Sorry for the delay in this reply, but I wanted to take time to read through your very insightful post,
@caracarn - thanks for sharing and giving that perspective.
Your timeline makes sense given your situation. It may not be the popular thing on these forums to agree with someone to work past when they hit their "number", but honestly each person is different, has different motivations, and well, uh, life happens. As I get closer to my initial "number" (which is based on an 'average expenditure' formula that I created
~9 years ago), I'm realizing that it is important to step back and re-evaluate as you get near the final quarter of your FI journey. If that means you may end up working a handful of extra years, so be it, but it's better than being woefully unprepared, retiring to a life that isn't the way you want it to be, or even worse destroying some of your important relationships (as could potentially be the case with you). Your story is a perfect example of that. However, looking for a silver lining I
do think there are some potential positives in your situation:
- If your work situation does go belly-up in the next 6 years and you get laid off or lose employment another way, you'll have one less thing to worry about. Yes, finding a new job is soul crushing and not fun, but if you don't truly need the income (or at least don't need it right away- COBRA is expensive but will continue your healthcare coverage for 18-36 months after leaving any US job in like 90%+ scenarios), then it may take some of the pressure and stress out of finding that "end job".
- Since you are effectively at your FI number now/soon, then every dollar that you earn in income today can go towards reducing that 6 year duration if you want it to. Even though the costs are likely to be very high, you can go get quotes for how much an equivalent health insurance would cost for your son on the private exchange/market. Then you can work for a couple of years to build up enough capital to pay those higher costs until your Type 1 Diabetic Son turns 26. This may result in you only needing to work 4 years and then self-fund your son's insurance for 2 years, or something like that; but it could very easily open up an opportunity to retire ahead of that 6 year timeline.
- If the previous bullet doesn't work out, then you could also continue to save for the next 6 years above and beyond your FI number. This could be used for several things like i) increasing your 'cushion' or safety factor for retirement, ii)Opening new investment/savings accounts for $$ to give to your kids in the future to help out with many of the things you mentioned in your post (high housing costs, low salaries, etc.) iii) donating to causes you care about; or any combination of the above.
I'm in a different stage of parenting (my oldest is still <10yrs old), but I think about your last paragraph a lot: I believe the economic landscape made it
much easier for ~Gen X/Millennials and older folks to achieve FI than for Younger generations. But I also think that things were likely harder for me to get to this point than someone born (with the same starting characteristics/skin color/etc.) in 1948, and I still found a way. And the other side of the coin is that I could choose to work longer to give my kids a bigger 'oomph to their starting 'staches, but I don't want to spoil my kids and/or devalue the importance of working hard and having a strong work ethic. I'm still grappling with this today, but my initial plan is to work a couple years after I hit my FI 'number', in the hopes to be able to strategically give my kids some larger financial gifts down the road without completely spoiling them (e.g; maybe wait until they buy a car and take out a loan, only to then pay off ~50% of that loan as a lump-sum early payment or something... I don't know, still trying to figure it out). If you end up working ~6 years longer than needed, then you certainly could help do things like this to ease their burdens and set them on the path to financial success...
Finally, retiring 7 years ahead of 'normal retirement age' is ABSOLUTELY SOMETHING! Life happens to everyone differently, and I think
any time saved from 'normal retirement age' is a victory of the FIRE mindset. Congrats!