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Title: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: NewJourney on November 18, 2015, 10:34:19 PM
One of my 2015 Resolutions was a year with no clothes shopping. I didn't know about MMM at the time, what inspired this resolution was from being a minamalist. I've found I'm truly happy, and things are so much more simple with less "stuff".  I even made a few hundred dollars cash by selling everything I hadn't work within the last 6 months.

Where I did mess up was buying a pair of shoes (but I really needed them for the cold weather).

So on that note, anyone up to  possibly starting.  a no shopping challenge together?
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Sanne on November 24, 2015, 06:17:44 AM
Sounds really interesting. Define no shopping. Only groceries?
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Sibley on November 25, 2015, 10:00:01 AM
OP, good for you! Most people have so many clothes that they really don't need anything. I have a friend who could go 3+ months without wearing the same top twice. It's truly excessive.
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: norabird on November 25, 2015, 10:06:01 AM
There was a no shopping thread last year--it did have some exceptions (I made some--a bra, a coat, shoes), but it was really helpful and I think it 'broke' the shopping pattern for me. Frivolous shopping is something that really seems to operate on a habitual basis, and it's easier to cut off than you might think! You can do it hardcore (wearing everything out and making do), or allow certain necessities to be replaced, but yeah, it's a great process, plus opens up the mental space to downsize and make money off of things and/or clear up space.
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: partgypsy on November 25, 2015, 11:24:53 AM
I can probably get by without getting anything for myself this year, save for a) a pair of casual shoes/sneakers as I have none, and b) raincoat. I have a raincoat but the zipper is slightly broken (if zipped up all the way cannot be zipped down) and also  has lost some of its waterproofing.  And the third thing is clothes for oldest daughter. I thought we would be able to make due but she has grown AGAIN. She made a pile of the clothing she has outgrown on her floor and the yoga pants she wears all the time split down the middle seam : (.   
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Sanne on November 25, 2015, 12:00:18 PM
Sounds really interesting. Define no shopping. Only groceries?

Sorry, I thought it was about more than clothes only because you were talking about stuff ;)
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: monstermonster on November 25, 2015, 01:58:26 PM
I'm already planning to do this for 2016 with the exception of replacement shoes if my shoes break (I'd be SOL as I only have 3 pairs and work on my feet all day), any necessary replacement hosiery, and any supplies for sewing clothing (have all the fabric for my projects, but may need buttons or zippers or thread). So I'm in!
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Sanne on November 26, 2015, 03:28:39 AM
I'm game as well. I will think about my rules for this.

Maybe the OP can change the post title to match the one from last year and make it easy to find for others? > No Clothing Shopping in 2016.
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: NewJourney on November 26, 2015, 09:05:21 PM
So here's what I've been thinking...as last year was no clothes shopping, I'd like to take it farther this year. It was hard at first (mostly out of habit) but after a few weeks I starting loving it, and didn't miss it at all. I also felt stronger and powerful for sticking to it when it was hard. I also loved how much extra money I had. It was CRAZY how fast it added up.  Especially when I saw something I "wanted" and instead of buying it, I made a money transfer of the cost of that item to my savings account. 

When I did this, is really made me realize how much useless crap I bought. Now the very sight of a "bed bath and beyond" disgusts me. There is so much garbage in there that claims to make your life easier. Lies. They just take your money $10 at a time until you've lost hundreds. It really took this shopping ban to realize this. It's been one of the best decisions of my life. This is coming from someone who also had an ADDICTION to Victoria's Secret. (This was also included in the ban). I made so many bad decisions in there, wasted so much money, and run up my card. But I paid it off, closed the account and cut the card. And I'm so happy.

So this time around! I'm going  hardcore. Instead of listing things I cannot buy, I'm making a list of the things I can, which are:

Food
Car insurance
Health insurance
Gas
Things related to getting my business started
Spotify (use it for work)
Gifts (only if can't make them myself)
Personal items (shampoo, soap, toothpaste, etc)
Car payment
Student loan payment

I'm planning on throwing all my extra money to pay off debts, and get rid of them FOREVER.


So what do you guys think?
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: monstermonster on November 27, 2015, 11:26:47 AM
I'm intrigued by doing a no-shopping at all year, however a year without a home liquor cabinet being stocked would probably drive my SO up the roof, so I may have to make domestic bliss exceptions. I don't tend to have much of a problem with extraneous purchases - an average of $217/month goes to discretionary categories (haircuts, home liquor, food out, coffee, clothing, sewing, entertainment). It would be interesting to see if I could eliminate this category completely, but a whole year... oof.
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Making Cents on November 27, 2015, 11:49:38 AM
Does giving up "discretionary" shopping count?

I sort of did this in 2015 until recently caving to indulge in some professional clothing to wear to work. I did not technically need it-- i wanted it because I worry I look shabby when compared to my colleagues and people who look disheveled seem to be perceived as stressed and incompetent. I did buy most of my clothes secondhand and from a list I had drawn up first and thought about, so feel good about that.

As a woman, this is something I really struggle with because people do judge us so much by appearance and the way we dress (very true for men too but not to the same extreme). Quite honestly, I really couldn't care less what I wear as long as it's functional and comfortable, but there are social consequences for taking that attitude. Since I refuse to spend on make up and wear very little in the way of jewelry or accessories, I sometimes feel like I need to show that I do have a sense of personal style and am aware of other people's expectations.
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: PMG on November 27, 2015, 01:57:20 PM
My carefully crafted response disappeared.  Perhaps I'll come back later with my story.

Check out buynothingyear.com  A couple challenged themselves to buy nothing but necessities for a year and (of course) blogged about it.  There are several similar blogs out there.

Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: NewJourney on November 27, 2015, 10:07:02 PM

As a woman, this is something I really struggle with because people do judge us so much by appearance and the way we dress (very true for men too but not to the same extreme). Quite honestly, I really couldn't care less what I wear as long as it's functional and comfortable, but there are social consequences for taking that attitude. Since I refuse to spend on make up and wear very little in the way of jewelry or accessories, I sometimes feel like I need to show that I do have a sense of personal style and am aware of other people's expectations.

I hear you. People judge women a lot by their appearances, so it does make it difficult.  The problem I always face however, is the opposite. I care so little what people ever think about my appearance, that's it's bad (lol?) I only have about 40 clothing items, and they are all very nice, and I am very capable of looking great, organized, put together etc. but I rarely feel like situations and people  are worth the effort. The last time I dressed up was for a job interview.

It's probably easier for me though as all the jobs I've ever had, had a designated uniform. 

Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: NewJourney on November 27, 2015, 10:11:34 PM
I'm intrigued by doing a no-shopping at all year, however a year without a home liquor cabinet being stocked would probably drive my SO up the roof, so I may have to make domestic bliss exceptions. I don't tend to have much of a problem with extraneous purchases - an average of $217/month goes to discretionary categories (haircuts, home liquor, food out, coffee, clothing, sewing, entertainment). It would be interesting to see if I could eliminate this category completely, but a whole year... oof.

I guess it depends on the person and their situation. When I gave up shopping it was only the beginning. When I saw how awesome I felt and how much money I saved, I eliminated all other categories as well.

It was crazy to me how once I eliminated everything, (I was freaking out I'd be needing so much stuff) I was made aware of how much stuff I actually don't need after all, and I didn't miss any of it.
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Making Cents on November 28, 2015, 11:57:37 AM

As a woman, this is something I really struggle with because people do judge us so much by appearance and the way we dress (very true for men too but not to the same extreme). Quite honestly, I really couldn't care less what I wear as long as it's functional and comfortable, but there are social consequences for taking that attitude. Since I refuse to spend on make up and wear very little in the way of jewelry or accessories, I sometimes feel like I need to show that I do have a sense of personal style and am aware of other people's expectations.

I hear you. People judge women a lot by their appearances, so it does make it difficult.  The problem I always face however, is the opposite. I care so little what people ever think about my appearance, that's it's bad (lol?) I only have about 40 clothing items, and they are all very nice, and I am very capable of looking great, organized, put together etc. but I rarely feel like situations and people  are worth the effort. The last time I dressed up was for a job interview.

It's probably easier for me though as all the jobs I've ever had, had a designated uniform.

Yeah, I'm the same - small closet of nice clothes I wear for years. This means they are generally "classics" and so pretty boring in neutral colors. Like you, I tend not to care enough, but people do notice and there are all these really disturbing studies/surveys that show that women who do not wear makeup or dress stylishly in certain professional settings are perceived as less competent and therefore promoted less often. I don't care a bit about the latest fashion trend and would rather admire it on my female friends than participate in it, but I absolutely care whether I stack the odds against my own promotion!

I totally envy you the uniform. That is my idea of bliss!

Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: alleykat on November 29, 2015, 06:52:08 AM
I definitely have to do a no buy for beauty items. I am only going to purchase needs and if I can replace or use something I have instead, I will do that. 

Clothes, the same. I do need some new tops and shoes but will keep it to a minimum and hopefully I can take care of that before 2016.  We will see.

I am ready to do this challenge. It is clear to me I need to break the shopping habit and I think I can only do that if I stay away from it.  It has been a hard one for me.

I am going to give myself an overall budget and that will help me keep on track.  Things that are excluded are the basic need items or life circumstance expenses. I am thinking through a fair but strict budget now.

Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: dkaid on December 15, 2015, 08:07:03 AM
I desperately need to do this as well, I just can't shake the $30 habit of random purchases I swear I "need" (but in reality don't).  I would need to figure out a plan when it comes to costs related to home remodeling.  We moved last year and are in the process of fixing things up so some costs related to this are ok.  But it can quickly turn into a black hole of buying crap if I'm not careful.  Maybe I can buy "hard" things like fixtures but not "soft" things like accessories. 

I'll stay tuned here....:) 
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: norabird on December 15, 2015, 11:04:25 AM
Dkaid, do you keep an outbox for donations? It puts the stuff you already own and how much you 'need' most things in perspective!
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: dkaid on December 15, 2015, 12:39:43 PM
Dkaid, do you keep an outbox for donations? It puts the stuff you already own and how much you 'need' most things in perspective!

