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« Reply #2000 on: June 26, 2015, 02:33:03 AM »
I know I've mentioned the blog A Slob Comes Clean before, but I really like it. She has a funny video series on how to deal with relatives giving you their old sh*t that you don't want:

Here's a link to the first post in the series (the other ones are also linked in that post): http://www.aslobcomesclean.com/2014/11/clutter-avoidance-conversations-the-ill-see-what-i-can-use-approach/

Or you can see them all on youtube:

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL4ylB6f-VoxpT8LXGB4WvdwhS8Ir__sz1

She plays different characters, and I bet you'll recognise a few.

I really like some of her ideas, and I've tried it and they work! That said, I really feel for people dealing with relatives piling on the guilt because you don't want to store stuff that they don't want to store either.

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« Reply #2001 on: June 26, 2015, 07:32:16 AM »
Re: stuff left at parents' houses

We did our big move to the Lower 48, and are now temporarily back with my parents until we get jobs and housing organized.

Didn't realize you were moving away from Alaska.  I always liked your Alaska stories because I lived there a few years as a kid (dad was Coast Guard).  What brings you down to the lower 48?

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« Reply #2002 on: June 26, 2015, 07:51:20 PM »
I'm going to try to sell a few things too, particularly things that are easy to ship but could sell for a bit (hello, leather handbags that I bought and have basically never used because they're not in my colour scheme). I've always dismissed it as too hard but I'm thinking of at least dipping my toe in the water, maybe listing one or two things at a time on ebay.

You will get so sick of visiting the post office repeatedly. Better to do it all at once. Make a very clear "pay within 48 hours or I will re-list" warning on your listings and set your promised ship time to 72 hours. This way you should be able to catch everyone in a single post office trip. List everything in one day. It will be annoying, but over with and your total time investment per item will drop drastically.
Although, TBH, I find since Aus Post and Ebay have both put their fees up it's not worth the hassle unless the item will net you at least $20 (You can clear $10 on a low shipping weight item that sells for $20). If it's going to sell for less than $10 you will loose money and if it's going to sell for less than $20 it's probably not worth the hassle, of listing it, communicating with buyers, packaging etc.) And last time I ebayed many of my items fetched far less than normal. Like gumtree, the market is now over saturated with sellers.

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« Reply #2003 on: June 26, 2015, 09:43:32 PM »
Just gave 3 shirts to a roommate .

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« Reply #2004 on: June 27, 2015, 05:07:31 AM »
I'm through household  stationary. I had no idea I had that many notebooks. I have some fancy watches that were gifted to us over our lives that are definitely in the going out pile, but they are languishing in my to be listed for sale pile. First items that resulted in procrastination.

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« Reply #2005 on: June 27, 2015, 09:13:38 AM »
Time to tackle the closet from hell!

It may take me 2-3 days to finish, but reading these posts has given me the incentive to just dig in. Thanks guys, I'll post on my progress.

 

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« Reply #2006 on: June 27, 2015, 05:36:53 PM »
I returned 2 half-functional items to Amazon today, that I had purchased specifically for my trip last week.  Shit that doesn't work right drives me crazy! 

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« Reply #2007 on: June 28, 2015, 09:32:33 AM »
Sold a shoe stand, Xbox 360 (and associated games), Nexus 9 and a few more things this week. Also have a ton of interest on the others I have on eBay. Woot! Loads more gone by end of next week :)

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« Reply #2008 on: June 28, 2015, 10:05:54 AM »
Culled three boxes of old documents and keepsakes into one box.  One box worth was recycled, and one will be shredded.

Also have been donating books to the library (a dozen or fifteen every time I visit) and at the gym, where they have a leave-a-book, take-a-book area.  I've been leaving books and only ended up taking one so far. 


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« Reply #2009 on: June 28, 2015, 04:47:37 PM »
Recently I donated, into a Lion's Club box at the library, a pair of old prescription sunglasses and a pair of glasses I wore during a particularly depressing period.  In good karmic fashion, a manager at the glasses shop down the street actually tightened up the fit of my newer internet-purchased Rx sunglasses for FREE.  My ears and nose were grateful not to have those sunglasses pushing on them all day driving through the sunny states on my recent travels. 

