Posted this in the other thread you were talking about this TED talk, cross posting here in the new thread:
Hopefully all the 20-something's on here watch this:
http://www.ted.com/talks/meg_jay_why_30_is_not_the_new_20/transcript#t-877364
I have mixed thoughts on this. On one hand, I agree that slacking/delaying in adulthood too long is not good. On the other, I'm okay with someone in their young 20s taking a year to travel, or not being quite sure what they're doing yet. I don't like the idea of a bunch of pressure on someone in their early 20s.
There's a balance that can be struck, IMO. Waiting until you're 28-30 to take charge is probably waiting a bit too long, and I agree with the author. Feeling that pressure when you're 20-22 is probably too much. Somewhere in the middle, maybe 25ish, one ought to go "Okay, I'm done doing ___, time to get serious" (about romance, about careers, etc.)
As with pretty much everything, extremes are to be avoided. So that's where I disagree with this link - it goes too far the other way, IMO. But it is sage advice for those in their mid 20s (24-26), that they might want to start thinking about getting serious.
For me personally though, 30 will be the new 20. A lot of 20 year olds have their first kid in their early 20s. A lot take time off to travel internationally. Me personally, at age 30, I'll have my first kid and quit my job to travel around the world. I did it backwards - instead of delaying the work, etc. and having a drifting, laid-back 20s, I did all that up front and will have a drifting, laid-back 30s-70s (though my 20s have been very enjoyable as well, including the two month backpacking through Europe trip). That's my favorite route to then be able to say "30 is the new 20!" :)
Also a big +1 on the transcripts. I've seen the video for this before, so I didn't read the transcript this time, but I can read something way faster than I can watch it. I hate news "articles" that are just video links. Does every TED talk have transcripts? Probably just the popular ones. That's something I didn't realize was even an option, so thanks!