmmm
    I don't remember
    That's changed alot over the years
    Maybe X knows
    You could ask X
    That's a good question
    X has more expertise in that area
    I don't (didn't/never) understand how that works
    It's what you want it to be
    Whatever you think best
    I never knew that

Any other suggestions?  I would like to have a long list in my arsenal for the coming year.  TIA

 

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Re: Alternative phrases for 'I don't know'
« Reply #1 on: May 08, 2020, 06:21:43 AM »
NOt a synonym, but a good alternative to “I don’t Know” in a workplace or school environment is to say:
I can find out
Or
I will let you know by ____


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Re: Alternative phrases for 'I don't know'
« Reply #2 on: May 08, 2020, 06:28:22 AM »
I'm really not sure. Drives me nuts when my kid says that.
Either choice is fine. For a X or Y decision where you want to say I don't know.
Let me get back to you on that question. (Take your time.)
That's not really in my wheelhouse.
My bandwidth for that area is narrow.
I don't know if I was put in the loop for that issue.

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Re: Alternative phrases for 'I don't know'
« Reply #3 on: May 08, 2020, 06:37:06 AM »
I like:

Not sure, but I bet Coworker X would know.

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Re: Alternative phrases for 'I don't know'
« Reply #4 on: May 08, 2020, 07:13:32 AM »
  • Beats me
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  • It was Stacy in accountings fault
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Re: Alternative phrases for 'I don't know'
« Reply #5 on: May 08, 2020, 07:14:25 AM »
It depends on your desired outcome.

If you want to not sound like you're on it despite not knowing:
"I can find that out right away"
"I'll have to look into that"
"Let me confirm that with the most current information"
"I've got some ideas, but I want to check a few things first"

If you want someone else to be responsible:
"Who do you think would be best to address that?"
"Person X knows a lot about that subject"
"Who on the team knows most about this? Let's loop them in."

If you want people to stop bothering you with such matters and not take any ownership of figuring out who should handle it:
"I'm not sure why you are asking me???"
"That's really not my knowledge base"
"I don't think I can really comment on that"

Engineer what you say for the outcome behaviour you want.


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Re: Alternative phrases for 'I don't know'
« Reply #6 on: May 08, 2020, 07:22:24 AM »
I haven't got an answer for that one, how do you think you can go about finding out?

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Re: Alternative phrases for 'I don't know'
« Reply #7 on: May 08, 2020, 07:38:45 AM »
If the question is why something is done a certain way:
- Hmm, not really sure. It was like that when I came
- Huh, good question. Do you feel there may be a better way to do it?

Sometimes if I don’t have a strong opinion, I’ll just agree with the other person:
- I don’t have an opinion either way on this topic/question
- All the options have their pros and cons.
- Either way is fine with me.
- Sure, your idea sounds like a good idea.
- Yup, that would work too.
- Yeah, that’s a good point. Hmm. (And then look like you’re pondering the issue)

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Re: Alternative phrases for 'I don't know'
« Reply #8 on: May 08, 2020, 04:19:30 PM »
Okay so before I retired I was one of the most knowledgeable people in the group even though I wasn't in my specific role for that long (and only with the company about 10 years.  When the workload got stupid in more ways than one (amount and types of requests) with a young pup boss that wouldn't manage it, I started answering with things like:

 -  "I don't know about now, but back when I started, we did x, though that might not be relevant now" (insert story of the length you want to tell.  Bonus points if it is funny).  Note: I am in my 30s, but this was SOOO FUN!  I totally could have had an onion tied to my belt because it was the style at the time.  I had been around long enough and in enough groups that I had stories about people that had been laid off three layoffs ago, and they had worked for the company 35 years. 

- Or relatedly "I heard that back in the day they did it for this reason, but xx told me this, back when they worked with the company.  You know, politics"  Then go into company politics from 20 years ago. 

 I do love a good story though and it would be so sad to see some of these good company stories to die.  It was my time to pass them on and I had a captive audience.  :D. 

Other things I used were also:

"Hmm, I vaguely remember something about that but don't know off the top of my head.  If you can't get the info any other way, why don't you come back (insert time, like next week or in a few day) and we can hash our way through it and figure it out."  This really works if they need it on a shorter timeline or have someone else to ask.  They know if they want it from me, it was going to take time and probably involve memory lane.

Relatedly "I might have some documents on that, but I'd have to dig them out.  Might be easier to ask x (or check the server)."   

Some quick liners I have used, like in meetings.  These mostly work if you don't take yourself too seriously.

