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"Maybe I should just quit today." - common thought?
« on: April 24, 2017, 02:11:07 PM »
Do you have those days when you go into work, and have to deal with some pile of nonsense, and really just want to pull the trigger and walk out?

It's one of those days today.

Just venting here.  I'm sticking it out (desperately trying anyway) through the end of the year, to collect year-end bonus payout, then quit.  So as the end of the year approaches, the "cost" of quitting earlier gets higher by the day, in that I would forego that year-end payout.

But some days....   AAAARGH.

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Re: "Maybe I should just quit today." - common thought?
« Reply #1 on: April 24, 2017, 02:21:49 PM »
Definitely have that feeling regularly, yes.
Sometimes I'm stuck in a meeting, with someone telling me about some new boring/overwhelming task I'm not really responsible for (but that person decided they would make it my problem), I look at the window, see the sun, and repress that strong feeling of just standing up and tell the guy: "I don't really need to deal with that shit anymore. Good luck finding someone to do it for you. Bye".

Hang in there. If I understand correctly, you're just a few months away. That's nothing in the grand scheme of your goals.

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Re: "Maybe I should just quit today." - common thought?
« Reply #2 on: April 24, 2017, 02:28:23 PM »
Thanks.  Yes, just a few months left -- about 7 months of real work time (nothing much happens in December), then wait for payout in January.

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Re: "Maybe I should just quit today." - common thought?
« Reply #3 on: April 24, 2017, 02:28:42 PM »
You're definitely not alone.
Though some of us still have years to go.

I don't hate my job - but lately it has become quite a bit less enjoyable than it used to be.
I have a hard time seeing myself here for the next few years... which makes me wonder why I'm even staying for the next few weeks.

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Re: "Maybe I should just quit today." - common thought?
« Reply #4 on: April 24, 2017, 02:29:12 PM »
Absolutely.  Sometimes work absolutely blows. I drive between campuses daily, passing the motorway exit to the beach-the pull to just keep driving is strong sometimes. Escape for a quick walk (carry a clipboard so you look legit), or chuck on an 80s music video from YouTube (power ballad anyone?). If you can, come up with a ridiculous name for your annoying boss/coworker. See if you can make a catapult from office supplies on your desk. Just get through the day. Tomorrow will be better.

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Re: "Maybe I should just quit today." - common thought?
« Reply #5 on: April 24, 2017, 03:01:16 PM »
Everyday.  Only I am no where near being able to quit.  When I have to sit at my desk for lunch.  Or people are dumb or irritating.  Or I am sitting in meetings and want to drive my pen through my throat.  Or I sit here with nothing to do.  I hate feeling caged.  I want to be outside.  I want to be accomplishing things.

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Re: "Maybe I should just quit today." - common thought?
« Reply #6 on: April 24, 2017, 03:08:33 PM »
I'm in an office with a window. You'd think that would be a good thing. But now that the weather is nice, I look outside and think "what the FUCK am I doing here?".

Sigh. I have enough to quit too, just too chicken :(

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Re: "Maybe I should just quit today." - common thought?
« Reply #7 on: April 24, 2017, 04:29:19 PM »
I'm in an office with a window. You'd think that would be a good thing. But now that the weather is nice, I look outside and think "what the FUCK am I doing here?".

Sigh. I have enough to quit too, just too chicken :(

JUST DO IT! If you have enough, what is holding you back? Every day you sit in that office is one less day you get to spend outdoors and doing whatever it is you love to do. When you look back on your life, do you want to remember the days when you sat inside an office longing to be outside? Or do you want to remember all the awesome adventures you had after you retired?

Not trying to be harsh, but I bet a lot of people in this thread are wishing they were in your position right now, with enough to quit :) Go live your life, you deserve it!

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Re: "Maybe I should just quit today." - common thought?
« Reply #8 on: April 24, 2017, 04:50:07 PM »
I'm in an office with a window. You'd think that would be a good thing. But now that the weather is nice, I look outside and think "what the FUCK am I doing here?".

Sigh. I have enough to quit too, just too chicken :(

JUST DO IT! If you have enough, what is holding you back? Every day you sit in that office is one less day you get to spend outdoors and doing whatever it is you love to do. When you look back on your life, do you want to remember the days when you sat inside an office longing to be outside? Or do you want to remember all the awesome adventures you had after you retired?

