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« Reply #3150 on: November 30, 2019, 02:49:56 PM »

-meat baby food. It's called kitty crack for a reason.

I always thought Temptations were cat crack!

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« Reply #3151 on: November 30, 2019, 03:44:56 PM »
Two more boxes of miscellaneous stuff out the door this week. My oldest DS and his wife just bought their first house and have almost nothing in terms of housewares and furniture. Just too bad that they live on the other side of the country. Otherwise I could start funnelling things to them.

A bag of extra wire hangers is still sitting on my doorstep waiting to be picked up. So annoying when people don't show up, especially for free stuff!

Took down all the pictures, etc. from my office and bedroom in preparation for the painters. Once they are done I will have to decide which pieces to put back up for staging. I also need to decided what to do with a small extra desk in my office. I used it a lot when I was working from home. Probably time to let it go. I'm sure it will make the room look bigger too.

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« Reply #3152 on: November 30, 2019, 04:07:18 PM »

-meat baby food. It's called kitty crack for a reason.

I always thought Temptations were cat crack!

For a healthy cat, treats are of course high value. I've never given a healthy cat meat baby food, so it would be an interesting comparison. But Auburn wouldn't eat treats at all, only a little baby food. Sick cats have a very different set of rules.

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« Reply #3153 on: December 01, 2019, 02:53:35 AM »
Visited relatives yesterday from early morning to late evening so no progress. I went to bed immediately we came home which was very clever bc today I feel I have more energy and willpower. Right now I am at soccer practice for DS2, not allowed to watch though so I brought five old magazines to look through. Done already and not a single page I want to keep. We park just next to a paper recycling bin so I can drop them there before I get into the car.
Also dropping off a small package for return (bought something wrong size).

Small wins are also wins.

And be reading I managed to opt out of discussion other parents had regarding Black Friday findings and new cell phones. Total win. (other times we talk of more interesting stuff and then I am happy to join)

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« Reply #3154 on: December 01, 2019, 07:38:07 AM »
I replaced a black cardigan & navy cardigan, both of which are work staples for me. In return, I went through my closet & pulled out four sweaters that have been more than worn. Down a total of two!

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« Reply #3155 on: December 01, 2019, 08:04:11 PM »

-meat baby food. It's called kitty crack for a reason.

I always thought Temptations were cat crack!

For a healthy cat, treats are of course high value. I've never given a healthy cat meat baby food, so it would be an interesting comparison. But Auburn wouldn't eat treats at all, only a little baby food. Sick cats have a very different set of rules.

Can confirm this. Healthy cat is a fierce and stroppy ex feral who doesn't like being touched. Same cat sick asks for mummy cuddles and likes being tucked in his blankie.

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« Reply #3156 on: December 02, 2019, 08:24:52 AM »
Several years ago, I bought a bathroom storage cabinet. Then decided I didn't want that style, but managed to lose the receipt, etc. Couldn't return it. But, I did finally manage to list it for sale and sold it last night! It's out of the house!

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« Reply #3157 on: December 02, 2019, 10:47:04 AM »

-meat baby food. It's called kitty crack for a reason.

I always thought Temptations were cat crack!

For a healthy cat, treats are of course high value. I've never given a healthy cat meat baby food, so it would be an interesting comparison. But Auburn wouldn't eat treats at all, only a little baby food. Sick cats have a very different set of rules.

Can confirm this. Healthy cat is a fierce and stroppy ex feral who doesn't like being touched. Same cat sick asks for mummy cuddles and likes being tucked in his blankie.

LOL!  Whenever my bold he-man asks for cuddles, I'm suspicious, because then he bites me.  I still fall for it though, because I so rarely get to cuddle him.

3 more items out the door:

20. Ragged pair of jeans - fabric recycling
21. Torn runners - garbage
22. Mismatched fork - thrift store

3 more to go to meet my 25 items by Christmas goal.