- that is going to take some mental dredging up before I have an answer, you might want to check elsewhere.
- I might have some old emails on it, but it will take time to check (depends on your company email/document policy)
- Oh sorry, I core dumped all that information after the project ended, sorry (sometimes working with scientists rocks)
- not sure, but you can check the archive/notebooks (yah scientists)
- Uh, I have some idea, but nothing I'd want to put my guarantee on since it has been a while. 
- Oh, it might, maybe, be something, like this, but you really should get a double check, seriously (breeds confidence)

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Re: Alternative phrases for 'I don't know'
« Reply #9 on: May 08, 2020, 04:40:10 PM »
Add a little culture with "Je ne sais pas."

Or try the more ambiguous "Je ne sais quoi," if it works. For example, "That software change adds a little je ne sais quoi to the product."

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Re: Alternative phrases for 'I don't know'
« Reply #10 on: May 08, 2020, 05:07:37 PM »
I have a guy that works for me who seems never able to give a clear answer or make a decision. Every question I ask, 3 more are asked from him.

I’ve really been considering letting him go after this current project, and reading this thread is going to make me realize how much more he does this. I’ll really be paying attention to it now.

The worst is when I ask him to do something, it’s like he will ask so many questions until he can get out of what I have asked him to do. I’ve told him this before, too.

This isn’t my first time managing people and have had many great employees over the years, my patience for the ones who don’t seem to take initiative to add value, don’t last.

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Re: Alternative phrases for 'I don't know'
« Reply #11 on: May 08, 2020, 05:16:54 PM »
Add a little culture with "Je ne sais pas."

Or try the more ambiguous "Je ne sais quoi," if it works. For example, "That software change adds a little je ne sais quoi to the product."

My little bilingual brain took awhile to figure out why you just told him to say "I don't know", as if you were being completely unhelpful, lol. 

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Re: Alternative phrases for 'I don't know'
« Reply #12 on: May 08, 2020, 05:30:55 PM »
What's wrong with just saying "I don't know"?  It's better than "I don't know, and I don't care" (which is often what I'm thinking).  Why do we have to use a bunch of words to make it sound like we give a damn?  This is why I want to fucking quit.

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Re: Alternative phrases for 'I don't know'
« Reply #13 on: May 08, 2020, 08:44:04 PM »
Let me think about that (then don't)
I can't be sure
I'm not positive about that
I think XXX would be the place to look
Could you put that in writing so I can think on it? (then forward to someone else)
Can't answer that off the top of my head
It's been a long time since I did that
Can't quite recall, have you looked in XXX?
That might be at the back of my brain somewhere but I'm not sure where!

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Re: Alternative phrases for 'I don't know'
« Reply #14 on: May 08, 2020, 09:15:39 PM »
When I need to pass something off, I generally phrase it as a compliment to someone else or hint at where to find it.
“I don’t work with that particular process regularly but Sara is great with that project.”
“That is a really great question and I bet Kathy has that information as that is her area of expertise.”
“Policies regarding that can generally be found (in the handbook, on the website, state statutes, etc.). Have you tried searching for the updated information there?”

Or alternatively use a time excuse.
“I am not 100% on that answer but could dig into that information in a week or two.”
“That procedure has had some changes and I’d have to look into an answer. I’m currently under a deadline for a project but maybe we could look at this next week?”

Unfortunately I am the person that is a policy follower and willing to find answers. So I am the go to for just about everything if there is a question. You know it is bad when the person that does the financials starts asking me about finance processes or if I know when/where something was purchased.

I’ve been with my employer for 20 years in a couple different roles so I have collected a lot of random information in my time.

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Re: Alternative phrases for 'I don't know'
« Reply #15 on: May 09, 2020, 06:13:01 AM »
What's wrong with just saying "I don't know"?  It's better than "I don't know, and I don't care" (which is often what I'm thinking).  Why do we have to use a bunch of words to make it sound like we give a damn?  This is why I want to fucking quit.

Because "I don't know" doesn't actually communicate much of meaning.

If I'm paying someone to do a task and I ask them a pertinent question to that task and they respond "I don't know", then that tells me absolutely nothing of value to the situation.

I need to know if they don't know and it is in fact their responsibility to know, so I should expect them to find out, or if I'm on the wrong track and it's actually someone else's job to know, or worse, if it's no one's job to know and management has failed to account for anyone knowing.

If you were in a store and asked the sales associate if a certain item that you really need was in store because you couldn't find it, their response of "I don't know" would be beyond useless, it would be downright rude.

"I don't know, I'm new, but I'll try and find out"
"I don't work in this department, sorry"
"I don't know when we're getting more in stock, but we get new shipments daily, so you could come back tomorrow"
"I don't know what that is that you're asking, does the product have another name?"

"I don't know" is not a complete statement if the person asking is entitled to the context of your not knowing.

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Re: Alternative phrases for 'I don't know'
« Reply #16 on: May 09, 2020, 06:21:48 AM »
What's wrong with just saying "I don't know"?  It's better than "I don't know, and I don't care" (which is often what I'm thinking).  Why do we have to use a bunch of words to make it sound like we give a damn?  This is why I want to fucking quit.

