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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #4750 on: May 01, 2017, 07:00:21 PM »
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« Reply #4751 on: May 02, 2017, 05:13:00 AM »
Got rid of some old textbooks. Brought some history books permanently to work as that's where I refer to them most often.
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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #4752 on: May 02, 2017, 09:37:30 AM »
Gave away an old pack and play we won't be using anymore. One more thing out the door (soon, pending PU now)

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« Reply #4753 on: May 02, 2017, 10:22:18 AM »
Yesterday someone knocked over and broke my daily use ceramic to-go tea cup. My first thought was "well that's one less thing to make a decision about."

In 17 weeks (or so) we move abroad for a year.  For most of the time between now and then I will be living part time here and working full time 3.5 hours away.

Already fairly minimalist. Not much I don't use regularly, so not much I can pack early, but working my way through all my possessions again. Quite a few things, like baking pans, that I will use all summer but give to goodwill.  No sense storing them. Do want to keep my cast iron skillet though.

As for that beloved tea cup, thankfully it's spring now, I can be happy only having hot tea at home. Will carry cold tea with me in an old glass kombucha bottle which can be recycled on the way to the airport.

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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #4754 on: May 02, 2017, 11:17:54 AM »
After lowering the price of my car, I finally have some interest.  I hope I can round out the week and have it sold!

Other than that, my aim is to list one item per day on Craigslist until most everything is listed and hopefully gone.  I hope we can really get our items sold between now and next month. We're also going to have a garage sale in a couple weeks to try to get those items gone.

It's getting pretty exciting around here!
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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #4755 on: May 02, 2017, 12:02:20 PM »
I removed a frozen head and bones from a cod from the freezer that FIL had put there without our knowledge. Probably because he usually keeps this to make fish stock. We have tried this a number of times before and found out it is a LOT of work for something withoyt much taste. So this time we didn't want to bother. Now we have space again the the full freezer drawer.

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« Reply #4756 on: May 02, 2017, 06:56:50 PM »
Gave away a bunch of maternity wear and toddler clothes. Now need to fold the remaining ones neatly

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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #4757 on: May 02, 2017, 07:39:11 PM »

For Craigstlist you have to require cash-only and meet up in some kind of public place (I usually go for some kind of store parking lot on a busy street).

Forums and eBay will require a paypal account (they take a 3% fee).  You'll also have to keep in mind the cost of shipping.

We did that with Craigslist early on, but I stopped the meetup elsewhere thing for the most part. What is coming to my front porch going to risk? Let you see that my cars aren't worth much and you're picking up $15-$20 in baby gear?  Going somewhere just wastes my time.

Actually, the last few have been "Okay, (baby gear) is on the porch in a cardboard box, just leave the $15 in the box" - no issues.

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« Reply #4758 on: May 03, 2017, 12:06:16 AM »

For Craigstlist you have to require cash-only and meet up in some kind of public place (I usually go for some kind of store parking lot on a busy street).

Forums and eBay will require a paypal account (they take a 3% fee).  You'll also have to keep in mind the cost of shipping.

We did that with Craigslist early on, but I stopped the meetup elsewhere thing for the most part. What is coming to my front porch going to risk? Let you see that my cars aren't worth much and you're picking up $15-$20 in baby gear?  Going somewhere just wastes my time.

Actually, the last few have been "Okay, (baby gear) is on the porch in a cardboard box, just leave the $15 in the box" - no issues.

If a buyer wants to meet somewhere public, we'll walk to the local park.

We buy and sell stuff on something like Graigslist, Norwegian variant. We just let people come to our house and we can collect at their house. But in the advertisement I only write the nearest town. They get the actual address when they are the ones that are going to buy. This works fine.

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« Reply #4759 on: May 03, 2017, 05:34:11 AM »

For Craigstlist you have to require cash-only and meet up in some kind of public place (I usually go for some kind of store parking lot on a busy street).

Forums and eBay will require a paypal account (they take a 3% fee).  You'll also have to keep in mind the cost of shipping.

We did that with Craigslist early on, but I stopped the meetup elsewhere thing for the most part. What is coming to my front porch going to risk? Let you see that my cars aren't worth much and you're picking up $15-$20 in baby gear?  Going somewhere just wastes my time.

Actually, the last few have been "Okay, (baby gear) is on the porch in a cardboard box, just leave the $15 in the box" - no issues.