Not trying to be harsh, but I bet a lot of people in this thread are wishing they were in your position right now, with enough to quit :) Go live your life, you deserve it!

Amen.  Do it!  Do it for all of us who can't (yet)!!!

I have those days more often than not, but today was the worst in a long time.  I came very close to telling my boss that if he makes decision X, I'm going to need a few days off to go job shopping.

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Re: "Maybe I should just quit today." - common thought?
« Reply #9 on: April 25, 2017, 06:47:54 AM »
I used to have these. But right now I am coming up on 6 months of parental leave (17 working days to go).
And I am noticing that I am caring less and less about bullshit. Everytime something happens that would usually annoy me, I see this picture in my mind:
 
Because Honeybadger gonna be out of here in no time. I am hoping it will be the same when coming up on FIRE one day. It is a weirdly uplifting feeling.

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Re: "Maybe I should just quit today." - common thought?
« Reply #10 on: April 25, 2017, 07:47:20 AM »
Yea.  I have those days.  I’m not anywhere near being able to get up and leave permanently, though.  We’re still climbing out of debt and years off from FIRE.  Sometimes it feels like a Sisyphusian dilemma.  Or rather, we can’t see the top of the mountain because we’re climbing it and the view is restricted from our vantage point.  I think we’re still in the foothills, but I already can’t see the top, so I keep trying to remember that it’s a good thing.  But if I could just sometimes flip this desk and storm off, I would.

Hang in there, friend.  :)  7 more months isn't bad!  You can do it!

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Re: "Maybe I should just quit today." - common thought?
« Reply #11 on: April 25, 2017, 08:35:38 AM »
Oh, you aren't alone at all. I've got more than a decade to go but I have those days as well.

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Re: "Maybe I should just quit today." - common thought?
« Reply #12 on: April 25, 2017, 10:38:29 AM »
Today is better. 

Thanks everyone.  It's nice to know there are others feeling the same way, and who I can converse with (anonymously online, but still) about FIRE.  It's not exactly something you can talk about openly at work, and I get the impression from 99% of my friends that they're all on the consumer spendy train for life -- so there's no way any of them are going to RE, and I suspect there would be some resentment & jealousy etc. from some.

I think when the time comes to quit, I'm going to "become a consultant and work from home."

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Re: "Maybe I should just quit today." - common thought?
« Reply #13 on: April 25, 2017, 10:56:56 AM »
I'm kind of at a crossroads with my current job.  I am about 3 years from total FI.  Current job is mind-numbing.  But pay is good and people are nice and life balance is good.  Also get 4 weeks of vacation and pension grows in value each year as well(though many years before I would receive that).  Wife and I want to work part time here and there after that.  Just don't know if i can stick it out here for 3 more years.  I dream about just walking out the building quite often.  Sigh

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Re: "Maybe I should just quit today." - common thought?
« Reply #14 on: April 25, 2017, 12:23:57 PM »
yes, I feel that way. and this year we hit FI, if we consider living in a leaking trailer and growing most of our own food and shooting squirrels to make stew FI.

I mean, I do, but come on.


Now I just think that every dollar I save or invest goes to increase our quality of life. School for the kid instead of being a farmer, ordering food instead of eating grass, etc. it's nice to know I could walk the F out and never look back, but sticking it out makes wayyyyyy more sense.

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Re: "Maybe I should just quit today." - common thought?
« Reply #15 on: April 25, 2017, 12:37:02 PM »
I finally made the decision to retire Sept 8th told my boss's. Had a difficult week at work and said screw this went in the following Monday and move it to June 16th. I have a complex job that would be difficult to leave on 2 weeks notice. Gave them 2 months if they hire my replacement I'll train if not oh well.

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Re: "Maybe I should just quit today." - common thought?
« Reply #16 on: April 25, 2017, 01:23:47 PM »
How much is the bonus compared to your FIRE amount? If you already have your FIRE is it really worth it? I'm not even close yet so not much sympathy from me but if the bonus doesn't have much of an impact why wait?

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Re: "Maybe I should just quit today." - common thought?
« Reply #17 on: April 25, 2017, 01:35:41 PM »
How much is the bonus compared to your FIRE amount? If you already have your FIRE is it really worth it? I'm not even close yet so not much sympathy from me but if the bonus doesn't have much of an impact why wait?