Because "I don't know" doesn't actually communicate much of meaning.

If I'm paying someone to do a task and I ask them a pertinent question to that task and they respond "I don't know", then that tells me absolutely nothing of value to the situation.

I need to know if they don't know and it is in fact their responsibility to know, so I should expect them to find out, or if I'm on the wrong track and it's actually someone else's job to know, or worse, if it's no one's job to know and management has failed to account for anyone knowing.

If you were in a store and asked the sales associate if a certain item that you really need was in store because you couldn't find it, their response of "I don't know" would be beyond useless, it would be downright rude.

"I don't know, I'm new, but I'll try and find out"
"I don't work in this department, sorry"
"I don't know when we're getting more in stock, but we get new shipments daily, so you could come back tomorrow"
"I don't know what that is that you're asking, does the product have another name?"

"I don't know" is not a complete statement if the person asking is entitled to the context of your not knowing.
Maybe I don't want to provide anything of value ;).  Seriously, I just get tired of being expected to know so many things at work.  I also get really tired of being asked questions all day.  I think I'm just too introverted and too much of a loner for a job with so much interaction with other humans.  I've always done my best work when I could sit in a quiet room and think about how to solve a problem.  My favorite activities have all been things I could do alone.
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Re: Alternative phrases for 'I don't know'
« Reply #17 on: May 09, 2020, 07:08:15 AM »
Maybe I don't want to provide anything of value ;).  Seriously, I just get tired of being expected to know so many things at work.  I also get really tired of being asked questions all day.  I think I'm just too introverted and too much of a loner for a job with so much interaction with other humans.  I've always done my best work when I could sit in a quiet room and think about how to solve a problem.  My favorite activities have all been things I could do alone.

In my experience, being clear about why someone shouldn't ask you is the best way to get them to stop asking you.

Either that, or you need a different job.

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Re: Alternative phrases for 'I don't know'
« Reply #18 on: May 09, 2020, 07:22:33 AM »
So many great answers!  Thank you all very much.  I'm going to add them to my list.

@EvenSteven - probably can't use but I'm writing them down just in case.  I particularly like blaming Stacy!

@use2betrix  - I hear what you are saying.  But I'm going to be this way anyway!

@Schaefer Light - What's wrong with saying 'I don't know' in my case is that I plan to say it ALOT over the next year.  I need additional (probably a better word than alternative) options!

@kanga1622 - I'm in pretty much the same situation....having been here longer than ALL of the senior and peer leadership.  I just spent another minute thinking about that...and I HAVE been here longer than anyone in my administrative chain (including my peers).  I know a lot of stuff.  I"m just tired of telling it.

Again, I really appreciate all of the replies.  And I'm happy to hear more.  I'm gonna need a LONG list!


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Re: Alternative phrases for 'I don't know'
« Reply #20 on: May 09, 2020, 11:08:37 AM »
Maybe I don't want to provide anything of value ;).  Seriously, I just get tired of being expected to know so many things at work.  I also get really tired of being asked questions all day.  I think I'm just too introverted and too much of a loner for a job with so much interaction with other humans.  I've always done my best work when I could sit in a quiet room and think about how to solve a problem.  My favorite activities have all been things I could do alone.

In my experience, being clear about why someone shouldn't ask you is the best way to get them to stop asking you.

Either that, or you need a different job.
Tell me about it ;).

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Re: Alternative phrases for 'I don't know'
« Reply #21 on: May 09, 2020, 03:43:52 PM »
Think of it as a form of transition planning - you want to break people of the habit of just asking you instead of learning where info is held.

Step 1 - determine whose job it is to know thing X? Is it you? If so, document it in a central, easy to find place and then start directing people to that place.
Step 2 - not you? Redirect them to the other person "that's Claramenta's area of expertise..."
Step 3 - general history of decisions, reasons, policies, that is back to step 1 - document it somewhere a d then start directing people to the info store.

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Re: Alternative phrases for 'I don't know'
« Reply #22 on: May 11, 2020, 06:01:49 AM »
  • Beats me
  • Fucked if I know
  • It was Stacy in accountings fault
  • Probably Aliens
  • Maybe all this is just a computer simulation anyways
  • I think I wrote the answer to that question down at home. I'll go check

I HAVE to find a way to work "probably aliens" into my work conversations!

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Re: Alternative phrases for 'I don't know'
« Reply #23 on: May 11, 2020, 06:04:07 AM »
Here are some additional items that have worked for me:

"I was on another project when that went down."
"That would be an interesting question/concept/ issue to research"
"I think that's your call"
"I don't think we have any documented risks on that topic/issue"

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Re: Alternative phrases for 'I don't know'
« Reply #24 on: May 11, 2020, 07:20:15 AM »
Think of it as a form of transition planning - you want to break people of the habit of just asking you instead of learning where info is held.