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« Reply #2010 on: June 28, 2015, 06:26:45 PM »
I'm going to try to sell a few things too, particularly things that are easy to ship but could sell for a bit (hello, leather handbags that I bought and have basically never used because they're not in my colour scheme). I've always dismissed it as too hard but I'm thinking of at least dipping my toe in the water, maybe listing one or two things at a time on ebay.

You will get so sick of visiting the post office repeatedly. Better to do it all at once. Make a very clear "pay within 48 hours or I will re-list" warning on your listings and set your promised ship time to 72 hours. This way you should be able to catch everyone in a single post office trip. List everything in one day. It will be annoying, but over with and your total time investment per item will drop drastically.
Although, TBH, I find since Aus Post and Ebay have both put their fees up it's not worth the hassle unless the item will net you at least $20 (You can clear $10 on a low shipping weight item that sells for $20). If it's going to sell for less than $10 you will loose money and if it's going to sell for less than $20 it's probably not worth the hassle, of listing it, communicating with buyers, packaging etc.) And last time I ebayed many of my items fetched far less than normal. Like gumtree, the market is now over saturated with sellers.

Thanks Melody, I'll use those tips! Though given my low energy I'm definitely only going to start with two or three items, that way if I find I've bitten off more than I can chew there's not a mountain of things to package and post all at once.

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« Reply #2011 on: June 28, 2015, 07:17:41 PM »
Cleaned out the fridge.  It was long overdue. Yuk.

Sorted quilt batting and have some to toss. Some to give away. And some to use.

Finished scanning the last of my scrapbooks and photos.

Working on ripping my cd collection.

Eating (or tossing) all the odd food in the cupboards.

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« Reply #2012 on: June 29, 2015, 02:35:05 AM »
So I didn't get any decluttering done this weekend, but we did visit friends, which really reaffirmed my commitment to this! Their house was just so full of stuff. Stacks of mail so old and tall they had fallen over. Something on every single flat surface. Kitchen appliances which were clearly never used taking up the small amount of counter space, making preparing any food very difficult. A huge table squished up against a wall and so covered in junk I couldn't even sit at it to eat!

I just wanted to say, Argh, why are you even keeping this?! and start throwing stuff out. But I was very good and just played the perfect houseguest. But life is so much harder than it has to be with all that stuff. You have to move something around every time you want to do anything. I honestly couldn't bear it, it was so hard to move about, to find anything. Even making a cup of coffee with no counter space and everything so jumbled up was traumatic.(I'm trying not to sound judgemental and failing, I realise).

Came home to my still too cluttered but with 1/3 the stuff in it house, which is much smaller than their place, and breathed a sigh of relief at all the space.

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« Reply #2013 on: June 29, 2015, 08:44:49 AM »
So I didn't get any decluttering done this weekend, but we did visit friends, which really reaffirmed my commitment to this! Their house was just so full of stuff. Stacks of mail so old and tall they had fallen over. Something on every single flat surface. Kitchen appliances which were clearly never used taking up the small amount of counter space, making preparing any food very difficult. A huge table squished up against a wall and so covered in junk I couldn't even sit at it to eat!

I just wanted to say, Argh, why are you even keeping this?! and start throwing stuff out. But I was very good and just played the perfect houseguest. But life is so much harder than it has to be with all that stuff. You have to move something around every time you want to do anything. I honestly couldn't bear it, it was so hard to move about, to find anything. Even making a cup of coffee with no counter space and everything so jumbled up was traumatic.(I'm trying not to sound judgemental and failing, I realise).

Came home to my still too cluttered but with 1/3 the stuff in it house, which is much smaller than their place, and breathed a sigh of relief at all the space.
I totally understand your sentiment! I feel this way walking into most people's homes, and some businesses. I think to myself - they never wear those hiddeous green funky frame glasses adorning the bookshelf: toss. That stack of fashion magazines mixed with their books ( when they'd already mentioned they still receive mags that they toss because came for former roommate )- toss. Laundry all over furniture, so many clothes it won't fit in the closets, so many dishes they are all crammed into every inch of the cupboards.... Argh.

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« Reply #2014 on: June 29, 2015, 09:32:45 PM »
this weekend I listed 13 board/card games on my local fb virtual garage sale groups. I sold all of them. I first tried them at 3 or 4$ each, but got no bites. After a few days, I edited them and made them all 2$, (except one really nice one I got 10$ for). Made 33$

and now my board game shelves are really tidy, and stocked with games we really do play.