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« Reply #3158 on: December 02, 2019, 10:55:01 AM »
Two cars are in the garage!  Which means a whole hell of a lot of stuff went out with the garbage and an entire car load went to the thrift store.  Scrap wood is all gone.  It is a beautiful site.  Especially since we had freezing rain and ice pellets during the night.  It is so nice to pull out of the garage with a clean car.


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« Reply #3159 on: December 02, 2019, 11:30:54 AM »
Two cars are in the garage!

That's a major achievement! Good job!

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« Reply #3160 on: December 02, 2019, 02:40:58 PM »

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« Reply #3161 on: December 03, 2019, 07:56:37 AM »
My office / studio is so clean with all the de-cluttering that has occurred in the last few days.  Yesterday I packed up all the photos that I had borrowed for my Dad's memorial and that left three tables bare.  So I washed them.  Now it feels so calming in this room.

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« Reply #3162 on: December 03, 2019, 08:10:06 AM »
Now that we've been in the new location a few years, I recently went back to having seasonal wardrobes.  This system worked really well for me up north, but fell apart once we moved 1000 miles south to warmer weather because everything I owned felt too warm for the climate no matter what I wore. But humans are nothing if not adaptable. This fall when I realized I was reaching for sweaters again, I divided everything into four seasonal piles and packed the out of season clothes away in clearly labeled boxes.

I swapped over to the winter wardrobe December 1st, but not before putting one fall sweater that never fit quite right into the donation pile and deciding to use a suit coat jacket and a scarf that are now too formal for my sliding-into-RE-life, as packing material when I ship my sister (who will love these items) her Christmas present.

We've been in the new warmer relaxed retire-here location over three years and I'm finally starting to let go of professional/formal/aspirational clothing.  One small but deeply satisfying step in the right direction.

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« Reply #3163 on: December 03, 2019, 06:27:06 PM »
I'm listening to Marie Kondo's Life Changing Magic of Tidying up on audiobook to inspire me as I declutter before my move. I read the book and Kondo-d my place years ago, and I have to say that it actually worked.

Anyone else Kondo and like it or dislike it?

Freecycled a bike carrying rack for the car, made a gift bag of bike-related items for a friend who was keen, and donated the microwave. 

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« Reply #3164 on: December 03, 2019, 08:32:08 PM »
I'm a huge fan of keeping low on clutter!

Recently I found that I could move all my stuff in three suitcases (yes, I don't own much stuff).

While friends sometimes find it disconcerting, I really love the flexibility this offers.

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« Reply #3165 on: December 03, 2019, 09:04:35 PM »
I bought a rain coat for my son back in the summer, and it didn't fit. He didn't mention it until it was out of the return window. I saw it hanging in the closet (with tags) this weekend, & got it listed on eBay. It just sold tonight for $5 more than I paid for it. I'll take it! Junk out (not really, it's very nice, but useless to us) & money in!

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« Reply #3166 on: December 03, 2019, 11:53:06 PM »
I'm listening to Marie Kondo's Life Changing Magic of Tidying up on audiobook to inspire me as I declutter before my move. I read the book and Kondo-d my place years ago, and I have to say that it actually worked.

Anyone else Kondo and like it or dislike it?

Freecycled a bike carrying rack for the car, made a gift bag of bike-related items for a friend who was keen, and donated the microwave.

I Kondo and I like it. :) Got stuck on Papers, though.  My nemesis.  I went through a second time and got stuck on Papers again.  But some progress was made each time none the less.

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« Reply #3167 on: December 04, 2019, 05:42:46 AM »
I had to get under the kitchen sink to unclog the drain (gross) and found a few useless things there to toss out. Seven plastic mesh bags and one old plastic clamshell which had contained a water filter. God there is so much other junk there, too! But I can't bring myself to throw it out since it can be used sometime. CLeaning fluids, stain removers, etc, etc.  Maybe I'll donate it sometime.   