Training my replacement to think there was a record / prior example she could follow took a while.  She was young and tended to think because she'd never done it before, no one had...  There were (at least, broadly) 4 components needing attention: looking for prior cycle reports / info, knowing where to look for same, knowing which report elements needed updating (knowing more about the business content) and confidence she could recreate the report and check her work.  (Difference from OP's situation, she was junior / young / admin type so lesser focus on backstory / reasons...)

Not exactly the OP's situation, but perhaps considering what elements are 'missing' would help redirect questions?

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Re: Alternative phrases for 'I don't know'
« Reply #25 on: May 11, 2020, 09:29:15 AM »
The advice I would give any mid-career person is that if you dont know, never answer the question directly by saying you dont know. Answer a different but related question that you do know the answer to. For examples just watch any politician during an interview.

Since you are so close to retirement, and as you get even closer, what is the danger of being honest? If there were ever a time to be honest with your co-workers and help create positive cultural change in the workplace now is the time!



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Re: Alternative phrases for 'I don't know'
« Reply #26 on: May 11, 2020, 10:08:11 AM »
I know I hate to keep people hanging, and yes I understand you don't want to be to go to person for every random question. But you will be leaving and hence this is a transition period. Some things are a system of documentation either department wide, or by project team. Understanding of roles. And yes having other people trained to replace roles or at least some of the things you do. It might end up saving you time and reduce questions if you have documents, processes, people you can refer them to. There was this admin who did so many things. I think they divided her job across 4 other existing people when she transitioned to retirement.

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Re: Alternative phrases for 'I don't know'
« Reply #27 on: May 11, 2020, 10:36:10 AM »
- that's above my pay grade
- you're asking the wrong question
- who gives a shit
- I could tell you but then I'd have to kill you

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« Reply #28 on: May 11, 2020, 10:45:46 AM »
I think the best way to get people to stop asking you stuff if to stop being the most informed person. So find yourself a real keener and start downloading all the info you have down to them. Since they are a real keener, they'll be happy to share their new found knowledge with anyone willing to listen.

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Re: Alternative phrases for 'I don't know'
« Reply #29 on: May 11, 2020, 02:38:59 PM »
Interesting question.  We can look into that, but I'll need to pull <person> off of <project> to look into it.  Do you want me to prioritize this over <project> or add it to our backlog?

Unless its an easy item, which I'll say I'll check with <person> and get back to you later today.

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« Reply #30 on: May 12, 2020, 06:00:20 AM »
Ask them to raise a new information request ticket for that piece of information. That’ll guarantee they’ll never ask you anything they truly don’t need to know ever again.

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« Reply #31 on: May 12, 2020, 07:18:07 AM »
There's always some office dimwit keen to show they're not the office dimwit. I used to work with a woman who couldn't rustle up enough brain cells to power a small frog but she'd done an excel course and by god she intended to be the excel center of the office. The fact that everyone asked me for excel help AND I had zero book learning on the subject drove her silly. I just had a word with the people that regularly asked me and pointed out that asking her instead would make everyone's day easier, and office dimwit a lot less likely to stomp about in a huff....

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Re: Alternative phrases for 'I don't know'
« Reply #32 on: May 12, 2020, 03:47:09 PM »
- who gives a shit
That's usually what I'm thinking.

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Re: Alternative phrases for 'I don't know'
« Reply #33 on: May 12, 2020, 04:13:28 PM »
I like:

Not sure, but I bet Coworker X would know.

Co-worker X told me to ask you.

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« Reply #34 on: May 12, 2020, 04:45:14 PM »
I like:

Not sure, but I bet Coworker X would know.

Co-worker X told me to ask you.
Oh, bad luck.

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« Reply #35 on: May 12, 2020, 04:52:34 PM »
I say this at my job regularly:

“I am not 100% sure. Let me look into it and I’ll get back to you”

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Re: Alternative phrases for 'I don't know'
« Reply #36 on: May 12, 2020, 04:56:22 PM »
I don't have a clue.
I got nothing.
I have no idea.

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Re: Alternative phrases for 'I don't know'
« Reply #37 on: May 12, 2020, 05:08:00 PM »
The guy at Home Depot when I showed him that the website showed there was 100s of my items in stock, but there was none in the shelf:

“OH SHIT!!! SHIT!?! That’s ...? Damn Bro...I don’t know”

But you have to act genuinely mind blown

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« Reply #38 on: May 12, 2020, 05:55:36 PM »
I like:

Not sure, but I bet Coworker X would know.

Co-worker X told me to ask you.

Really? That’s weird. I wonder why he/she would say that? I mean, it’s his/her job to know after all. That’s so strange.