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« Reply #2015 on: June 29, 2015, 10:21:08 PM »
this weekend I listed 13 board/card games on my local fb virtual garage sale groups. I sold all of them. I first tried them at 3 or 4$ each, but got no bites. After a few days, I edited them and made them all 2$, (except one really nice one I got 10$ for). Made 33$

and now my board game shelves are really tidy, and stocked with games we really do play.

We need to go through our board games. I'd love to buy some games that we enjoy, but I feel like I can't because we already have 2 shelves full - we just don't like playing any of those games! I wonder how SO will feel about it when I bring it up...

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« Reply #2016 on: June 30, 2015, 06:58:53 AM »
I think Kondo says that if we focus on other people's inability to be tidy, it's because we have some things we need to tidy up ourselves (or something to that effect).

I'm working on the kitchen declutter tonight. I'm a bit nervous and a lot excited since this is an area where we seem to have a lot o' stuff and we definitely do not have a lot o' room.

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« Reply #2017 on: June 30, 2015, 08:32:01 AM »
I think Kondo says that if we focus on other people's inability to be tidy, it's because we have some things we need to tidy up ourselves (or something to that effect).


Oh totally. It really brought home to me how much more stuff I want to get rid of.

Just did my desk drawers (which, as I keep saying, I've done before!). Got rid of loads more, and have really seen my efforts of using stuff up (primarily snacks, ha ha) and NOT REPLACING them.

So much more room, and a place for everything. Tomorrow... I'll attack the bedroom again.

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« Reply #2018 on: June 30, 2015, 10:14:57 AM »
i sold a big box of books on craigslist yesterday! listing an old multi function printer that we never use today!

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« Reply #2019 on: July 01, 2015, 07:14:13 AM »
As planned, I tackled the bedroom today. Phew.

I cleared a whole shelf. Doesn't sound like much, but we have a four shelf unit which used to be *crammed*. Gradually I'd reduced the amount of stuff on it so there was breathing room. Today I got it to a place where everything comfortably fit on three of the shelves. I plan to leave the top one completely empty.

There was a knock on effect in the lounge as some stuff moved down there. I pulled out a lot of books and storage boxes from the shelves there to consolidate and make room for stuff moving downstairs. Why did I have four sets of playing cards? We never play cards.

So much stuff ready to go to the charity shop. And I also decided I needed to use my 'ebay box' for odd sock storage if I was going to get the top shelf clear, so every single thing in it has been listed on a one-week auction. (Whenever an odd sock comes out of a load I put it there. Eventually they all find their friends, but I will always need a place for the spares as they're rarely all correctly married up at once!).

If the items I've listed don't sell, I will consider relisting it once more if I think it's worth waiting, otherwise it's off to charity. Nothing else is going in an ebay holding box - either I list it immediately or donate. I think I've got rid of most of the stuff that's worth much anyway.

I also cleared out recipe cards I've been saving, and chose one to make for dinner (which also uses up a curry mix I had been wanting to get rid of). This meant I could designate a spot for our ipad to live. That makes me weirdly happy. It had a general 'area' before, but this is even better.

Also cleared out my e-mails, I have 2 items in my inbox both of which are ongoing. Feeling good! Well done to everyone else who's had success this week too, and hugs to those struggling.

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« Reply #2020 on: July 01, 2015, 07:57:38 AM »
Could someone give me a pep talk that it would be better to get rid of the stamping supplies at even a penny on the dollar I paid for them, then to keep them unused in my closet?

I am having a very hard time clearing them, because I know they cost so much money.  And maybe I'll use them against someday...

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« Reply #2021 on: July 01, 2015, 08:36:12 AM »
Could someone give me a pep talk that it would be better to get rid of the stamping supplies at even a penny on the dollar I paid for them, then to keep them unused in my closet?

I am having a very hard time clearing them, because I know they cost so much money.  And maybe I'll use them against someday...

When it comes down to clutter that I can't get much value back on, it's easiest for me to give away items than to sell them.  Then I feel good about making someone else happy rather than quite so regretful for the lost money.  Is there someone who would appreciate them in your life (and not consider it clutter)?  If so, give it to them (bonus you can likely "visit" and borrow if you really want.)  Save out your favorites if that will make you feel better.

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« Reply #2022 on: July 01, 2015, 10:03:58 AM »
Could someone give me a pep talk that it would be better to get rid of the stamping supplies at even a penny on the dollar I paid for them, then to keep them unused in my closet?