Yes, sigh, I do.  It's rather sickening.  When we moved, we downsized significantly, and became (almost!) mortgage free.  I got rid of loads of stuff.  And I'm making progress on becoming a minimalist.  But I can't quite shake the shopping habit altogether.  This holiday season has not gone as planned....  even though I know better.  I've wanted to do a no shopping challenge for some time, but struggle with some of it as I have 2 school aged kids and a husband who is not on board.  But I know I can at least apply it to myself and set an example. 
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: alleykat on December 15, 2015, 08:25:05 PM
I cant shake the shopping habit either.  I got rid of at least 70% of my stuff, still have too much, but I continue to buy more, telling myself I need it but really dont.  I would really like to just have what I love and use with nothing stored but seasonal items.  I do good for a little while and then fall off the wagon again.  In 2106, I am going to create a budget for myself and stick to it for "wants."  Hopefully, this will help my curtail it a bit. 
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Sanne on December 17, 2015, 12:11:41 AM
I cant shake the shopping habit either.  I got rid of at least 70% of my stuff, still have too much, but I continue to buy more, telling myself I need it but really dont.  I would really like to just have what I love and use with nothing stored but seasonal items.  I do good for a little while and then fall off the wagon again.  In 2106, I am going to create a budget for myself and stick to it for "wants."  Hopefully, this will help my curtail it a bit.

Procrastination! I dare you to do it in 2016 ;)
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: dkaid on December 17, 2015, 08:09:13 AM
I'm most likely over thinking this.... but I feel like I need to find the "trick" that will enable me to stop shopping.  I've tried for so long, but it's mostly an ok, let's do this mentality.  Then something comes up and I ditch the whole idea.  For about a month last year I made myself not buy anything new that cost more than $10.  I liked this as it slowed me down (i.e. no amazon!).  But then we decided to sell our house and move so that was all derailed.  Now that we are settled in our smaller home, I really have no excuse.  I think it's more that I love the thrill of the a hunt for a good deal the idea of finding a new great product.  Sigh, i realize that sounds pretty pathetic as I type it.  Anyway, would love to join with others to do this in 2016. 
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: norabird on December 17, 2015, 09:55:50 AM
Dkaid, did you read YMOYL? Thinking about gazingpus pins helped me shift my patterns. Maybe you could shift your hunt to free craigslist...?
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: dkaid on December 17, 2015, 11:50:26 AM
Dkaid, did you read YMOYL? Thinking about gazingpus pins helped me shift my patterns. Maybe you could shift your hunt to free craigslist...?

I did read it years ago.  Funny that I've stumbled across references to it seemingly a 100 times in the last few days.... I think I'll check it out again:)  I remember that I loved it.... 
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: monstermonster on December 29, 2015, 05:48:36 PM
Very excited to not clothes shop in 2016, but recently realized I have no pants that fit. To be fair, I only had one pair of pants before, and they shrunk in the washer awhile back. Wanted to wear pants this weekend (I rarely do), found I had none. Now I'm struggling with if I should obtain some before the new year starts or just go without pants for a year.
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: alleykat on January 06, 2016, 07:02:06 PM
I cant shake the shopping habit either.  I got rid of at least 70% of my stuff, still have too much, but I continue to buy more, telling myself I need it but really dont.  I would really like to just have what I love and use with nothing stored but seasonal items.  I do good for a little while and then fall off the wagon again.  In 2106, I am going to create a budget for myself and stick to it for "wants."  Hopefully, this will help my curtail it a bit.

Procrastination! I dare you to do it in 2016 ;)

Lol, okay, only for clothes shopping though.  Procrastination is one thing I do well in all other areas of my life and that is one thing I would like to change this year.
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: nnls on January 06, 2016, 07:12:26 PM
OP, good for you! Most people have so many clothes that they really don't need anything. I have a friend who could go 3+ months without wearing the same top twice. It's truly excessive.

I worked with a lady for a bit over two years and I never saw her in the same pair of shoes. She had a whole room dedicated to shoes and would often buy two or three new pairs on lunch breaks
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Sanne on January 07, 2016, 05:44:32 AM
I cant shake the shopping habit either.  I got rid of at least 70% of my stuff, still have too much, but I continue to buy more, telling myself I need it but really dont.  I would really like to just have what I love and use with nothing stored but seasonal items.  I do good for a little while and then fall off the wagon again.  In 2106, I am going to create a budget for myself and stick to it for "wants."  Hopefully, this will help my curtail it a bit.

Procrastination! I dare you to do it in 2016 ;)

Lol, okay, only for clothes shopping though.  Procrastination is one thing I do well in all other areas of my life and that is one thing I would like to change this year.

I was aiming at your typo (2106 instead of 2016) but I hear ya. Your story sounds like my story. I also got rid of about 70% and am getting much better but am definitely not there yet.. And I'm also a master procrastinator. Hence me being here on the forum right now..

I've joined the reduce clothing shopping challenge because if I try to stick to a budget I go shopping which leads to more shopping..
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Irishtache on January 07, 2016, 05:58:04 AM
I have an entire new wardrobe of clothes purchased with the optimism of losing some weight. If I could only When I lose some weight now, I wouldn't have to buy new clothes for 10 years, apart from shoes, socks and underwear. I also broke my stupid 'watch buying habit' when my youngest gifted me a beautiful watch previous Christmas. Luckily, most of my watch purchases were cheapos anyway so no big deal.
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: alleykat on January 07, 2016, 07:24:13 AM
I cant shake the shopping habit either.  I got rid of at least 70% of my stuff, still have too much, but I continue to buy more, telling myself I need it but really dont.  I would really like to just have what I love and use with nothing stored but seasonal items.  I do good for a little while and then fall off the wagon again.  In 2106, I am going to create a budget for myself and stick to it for "wants."  Hopefully, this will help my curtail it a bit.

Procrastination! I dare you to do it in 2016 ;)

Lol, okay, only for clothes shopping though.  Procrastination is one thing I do well in all other areas of my life and that is one thing I would like to change this year.

I was aiming at your typo (2106 instead of 2016) but I hear ya. Your story sounds like my story. I also got rid of about 70% and am getting much better but am definitely not there yet.. And I'm also a master procrastinator. Hence me being here on the forum right now..

I've joined the reduce clothing shopping challenge because if I try to stick to a budget I go shopping which leads to more shopping..


oh!!! LOL, missed it.   Maybe I should push all of my troubles to 2106, then I can continue doing what I am doing blissfully. :)
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: dkaid on January 07, 2016, 12:16:19 PM
So far I am committed to this in January.  It of course is not going that well.  Spent about $6 on "stuff".  Not horrible but I know how the rabbit hole works......!  I did at least sell $70 worth of stuff and make some returns. 
I think my lack of patience and my need to "do" something to "fix" a problem (problem being not saving enough) is at the heart of why it's so hard for me.  The act of not spending feels like doing nothing.  Anyway, I"m going to work to stay on course month by month. 
Has anyone else committed to do so??? 
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: NewJourney on January 09, 2016, 09:50:32 PM
So far I am committed to this in January.  It of course is not going that well.  Spent about $6 on "stuff".  Not horrible but I know how the rabbit hole works......!  I did at least sell $70 worth of stuff and make some returns. 
I think my lack of patience and my need to "do" something to "fix" a problem (problem being not saving enough) is at the heart of why it's so hard for me.  The act of not spending feels like doing nothing.  Anyway, I"m going to work to stay on course month by month. 
Has anyone else committed to do so???

It takes a while to break the habit..but as I started breaking the need to shop, I started finding other ways to be fulfilled, and it started feeling good to not be a slave to the need to buy things. It's very empowering :-)
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: John74 on January 09, 2016, 10:01:09 PM
I started a no discretionary shopping year on January 1st. I want to save money to renovate my house next year.
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Rosy on January 19, 2016, 03:52:00 PM
So far I am committed to this in January.  It of course is not going that well.  Spent about $6 on "stuff".  Not horrible but I know how the rabbit hole works......!  I did at least sell $70 worth of stuff and make some returns. 
I think my lack of patience and my need to "do" something to "fix" a problem (problem being not saving enough) is at the heart of why it's so hard for me.  The act of not spending feels like doing nothing.  Anyway, I"m going to work to stay on course month by month. 
Has anyone else committed to do so???

@dkaid Absolutely - I can only commit from month to month or I'll go crazy. I started buying jewelry a couple of years back and it is now a habit raging out of control - so yup, I'm struggling, but so far so good and only 11 more days in January - we can do that!:)

I'll join this challenge, not because I need to quit shopping altogether, I am fine with my spending plan/budget. My trouble is this newly acquired addiction to buying jewelry. Whatever needy place inside me that came from - it better leave - I am over it.

It killed me to not buy anything during gemweek at all three shopping channels or on line - so maybe I am out of the woods for the month of January. I am counting the days, so I can say I made it:)

Admittedly, there was one mini slide of purchasing a jewelry box, but I did need that for organization and we are talking about $21 so I think I can forgive myself for that and move on.

... and since today I sent $500 to my savings instead - I am officially barred from any purchases, since I cannot afford anything now. Maybe that is the trouble - this thought of "I cannot afford it" makes me instantly rebellious.

I am changing my mantra to say: I am re-directing my money to reach my new goals. So there - wish me luck:)
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: norabird on January 20, 2016, 08:24:55 AM
Ok, have to get onto this thread. This month has had a lot of apartment decor spending (fine) but I've also bought clothes after abstaining last year, and I know I don't actually *need* new clothes. Need to figure out how to adjust!
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: mamagoose on January 20, 2016, 02:16:07 PM
I'm not doing "no shopping", but instead "buy nothing new" aka The Compact. Other than groceries/toiletries, the only stuff I've bought this year was underwear for our toddler (yay potty training!). I ordered a used skirt from Yerdle for me, again it's nothing new. I like this a lot better b/c it forces me to carefully select clothing instead of just picking what's in the front of the rack at Target that month. It's 99% for environmental reasons, 1% for financial.
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Sanne on January 22, 2016, 01:14:13 AM
Re-directing money to reach goals sounds like a good plan. If the goals can be reached by not spending money and buying stuff this would be even better of course.

Trial and error: I will try to only buy stuff when it's solving a problem. No pants to wear = problem, so I can buy new pants. If I still have enough itís not a problem so I canít buy more. If my bike lock isnít working like it should, I can buy a new one if that means I canít use my bike. I will try to not buy when it isnít solving a problem (and will not make a problem up..) Also, some problems donít need solving (immediately) or can be solved through other things. Like I said, will try this..
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: alleykat on January 22, 2016, 05:15:38 AM
My shopping so far has been minimal and I even need shoes, I just haven't gotten out there yet. Well, I have gone shopping but who in the world wears those heels. I can no longer wear them. And I think I am just giving it a minute to try and break the "need" to shop so I don't fall down a rabbit hole. So far, so good. 
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: norabird on January 22, 2016, 10:56:10 AM
Was just reading about 'the compact' to not buy anything new for a year. Last year I came really close to this without much effort, due to my no clothes ban (with a few minor exceptions). Also didn't really buy any house stuff new. Gifts can be an issue but I made some and thrifted some last year; I'd like to try it out, though it feels a bit terrifying, I feel like I need to firm u my commitment to get off the spending/shopping horse.
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: YoungRetire on January 22, 2016, 04:38:22 PM
One of my 2015 Resolutions was a year with no clothes shopping. I didn't know about MMM at the time, what inspired this resolution was from being a minamalist. I've found I'm truly happy, and things are so much more simple with less "stuff".  I even made a few hundred dollars cash by selling everything I hadn't work within the last 6 months.

