I'm really glad I'm not the only one who was reminded of Dickens while reading this thread. I almost expected someone to bust out with, "Well if he's going to die he'd better do it, and decrease the surplus population!"
Bluecheez, did it never occur to you that some of your classmates might have been dealing not just with poverty, but with horrible situations that you, perhaps, weren't? Things like abuse. Because, you know, kids who are physically and sexually abused are far, far more likely to do drugs and become sexually active at younger ages. (Read this:
https://www.childwelfare.gov/pubs/factsheets/long_term_consequences.cfm)
I think there's also a major difference, which hasn't been addressed so far, by growing up poor and growing up in poverty. There's a difference between the two that many of the people who've claimed "I grew up poor!" have missed. And, among those who would like to be the most stingy about social welfare, the genteel poor are seen as far more "deserving" of help than those in true, soul-crushing, systemic, multi-generational poverty. You're also clearly not suffering from such things as illiteracy, you most likely weren't (and I'm just guessing) physically, mentally, and sexually abused. You don't seem to be suffering from any mental illness more serious than what my mother describes at "Tight-ass Syndrome". You don't have PTSD, or if you do then you've clearly got the resources to fight it because you're on this forum. Not everyone does. Have some compassion, and not just for those people you think are "deserving".
My eldest brother is a social worker. It's been eye-opening to hear his stories of his clients. One was 28, had made it partway through high school, and was so illiterate she could barely write her own name. Not sign, she couldn't write that well, she could barely
spell her own name.
Another client had Paranoid Personality Disorder. He had visions of people whispering death threats to him constantly, thought the pack of gum he'd bought might have been poisoned, etc. And there were no meds that could treat him.
One guy was schizophrenic and came into my brother's office complaining that "they" were spreading rumors about him, talking behind his back, shunning him, being generally horrible. "They" turned out to be the voices in his head. He was on medication already.
I also know someone who tried shrooms once, in her words "went crazy" for a few months because of some horrible reaction, and when she came out of it she was homeless. She doesn't remember much of what happened during those months. You can say "consequences have actions, and she chose to do something both dangerous and illegal" all you want, but many people choose to do drugs and don't have the same reaction that she did. That's called bad luck. Is she less deserving of help than those with "genuine" mental illnesses and handicaps stated above?
I have a cousin who was abused by her stepmom for a while, and none of the adults knew it. (Being younger, I did not have the words for what I suspected was happening, though I did try to tell my mom.) My cousin became bulemic, started doing drugs, got entangled with some asshole and got pregnant at 19. Sure, some of these things were the consequences of her actions. And she's smart, she should have known better! But she didn't even grow up in poverty or even genteel poor. Her dad is firmly middle class and yet, it's taken her years to pull herself out of the mess she got into as a teenager, all because of some stupid bitch abusing her during her middle school years. Does that make her any less deserving of help in your eyes?
I think it's ridiculous that so many people are judging "poor people" without knowing or sympathizing with any of the circumstances which they know nothing about. And if you think a few news articles are going to give you all the facts (yeah, that woman did drugs for a while--the horror!--but it didn't say if she had any mental illness? was she abused as a child? raped?) then you're being incredibly, and I think willfully, naive. Shame on you for your harshness.