I am having a very hard time clearing them, because I know they cost so much money.  And maybe I'll use them against someday...

When it comes down to clutter that I can't get much value back on, it's easiest for me to give away items than to sell them.  Then I feel good about making someone else happy rather than quite so regretful for the lost money.  Is there someone who would appreciate them in your life (and not consider it clutter)?  If so, give it to them (bonus you can likely "visit" and borrow if you really want.)  Save out your favorites if that will make you feel better.

That's a great idea common cents. Even a post on Facebook might bring some stamping friends out of the woodwork. Or a local craft group/teacher?

When this happens to me I remember the money is already gone. Holding onto the stuff just reminds me of the waste, so I'd rather not see them. But it's easier said than done, I know.

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« Reply #2023 on: July 01, 2015, 10:41:03 AM »
Could someone give me a pep talk that it would be better to get rid of the stamping supplies at even a penny on the dollar I paid for them, then to keep them unused in my closet?

I am having a very hard time clearing them, because I know they cost so much money.  And maybe I'll use them against someday...

I find if I give away stuff I've spent money on helps me think twice before over-spending in the future.  The fact it is a little painful can be a help!

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« Reply #2024 on: July 01, 2015, 03:01:39 PM »
I'm getting kicked out of my apartment in Dec because they're renovating and converting it to an office building. Good thing I've been decluttering and selling things on ebay/craigslist over the past few months. Time to kick things into high gear for the summer!

Progress for June: $230 (got rid of clothes/shoes/an airbed despite being away for 2 weeks!)
Progress for 2015 (Jan-June): $1510

Plan for July is to sell/give away an old dresser that I got for free but never used, a foot massager that I rarely use and was keeping for my parents' visit (now that they've left I can get rid of everything that I've been keeping for overnight guests), that extra bike I was keeping for visiting guests, and any other bulky things that I think I can get rid of.

Anyone else find that craigslist/ebay are a lot more active in the summer months?
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« Reply #2025 on: July 01, 2015, 03:11:35 PM »
I'm getting kicked out of my apartment in Dec because they're renovating and converting it to an office building. Good thing I've been decluttering and selling things on ebay/craigslist over the past few months. Time to kick things into high gear for the summer!

Progress for June: $230 (got rid of clothes/shoes/an airbed despite being away for 2 weeks!)
Progress for 2015 (Jan-June): $1510

Plan for July is to sell/give away an old dresser that I got for free but never used, a foot massager that I rarely use and was keeping for my parents' visit (now that they've left I can get rid of everything that I've been keeping for overnight guests), that extra bike I was keeping for visiting guests, and any other bulky things that I think I can get rid of.

Anyone else find that craigslist/ebay are a lot more active in the summer months?

Sry to hear you will hav to move . but excellent time to be rid of more . I also had to move recently unexpectedly, such a bummer , but found a better place for less  .
Wow! That's a lot of money you've made selling your unwanted stuff. Excellent.

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« Reply #2026 on: July 01, 2015, 05:28:07 PM »
My clutter busting goals for 2015:

Locate and re-organize all my important papers, label each folder and subfolder. Then set up a file system that actually works for me. Finished in March 2015! Yeah - success is sweet! Order in the study is a wonderful thing to behold. I can actually pull out my file drawer with all my important papers and find what I need within seconds - Hallelujah!!!

Clear all paper clutter period! That's a biggie - that means boxes and bags and boxes and bags crammed full and shoved in corners and closets - still working on it. Made a few good dents in it last year and early this year, stopped - hated that, but it was an emergency trip that took me out of the country for a couple of months and when I got back I'd lost my momentum.

Started up again - cleared out a cabinet this June, but ironically never managed to sort through and eliminate the one big basket of papers hiding in it.
But hey, I sorted, purged and re-organized the entire cabinet - so in a way it was still a success. But now it has me wondering - psychologically speaking, why did I avoid that one basket of paper clutter still hiding in there?

Meanwhile, this Sunday we cleared out 75% of the laundry room from hell. Mostly boxes of paper clutter, pulled it all out, sorted through all but one big box. Felt good, now DH can have a look at the electric outlet that mysteriously stopped working, the one that's right behind the washer of course. Hope he can figure it out, if not I will have to call the electrician.
Found some change and at least ten good pens from when I cleared out my car two years ago:)
So far I filled two huge thrash cans with junk and paper clutter. A few things destined for a garage sale and some information that I had been looking for.
 