Where I did mess up was buying a pair of shoes (but I really needed them for the cold weather).

So on that note, anyone up to  possibly starting.  a no shopping challenge together?

I am one of the lucky ones that gave up shopping over 20 years ago. 👍
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Mermaid3011 on January 22, 2016, 05:30:28 PM
I am in!

My goal is to stick to a $20 budget for clothing per month. It may not be a challenge for a trained mustachian, but for me who just started out and probably spent 2k on clothing last year... it's a big step.

I also dont want to buy kitchen stuff or "stuff" in general.

Looking forward to supporting each other in this thread!

Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: nnls on January 22, 2016, 06:30:31 PM
I am in!

My goal is to stick to a $20 budget for clothing per month. It may not be a challenge for a trained mustachian, but for me who just started out and probably spent 2k on clothing last year... it's a big step.

I also dont want to buy kitchen stuff or "stuff" in general.

Looking forward to supporting each other in this thread!

I often end up buying kitchen stuff with the thought that I need it if I am going to cook at home more. But in reality I just use the same few things and the stuff accumulates dust :(
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: alleykat on January 22, 2016, 07:10:57 PM
I am in!

My goal is to stick to a $20 budget for clothing per month. It may not be a challenge for a trained mustachian, but for me who just started out and probably spent 2k on clothing last year... it's a big step.

I also dont want to buy kitchen stuff or "stuff" in general.

Looking forward to supporting each other in this thread!

I often end up buying kitchen stuff with the thought that I need it if I am going to cook at home more. But in reality I just use the same few things and the stuff accumulates dust :(

Me too. 
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Rural on January 23, 2016, 04:09:57 AM
Okay, I've been quietly reading this thread for a few weeks, hoping the answer would present itself. But, what do you guys mean when you say "shopping"? Clearly it's not adding TP to your list when you load the last roll on the holder and then getting it when you go to the store for milk and produce later in the week. Is it? I don't think that sort of shopping can be given up, not in practical terms.


But "shopping" still seems to mean something different to different people who post here. So what are we all talking about?
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: NewJourney on January 23, 2016, 08:32:53 AM
Okay, I've been quietly reading this thread for a few weeks, hoping the answer would present itself. But, what do you guys mean when you say "shopping"? Clearly it's not adding TP to your list when you load the last roll on the holder and then getting it when you go to the store for milk and produce later in the week. Is it? I don't think that sort of shopping can be given up, not in practical terms.


But "shopping" still seems to mean something different to different people who post here. So what are we all talking about?

So when I started the thread, what O had in mind was cutting out ANY additional costs than necessities. For example..I allowed myself to spend money sparingly in these categories...(other than bills of course).

Personal care items (soap, shampoo, toothpaste, etc.)
Food
Gifts
Gas

Items/categories I completely cut out...

Shopping for (clothes, VS, purses,
Shoes (gets its own category)
Unnecessary Cosmetics
Home/kitchen items

Some people mentioned that they still need to purchase things like a certain clothing item they don't have, or a kitchen appliance they need. I haven't found myself "needing" anything like that all of last year I did this, or this year. However it differs for everyone depending on the person/situation.  That's why you are able to kind of "tailor" it depending on your lifestyle.

I've been so serious about it that I've also been purging all of my stuff and have probably eliminated my stuff by about 60%, and I still haven't found a need to purchase anything.

Once I learned to say no to a feeling that I "need" something, it turned out I never did.

Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: littleqt on January 23, 2016, 09:45:33 AM
Hey NewJourney,

I'm in with you on this resolution as well. Also, I love Spotify, it's my favorite app. Even though it's only $10/month, I don't actually NEED it, so I'm exercising other alternatives. I've been trying out free trials of the other streaming music services. Also, there is a jailbreak tweak called "SaveCloud" that lets you download songs from Sound Cloud. I haven't tried this as my phone is old and not jailbroken, but my SO loves it. I do listen to Sound Cloud at work though. You can still build up a playlist of songs that you liked.
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: PMG on January 23, 2016, 09:50:46 AM
Spotify does still have a version you pay for by listening to consumerist propaganda with no out of pocket expense.


Hey NewJourney,

I'm in with you on this resolution as well. Also, I love Spotify, it's my favorite app. Even though it's only $10/month, I don't actually NEED it, so I'm exercising other alternatives. I've been trying out free trials of the other streaming music services. Also, there is a jailbreak tweak called "SaveCloud" that lets you download songs from Sound Cloud. I haven't tried this as my phone is old and not jailbroken, but my SO loves it. I do listen to Sound Cloud at work though. You can still build up a playlist of songs that you liked.
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Mermaid3011 on January 23, 2016, 11:37:02 AM

I often end up buying kitchen stuff with the thought that I need it if I am going to cook at home more. But in reality I just use the same few things and the stuff accumulates dust :(

Oh hell ya! Same here!
Usually I buy containers, lots of containers so I can bring my food to work. Before I used to get the fancy ones for 8.99 a piece. Now I am scouring the dollar store, have to admit though that they leak if your lunch isnt frozen.... maybe it's worth the investment...
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Mermaid3011 on January 23, 2016, 11:44:27 AM
Okay, I've been quietly reading this thread for a few weeks, hoping the answer would present itself. But, what do you guys mean when you say "shopping"? Clearly it's not adding TP to your list when you load the last roll on the holder and then getting it when you go to the store for milk and produce later in the week. Is it? I don't think that sort of shopping can be given up, not in practical terms.


But "shopping" still seems to mean something different to different people who post here. So what are we all talking about?

Join in! It's going to be fun to support each other and cheer each other on!

To me "shopping" is, when I buy something that I dont need right now.
Like today: there are plenty of coupons in my wallet that could get me stuff from the drugstore that are on sale even cheaper. Cleaning supplies, showergel, toiletpaper. Now... I have enough toothpaste and shampoo to last all year and no more space to store toiletpaper. So obviously it is not NECESSARY for me to go and get those things.

Of course if I run out of something, I  buy it. Like food or underwear or replacing a pair of shoes or a new basic t shirt.

I think everyone has their own personal limit of what's "done and needs replacement" and what can still be "good for another season".
I want to ask myself this year even more, do I really need this or is it just a want?

Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Rural on January 23, 2016, 02:18:16 PM
Okay, I've been quietly reading this thread for a few weeks, hoping the answer would present itself. But, what do you guys mean when you say "shopping"? Clearly it's not adding TP to your list when you load the last roll on the holder and then getting it when you go to the store for milk and produce later in the week. Is it? I don't think that sort of shopping can be given up, not in practical terms.


But "shopping" still seems to mean something different to different people who post here. So what are we all talking about?

Join in! It's going to be fun to support each other and cheer each other on!

To me "shopping" is, when I buy something that I dont need right now.
Like today: there are plenty of coupons in my wallet that could get me stuff from the drugstore that are on sale even cheaper. Cleaning supplies, showergel, toiletpaper. Now... I have enough toothpaste and shampoo to last all year and no more space to store toiletpaper. So obviously it is not NECESSARY for me to go and get those things.

Of course if I run out of something, I  buy it. Like food or underwear or replacing a pair of shoes or a new basic t shirt.

I think everyone has their own personal limit of what's "done and needs replacement" and what can still be "good for another season".
I want to ask myself this year even more, do I really need this or is it just a want?


I think I am going to be a cheerleader. It's a great idea, and I guess it doesn't matter what kind of shopping a person struggles with. Ours is eating out, which we do nearly once a week, so I guess that's how I'll play along.


However , husband will be eating out on Tuesday - we carpool to work/school, and I have to stay for an administrative "retreat" which will last until 8 or 9 pm. I'll be fed there, but he's a student and not invited to the retreat. :) I can't see asking him to eat a cold supper or to wait until 10:00 when we get home to eat (we'll get there at 8 am, so we do pack lunch and a snack every day). It would cost us more to drive two cars than to feed him, though.


So. I'll shoot for his Tuesday supper being our only eating out for the week.
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Mermaid3011 on January 23, 2016, 03:09:51 PM
Okay, I've been quietly reading this thread for a few weeks, hoping the answer would present itself. But, what do you guys mean when you say "shopping"? Clearly it's not adding TP to your list when you load the last roll on the holder and then getting it when you go to the store for milk and produce later in the week. Is it? I don't think that sort of shopping can be given up, not in practical terms.


But "shopping" still seems to mean something different to different people who post here. So what are we all talking about?

Join in! It's going to be fun to support each other and cheer each other on!

To me "shopping" is, when I buy something that I dont need right now.
Like today: there are plenty of coupons in my wallet that could get me stuff from the drugstore that are on sale even cheaper. Cleaning supplies, showergel, toiletpaper. Now... I have enough toothpaste and shampoo to last all year and no more space to store toiletpaper. So obviously it is not NECESSARY for me to go and get those things.

Of course if I run out of something, I  buy it. Like food or underwear or replacing a pair of shoes or a new basic t shirt.

I think everyone has their own personal limit of what's "done and needs replacement" and what can still be "good for another season".
I want to ask myself this year even more, do I really need this or is it just a want?


I think I am going to be a cheerleader. It's a great idea, and I guess it doesn't matter what kind of shopping a person struggles with. Ours is eating out, which we do nearly once a week, so I guess that's how I'll play along.


However , husband will be eating out on Tuesday - we carpool to work/school, and I have to stay for an administrative "retreat" which will last until 8 or 9 pm. I'll be fed there, but he's a student and not invited to the retreat. :) I can't see asking him to eat a cold supper or to wait until 10:00 when we get home to eat (we'll get there at 8 am, so we do pack lunch and a snack every day). It would cost us more to drive two cars than to feed him, though.


So. I'll shoot for his Tuesday supper being our only eating out for the week.

I think that sounds like a pretty good goal! Everybody has different kinds of shopping that are tough.
And to be honest with Tuesday's program I think eating out is completely ok. I would do the same thing!
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: NewJourney on January 23, 2016, 11:02:35 PM

I often end up buying kitchen stuff with the thought that I need it if I am going to cook at home more. But in reality I just use the same few things and the stuff accumulates dust :(

Oh hell ya! Same here!
Usually I buy containers, lots of containers so I can bring my food to work. Before I used to get the fancy ones for 8.99 a piece. Now I am scouring the dollar store, have to admit though that they leak if your lunch isnt frozen.... maybe it's worth the investment...