If a buyer wants to meet somewhere public, we'll walk to the local park.

We buy and sell stuff on something like Graigslist, Norwegian variant. We just let people come to our house and we can collect at their house. But in the advertisement I only write the nearest town. They get the actual address when they are the ones that are going to buy. This works fine.

Yes, Craigslist has a map option when you post the listing. I just put in the nearest major intersection, maybe half a kilometer from the house.
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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #4760 on: May 03, 2017, 06:58:37 AM »

For Craigstlist you have to require cash-only and meet up in some kind of public place (I usually go for some kind of store parking lot on a busy street).

Forums and eBay will require a paypal account (they take a 3% fee).  You'll also have to keep in mind the cost of shipping.

We did that with Craigslist early on, but I stopped the meetup elsewhere thing for the most part. What is coming to my front porch going to risk? Let you see that my cars aren't worth much and you're picking up $15-$20 in baby gear?  Going somewhere just wastes my time.

Actually, the last few have been "Okay, (baby gear) is on the porch in a cardboard box, just leave the $15 in the box" - no issues.

If a buyer wants to meet somewhere public, we'll walk to the local park.

I guess I'm only about a block from a Walmart Neighborhood market so never really thought about that.  There are some things, such as furniture, that people need to come by the house for anyway.  As we get rid of even more things, I guess it makes more sense to not really worry about theft as we don't/won't have much worth stealing anyhow.
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« Reply #4761 on: May 03, 2017, 07:37:21 AM »

For Craigstlist you have to require cash-only and meet up in some kind of public place (I usually go for some kind of store parking lot on a busy street).

Forums and eBay will require a paypal account (they take a 3% fee).  You'll also have to keep in mind the cost of shipping.

We did that with Craigslist early on, but I stopped the meetup elsewhere thing for the most part. What is coming to my front porch going to risk? Let you see that my cars aren't worth much and you're picking up $15-$20 in baby gear?  Going somewhere just wastes my time.

Actually, the last few have been "Okay, (baby gear) is on the porch in a cardboard box, just leave the $15 in the box" - no issues.

If a buyer wants to meet somewhere public, we'll walk to the local park.

I guess I'm only about a block from a Walmart Neighborhood market so never really thought about that.  There are some things, such as furniture, that people need to come by the house for anyway.  As we get rid of even more things, I guess it makes more sense to not really worry about theft as we don't/won't have much worth stealing anyhow.

As a woman living alone, I'm a bit concerned about strangers coming to my house.  We had at least one recent Craigslist transaction in our state that went terribly wrong.   I prefer meeting my buyers in a well lit and busy public space.  I use the parking lot of a local Target store which very close to my house.  Having said that, I tend to go with my gut and if I'm comfortable with someone based on the communications about the item in question, I will let them come to the house (e.g. a phone call about an item from a pleasant young woman who sounded polite, introduced herself and asked if she could have a look at it).



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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #4762 on: May 03, 2017, 07:39:47 AM »
Bringing another batch of clothes to consignment today.  I'm also trying to put together stuff for donation but so far I only have a couple of items.  Need to go through closets and cabinets again...



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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #4763 on: May 03, 2017, 10:11:33 AM »
Giving a few things away on our Buy Nothing Group on FB.  I also donated a lot of clothes last weekend.  I'm hoping to purge another bunch this weekend.  Woohoo!

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« Reply #4764 on: May 03, 2017, 10:37:14 AM »
I got rid of a handful of things through the Buy Nothing Group last weekend, all stuff the kids don't play with anymore. I also went through my daughter's shoes (I think we pulled out 4 outgrown pairs, and bought one new pair yesterday to replace them), and filled the recycling with more papers from when I went to college and a bunch of kid art papers. I have been putting all of their paper stuff in a cupboard and then go through it periodically when the kids aren't around, because otherwise my daughter wants to save everything. I hand pick the "best" kid art and then get rid of the rest.

I have made a lot of progress lately but I still have so far to go that it's easy to get disheartened. Well, I'll keep plodding along on the downsizing. I really want to go through all of the cupboards, drawers, boxes, etc and only keep what we REALLY need/want, but damn, it's hard in a house of five when no one else is interested in getting rid of stuff!

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« Reply #4765 on: May 03, 2017, 11:39:26 AM »
I have thown away more food, something I hardly ever do. Three portions of froozen leftovers. Two of them two years over the original storage date. One portion without any date at all, but probably old as well, who would know...