I will continue the job tomorrow, with luck I may make it through the last box and all the clutter on top of the tool box. Then I will feel inspired to finish the job, finding a home for everything from the odd Christmas tin box to the rope etc. ...
Sorting paperwork is downright exhausting - it's all those decisions about whether to keep or toss. I'll be real glad when the last of the paperwork is properly sorted and filed away - in fact, that will require a reward.

Got a long way to go - more boxes with paperwork clutter in other rooms... made a few inroads here and there over the past year. It has been very slow going at times, but the one thing I am most proud of is that I have a functioning file drawer and all my important papers are properly filed and can be found in seconds.

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« Reply #2027 on: July 02, 2015, 02:54:27 AM »
Rosy sounds like you have done great work, well done!

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« Reply #2028 on: July 02, 2015, 04:51:22 AM »
Could someone give me a pep talk that it would be better to get rid of the stamping supplies at even a penny on the dollar I paid for them, then to keep them unused in my closet?

I am having a very hard time clearing them, because I know they cost so much money.  And maybe I'll use them against someday...
The expense was incurred when you purchased them, not when you get rid of them. Keeping them and never using them is as good as not having them at all.

Make plans to use them this weekend or get rid of them. The sooner they are gone, the sooner you'll stop having negative feelings about their cost every time you look at them.

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« Reply #2029 on: July 02, 2015, 07:07:52 AM »
We moved last year and I've been trying to seriously declutter 1 moving box per day (stuff we have not opened in the last year of living here) that we have in our basement. I am on my third week. Takes 10-15 minutes per day (working full-time and 2 kids). I am being very selective in what we keep because our upcoming goal is to continue to downsize into smaller home (hopefully around 1200 sq ft) and we don't need all this stuff. This process really makes me hate buying anything new, because of the mental energy of owning something (cleaning it, fixing it, organizing it, and then finally disowning it, etc). Less stuff = less time spent on it = more time for fun.

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« Reply #2030 on: July 02, 2015, 07:35:15 AM »
All good points about the craft supplies (sunk cost and gifting to friends for joy). You have all helped me tremendously! A very hearty thank you!

Rosy + advicist, you're making excellent progress. I'm inspired!

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« Reply #2031 on: July 02, 2015, 10:50:40 AM »
Another 3 shirts. One skirt, and one bra out . also one big beach bag that I do not like anymore out . was using to keep paints and brushes but transferred them to a shoebox stacked with other art and sewing supplies also in one shoebox each, easily accessible on shelf in closet .
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« Reply #2032 on: July 02, 2015, 12:33:42 PM »
When does decluttering end?

My closets contain only things I want to keep/spark joy for me and I've given away or cleared over a 1000 items in the past two months. Everything (except my husband's closet) is cleared of clutter. Items to be sold or gifted would be done soon (July 15 to be exact - that is my self imposed deadline to clear out the sell items) and I've started on the digital decluttering.

However, this morning I see that our mail shelf is again full (from past week) and I'm finding a shelf here, a bag there that I didn't catch the first time I decluttered. I'm also starting to take another look at all the stuff we still have.

But I'm starting to feel the fatigue too. I'm not sure when is a good time to stop and just let things be. I sometimes worry I still have too much and sometimes think I'm throwing something that my husband or kid might need. When do you stop decluttering?

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« Reply #2033 on: July 02, 2015, 12:49:35 PM »
When does decluttering end?

My closets contain only things I want to keep/spark joy for me and I've given away or cleared over a 1000 items in the past two months. Everything (except my husband's closet) is cleared of clutter. Items to be sold or gifted would be done soon (July 15 to be exact - that is my self imposed deadline to clear out the sell items) and I've started on the digital decluttering.

However, this morning I see that our mail shelf is again full (from past week) and I'm finding a shelf here, a bag there that I didn't catch the first time I decluttered. I'm also starting to take another look at all the stuff we still have.

But I'm starting to feel the fatigue too. I'm not sure when is a good time to stop and just let things be. I sometimes worry I still have too much and sometimes think I'm throwing something that my husband or kid might need. When do you stop decluttering?

Personally I'm going through everything in rounds. Round 1 is nearly over and I've started on round 2 in some rooms already. I expect I'll take decluttering off my to-do list after round 3, but I imagine by then I will have developed a habit and will naturally declutter here and there just to prevent the clutter from coming back. So I don't think it'll ever end, but it'll get easier and more natural over time.