As far as this goes..when I do decide that I absolutely really need something I always buy the best quality I can get. Because when you think about it, it saves so much time, energy, less landfill to just invest in the best one.
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Mermaid3011 on January 24, 2016, 10:07:06 AM

I often end up buying kitchen stuff with the thought that I need it if I am going to cook at home more. But in reality I just use the same few things and the stuff accumulates dust :(

Oh hell ya! Same here!
Usually I buy containers, lots of containers so I can bring my food to work. Before I used to get the fancy ones for 8.99 a piece. Now I am scouring the dollar store, have to admit though that they leak if your lunch isnt frozen.... maybe it's worth the investment...

As far as this goes..when I do decide that I absolutely really need something I always buy the best quality I can get. Because when you think about it, it saves so much time, energy, less landfill to just invest in the best one.

So true! And the glass containers are much better for microwaving than plastic. It's just not good for my health I believe to heat plastic containers. And they dont discolour, are more hygienic etc. 
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Prodigal Daughter on January 27, 2016, 02:44:09 PM
I would love to belatedly join this 2016 challenge! I was wondering if I could ask for thoughts on this:

My biggest weakness is cosmetics. A new lipstick, a stunning highlighter - I just love makeup, but they are perishable items that will go bad and take a very long time to use up. So what do you think the solution is? Cold turkey? One item a month? (Which would be a drastic reduction for me, I'm afraid to admit. I am addicted to Sephora and beauty blogs.)

The clothing shopping I think I can cut. As long as I don't go to the mall, I'm fine. If I go, I tend to pick up a few items. And the only reason I've been going the past few months is because I started a new job at the end of August and barely had any business casual items to wear. My previous job, despite being in a high level of leadership, was working mostly solo in my own region, therefore I wore jeans and v-neck tshirts to work basically every day for over seven years. (Or jeans and sweaters in the winter.) I think I more or less have my workware situated. Yes, I would prefer for some things to be a bit higher quality, and I have purchased a few things that I don't really like in a feeling of "oh god it's getting colder and I have no long sleeves" but I think I can get through the winter. I may need an assessment come summer because I started at the very end of August and just scraped a few things together to get me to cooler temps, but I don't need to think about that until April or May.  Anyway, all of this to say, I think I can do controlled spending on the wardrobe (may need some bras, but I have a large cup size that I can't get at like VS or anything, so I just replace nude and black once year or so). I was having a shoe situation with no comfortable shoes that I could wear with socks, but I just got a pair last week. I have learned a lesson there...cheap shoes that aren't comfortable aren't worth the "savings". Spend more, have happy feet, and gladly wear the same few pairs until the fall apart years down the road (thereby actually being a better value than the cheap ones that always get replaced!)

But makeup. God, that's where I need help and accountability and this challenge! As well as not using the excuse of "new job, new clothes".
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: NewJourney on January 27, 2016, 05:20:11 PM
I would love to belatedly join this 2016 challenge! I was wondering if I could ask for thoughts on this:

My biggest weakness is cosmetics. A new lipstick, a stunning highlighter - I just love makeup, but they are perishable items that will go bad and take a very long time to use up. So what do you think the solution is? Cold turkey? One item a month? (Which would be a drastic reduction for me, I'm afraid to admit. I am addicted to Sephora and beauty blogs.)

The clothing shopping I think I can cut. As long as I don't go to the mall, I'm fine. If I go, I tend to pick up a few items. And the only reason I've been going the past few months is because I started a new job at the end of August and barely had any business casual items to wear. My previous job, despite being in a high level of leadership, was working mostly solo in my own region, therefore I wore jeans and v-neck tshirts to work basically every day for over seven years. (Or jeans and sweaters in the winter.) I think I more or less have my workware situated. Yes, I would prefer for some things to be a bit higher quality, and I have purchased a few things that I don't really like in a feeling of "oh god it's getting colder and I have no long sleeves" but I think I can get through the winter. I may need an assessment come summer because I started at the very end of August and just scraped a few things together to get me to cooler temps, but I don't need to think about that until April or May.  Anyway, all of this to say, I think I can do controlled spending on the wardrobe (may need some bras, but I have a large cup size that I can't get at like VS or anything, so I just replace nude and black once year or so). I was having a shoe situation with no comfortable shoes that I could wear with socks, but I just got a pair last week. I have learned a lesson there...cheap shoes that aren't comfortable aren't worth the "savings". Spend more, have happy feet, and gladly wear the same few pairs until the fall apart years down the road (thereby actually being a better value than the cheap ones that always get replaced!)

But makeup. God, that's where I need help and accountability and this challenge! As well as not using the excuse of "new job, new clothes".


Wow, I had the EXACT same problem with makeup! Then I downloaded the app called "Think Dirty" where you scan the barcodes of toe products and they tell how bad or good it is for you on a scale of 1-10. It then goes further to list every single ingredient and tells you exactly why it's good or bad and what the effects are. This app changed everything. Especially after I found out the chemicals in makeup get absorbed into the blood in like 20 seconds and cause pretty bad things like cancer, Alzheimer's disease, etc.  That was the change I had needed. So what I did was replaced a few items each month and at that point I didn't count it as a beauty cost, I counted it more as a health and wellbeing cost because I knew how much I was doing for my health. All of this kept me out of stores (spend less right there), online shopping only, and it was a goal for me to ONLY purchase clean items with a 4 or less rating on the app.

So thats what I did, and it worked great for me. I was shocked to notice how much better my skin could breathe and how much it glowed, all while slowing up on the makeup purchasing and carefully selecting the best products that's better for my health and wellbeing.

 I've done all the research so if you need and tip or sites just let me know :-)


Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: woopwoop on January 27, 2016, 05:24:33 PM
I don't shop much anyway, but this year will be harder for me since I'm gonna need maternity clothes. So hell yeah, bring on the challenge! No clothes purchases at all for me this year, only hand me downs(ups) and free stuff from my community.

My one concession might be a new pair of sneakers since I want to keep my exercise routine going, but even that I'll try and ask for for my birthday instead of buying it myself. We can do it, go team!
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Prodigal Daughter on January 27, 2016, 05:52:18 PM
I would love to belatedly join this 2016 challenge! I was wondering if I could ask for thoughts on this:

My biggest weakness is cosmetics. A new lipstick, a stunning highlighter - I just love makeup, but they are perishable items that will go bad and take a very long time to use up. So what do you think the solution is? Cold turkey? One item a month? (Which would be a drastic reduction for me, I'm afraid to admit. I am addicted to Sephora and beauty blogs.)

The clothing shopping I think I can cut. As long as I don't go to the mall, I'm fine. If I go, I tend to pick up a few items. And the only reason I've been going the past few months is because I started a new job at the end of August and barely had any business casual items to wear. My previous job, despite being in a high level of leadership, was working mostly solo in my own region, therefore I wore jeans and v-neck tshirts to work basically every day for over seven years. (Or jeans and sweaters in the winter.) I think I more or less have my workware situated. Yes, I would prefer for some things to be a bit higher quality, and I have purchased a few things that I don't really like in a feeling of "oh god it's getting colder and I have no long sleeves" but I think I can get through the winter. I may need an assessment come summer because I started at the very end of August and just scraped a few things together to get me to cooler temps, but I don't need to think about that until April or May.  Anyway, all of this to say, I think I can do controlled spending on the wardrobe (may need some bras, but I have a large cup size that I can't get at like VS or anything, so I just replace nude and black once year or so). I was having a shoe situation with no comfortable shoes that I could wear with socks, but I just got a pair last week. I have learned a lesson there...cheap shoes that aren't comfortable aren't worth the "savings". Spend more, have happy feet, and gladly wear the same few pairs until the fall apart years down the road (thereby actually being a better value than the cheap ones that always get replaced!)

But makeup. God, that's where I need help and accountability and this challenge! As well as not using the excuse of "new job, new clothes".


Wow, I had the EXACT same problem with makeup! Then I downloaded the app called "Think Dirty" where you scan the barcodes of toe products and they tell how bad or good it is for you on a scale of 1-10. It then goes further to list every single ingredient and tells you exactly why it's good or bad and what the effects are. This app changed everything. Especially after I found out the chemicals in makeup get absorbed into the blood in like 20 seconds and cause pretty bad things like cancer, Alzheimer's disease, etc.  That was the change I had needed. So what I did was replaced a few items each month and at that point I didn't count it as a beauty cost, I counted it more as a health and wellbeing cost because I knew how much I was doing for my health. All of this kept me out of stores (spend less right there), online shopping only, and it was a goal for me to ONLY purchase clean items with a 4 or less rating on the app.

So thats what I did, and it worked great for me. I was shocked to notice how much better my skin could breathe and how much it glowed, all while slowing up on the makeup purchasing and carefully selecting the best products that's better for my health and wellbeing.

 I've done all the research so if you need and tip or sites just let me know :-)

Great tip on the app! I'll check it out! Any foundation recommendations that aren't horrible?
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: NewJourney on January 27, 2016, 09:31:49 PM
I would love to belatedly join this 2016 challenge! I was wondering if I could ask for thoughts on this:

My biggest weakness is cosmetics. A new lipstick, a stunning highlighter - I just love makeup, but they are perishable items that will go bad and take a very long time to use up. So what do you think the solution is? Cold turkey? One item a month? (Which would be a drastic reduction for me, I'm afraid to admit. I am addicted to Sephora and beauty blogs.)

The clothing shopping I think I can cut. As long as I don't go to the mall, I'm fine. If I go, I tend to pick up a few items. And the only reason I've been going the past few months is because I started a new job at the end of August and barely had any business casual items to wear. My previous job, despite being in a high level of leadership, was working mostly solo in my own region, therefore I wore jeans and v-neck tshirts to work basically every day for over seven years. (Or jeans and sweaters in the winter.) I think I more or less have my workware situated. Yes, I would prefer for some things to be a bit higher quality, and I have purchased a few things that I don't really like in a feeling of "oh god it's getting colder and I have no long sleeves" but I think I can get through the winter. I may need an assessment come summer because I started at the very end of August and just scraped a few things together to get me to cooler temps, but I don't need to think about that until April or May.  Anyway, all of this to say, I think I can do controlled spending on the wardrobe (may need some bras, but I have a large cup size that I can't get at like VS or anything, so I just replace nude and black once year or so). I was having a shoe situation with no comfortable shoes that I could wear with socks, but I just got a pair last week. I have learned a lesson there...cheap shoes that aren't comfortable aren't worth the "savings". Spend more, have happy feet, and gladly wear the same few pairs until the fall apart years down the road (thereby actually being a better value than the cheap ones that always get replaced!)

But makeup. God, that's where I need help and accountability and this challenge! As well as not using the excuse of "new job, new clothes".