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« Reply #3168 on: December 04, 2019, 05:53:15 AM »
An outdoor arrangement I made for a family member got delivered yesterday.  It was being protected by the large ladder.  Ladder is now folded up and hanging on the wall.  More space in the garage!

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« Reply #3169 on: December 04, 2019, 08:40:50 AM »
I had to get under the kitchen sink to unclog the drain (gross) and found a few useless things there to toss out. Seven plastic mesh bags and one old plastic clamshell which had contained a water filter. God there is so much other junk there, too! But I can't bring myself to throw it out since it can be used sometime. CLeaning fluids, stain removers, etc, etc.  Maybe I'll donate it sometime.   

Are these things you do use? If not, get rid of them now. Cleaning products don't last forever. If you hang on to them for too long thinking you may donate them later, then you may find when you actually try to donate them that instead you're throwing them out.

I threw out a bottle of Murphy's oil soap this week. I used to use it, but switched to something else and forgot I had the bottle. It had very obviously degraded. I saw it, pulled it out to donate, and then swore and threw it in the trash.

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« Reply #3170 on: December 04, 2019, 12:48:14 PM »
I'm listening to Marie Kondo's Life Changing Magic of Tidying up on audiobook to inspire me as I declutter before my move. I read the book and Kondo-d my place years ago, and I have to say that it actually worked.

Anyone else Kondo and like it or dislike it?

I found Marie Kondo very helpful, more for the mindset than the actual method. I get emotionally attached to items very easily, and I like that they bring back memories (good and bad). But thinking through how I want to use my space right now was the turning point. Do I really need to be surrounded by my memories when what I want is to just walk across my (empty!) living room rug and sit down on a (cleared off!) couch at end of the day? When I want to live in a space with less dust to aggravate my allergies? When I want to easily get out/put away the pots and pans I use on a weekly basis? When I want to get dressed quickly in the morning and get out the door? Taking a picture of items that are no longer serving me, thanking them, and getting them out was indeed life-changing for me. I can keep the memories without the items.

My parents are slowly downsizing, and I spent the weekend organizing childhood pictures and mementos and throwing away or donating many of the less meaningful ones. I honestly don't think I could have done it two years ago before I went through the Marie Kondo process. Though my parents are still willing to keep some boxes for me (and themselves) for now, I kept thinking: "Is this something I care enough about to ship to my current city one day and stuff into my small apartment? No? Thank you and good bye."

It's actually made me want to do a refresh of my current apartment, which is currently a mess after being neglected since I got back from the trip and went straight back to work.

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« Reply #3171 on: December 04, 2019, 10:04:59 PM »
Well one of the two things is an old tablet and I found a place that refurbishes old tech & redistributes it to lower income families, especially to help kids in school, which are increasingly using computers in the curriculum. Plus, it's just a boon to anyone in general to be able to access online resources.  So the tablet will go there.

I found this place when I was looking for how to recycle my old computer, which I *finally* gave some attention, got the files I needed from it, and it's ready to go.  This was hanging around far too long. 

So next week I'll drop those off; posting here for accountability.

So, it took until today, but these things are donated!  The delay was a bit of self-care.  I've been super busy recently, so consciously chose to put off donating these things for a week when things were a bit less hectic.  ANd it's done.  Yay!

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« Reply #3172 on: December 05, 2019, 05:24:37 AM »
Some bulky craft stuff donated.  A box of household stuff for a friend's son who is setting up his own place.

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« Reply #3173 on: December 05, 2019, 06:46:22 AM »
Four bags of bedding etc. gone to the Women's Refuge this morning.  I also sold a lot of my (inherited, I am not a silk scarf person) silk scarves at the WI and donated the proceeds and leftover scarves to them as well.

One young collie and all his stuff imported into the house from the RSPCA.  Still a net gain.

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« Reply #3174 on: December 05, 2019, 07:15:49 AM »
@zygote I totally agree about the mentality change. For me, it was getting over the "this is still useful" mentality and guilt over being wasteful. Fact is, things are wasted if I'm not using them.
@oneday Nice progress! I also keep way more papers than are necessary.