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« Reply #2034 on: July 02, 2015, 02:00:42 PM »
Could someone give me a pep talk that it would be better to get rid of the stamping supplies at even a penny on the dollar I paid for them, then to keep them unused in my closet?

I am having a very hard time clearing them, because I know they cost so much money.  And maybe I'll use them against someday...
The expense was incurred when you purchased them, not when you get rid of them. Keeping them and never using them is as good as not having them at all.

Make plans to use them this weekend or get rid of them. The sooner they are gone, the sooner you'll stop having negative feelings about their cost every time you look at them.

The new blog post is quite apt - loss aversion, sunk cost fallacy. Just having them around is making you unhappy so sell or give them away. You've gotten all the use you can out of it, and if you need them someday, you can get them on Craigslist (but you probably won't need to). A couple of weeks from now you'll be wondering why it took you so long to get rid of them.

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« Reply #2035 on: July 02, 2015, 10:14:37 PM »
And a pair of fleece socks that make my feet sweat even in winter are out. The simple things hahaha.

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« Reply #2036 on: July 03, 2015, 02:34:28 AM »
I thought that when I saw the new post too, acorn!

This is long, get ready...

I caved and bought the Marie Kondo book with an amazon voucher I had. Loving it so far! I thought it would be all patronising and self-helpy, but no, she tells it straight. She uses real examples from her clients, and is sometimes quite scathing about them and their habits, I love it!

My favourite so far is her talking about a client who was stockpiling loo roll. The clients excuse was digestive issues. Marie says,

"But even if she used one roll a day, she had at least three monthsí supply. Iím not sure she could have used up one roll a day even if she spent all day wiping her bottom, and by that time her bottom would have been rubbed raw. It made me wonder if I should be giving her skin cream rather than lessons in cleaning."

Made me LOL! Enjoying it very much so far, although I wasn't quite sure when to actually start? At one point she says 'let's get to it!' so I went and started on my wardrobe, but then ended up reading the rest of the chapter as it contains lot of tips. Now I'm not sure if I should stop reading to tackle my books, or read all the way through and then do it.

I did another pass through of my clothes having read that chapter, and got rid of about 20 more things (even after all the weeding I've been doing). I used to store 3 bags of out of season stuff and I got it down to 1 by focussing not on whether I wear it, but whether it brings me joy. I was amazed how much stuff I wore because it was 'useful' (goes with anything, warm, easy outfit) rather than because it made me feel good.

I'm down to one small bag of out of season, and I would have hanging space for it all but my hanging area is 50/50 full length and half length, and I have way more dresses than tops so the full-length side is full, the other side has lots of capacity. Will incorporate a 70/30 split into my new bedroom design when the time comes.

I also liked how she says, you think I'm nutty don't you? Well, just try it anyway. So I did with the socks (folding, not balling up). I also rolled all my tights as described. I must say, I do like it! With tights especially it takes up a lot less space, and I could see at a glance that I was short on nude and needed to get some washing on. Much better than my usual tug of war trying to extract on pair from the tangle.

And her advice on hanging clothes so that they rise to the right, it sounds mad, but she said to draw a diagonal line in the air up to your right, and then one down to your right, and see how it makes you feel. I think I need to reverse my hanging order!

Also got bids on lots of things I listed on ebay earlier in the week, and have sold a book on amazon.  Thanks so much to everyone who recommended the book!

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« Reply #2037 on: July 04, 2015, 01:18:06 PM »
My DD and I decluttered her room yesterday. It took us a good part of the day but her closet and her room never looked better. We have a huge pile of stuff for donation and a few items for consignment. We used the Konmarie method and it worked quite well.  She had a ton of clothes that she didn't like or outgrew so that's the majority of the pile. We'll probably need to do another sweep through her various miscellaneous items but she's made good progress there too considering she generally keeps a ton of stuff for sentimental reasons. 

I've been feeling so much better since I've started my decluttering and minimizing "mission" ;-). Clutter really stresses me out. 

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« Reply #2038 on: July 04, 2015, 04:10:46 PM »
I threw out more photos yesterday. Yay! Now I'm just down to printed ones from the last 5 years. I should really just chuck them all, but I'm not quite at that stage. The only time I ever look at my photos is when I'm going through them to cull. D'oh!