Wow, I had the EXACT same problem with makeup! Then I downloaded the app called "Think Dirty" where you scan the barcodes of toe products and they tell how bad or good it is for you on a scale of 1-10. It then goes further to list every single ingredient and tells you exactly why it's good or bad and what the effects are. This app changed everything. Especially after I found out the chemicals in makeup get absorbed into the blood in like 20 seconds and cause pretty bad things like cancer, Alzheimer's disease, etc.  That was the change I had needed. So what I did was replaced a few items each month and at that point I didn't count it as a beauty cost, I counted it more as a health and wellbeing cost because I knew how much I was doing for my health. All of this kept me out of stores (spend less right there), online shopping only, and it was a goal for me to ONLY purchase clean items with a 4 or less rating on the app.

So thats what I did, and it worked great for me. I was shocked to notice how much better my skin could breathe and how much it glowed, all while slowing up on the makeup purchasing and carefully selecting the best products that's better for my health and wellbeing.

 I've done all the research so if you need and tip or sites just let me know :-)

Great tip on the app! I'll check it out! Any foundation recommendations that aren't horrible?

Yeah anytime!  I'm absolutely IN LOVE 😍 with Elate Cosmetics foundation. I've tried SOOOO many and this one is even better than my favorite chemical filled one that I used to love. It has bamboo in it and it literally feels cool on your face. I also LOVE their powders, and the containers are soooo darn cute! I can't say enough good things. If you go to their site you can get samples to find your shade. OH! and even if you apply it heavy, it always seems to still look natural and never caked on.

---if you can't tell I love the is products lol www.elatebeauty.com

And now that I'm talking about healthy products, check out Primal Pit Paste too..works better than regular deodorant and detoxes the heave metals from your blood.

Ok. I'm done. Haha
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Mermaid3011 on January 28, 2016, 07:07:14 AM
I would love to belatedly join this 2016 challenge! I was wondering if I could ask for thoughts on this:

My biggest weakness is cosmetics. A new lipstick, a stunning highlighter - I just love makeup, but they are perishable items that will go bad and take a very long time to use up. So what do you think the solution is? Cold turkey? One item a month? (Which would be a drastic reduction for me, I'm afraid to admit. I am addicted to Sephora and beauty blogs.)

The clothing shopping I think I can cut. As long as I don't go to the mall, I'm fine. If I go, I tend to pick up a few items. And the only reason I've been going the past few months is because I started a new job at the end of August and barely had any business casual items to wear. My previous job, despite being in a high level of leadership, was working mostly solo in my own region, therefore I wore jeans and v-neck tshirts to work basically every day for over seven years. (Or jeans and sweaters in the winter.) I think I more or less have my workware situated. Yes, I would prefer for some things to be a bit higher quality, and I have purchased a few things that I don't really like in a feeling of "oh god it's getting colder and I have no long sleeves" but I think I can get through the winter. I may need an assessment come summer because I started at the very end of August and just scraped a few things together to get me to cooler temps, but I don't need to think about that until April or May.  Anyway, all of this to say, I think I can do controlled spending on the wardrobe (may need some bras, but I have a large cup size that I can't get at like VS or anything, so I just replace nude and black once year or so). I was having a shoe situation with no comfortable shoes that I could wear with socks, but I just got a pair last week. I have learned a lesson there...cheap shoes that aren't comfortable aren't worth the "savings". Spend more, have happy feet, and gladly wear the same few pairs until the fall apart years down the road (thereby actually being a better value than the cheap ones that always get replaced!)

But makeup. God, that's where I need help and accountability and this challenge! As well as not using the excuse of "new job, new clothes".

I think if you can downgrade to one item a month that would be a great achievement!! Go for it! And be honest with yourself and with our little group. We wont bash you! Just encourage you!
Also: re beauty blogs - can you unsubscribe from the emails that you are getting? I've done that for most of my advertisement emails. If you don't even get the "50% off now" email, you will likely be able to resist longer.

I am also thinking of a dedicated afternoon of making an inventory. (I went through my bathroom cupboards last weekend and am DEFINITELY covered with toothpaste and shampoo for the year)
Collect EVERYTHING in boxes and look at the combined mass of beauty items. Then make it your goal to use up item by item. Once you realize the amounts you have (and cash you've spent) it might be easier to resist new additions.
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Prodigal Daughter on January 28, 2016, 09:58:21 AM
I would love to belatedly join this 2016 challenge! I was wondering if I could ask for thoughts on this:

My biggest weakness is cosmetics. A new lipstick, a stunning highlighter - I just love makeup, but they are perishable items that will go bad and take a very long time to use up. So what do you think the solution is? Cold turkey? One item a month? (Which would be a drastic reduction for me, I'm afraid to admit. I am addicted to Sephora and beauty blogs.)

The clothing shopping I think I can cut. As long as I don't go to the mall, I'm fine. If I go, I tend to pick up a few items. And the only reason I've been going the past few months is because I started a new job at the end of August and barely had any business casual items to wear. My previous job, despite being in a high level of leadership, was working mostly solo in my own region, therefore I wore jeans and v-neck tshirts to work basically every day for over seven years. (Or jeans and sweaters in the winter.) I think I more or less have my workware situated. Yes, I would prefer for some things to be a bit higher quality, and I have purchased a few things that I don't really like in a feeling of "oh god it's getting colder and I have no long sleeves" but I think I can get through the winter. I may need an assessment come summer because I started at the very end of August and just scraped a few things together to get me to cooler temps, but I don't need to think about that until April or May.  Anyway, all of this to say, I think I can do controlled spending on the wardrobe (may need some bras, but I have a large cup size that I can't get at like VS or anything, so I just replace nude and black once year or so). I was having a shoe situation with no comfortable shoes that I could wear with socks, but I just got a pair last week. I have learned a lesson there...cheap shoes that aren't comfortable aren't worth the "savings". Spend more, have happy feet, and gladly wear the same few pairs until the fall apart years down the road (thereby actually being a better value than the cheap ones that always get replaced!)

But makeup. God, that's where I need help and accountability and this challenge! As well as not using the excuse of "new job, new clothes".

I think if you can downgrade to one item a month that would be a great achievement!! Go for it! And be honest with yourself and with our little group. We wont bash you! Just encourage you!
Also: re beauty blogs - can you unsubscribe from the emails that you are getting? I've done that for most of my advertisement emails. If you don't even get the "50% off now" email, you will likely be able to resist longer.

I am also thinking of a dedicated afternoon of making an inventory. (I went through my bathroom cupboards last weekend and am DEFINITELY covered with toothpaste and shampoo for the year)
Collect EVERYTHING in boxes and look at the combined mass of beauty items. Then make it your goal to use up item by item. Once you realize the amounts you have (and cash you've spent) it might be easier to resist new additions.

I've actually already done the inventory! That's part of what has me realize this needs to stop! And I was ruthless. I even added up the fluid ounces I had just in sample size serums and realized I'm probably good for the year with serums. And I'm working on dedicated items to use up and move out. I have started to unsubscribe to newsletters and emails, but it's hard to do with my favorite ones, like Sephora. I have also found that clearing things out of my online wishlist helps. The wishlist tends to start to feel like a shopping list - like, oh, I'll eventually pick up these items. So taking things off that has helped. I've also stopped following some of my favorite instagrams accounts where they preview new collections and hype up to-be-released products. I think that will help a lot as well.
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: norabird on January 28, 2016, 10:51:01 AM
PD--do you have friends who like makeup too? Could you have small 'makeup swaps' where you sterilize what you have and trade it? That way you get the 'new' feeling while also addressing the fact that you have too much.
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Mermaid3011 on January 28, 2016, 12:53:20 PM
I would love to belatedly join this 2016 challenge! I was wondering if I could ask for thoughts on this:

My biggest weakness is cosmetics. A new lipstick, a stunning highlighter - I just love makeup, but they are perishable items that will go bad and take a very long time to use up. So what do you think the solution is? Cold turkey? One item a month? (Which would be a drastic reduction for me, I'm afraid to admit. I am addicted to Sephora and beauty blogs.)

The clothing shopping I think I can cut. As long as I don't go to the mall, I'm fine. If I go, I tend to pick up a few items. And the only reason I've been going the past few months is because I started a new job at the end of August and barely had any business casual items to wear. My previous job, despite being in a high level of leadership, was working mostly solo in my own region, therefore I wore jeans and v-neck tshirts to work basically every day for over seven years. (Or jeans and sweaters in the winter.) I think I more or less have my workware situated. Yes, I would prefer for some things to be a bit higher quality, and I have purchased a few things that I don't really like in a feeling of "oh god it's getting colder and I have no long sleeves" but I think I can get through the winter. I may need an assessment come summer because I started at the very end of August and just scraped a few things together to get me to cooler temps, but I don't need to think about that until April or May.  Anyway, all of this to say, I think I can do controlled spending on the wardrobe (may need some bras, but I have a large cup size that I can't get at like VS or anything, so I just replace nude and black once year or so). I was having a shoe situation with no comfortable shoes that I could wear with socks, but I just got a pair last week. I have learned a lesson there...cheap shoes that aren't comfortable aren't worth the "savings". Spend more, have happy feet, and gladly wear the same few pairs until the fall apart years down the road (thereby actually being a better value than the cheap ones that always get replaced!)

But makeup. God, that's where I need help and accountability and this challenge! As well as not using the excuse of "new job, new clothes".

I think if you can downgrade to one item a month that would be a great achievement!! Go for it! And be honest with yourself and with our little group. We wont bash you! Just encourage you!
Also: re beauty blogs - can you unsubscribe from the emails that you are getting? I've done that for most of my advertisement emails. If you don't even get the "50% off now" email, you will likely be able to resist longer.

I am also thinking of a dedicated afternoon of making an inventory. (I went through my bathroom cupboards last weekend and am DEFINITELY covered with toothpaste and shampoo for the year)
Collect EVERYTHING in boxes and look at the combined mass of beauty items. Then make it your goal to use up item by item. Once you realize the amounts you have (and cash you've spent) it might be easier to resist new additions.

I've actually already done the inventory! That's part of what has me realize this needs to stop! And I was ruthless. I even added up the fluid ounces I had just in sample size serums and realized I'm probably good for the year with serums. And I'm working on dedicated items to use up and move out. I have started to unsubscribe to newsletters and emails, but it's hard to do with my favorite ones, like Sephora. I have also found that clearing things out of my online wishlist helps. The wishlist tends to start to feel like a shopping list - like, oh, I'll eventually pick up these items. So taking things off that has helped. I've also stopped following some of my favorite instagrams accounts where they preview new collections and hype up to-be-released products. I think that will help a lot as well.