Major success: We gave away our couch yesterday. It went to a couple of young guys, who seemed super nice and appreciative. We were both sentimentally attached to the couch (it has it's own funny origin story that is part of our story), but I'm glad it's moving on to a new home!

Small success: Our microwave had blocked a kitchen cabinet. With the microwave gone, I opened the cabinet, wondering what was in there and what I'd have to sort to give away/store. Found the cabinet completely empty. Nice!


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« Reply #3175 on: December 05, 2019, 07:58:42 AM »
The weather has definitely changed for winter (rain, cooler temperatures, etc), so I've been going through my fall/winter wardrobe & taking the time to identify things I don't think I'll wear. If I'm not prepared to wear it today, I put it in the donation pile right away.

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« Reply #3176 on: December 05, 2019, 08:05:52 AM »
I have made a goal to purge 75% of my belongings. Mr Pug says theres no way I can do this which just motivates me even more to get rid of the majority of my belongings. I have started a journal to inventory what I have donated and what I am keeping so that I can calculate the percentage of what I am purging.

So far I have filled one giant thread up bag to send off and hopefully make a few dollars selling some clothes that I don't wear and 3 other boxes for the thrift store donation.

I recently read the book "the year of less" which has helped me to let go of somethings that I was holding on to just so I could be the type of person that for example has bookshelfs full of books even if I don't plan on reading those books again or ever and even if I did want to ready them I could just go to the library and borrow them.

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« Reply #3177 on: December 05, 2019, 08:28:05 AM »
I recently read the book "the year of less" which has helped me to let go of somethings that I was holding on to just so I could be the type of person that for example has bookshelfs full of books even if I don't plan on reading those books again or ever and even if I did want to ready them I could just go to the library and borrow them.

I enjoyed Cait Flander's blog(s) but haven't read her book. 

I hear you on the bookshelves full of books.  Before moving I ruthlessly thinned my book collection down to the few I was willing to pack, load, unload, unpack and re-shelve.  The first time I hosted my new book club at my new house I felt seriously judged for my limited visible book collection (as in one member made a face and another grimaced back).  Fast forward three years: the two judge-y ladies are no longer in our book club and those of us who remain are a clearly well read group.   

Moral of the story:  I gave up my aspirational books and found my tribe anyways

I wish you success and joy in perusing your goal.

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« Reply #3178 on: December 05, 2019, 09:59:43 AM »
Marie Kondo helped me with the guilt...this was your great aunt's *thing*.  Well it is ugly or means absolutely nothing to me or whatever...And I could part with all the stuff that I inherited but wouldn't chose to own for any other reason than it once belonged to someone I love.  I had no idea how much I resented some of the items that I inherited because I had to move them every time I moved, or dust them or just even find the space to store them.  It was a release of a stress-or that I didn't know was a stressors.

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« Reply #3179 on: December 05, 2019, 10:48:45 AM »
Mr Pug has this "guilt", he refuses to get rid of anything that once belong to a family member. Most of the stuff is fine, it's nice solid furniture but somethings I don't see any reason to kept other than it once was in his grandmother's house and is now in ours.

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« Reply #3180 on: December 05, 2019, 03:09:40 PM »
My office / studio is so clean with all the de-cluttering that has occurred in the last few days.  Yesterday I packed up all the photos that I had borrowed for my Dad's memorial and that left three tables bare.  So I washed them.  Now it feels so calming in this room.

Frugal, your sense of calm in this post, and the one prior, on this subject radiates through the screen.   So glad for you.   :)

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« Reply #3181 on: December 05, 2019, 04:50:31 PM »
@Nancy - progress, always progress.

I kept the box I carried the computer & tablet in yesterday, now it's full of my old ski jacket, a second robe I don't use, some chair pads given to my god knows why and a few smaller items.  Won't have time to get that to the thrift shop or the electrical stuff to the ReStore or the haz mat to the haz mat place this week or maybe next.  I shall pout, for being too busy to have time to get the discarded items to their proper homes.