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« Reply #4766 on: May 03, 2017, 11:46:11 AM »
So, for the parents out there, an idea. Looking back, I think my mom did this with us.

Go through stuff, make a list, box it up, and put it in the closet. Kid may or may not be aware of this, use judgement. Then, 6 months later or whatever seems appropriate, if it hasn't been missed you can just get rid of it.

My mom would drop of boxes of stuff at Salvation Army when I was a kid, and in retrospect I suspect they were outgrown toys and clothes that we might have had a fit over.

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« Reply #4767 on: May 03, 2017, 01:29:40 PM »
I must have posted early on in this thread as it is in my followed list.  I'm ready now to do a major purge.  This is the summer of the purge.

I live in an older Class A motor home.  I also have a 10' x 20' storage unit.  I am in the same town as my storage unit now for the summer, and I need to make a huge dent in the amount of stuff I have.  I am now settled finally in a living situation that I feel I'll occupy for a long time, the Class A.  I'm ok having a storage unit somewhere as well, but not that large of one, so stuffed that I don't even know where the things I would actually use might be located.

Paper is a major issue, many bankers boxes of files that I think I filled when I moved about 10 years ago.  I'm working my way back to them, as I'm going through and shredding the smaller boxes and bags of papers I accumulated since then.  I've been making progress on this, as well as keeping up with the incoming papers, for the past month.  This morning I shredded or tossed several folders of stuff.

I also have a bunch of stuff to use up.  Large sizes of cleaning products, multiples of things like soap and shampoo.  I've been using these up for the past year, since I moved into the first motor home (I moved from a smaller Class C that was 30 yo to a larger Class A that is 20 yo).  It is a work in progress.

I've been reading this thread almost every day.  It has help when I'm uninspired.  I know that along with issues of health and debt, my greatest regret in my life so far is how I've lugged just so much stuff around with me.
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« Reply #4768 on: May 03, 2017, 03:06:03 PM »
Backpack (for backpacking) that sat in the basement for the last 13 years was donated to the universe last weekend. Unfortunately, the Universe did not want the old skis that I tried to donate also.

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« Reply #4769 on: May 03, 2017, 04:48:58 PM »
Apart from identity documents and similar things, you could scan your papers and shred the originals. It's time consuming tho and I haven't done it myself. The approach I've taken is to register to get all bills etc electronically, then dispose of any I need to keep for tax after 7 yrs. In 7 yrs I'll have v little paper.

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« Reply #4770 on: May 03, 2017, 04:56:55 PM »
jooniflorisploo: I haven't tried the payment approach with the kids yet, but I'll consider it if it comes to that. Two of the kids are perfectly willing to let go of things they don't use anymore, and the third is making progress. She definitely doesn't have the "remembers everything" trait that yours does (and I do too), so I often do what Sibley recommended: boxing things up and removing them first to the garage and then for good, and not once has anyone missed anything.

The biggest hurdle is that no one else is willing to help with any of it. So, I have a family of five and a big house full of all the crap trappings of "standard suburbia", and I'm trying to tackle it alone, with a full-time job. It is SLOW going. My husband is also one of those "save in case we need it someday" types, although he's coming around with FIRE becoming a goal, and downsizing is a big part of our plan. Fortunately I have you all for motivation and support!

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« Reply #4771 on: May 03, 2017, 04:59:33 PM »
Our local Goodwill gives receipts that are signed but, otherwise blank.
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« Reply #4772 on: May 04, 2017, 11:23:11 AM »
I went through 3 folders of papers from a job I left in 2009.  The initial paperwork and such was a large part of it.  I'm maybe 1/3 through the container of papers labeled with that companies name.  I did that in an organizing effort a few years ago.  I worked as a contractor to the US military, so I felt that I needed to keep the documents for...  awhile.  Not any more.  I shredded most of it so far, threw away the insurance company brochures.

Most of what needed to be scanned has been scanned.  These papers left are not things that I need to scan.  They just need to be gone.  However, most of it needs to be shredded as it has information that shouldn't get out of my control.  So I think.  I have a heavy duty paper shredder.  I've been doing this for awhile now.

I also attempted to guilt trip my best friend into declaring it 'our' summer of purge.  She laughed.