Absolutely! That will make a huge difference. In the end look at it this way: with every item you remove off your list and every newsletter you unsubscribe and every instagram account you unfollow you are reducing the influence of all those marketing campaigns.
I PROMISE you that you will not miss something that you don't even know exists. ;)

Oh and there is this:
We can get USED to shopping. But at the same time we can also get USED to NOT shopping.
Both are habits. And both can be formed with time.


I had a Starbucks habit every morning. Now I have a weekend-Starbucks habit that is much better for me. And it's not even hard anymore.
I had a yarn habit (would spend hundreds of dollars on fancy hand dyed artisanal yarns) - not anymore. It's become a habit NOT to look at the new updates of the designers.

And I am just as happy (if not happier) than before.
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Prodigal Daughter on January 28, 2016, 01:22:29 PM
Quote
Oh and there is this:
We can get USED to shopping. But at the same time we can also get USED to NOT shopping.
Both are habits. And both can be formed with time.


I had a Starbucks habit every morning. Now I have a weekend-Starbucks habit that is much better for me. And it's not even hard anymore.
I had a yarn habit (would spend hundreds of dollars on fancy hand dyed artisanal yarns) - not anymore. It's become a habit NOT to look at the new updates of the designers.

And I am just as happy (if not happier) than before.

This is good stuff! I actually knew all these lessons a long time ago. About 10 years ago I cut spending and swelled my savings and managed to buy a house and pay off a car really fast. Then I just got loose with the spending. Probably about four years ago. And I could just kick myself for letting it happen. I know I can do it again, because I did it once already. I just need the reminders and accountability and inspiration!
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Rosy on January 28, 2016, 02:43:29 PM

I can only commit from month to month or I'll go crazy. I started buying jewelry a couple of years back and it is now a habit raging out of control - so yup, I'm struggling, but so far so good and only 11 more days in January - we can do that!:)

I'll join this challenge, not because I need to quit shopping altogether, I am fine with my spending plan/budget. My trouble is this newly acquired addiction to buying jewelry. Whatever needy place inside me that came from - it better leave - I am over it.

It killed me to not buy anything during gemweek at all three shopping channels or on line - so maybe I am out of the woods for the month of January. I am counting the days, so I can say I made it:)

Admittedly, there was one mini slide of purchasing a jewelry box, but I did need that for organization and we are talking about $21 so I think I can forgive myself for that and move on.

... and since today I sent $500 to my savings instead - I am officially barred from any purchases, since I cannot afford anything now. Maybe that is the trouble - this thought of "I cannot afford it" makes me instantly rebellious.

I am changing my mantra to say: I am re-directing my money to reach my new goals. So there - wish me luck:)


Just checking in - January is almost over - no jewelry so far and in February I plan to re-direct my money to my new goals once again - wish me luck!
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Prodigal Daughter on January 28, 2016, 04:07:38 PM
Good luck, Rosy!



Holy wake up call. I just looked over a spreadsheet I had made about 9 years ago listing all of my monthly expenses vs my take home pay and updated it for today's numbers. If I didn't have credit card debt, I would already have my living expenses at only 50% of my take home pay. Even including a student loan payment!

Talk about renewed commitment! Laser focus to get these stupid things paid off. The student loans, even with minimum payments, should be done in three years. If I can have all of my non mortgage debt paid off in three years, I'll be able to easily invest and save 50% of my take home! (Luckily I do have some retirement savings already started.) I still think it will be hard, I think my childcare expenses this summer will slow my roll quite a bit (new job, must work from office every day, I used to work from home 2.5 days a week at my old job) so it will take some dedication and planning, but I want to sit down with some spreadsheets and really map out the next three years and see if it's doable! (Sorry, this is unrelated to the shopping thread, yet totally related at the same time!)
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Sanne on January 29, 2016, 03:38:49 AM
Oh and there is this:
We can get USED to shopping. But at the same time we can also get USED to NOT shopping.
Both are habits. And both can be formed with time.


Great point! This is SO true. I'm trying to form this new habit.
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Mermaid3011 on January 29, 2016, 11:06:17 AM
Quote
Oh and there is this:
We can get USED to shopping. But at the same time we can also get USED to NOT shopping.
Both are habits. And both can be formed with time.


I had a Starbucks habit every morning. Now I have a weekend-Starbucks habit that is much better for me. And it's not even hard anymore.
I had a yarn habit (would spend hundreds of dollars on fancy hand dyed artisanal yarns) - not anymore. It's become a habit NOT to look at the new updates of the designers.

And I am just as happy (if not happier) than before.

This is good stuff! I actually knew all these lessons a long time ago. About 10 years ago I cut spending and swelled my savings and managed to buy a house and pay off a car really fast. Then I just got loose with the spending. Probably about four years ago. And I could just kick myself for letting it happen. I know I can do it again, because I did it once already. I just need the reminders and accountability and inspiration!

We'll make a great team! I too need the reminders and accountability and inspiration. While I haven't been good w money in the past at all, you have already had really GREAT success with saving and buying a house and car. Well done girl!! Look back and tell yourself you did an awesome job then - you can do it again!
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: alleykat on January 29, 2016, 11:08:32 AM
Oh and there is this:
We can get USED to shopping. But at the same time we can also get USED to NOT shopping.
Both are habits. And both can be formed with time.


Great point! This is SO true. I'm trying to form this new habit.

I 100% agree.  The hardest part is breaking the habit.  It has been one of the hardest things for me.  I did pretty good in January, some small purchases, but it was a success and going strong into February.  I do have to remind myself and catch myself when I get into the shopping mode, but so far so good.

I am also breaking the habit with eating too.  It is more of a habit than anything else. I will eat when I am hungry and not just because it is time. LOL

Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Prodigal Daughter on January 29, 2016, 11:38:03 AM
Quote
Oh and there is this:
We can get USED to shopping. But at the same time we can also get USED to NOT shopping.
Both are habits. And both can be formed with time.


I had a Starbucks habit every morning. Now I have a weekend-Starbucks habit that is much better for me. And it's not even hard anymore.
I had a yarn habit (would spend hundreds of dollars on fancy hand dyed artisanal yarns) - not anymore. It's become a habit NOT to look at the new updates of the designers.

And I am just as happy (if not happier) than before.

This is good stuff! I actually knew all these lessons a long time ago. About 10 years ago I cut spending and swelled my savings and managed to buy a house and pay off a car really fast. Then I just got loose with the spending. Probably about four years ago. And I could just kick myself for letting it happen. I know I can do it again, because I did it once already. I just need the reminders and accountability and inspiration!

We'll make a great team! I too need the reminders and accountability and inspiration. While I haven't been good w money in the past at all, you have already had really GREAT success with saving and buying a house and car. Well done girl!! Look back and tell yourself you did an awesome job then - you can do it again!

Oh thank you! Yes! To accountability, support, and positive thinking! I have felt so ashamed for slipping. I think that's what it was. I didn't want to admit that I had slipped up (badly). And now just making this decision, to really move forward, I'm feeling good. I'm feeling like I'm in control and I can do it again! And I think I'm going cold turkey on the shopping. At least one month at a time I am. I will re-evaluate at the end of every month if there is something I need (versus want) or if there is something I want badly, will it make me happy in the long run versus just at the moment of acquisition. That is a new way of thinking for me. If something, say a new cosmetic item, made me excited, then why not buy it? But those feelings don't last. They are very fleeting. I will do well to remember that and think about it before making any purchases. As well as just staying away from the stores!
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Rural on January 29, 2016, 11:42:49 AM
Okay, I've been quietly reading this thread for a few weeks, hoping the answer would present itself. But, what do you guys mean when you say "shopping"? Clearly it's not adding TP to your list when you load the last roll on the holder and then getting it when you go to the store for milk and produce later in the week. Is it? I don't think that sort of shopping can be given up, not in practical terms.


But "shopping" still seems to mean something different to different people who post here. So what are we all talking about?

Join in! It's going to be fun to support each other and cheer each other on!

To me "shopping" is, when I buy something that I dont need right now.
Like today: there are plenty of coupons in my wallet that could get me stuff from the drugstore that are on sale even cheaper. Cleaning supplies, showergel, toiletpaper. Now... I have enough toothpaste and shampoo to last all year and no more space to store toiletpaper. So obviously it is not NECESSARY for me to go and get those things.

Of course if I run out of something, I  buy it. Like food or underwear or replacing a pair of shoes or a new basic t shirt.

I think everyone has their own personal limit of what's "done and needs replacement" and what can still be "good for another season".
I want to ask myself this year even more, do I really need this or is it just a want?


I think I am going to be a cheerleader. It's a great idea, and I guess it doesn't matter what kind of shopping a person struggles with. Ours is eating out, which we do nearly once a week, so I guess that's how I'll play along.


However , husband will be eating out on Tuesday - we carpool to work/school, and I have to stay for an administrative "retreat" which will last until 8 or 9 pm. I'll be fed there, but he's a student and not invited to the retreat. :) I can't see asking him to eat a cold supper or to wait until 10:00 when we get home to eat (we'll get there at 8 am, so we do pack lunch and a snack every day). It would cost us more to drive two cars than to feed him, though.


So. I'll shoot for his Tuesday supper being our only eating out for the week.


 OK, checking in to report failure. I had forgotten how badly sleep deprivation affects me, and I don't remember most of Wednesday. If you recall from previous updates ,Tuesday night I had to stay for a retreat at work and it lasted until 8:30. It takes us roughly an hour to drive home, then I have to get up before 5 AM to get him awake and get back in by 8 AM.  All of this means that 8 PM is my absolute bedtime, and it was nearly 1030 by the time we got done, got home, dealt with the dogs, and unwound just a little bit. Plus then I woke just after 3 am following a nightmare in which most of the college administration had followed me home and were harassing our dogs (guess I really didn't want to work that late, did I?)


 So anyway, like I said, got nothing done Wednesday ,and frankly I don't remember most of it. I don't think I said anything absolutely unforgivable to anyone; if I did, they are taking pity and not reminding me of it. But I was in no shape to safely operate a stove or any other machinery Wednesday night, and husband had a bunch of homework to do. So we got a pizza at Little Caesars and took it home for supper. On the bright side,  one five dollar pizza feeds us both.
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Prodigal Daughter on January 29, 2016, 11:46:21 AM
Okay, I've been quietly reading this thread for a few weeks, hoping the answer would present itself. But, what do you guys mean when you say "shopping"? Clearly it's not adding TP to your list when you load the last roll on the holder and then getting it when you go to the store for milk and produce later in the week. Is it? I don't think that sort of shopping can be given up, not in practical terms.


But "shopping" still seems to mean something different to different people who post here. So what are we all talking about?

Join in! It's going to be fun to support each other and cheer each other on!

