Hi all,
I'm a fellow mustachian via my husbands reading and research. We are very frugal both because we don't believe in commercialism but also because we would like to have low stress via financial freedom.
However, I do need some help. In the last 2 years I've been recovering from a brain injury. Due to my husbands obsession with finances I pushed myself to work when I shouldn't have. When I was finally brought to my knees by the symptoms I had to cut back to half time. Well, last year I was moved to a new office with lots of new carpets and a really crappy HVAC system. I work for the governments and a really bad boss, so long story short I've basically been bullied into long term medical leave (FMLA).
My husband is kind of moping and depressed and making me feel bad about this situation of which I have no control. I'm doing so much better as long as I don't expose myself to the chemicals in my office. It's critical I stop hurting myself and stop working.
This has been a long hard journey(2 years) and it's depressing to have to be forced out of my job because my employer can't figure out (well refuses to modify) how to work a HVAC system. And don't worry, I'm doing all the disability accommodation stuff... it's just not going well. Long term disability insurance was denied because I can work... just not in THAT office... an air test was done and found nothing outside of accepting ranges but there was slightly higher formaldehyde which is likely what I'm reacting to at super low levels. My boss has said he will reject accommodation to work at a different location... and we live in a rural area where I am unlikely to find a similar salary in my profession (hydrologist). BUT we have our house paid off, no car loans, he makes a good salary, and no college dept. We have been investing around half of our income. We are doing very well and are very fortunate. Sadly, I can't seem to get him to see that to ease his anxiety. Please help.