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« Reply #4773 on: May 04, 2017, 11:27:34 AM »
Daughter's boyfriend is getting a cat and asked if I had any spare "cat things".  I sure do!  He is picking up a litter box, a pet bed, a scratcher and a couple of small toys from me today :-)



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« Reply #4774 on: May 04, 2017, 06:01:34 PM »
Gave away a backpack to a student. :)
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« Reply #4775 on: May 04, 2017, 07:33:13 PM »
Scanned and went through paper collected over a month. Most of it is shredded now and the rest filed away. Used up some food before it expired. Sadly had to throw some fruit since it went bad before I could get to it.

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« Reply #4776 on: May 04, 2017, 08:26:02 PM »
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Most of what needed to be scanned has been scanned.  These papers left are not things that I need to scan.  They just need to be gone.  However, most of it needs to be shredded as it has information that shouldn't get out of my control.  So I think.  I have a heavy duty paper shredder.  I've been doing this for awhile now.
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In my area, there is a senior identity theft prevention effort that has been going for a while where the local towns encourage seniors to bring old documents to be shredded for free.  If you have anything similar locally, you might be able to get a huge quantity shredded at once for free or cheaply.  Alternatively, maybe burn them?
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« Reply #4777 on: May 04, 2017, 08:56:00 PM »
Check your bank as well. Mine offers free shredding once a week at one of their branches.

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« Reply #4778 on: May 05, 2017, 03:52:25 AM »
I have a turkey pan in my kitchen cupboard, while I have never cooked a whole turkey. I had plans to clear it out. Now my colleague said she wouldn't mind getting it. I just asked if she also wanted to receive my almost unused plush moose (big children's play thing) and she wants that as well for her youngest child. That will clear out nicely and I don't have to throw away thing that others can use.

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« Reply #4779 on: May 05, 2017, 10:48:27 AM »
Regarding the bulk shredders, see my comment about 'control'.  I have a nice shredder, and I have it where it is easy to get to now.  It is the going through the papers, not the shredding that takes time for me.  I have shredded the papers and receipts from my move the WA back in early 2009 before coffee this morning.  Gee, the money I spent on that move, most of it reimbursed.  Gots to get rid of stuff.  I'm tired of driving moving trucks across the country.  I moved my stuff multiple times (in 24' moving trucks) and Mom's a couple of times.  Summer of the Purge!
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« Reply #4780 on: May 05, 2017, 10:57:24 AM »
Car is SOLD.  Of course I still need to collect payment but buyer is coming to pick it up (and pay) tomorrow.

Now onto listing an item a day.  I've been lazy and anxious while trying to sell the car and fielding inquiries about it.  I will go into rapid-fire mode over the weekend now that the car will be gone.  Also, the nice weather is definitely helping with motivation.

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« Reply #4781 on: May 06, 2017, 08:01:14 AM »
I returned a borrowed book yesterday and will return another today. I've got a few more to go through, but one of them is Anna Kerenina, so that may take a while. :p
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« Reply #4782 on: May 08, 2017, 10:18:25 AM »
Wow, what a productive weekend!

My mom was down Saturday (we have a complicated relationship, so this is always stressful), and she took a bunch of stuff she wants to sell on ebay that I was just going to donate, so that was a good start.

Then, yesterday, it rained ALL day. My youngest, who is usually the one that doesn't want to get rid of anything, decided she was done playing with the "little people" toys, and we boxed them ALL up and gave them to our neighbor with a younger daughter. Then she really got on a roll and we went through all of her clothes, a bunch of stuffed animals, etc. She goes to kindergarten in the fall and has been very motivated lately to be a "big girl" so I finally had her buy in, without any prodding even. It was shocking. I didn't expect her to be the one pushing to go through and clear stuff out, but I took it and ran with it! We also cleared out a small rocking chair and trampoline that she previously didn't want to let go of, so that was big.

I went through a random box of my old "stuff" too, and now have a huge pile of stuff for VVA to pick up Friday!

We still have TOO.MUCH.STUFF...but a little less than we did before!

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« Reply #4783 on: May 08, 2017, 02:33:04 PM »
I agreed to transport some art for a friend.  Never again!  It has taken weeks for the stranger on the other end of the deal to bother to pick it up. I had to move it just to get into my clothing shelf and my sewing shelf. So happy to have it gone!

Melted some crystallized honey today so I can use it up and finished up several small sewing projects over the weekend.