Agreed...how much is this bonus?

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Re: "Maybe I should just quit today." - common thought?
« Reply #18 on: April 25, 2017, 01:46:34 PM »
I'm about 11 months out from my projected FIRE date. I work in a unique situation where I don't really hide the fact that my goal is to retire early, but I've been pretty vague about exactly when that might be. Normally I allude to "sometime in the next couple of years or so." Timelines come up in casual conversation, but I keep it fuzzy and mention all the variables like what's going on with the ACA, how the market performs, etc. In short, I like to keep people guessing.

But they know that at this point, I do NOT need to come in tomorrow if I really really didn't want to. So I have a lot of fun messing with them and joking around, like when they assign me a new task, I'll say "OK I can do that. Assuming I show up tomorrow that is." Or when they inform me of a possible change in a thing I'm working on that they know is stupid and annoying but has to be done I say "No problem, we'll see how it works out. Or I'll quit, whatever." The best was one time I was walking by a boss's office (I have several) and another boss was in there, and as I passed by one of them calls my name. I turn around and go into his office and say "What?" in my cranky, pre-coffee morning voice. Then, brightening considerably, as if a new possibility has just occurred to me, I say "Oh, am I fired? Can I go home now?" (They both laughed at that one). Unfortunately, I think I've jokingly quit so many times, they probably won't believe me when I do it for real :)

(This is not something I would recommend most people do, but like I said my work environment is unique - we're all sort of volunteers assigned from other departments so we don't officially work for them, and these kinds of jokes/snarky comments aren't unusual and are clearly made in jest.)

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Re: "Maybe I should just quit today." - common thought?
« Reply #19 on: April 25, 2017, 02:17:04 PM »
Unfortunately, I think I've jokingly quit so many times, they probably won't believe me when I do it for real :)
If I were your coworkers this is also how I'd react to it. Someone walking around in the office saying they can "pull the plug anytime" but hasn't done it yet, has to be joking, right?
Some of them must even be pitying you? ("oh, it's that poor soul who thinks he can retire this year."). I'd love to see people's reaction when you actually do it.

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Re: "Maybe I should just quit today." - common thought?
« Reply #20 on: April 25, 2017, 09:01:11 PM »
Today is better. 

Thanks everyone.  It's nice to know there are others feeling the same way, and who I can converse with (anonymously online, but still) about FIRE.  It's not exactly something you can talk about openly at work, and I get the impression from 99% of my friends that they're all on the consumer spendy train for life -- so there's no way any of them are going to RE, and I suspect there would be some resentment & jealousy etc. from some.

I think when the time comes to quit, I'm going to "become a consultant and work from home."
FTFY. Too many words. Glad you're feeling better.

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Re: "Maybe I should just quit today." - common thought?
« Reply #21 on: April 26, 2017, 12:03:53 PM »
I'm trying to stick it out until early 2018, which means around $75-100K total income & year-end payout (mix of profit-sharing and 401k type contribution).  And we have a 2-week long vacation planned for the fall -- I'm salaried, so still collect a paycheck while on vacation. 

It's a golden handcuffs kind of thing.

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Re: "Maybe I should just quit today." - common thought?
« Reply #22 on: April 26, 2017, 02:34:59 PM »
I'm trying to stick it out until early 2018, which means around $75-100K total income & year-end payout (mix of profit-sharing and 401k type contribution).  And we have a 2-week long vacation planned for the fall -- I'm salaried, so still collect a paycheck while on vacation. 

It's a golden handcuffs kind of thing.

Sigh, I'm in the same boat.

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Re: "Maybe I should just quit today." - common thought?
« Reply #23 on: April 27, 2017, 10:29:58 AM »
I feel that way and I'm unemployed. I don't want to go back.

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Re: "Maybe I should just quit today." - common thought?
« Reply #24 on: April 27, 2017, 12:05:37 PM »
YES. Everyday is a roller coaster. I go in between ready to walk purposefully down to my boss' office to resign to "eh I can make it another 6 months. Or at least through today"

One day at a time

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Re: "Maybe I should just quit today." - common thought?
« Reply #25 on: April 27, 2017, 12:13:00 PM »
Having feelings of that right now.  Just got news that my annual "Merit Raise" at work for the year is a whole whopping 1%.