Last weekend, I sorted our big pile of paperwork. We use the bottom drawer of a chest of drawers that sits next to the front door for mail that needs to be kept and filed. I ended up throwing out 2/3 of the papers (realised we really didn't need to keep vet receipts, for example) and DH tore them up and we chucked them into the compost. Normally we recycle paper, but neither of us are comfortable with putting stuff with personal identity/bank account details straight into the recycling bin. We did have a shredder but it died after a year. Don't want to replace it cos the next one is also likely to not last that long, and having to send stuff to landfill unnecessarily sickens me a bit these days.

tl;dr - filed some papers, threw out the rest.

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« Reply #2039 on: July 04, 2015, 06:39:15 PM »
I cleaned the house yesterday but it made me realise how much easier cleaning would be if I had less junk.
I also realised I have enough stationary to last a very long time so I might start taking some of it to work where at least I will use it (even though I can of course get it free from the stationary cupboard) as I really just want to see it used. 

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« Reply #2040 on: July 04, 2015, 07:21:48 PM »
I started to type a post asking for opinions on whether to keep a certain set of items (workout clothes that are currently too small bc of pregnancy weight)... and in typing out my reasons for keeping them, realized they were dumb reasons. They'll go in the next donation bag!

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« Reply #2041 on: July 04, 2015, 07:49:28 PM »
So... got the Kondo book from the library last week and am poking through it. So far, so good. I think I've always been a declutterer by nature for quite some time (plus i moved every 2-4 years for 15 years or so - which does reinforce a certain level of decluttering). I've been in the same house now for 7 years and I do feel that stuff is piling up. But some of it is like big furniture things - not just little cluttery things. Like my bedroom added a bookshelf and a wicker laundry basket things over the 7 years. And of course those furniture things are full of little cluttery things! So, today I have a plan in place for the laundry hamper to go (it was holding clean bedding), and some of the bedding to go too (naturally). Struggling with the books and bookshelves (there are many in the house).  Eyeing a chair in the living room that I loved the look of but don't find particularly comfortable and it rarely gets used. Thinking if I shred many of the papers I can ditch the file cabinet and at least one desk....

Anyone done the big stuff and not just the little piles of stuff?

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« Reply #2042 on: July 04, 2015, 08:50:03 PM »
Felt the result of all our decluttering - we had friends over this weekend and cleaning took just two hours (while before it would've taken atleast a day, putting things away and then cleaning everything and it would've resulted in a fight about who's stuff is lying all around the house). I'm loving it!

Now we've decided to do this level of cleaning every week so we can enjoy our home even more. :)

Started on digital decluttering - can anyone recommend any books for how to go about it? I feel overwhelmed by that task.

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« Reply #2043 on: July 04, 2015, 09:54:57 PM »
I'm working on ripping my cd collection as I write. I'll be so glad when this project is done.

Sorted the past school years papers. Scanned what I need. Recycling a 3 inch thick pile.

Knotted a comforter that's been sitting around for months waiting to be quilted.  I generally despise knotted comforters but it was time... It is a gift and will soon be taking up space in someone else's home! ;)


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« Reply #2044 on: July 04, 2015, 10:16:23 PM »
So... got the Kondo book from the library last week and am poking through it. So far, so good. I think I've always been a declutterer by nature for quite some time (plus i moved every 2-4 years for 15 years or so - which does reinforce a certain level of decluttering). I've been in the same house now for 7 years and I do feel that stuff is piling up. But some of it is like big furniture things - not just little cluttery things. Like my bedroom added a bookshelf and a wicker laundry basket things over the 7 years. And of course those furniture things are full of little cluttery things! So, today I have a plan in place for the laundry hamper to go (it was holding clean bedding), and some of the bedding to go too (naturally). Struggling with the books and bookshelves (there are many in the house).  Eyeing a chair in the living room that I loved the look of but don't find particularly comfortable and it rarely gets used. Thinking if I shred many of the papers I can ditch the file cabinet and at least one desk....

Anyone done the big stuff and not just the little piles of stuff?