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« Reply #4784 on: May 09, 2017, 01:34:18 AM »
Yesterday I noticed that one of the grocery stores in my town has a gotten a bookshelf for book-exchange. This is a place where I can dump my excess books.

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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #4785 on: May 09, 2017, 11:02:24 AM »
Three bags of stuff to donation, and three pieces of furniture promised to a friend.  It is a start.  I'm taking some personal items of a friend's up to her on a trip I'm taking in my class a motor home.  She was a snowbird and can no longer come down and live on her own.  It was the start of clearing out her mobile home down here.  She is not happy.  She is 91 and I have to remember to walk softly as she really isn't ready to let go of that part of her life.  Going through her extremely neat closets and drawers looking for papers and personal items (with her son's permission) made me realize again that I need to get my stuff sorted and pared way down. I'm 62 now, but at some point someone else will have to go through and get rid of what is left.  I want to make that an easy task.  Now, if my Mom would just stop giving me stuff as she gets her own apartment in order...
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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #4786 on: May 09, 2017, 02:59:50 PM »
Dropped off a box of cups and saucers we never use, plus some odd plates, etc. at Goodwill.  Also a tennis racket I was given - I don't play tennis!  I have another bag almost full of clothing and books, and that will go at the end of the week.   We are thinking of selling the house in the next year, and there is so much to get rid of!  I am not paying to move this stuff.
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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #4787 on: May 09, 2017, 06:37:07 PM »
Cleared out more baby clothes. Also added a pair of shoes from husband to the donation pile. It just keeps comin'

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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #4788 on: May 09, 2017, 09:01:47 PM »
Went through my closet again. Every few months I do a pass and pull out a few things I know I haven't worn in years and I would not buy again because it doesn't suit me.  Long, cautious process, but so far I don't regret anything that I've donated.

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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #4789 on: May 10, 2017, 02:47:14 AM »
Does anyone have any tips for encouraging a reluctant husband to clear some clutter? I have done so much but the house is still full of a lot of his stuff.

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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #4790 on: May 10, 2017, 03:02:17 AM »
Does anyone have any tips for encouraging a reluctant husband to clear some clutter? I have done so much but the house is still full of a lot of his stuff.

Hmmm, not really, but I have had small wins but making sure like is stored with like. So when he sees just how many e.g rubber bands we have, he doesn't feel the need to save more when they come into the house. Also, the one in, one out rule - you bought a new shirt so we need to throw out a ragged one. When things are stored in logical places and neatly it doesn't bug me as much.

Something I need to work on is this idea that he must wear different kit each time he exercises and can't be seen in the same thing on consecutive meetups and therefore needs XX sets. No idea why.. I have two of each thing - wash one, wear one.

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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #4791 on: May 10, 2017, 03:06:59 AM »
Finally posted a lovely, but not at all practical, wedding present on Buy Nothing. One less thing in the cupboard!

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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #4792 on: May 10, 2017, 06:49:59 AM »
Does anyone have any tips for encouraging a reluctant husband to clear some clutter? I have done so much but the house is still full of a lot of his stuff.

Is giving the good example doesn't work, then give him his one room to stuff as full as he likes and then keep his stuff out of the other rooms.  Than at lest it is not all over the place and you don't need to look at it. Presuming that you have this extra room.

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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #4793 on: May 10, 2017, 08:58:49 AM »
Does anyone have any tips for encouraging a reluctant husband to clear some clutter? I have done so much but the house is still full of a lot of his stuff.
No advice.  My DH finally started clearing his stuff out about 2 months ago.  It only took him about 2 years to come around!  :D

The only advice I have is to make the process as easy as possible for him because you're the one who truly wants the stuff out.  For my husband, I had him make a pile of the stuff and then I itemized and donated everything.  I was so happy to have the stuff out of the house!

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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #4794 on: May 10, 2017, 12:07:16 PM »
Does anyone have any tips for encouraging a reluctant husband to clear some clutter? I have done so much but the house is still full of a lot of his stuff.

I struggle with this one too. My husband is the king of "but I might need it someday". I try to focus on the things I CAN control (my stuff, communal stuff, working with the kids on their stuff). I also try to keep focus on the WHY behind it. For us, we have a too-big house, and we will downsize to a much smaller house in a lower cost of living area that we prefer (somewhere with mountains and trees) in retirement. Also, we both like to travel, and having too much stuff weighs us down, and reduces the desirability of being able to someday rent out our eventual home on airbnb. Reminding him that we are downsizing the stuff NOW so it will make things easier eventually helps some.

