Thanks. I'll have to have DH come with me sometime to record my lift so I can check (have others check) my form.
But what do you do between maxes? Deload and add back or something completely obvious that I'm not thinking of? I suppose it may matter that I'm not doing 1RMs, I'm doing 3 sets of 5 reps and am just getting where adding more weight will either keep me from completing or possibly cause injury
If you have a smart phone with a selfie option and something to lean it against that gives a good side angle, that can work just as well for recording a video. I will often to this and then delete the video afterwards to save room.
tldr on the below: De-load and working back up works just fine for beginner to intermediate lifters. I'm not sure how much you know so I've expanded on that a bit:
There are many philosophies on programming, but the most common one for beginners to intermediate lifters is a linear progression program. You can Google a lot of examples to get a feel of what you think fits your goals best. One of the more highly regarded would be Starting Strength, which is detailed in a book, but you can find outlines of the program through a Google search as well. It doesn't have you deadlift as much as other programs though. In general, the basic premise of these programs is a series of mid range rep schemes (like what you are doing with 3x5) at which you increase 5-10lbs/week (typically 5 on squat/bench and 5-10 on DL). It sounds like this is basically what you've been doing. To reset after a 1RM, you just start over with the same program from a % of the max (something like 60-70%) and work up again. If one week feels especially hard or you miss a weight, but you haven't maxed yet, just repeat the week without adding weight.
There are so many variations you could do that I'm not sure it would be helpful for me to get into them, especially since I mostly only know about my own programming, which is pretty different than linear progression at this point. In case it's helpful, I did find one deadlift program from about a year ago, when I was working through a high volume linear progression model. I think at this point my max was somewhere in the 335-365 range (as a 195lb man), so I was an advanced beginner. I was lifting M/W/F (squat/upper body/deadlift) using the following program for my deadlifts. Accessories each deadlift day consisted of 5x10 rows, 5x10 lat pulldowns, and ab work. This is one of a million examples, but I always like seeing exactly what other people are doing, so perhaps it will be helpful. I believe when it says add 10lbs, 20lbs, etc., it means from week 1, as opposed to adding that much on top of the previous week. So week 3 & 5 use the same weights, for example.
W1
4x4@70%; 2x2@80%; 70%x8
W2
4x4@70%; 80%x2; 90%x2; 70%x8
W3
4x4@70%; 80%x2; 90%x2; 70%x8 add 10lbs
W4
Accessories only
W5
4x4@70%; 80%x2; 90%x2; 70%x8 add 10lbs
W6
4x4@70%; 80%x2; 90%x2; 70%x8 add 20lbs
W7
4x4@70%; 80%x2; 90%x2; 70%x8 add 30lbs
W8
Accessories only
W9
4x4@70%; 80%x2; 90%x2; 70%x8 add 30lbs
W10
4x4@70%; 80%x2; 90%x2; 70%x8 add 40lbs
W11
4x4@70%; 80%x2; 90%x2; 70%x8 add 50lbs
W12
Accessories only
W13
Deadlift Max