Well done.
Yes I hav and the spareness is lovely.
Keep up the good work
 

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« Reply #2045 on: July 04, 2015, 10:26:11 PM »
So... got the Kondo book from the library last week and am poking through it. So far, so good. I think I've always been a declutterer by nature for quite some time (plus i moved every 2-4 years for 15 years or so - which does reinforce a certain level of decluttering). I've been in the same house now for 7 years and I do feel that stuff is piling up. But some of it is like big furniture things - not just little cluttery things. Like my bedroom added a bookshelf and a wicker laundry basket things over the 7 years. And of course those furniture things are full of little cluttery things! So, today I have a plan in place for the laundry hamper to go (it was holding clean bedding), and some of the bedding to go too (naturally). Struggling with the books and bookshelves (there are many in the house).  Eyeing a chair in the living room that I loved the look of but don't find particularly comfortable and it rarely gets used. Thinking if I shred many of the papers I can ditch the file cabinet and at least one desk....

Anyone done the big stuff and not just the little piles of stuff?

Well done.
Yes I hav and the spareness is lovely.
Keep up the good work
We cleared 4 small sets of curved glass corner shelves and sold 3. I've sold a large desk top I had and replaced it with one 2/3 the size. We're currently trying to work out which of our sets of shelves we need, and then sell the ones we don't like after we've been through the stuff they hold. Should get rid of at least 1 bookshelf. We have more drawers in our bedroom than I'd like, but they hold bedding as well as clothes and make everything work much better. Getting rid of the big stuff feels great and is a much more obvious change then the little pieces.

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« Reply #2046 on: July 05, 2015, 12:17:34 AM »
I 'fessed to DH that I was feeling overwhelmed with his stuff and kept daydreaming of a near-empty house. He loves his stuff (mostly DVDs, CDs, books and comics) so we're kind of at an impasse. But he did get rid of a small box of DVDs that we will take to charity next week. No point selling stuff here - the secondhand market is oversaturated.

Anyway, I also moved my small pile of photos into our box of wedding memorabilia. I found the off-cut from my wedding dress (it was a blue dress, not white) and chucked it away immediately. I love that I married DH but my memories of getting married (the lead-up, the day itself and the honeymoon) are quite fraught and ambivalent. I was so very very sick but didn't realise it at the time (spent more than a week in hospital after we got back from our honeymoon), and so I don't actually like having many mementoes of that time. I'd rather just enjoy today and being married, rather than being all nostalgic about our wedding day. Anyway, I'm rambling.
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« Reply #2047 on: July 05, 2015, 01:57:45 AM »
I 'fessed to DH that I was feeling overwhelmed with his stuff and kept daydreaming of a near-empty house. He loves his stuff (mostly DVDs, CDs, books and comics) so we're kind of at an impasse. But he did get rid of a small box of DVDs that we will take to charity next week. No point selling stuff here - the secondhand market is oversaturated.



My husband is a pack rat too, he did clear out some stuff but he still has 7 large boxes of vinyl records and he still keeps all his CDs even though he doesn't even listen to them. *Sigh*

ETA I suppose I should be grateful that he doesn't have his comic collection here as he is keeping it at his Mum's house.

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« Reply #2048 on: July 05, 2015, 04:38:30 AM »
Well.. having an unexpected house guest come to stay this week (don't know for how long yet - although it is likely to be intermittent) meant I did a bit of a declutter in the spare room this weekend. The room was mostly tidy, but the drawers / wardrobe / under the bed are storage places for items I want to keep, but don't know where to put them. Some items are the use once a year type - and cannot easily be replaced, so they stay. Some items are more of a sentimental nature. I go through this room about once a year, and each time find more stuff to get rid of. I mostly feel good now, there have been a few things come out of the room that need to be re-homed. Some toys from my childhood, are to go to nieces / nephews or be sold. I have slowly come to the realisation that there is no point in keeping them under the bed, when they were designed to be played with! There are some items which I still need to figure out a better home for. I would love it if my guest bedroom only had items for guests in it, but with limited other storage in the house that is not possible.

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« Reply #2049 on: July 05, 2015, 09:47:06 AM »
I am now engaged to longtime boyfriend ( 6yrs ) & we do not live together , but did a while back for two years.. Anyway, we will begin to look for a place , sml apt or similar. My things are very minimal by now, but his are not so much . he has tons of clothes, hats, shoes, etc.  Also tons of clutter type random things that serve no purpose really besides adorning every surface of his place.  Ha! Opposites attract sometimes. Most likely he'll donate a few things, but keep the bulk and I won't give him a hard time . His furniture is rather minimal tho so that's a plus.  I foresee my few possessions will dwindle further as I always do a major sweep if everything every time I move :) . for me is good fun and a great additional motivator.