I also second the idea of making it as easy for him as possible. My husband will never go through things himself, so I tend to present him with objects and focus the discussion (ie, do we REALLY need 4 of x when we only use the one good one, you haven't worn this item in 10 years, do we really need it?). Finally, I itemize everything in It's Deductible, so he can see the tax impact at tax time, and that helps too.

It is a slow battle though, and I have had only limited success. I'll take slow progress over non though.

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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #4795 on: May 10, 2017, 08:36:41 PM »
Thank you got all the answers.


I struggle with this one too. My husband is the king of "but I might need it someday".

That is my husband too.


The only advice I have is to make the process as easy as possible for him because you're the one who truly wants the stuff out.  For my husband, I had him make a pile of the stuff and then I itemized and donated everything.  I was so happy to have the stuff out of the house!

Yes he doesn't see the mess like I do.

Rowellen, I was able to help five adult family members to release stuff by offering them cash outright, or to buy a replacement if they were to EVER regret the release. No one has ever taken me up on the latter, and everyone ultimately became minimalists, doing it themselves.

Good idea. Might be worth a try. All our money is joint so it might not be quite so effective lol.



I think a large part of it is that he is busy, tired and simply doesn't care as much as I do. Also the thought of starting may be a bit overwhelming.

I did have some success recently with recipe books. We have a few that we always use so I knew what we should get rid of. He actually did agree to donate some that had belonged to his parents as he recognized they were unhealthy and out of date so that's a win.

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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #4796 on: May 10, 2017, 10:46:57 PM »
Listed five things on Buy Nothing today. Most of what I post on there is actually unwanted presents which is a bit sad... I'd be very happy not to receive presents in the first place, but if you must give me novelty soap, I reserve the right to pass it on to someone who actually wants it.

Big task on my agenda for today and tomorrow is cleaning out all our paper clutter in the study. We've let it become a bit of a tip.

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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #4797 on: May 11, 2017, 04:49:57 AM »
With reluctant husbands, I just focussed on my own stuff. I had tried to have him get rid of old t-shirts etc for YEARS. When I decided to declutter, I took Marie Kondo's advice and just did my own stuff.

Even though I'd been telling myself he was a huge part of the problem, actually, when I really really pared down my stuff, it made a huge difference. It was also amazing how much simpler our lives became, how much easier it was to clean and so on. DH couldn't help but see this, and, most importantly, see the huge improvement it brought.

Slowly (without my prompting, which would have made him get defensive, I think) he just started offering stuff up as I was decluttering. I made sure to have the 'donate' box clearly marked, and he just started putting stuff in it. The more we did, and the more our lives improved, the more he wanted to get rid of stuff.

So, lead by example. It's hard to keep your mouth shut, but, for me at least, it really worked.

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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #4798 on: May 11, 2017, 07:17:53 AM »
Car is SOLD.  Of course I still need to collect payment but buyer is coming to pick it up (and pay) tomorrow.

Now onto listing an item a day.  I've been lazy and anxious while trying to sell the car and fielding inquiries about it.  I will go into rapid-fire mode over the weekend now that the car will be gone.  Also, the nice weather is definitely helping with motivation.

Next up:
- Gas lawn mower
- Manual push mower
- More car parts...

Sold the mower - now I'm certain I listed it too low as I got about 8-10 queries the first day and the first person paid asking price.  I only got one low-ball offer which is amazing for craigslist.
Sold a mechanic's creeper - also got loads of interest.

Now onto more things:
- Set of brake calipers and rotors for an Acura TSX/ Honda Accord
- OEM parts from my sold car
- Fertilizer spreader
- Couch Set
- Bed Set
- TV Stand
- Console & coffee table
- still need to prep for garage sale
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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #4799 on: May 11, 2017, 11:39:50 AM »
Three pieces of furniture gone to friend who was actually able to fit them into his car on his way through town.  We both noted that a lot of the clutter in the storage unit is actually empty containers and totes.  I'm hanging onto them for now to pack stuff from the larger totes into as I pare down.  It is a process.  I am making progress, though.

Told my Mom NOT to buy me ANYTHING.  She enjoys thrift store shopping, and since she doesn't need much herself now she buys for me. ARRRRGGGGG!
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