To me "shopping" is, when I buy something that I dont need right now.
Like today: there are plenty of coupons in my wallet that could get me stuff from the drugstore that are on sale even cheaper. Cleaning supplies, showergel, toiletpaper. Now... I have enough toothpaste and shampoo to last all year and no more space to store toiletpaper. So obviously it is not NECESSARY for me to go and get those things.

Of course if I run out of something, I  buy it. Like food or underwear or replacing a pair of shoes or a new basic t shirt.

I think everyone has their own personal limit of what's "done and needs replacement" and what can still be "good for another season".
I want to ask myself this year even more, do I really need this or is it just a want?


I think I am going to be a cheerleader. It's a great idea, and I guess it doesn't matter what kind of shopping a person struggles with. Ours is eating out, which we do nearly once a week, so I guess that's how I'll play along.


However , husband will be eating out on Tuesday - we carpool to work/school, and I have to stay for an administrative "retreat" which will last until 8 or 9 pm. I'll be fed there, but he's a student and not invited to the retreat. :) I can't see asking him to eat a cold supper or to wait until 10:00 when we get home to eat (we'll get there at 8 am, so we do pack lunch and a snack every day). It would cost us more to drive two cars than to feed him, though.


So. I'll shoot for his Tuesday supper being our only eating out for the week.


 OK, checking in to report failure. I had forgotten how badly sleep deprivation affects me, and I don't remember most of Wednesday. If you recall from previous updates ,Tuesday night I had to stay for a retreat at work and it lasted until 8:30. It takes us roughly an hour to drive home, then I have to get up before 5 AM to get him awake and get back in by 8 AM.  All of this means that 8 PM is my absolute bedtime, and it was nearly 1030 by the time we got done, got home, dealt with the dogs, and unwound just a little bit. Plus then I woke just after 3 am following a nightmare in which most of the college administration had followed me home and were harassing our dogs (guess I really didn't want to work that late, did I?)


 So anyway, like I said, got nothing done Wednesday ,and frankly I don't remember most of it. I don't think I said anything absolutely unforgivable to anyone; if I did, they are taking pity and not reminding me of it. But I was in no shape to safely operate a stove or any other machinery Wednesday night, and husband had a bunch of homework to do. So we got a pizza at Little Caesars and took it home for supper. On the bright side,  one five dollar pizza feeds us both.

I would say the fact that you only spent $5 is great. That's practically the same as if you made it with ingredients yourself. Not that it's an excuse to ignore the spending, but you could have gone with a $15 pizza.
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Rural on January 29, 2016, 11:53:22 AM
Okay, I've been quietly reading this thread for a few weeks, hoping the answer would present itself. But, what do you guys mean when you say "shopping"? Clearly it's not adding TP to your list when you load the last roll on the holder and then getting it when you go to the store for milk and produce later in the week. Is it? I don't think that sort of shopping can be given up, not in practical terms.


But "shopping" still seems to mean something different to different people who post here. So what are we all talking about?

Join in! It's going to be fun to support each other and cheer each other on!

To me "shopping" is, when I buy something that I dont need right now.
Like today: there are plenty of coupons in my wallet that could get me stuff from the drugstore that are on sale even cheaper. Cleaning supplies, showergel, toiletpaper. Now... I have enough toothpaste and shampoo to last all year and no more space to store toiletpaper. So obviously it is not NECESSARY for me to go and get those things.

Of course if I run out of something, I  buy it. Like food or underwear or replacing a pair of shoes or a new basic t shirt.

I think everyone has their own personal limit of what's "done and needs replacement" and what can still be "good for another season".
I want to ask myself this year even more, do I really need this or is it just a want?


I think I am going to be a cheerleader. It's a great idea, and I guess it doesn't matter what kind of shopping a person struggles with. Ours is eating out, which we do nearly once a week, so I guess that's how I'll play along.


However , husband will be eating out on Tuesday - we carpool to work/school, and I have to stay for an administrative "retreat" which will last until 8 or 9 pm. I'll be fed there, but he's a student and not invited to the retreat. :) I can't see asking him to eat a cold supper or to wait until 10:00 when we get home to eat (we'll get there at 8 am, so we do pack lunch and a snack every day). It would cost us more to drive two cars than to feed him, though.


So. I'll shoot for his Tuesday supper being our only eating out for the week.


 OK, checking in to report failure. I had forgotten how badly sleep deprivation affects me, and I don't remember most of Wednesday. If you recall from previous updates ,Tuesday night I had to stay for a retreat at work and it lasted until 8:30. It takes us roughly an hour to drive home, then I have to get up before 5 AM to get him awake and get back in by 8 AM.  All of this means that 8 PM is my absolute bedtime, and it was nearly 1030 by the time we got done, got home, dealt with the dogs, and unwound just a little bit. Plus then I woke just after 3 am following a nightmare in which most of the college administration had followed me home and were harassing our dogs (guess I really didn't want to work that late, did I?)


 So anyway, like I said, got nothing done Wednesday ,and frankly I don't remember most of it. I don't think I said anything absolutely unforgivable to anyone; if I did, they are taking pity and not reminding me of it. But I was in no shape to safely operate a stove or any other machinery Wednesday night, and husband had a bunch of homework to do. So we got a pizza at Little Caesars and took it home for supper. On the bright side,  one five dollar pizza feeds us both.

I would say the fact that you only spent $5 is great. That's practically the same as if you made it with ingredients yourself. Not that it's an excuse to ignore the spending, but you could have gone with a $15 pizza.


Thank, but actually Little Caesars is the only game in the nearest town, so I don't think I could have. :)


Anyway, some of my home cooked meals cost that much, though they do tend to produce leftovers.  Regardless, if that's the worst thing I ever do, I'm doing OK.


 Going to try for no nights eating out this next week, and I'm going to leave work by 5 PM every damn day.
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: monstermonster on January 29, 2016, 12:19:07 PM
No shopping for this month for me! I've been spending a lot of time plotting my sewing schedule out with library sewing books (gonna work through that stash instead of buying any clothing!) This weekend is a clothing swap with a very smartly dressed group of ladies that I'm going to go crazy at and get a bunch of "new to me" things (and get rid of a few pieces that don't fit/just aren't to my liking anymore.)

Spent $56 on eating out/bars, which isn't bad for me (ranges between $15-75), but I'll likely do a no-spend month soon. Not February, though, as I'm traveling for 1/4 of the month for work and will definitely be spending some $$ at the airport/on drinks with colleagues.

Biggest non-necessary (groceries, rent, utilities, CSA share) expense this month was $378 on plane tickets, but that's getting reimbursed. Next most expensive was $39 on fitness membership.
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Mermaid3011 on January 29, 2016, 01:32:28 PM
Okay, I've been quietly reading this thread for a few weeks, hoping the answer would present itself. But, what do you guys mean when you say "shopping"? Clearly it's not adding TP to your list when you load the last roll on the holder and then getting it when you go to the store for milk and produce later in the week. Is it? I don't think that sort of shopping can be given up, not in practical terms.


But "shopping" still seems to mean something different to different people who post here. So what are we all talking about?

Join in! It's going to be fun to support each other and cheer each other on!

To me "shopping" is, when I buy something that I dont need right now.
Like today: there are plenty of coupons in my wallet that could get me stuff from the drugstore that are on sale even cheaper. Cleaning supplies, showergel, toiletpaper. Now... I have enough toothpaste and shampoo to last all year and no more space to store toiletpaper. So obviously it is not NECESSARY for me to go and get those things.

Of course if I run out of something, I  buy it. Like food or underwear or replacing a pair of shoes or a new basic t shirt.

I think everyone has their own personal limit of what's "done and needs replacement" and what can still be "good for another season".
I want to ask myself this year even more, do I really need this or is it just a want?


I think I am going to be a cheerleader. It's a great idea, and I guess it doesn't matter what kind of shopping a person struggles with. Ours is eating out, which we do nearly once a week, so I guess that's how I'll play along.


However , husband will be eating out on Tuesday - we carpool to work/school, and I have to stay for an administrative "retreat" which will last until 8 or 9 pm. I'll be fed there, but he's a student and not invited to the retreat. :) I can't see asking him to eat a cold supper or to wait until 10:00 when we get home to eat (we'll get there at 8 am, so we do pack lunch and a snack every day). It would cost us more to drive two cars than to feed him, though.


So. I'll shoot for his Tuesday supper being our only eating out for the week.


 OK, checking in to report failure. I had forgotten how badly sleep deprivation affects me, and I don't remember most of Wednesday. If you recall from previous updates ,Tuesday night I had to stay for a retreat at work and it lasted until 8:30. It takes us roughly an hour to drive home, then I have to get up before 5 AM to get him awake and get back in by 8 AM.  All of this means that 8 PM is my absolute bedtime, and it was nearly 1030 by the time we got done, got home, dealt with the dogs, and unwound just a little bit. Plus then I woke just after 3 am following a nightmare in which most of the college administration had followed me home and were harassing our dogs (guess I really didn't want to work that late, did I?)


 So anyway, like I said, got nothing done Wednesday ,and frankly I don't remember most of it. I don't think I said anything absolutely unforgivable to anyone; if I did, they are taking pity and not reminding me of it. But I was in no shape to safely operate a stove or any other machinery Wednesday night, and husband had a bunch of homework to do. So we got a pizza at Little Caesars and took it home for supper. On the bright side,  one five dollar pizza feeds us both.

I have to agree with prodigaldaughter that 5$ for a diner for 2 is actually not a fail. It's a decision you made and it was in everyone's interest. :)
so don't beat yourself up about it! If you can make it through this week without: awesome! If you end up getting pizza once - that's pretty good too.

Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Mermaid3011 on January 29, 2016, 01:46:58 PM
actually: I also slipped up today!
A colleague shared a pretty good deal from amazon - a salad spinner for 10$ which is usually $40.
My excuse is: I need to eat more vegetables and salads... weak, right?!

Well... at least I scored it for nothing more than 10 bucks. Shipping is free since the said colleague ordered it with his Amazon prime account.

Otherwise January has been o.k.:
- I spent a lot of money on food ($450) but that has been also a lot of stocking up.
- Same with body care and cleaning ($185), but I have shampoo, toothpaste, lady shavers and tampons for the rest of the year. Soap will last 2 years I guess. LOL

On the upside:
+ I didn't do any shoe or clothing shopping.
+ I cut my Starbucks habit waaaaay down (from 80$ a month to about $30)
+ $45 in cashback, $60 in reward points, $90 swagbucks in giftcards


February will be a lot better since I wont be home for 11 days. :)
Vacation in Mexico means less food needed, less grocery shopping and an extra vacation budget that doesn't cut into my at home budget.
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: norabird on February 02, 2016, 12:21:52 PM
Ok, new month, so I am DONE WITH CLOTHES AND HOME FURNISHING BUYING FOR THE YEAR! Writing it here for accountability. I am allowing myself to buy one or two $8 throw blankets if I find ones I like so that I can return the throw I bought at anthropologie, and I may also buy an airplant later in the year. But that's all that's needed. Should be fully good on clothes and have some allocated for re-sale, thred up, swaps, etc. Need to start wearing my new outfits with an eye to pruning anything that isn't working.
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Prodigal Daughter on February 04, 2016, 10:25:45 AM
Alright, Norabird, we'll keep you accountable. :)

I slipped a bit when a limited edition item from a makeup brand I love came back into permanent rotation. I had never owned this item but had always kind of wanted it. I was going to use a Nordstrom note to get $20 off but it sold out right away. Then I found it on Bloomingdales site and for some reason it was priced lower on their site so I immediately caved. That old feeling of finding a good deal, I guess. On the positive side, I almost ordered two shades because of the (only slightly) lower price, but then I did a reality check and just went for the single, more unique to me, item.

Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: norabird on February 05, 2016, 09:54:33 AM
Welp I have a confession, already, three days later. Spent $3.75 yesterday to buy a pair of fancy ked-like sneakers with a nice black tribal-ish pattern. Because reasons? Because lack of willpower? I don't know! It will be good to review my summer shoe inventory in a few months and really excavate the buried shoe rack in my closet. Not sure it's all being used. I do sometimes feel the need for these type of comfortable but not ugly daily wear shoes, so I guess I am forgiving myself, but if I keep coming back here with these buys I will need to really reconsider!
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Prodigal Daughter on February 07, 2016, 01:01:45 PM
Norabird - Those sound really cute and right up my alley...and a good price! Sometimes I find it easier to clear out my summer shoes in winter because I'm not wearing them and I'm not as tempted to say "well maybe I'll get one more use out of them before fall".

So this is your one cute new inexpensive pair for this summer and you just don't need to look for anymore. You're ready for summer, and maybe you can stay out of the stores!
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Rural on February 07, 2016, 01:10:22 PM
Eating out fail: McDonald's Thursday night as I got a call my mother was on the way to the Er with chest pains and leaving for home on time would have meant being out of cell phone range (she's fine, it was gastrointestinal rather than cardiac).


Then hamburgers Saturday night on the three-hour drive to visit her to confirm the above okayness for myself.


Not sorry, as these fall into the "what money is for" category.
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: norabird on February 08, 2016, 08:51:09 AM
Good god I bought something else. It was a 43% rabbit hair fuzzy cozy awesome cardigan for $15! But it sheds. So, I may try to re-sell it at a vintage store because I have some other stuff I want to see if they will bite on.

I just shouldn't let myself go in stores! Last year I hardly browsed but I*could* browse and walk away. Oofda.
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Prodigal Daughter on February 08, 2016, 02:24:02 PM
Norabird - come up with a plan to keep yourself occupied and out of stores for the next three weeks. Get back on track.

My plan? Unlink all of my CCs with all of my favorite online stores so that I can't just click and buy, I'd have to go dig up my credit card for the number.

Also - freeze my CCs in a bowl of ice. :-)
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Prodigal Daughter on February 09, 2016, 10:43:20 AM
Just found myself lusting over a makeup product. Need a facepunch. Didn't purchase it. In fact, I cleaned everything out of my wishlists on three shopping sites. Those often functioned as shopping lists and I would buy from them as I wanted or as I got a "deal". If it's not on my list, then I'll probably forget about it.

Victory for the day.
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: norabird on February 09, 2016, 10:52:17 AM
Way to go PD!
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Prodigal Daughter on February 12, 2016, 03:28:44 PM
Talked myself out of a purchase today. Or rather, the launch of an anticipated product and the resulting web traffic talked me out of a purchase today. It was sold out in like 5 minutes but I'm feeling rather zen about it. $38 saved.

Also - challenge to myself this weekend. Put down the tech, pick up a book, and possibly take up knitting again.
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: woopwoop on March 19, 2016, 11:29:52 PM
Well boo, I lasted only until now. Found a $25 rainproof jacket repping my hometown and let the husband convince me I needed it for our Ireland trip next month. On the plus side, have not bought any maternity wear yet. Instead, I've been using hairties to keep my jeans together, haha :)
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: BeautifulDay on March 20, 2016, 10:42:40 AM
Better late than never...
 I have been steadily reducing my spending for the past three months.  But I have bought a few things.  So starting now I am going to swear off shopping for all but necessities and a few gifts (the MIL will not understand if we don't send her something for xmas, Mother's Day, etc.), but we will keep gifts to a minimum.

I can't swear off eating out because the DH isn't on board with that.  But I can make significant improvements by curbing my other brainless spending. 

Exclusions from non shopping rule: might need to buy some proper hiking boots as I have none and we want to start being more active, Food, basic hygiene stuff (skipping the fancy pants extra creams and makeup that I don't need and already have a ton of in my medicine cabinet - bet I could go a year before using up my stash), replacement tools if something breaks.

Any savings will go straight to debt payoff! I get more satisfaction from that than any brainless shopping.
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: LateToTheParty on March 20, 2016, 01:22:51 PM
Hoping I can join in too. I discovered MMM in Jan, and I have been obsessively lurking for the past couple of months.   It has been inspirational and pivotal for me. I, too, plan to eliminate discretionary shopping in 2016. I planned to purchase no clothes, and minimal toiletries/makeup. Will use up existing.
This is a swift departure from average clothes spending of $500/mo last year. Good grief. Wish I had discovered this mustacianism lifestyle a decade ago.
My husband, on the other hand, is not quite onbored. I'm working on that little by little.
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Rosy on March 20, 2016, 03:56:21 PM
No jewelry for 90 days - Jan - zero, Feb - zero, Mar - $119. - FAIL
Don't feel too bad about it though, since I took it out of my "allowance" so it effected only my personal budget which thankfully had just enough leeway, but not my savings, which would been far, far  worse and totally uncool.
It was on sale, free shipping and it was on my list of "planned purchases" - just not this March. Hasn't arrived yet, but if I don't like it, I could still return it and pretend this never happened:)
So now I have $71 dollars left to spend for the remainder of the month - woop-dee-doo.

Result: no extra money for my savings at EOM.
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Prodigal Daughter on March 22, 2016, 08:24:31 AM
Just checking in. I've been having a great March. At least in terms of shopping. :) Actually, it's been a decent month all around. Last week was a crazy week at work, long hours, lots of events. I did way more dining out than I should have. I have come to realize that time is my scarcest resource and that when I am pressed for time, that's when money starts trying to make up for it - buying dinner, grabbing coffee from a coffee shop instead of making it at home. It didn't help that DST hit that same week. I am horrible at waking up in the morning unless there is sunshine. Winter is hard on me, but just as things are getting better, we're plunged back into darkness in the morning! Argh! So anyway, it was a spendy week but I'm back on track now.

Onward and upward is my motto!
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Ellabean on March 23, 2016, 08:24:53 AM
Can I join this super-late? I cut myself off from cosmetics in Jan and am only replacing the ones I actually use up. I also quit buying clothes. What helped was going to clothing swaps and getting a coworker's clothes (she lost weight and she has fabulous taste). I also unsubscribed from all the "flash sale" emails and stopped following makeup/beauty/clothing blogs.

I'm still about 15 pounds over my pre-pregnancy weight, which means that I have a whole new wardrobe waiting for me as I lose weight (a different challenge).
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Prodigal Daughter on March 23, 2016, 09:42:56 AM
Can I join this super-late? I cut myself off from cosmetics in Jan and am only replacing the ones I actually use up. I also quit buying clothes. What helped was going to clothing swaps and getting a coworker's clothes (she lost weight and she has fabulous taste). I also unsubscribed from all the "flash sale" emails and stopped following makeup/beauty/clothing blogs.

I'm still about 15 pounds over my pre-pregnancy weight, which means that I have a whole new wardrobe waiting for me as I lose weight (a different challenge).

Of course you can join! Welcome!
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: alleykat on March 23, 2016, 11:03:27 AM
Well, I will say that so far, I am having the best year ever.  I wasn't necessarily giving up shopping but put myself on a very limited budget for makeup and skincare.  No purchases as of yet, although, I am having a little bit of a battle with myself right now.  I am winning out so far

I have had some purchases in other categories but nothing outrageous. But, I do feel I need to pull it back some because it doesn't take long before I fall head first into my old habits.  I will need some new clothes and shoes soon but I will try and keep that limited as well. 

So, I will say so far, so good. It is getting a bit tough though, spring must be in the air, lol, but I am going to try and keep it a very low buy year.   By not shopping as much, I can really see where my triggers are, the trick is, just catching them in time before pressing submit.

Keep up the good work.
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Ellabean on March 23, 2016, 11:26:20 AM
Thanks! I'm excited to be a part of the challenge!

Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Luckyvik on March 24, 2016, 06:44:10 AM
Went to shops yesterday to buy socks, this was OK as I do need socks and they were having a 40% off sale and I paid for most of it with a gift card.

Was tempted by the beauty section but resisted, I don't actually need anything.


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Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Ellabean on March 28, 2016, 07:23:27 AM
I bought mascara last night-- but I was about to run out. I added some lavender oil to the old tube last night, and this morning it was usable again! Hopefully, it won't end up under my eyes.

I have unsubscribed from almost all the beauty/clothing lists I'm on-- still need to kick out the last baby one.

Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: alleykat on March 28, 2016, 07:33:36 AM
Well, I was doing so good but fell off the wagon.  Sales and deals got me and the urge to splurge. So, climbing back on board.
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: monstermonster on March 29, 2016, 02:58:53 PM
Still going well with no shopping. Just 9 more months to go. Things I'm worrying about in the next 9 months:
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: Miss Piggy on April 06, 2016, 07:34:19 PM
I'd like to join the no-shopping club as well, although I know I'm a bit late to the party. My bad habits are handbags and cookware. I need neither. I did need underwear due to some recent weight loss, but I bought plenty of that over the past couple of weeks, so that should hold me for the rest of the year. (I went a little overboard replacing all of my jeans, but damn, I look good in the new ones!)

I'm going to allow myself a couple of exceptions: new dishcloths and towels for my newly-remodeled kitchen when it's finished in about a month. That should be pretty much all I need this year other than groceries.

Thanks for starting the thread.
Title: Re: Giving Up Shopping
Post by: BeautifulDay on April 06, 2016, 08:06:37 PM
Went to a concert this weekend and I really wanted that concert tshirt. Even went down to look at them at the souvenir stand for a while.  But just reminded myself how much that overpriced shirt would cost in life energy.  Ultimately, I walked away without anything.  Felt good.