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« Reply #3182 on: December 06, 2019, 09:35:18 AM »
Mr Pug has this "guilt", he refuses to get rid of anything that once belong to a family member. Most of the stuff is fine, it's nice solid furniture but somethings I don't see any reason to kept other than it once was in his grandmother's house and is now in ours.

My mom has a similar problem, but very different cause. Her father divorced her mother when she was in college, and he also basically dropped her. Mom had to drop out of college due to lack of money. We suspect that her father's functional abandonment, combined with her mother's early death when I was a baby, resulted in some emotional hangups.

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« Reply #3183 on: December 06, 2019, 05:18:25 PM »
Frugal Lizard, I hear you! I've had a bone china cup and saucer since I was 9 because it was given as a gift after my elderly neighbor passed away. She was a totally rockin' woman and I loved her, but the cup! I feel relieved to be finally giving it away.

Today, I dropped items at the Homeless Coalition and donated fabric/sewing stuff to a local crafter. I also went through all of my important papers and tossed a bunch. Onward!
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« Reply #3184 on: December 07, 2019, 04:26:02 PM »
A neighbor put a lovely filing box - like a basket weave milk crate - out on the street. It now lives in a corner of my LR and whenever I come across an item I don't need anymore, in it goes. When full, I take it out to the car and donate.

This is working well because I have done several major clean-outs over the past few years and now it is truly down to maybe a box every couple of months.

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« Reply #3185 on: December 08, 2019, 05:53:07 AM »
What would you do with small books that an acquaintance self publishes then pens a sentimental verse to me inside the book and then signs their name?

I have no interest in these books, but if I were to donate them, my name and the author's name are inside the cover. These books just annoy the crap out of me and seems each year this person publishes another one and sends it to me. As soon as I see the envelope with their handwriting, I know it is another book. Another issue with these books is that they are not written in English and I do not speak the language it is published in. OMG!

I have mixed feeling on this and I think it is thoughtful in a way to 'think' of me to send the books. However, it kind of makes me mad it is clutter that I have no use for! So they sit on a shelf, unread, unappreciated collecting dust.

Guilt trip!

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« Reply #3186 on: December 08, 2019, 06:05:51 AM »
What would you do with small books that an acquaintance self publishes then pens a sentimental verse to me inside the book and then signs their name?

I have no interest in these books, but if I were to donate them, my name and the author's name are inside the cover. These books just annoy the crap out of me and seems each year this person publishes another one and sends it to me. As soon as I see the envelope with their handwriting, I know it is another book. Another issue with these books is that they are not written in English and I do not speak the language it is published in. OMG!

I have mixed feeling on this and I think it is thoughtful in a way to 'think' of me to send the books. However, it kind of makes me mad it is clutter that I have no use for! So they sit on a shelf, unread, unappreciated collecting dust.

Guilt trip!

Recycling bin. No question. No guilt.

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« Reply #3187 on: December 08, 2019, 07:26:14 AM »
What would you do with small books that an acquaintance self publishes then pens a sentimental verse to me inside the book and then signs their name?

I have no interest in these books, but if I were to donate them, my name and the author's name are inside the cover. These books just annoy the crap out of me and seems each year this person publishes another one and sends it to me. As soon as I see the envelope with their handwriting, I know it is another book. Another issue with these books is that they are not written in English and I do not speak the language it is published in. OMG!

I have mixed feeling on this and I think it is thoughtful in a way to 'think' of me to send the books. However, it kind of makes me mad it is clutter that I have no use for! So they sit on a shelf, unread, unappreciated collecting dust.

Guilt trip!

Do you have any friend or family that
a) speaks/reads this language
b) have not received these books
c) would have any interest in reading these books

If yes to all questions, ask this person if they one or more of the books.

If no to any of above: I fully agree with LetItGrow - recycle/trash in a way no-one can pick them up. I normally try to give away as much as possible but in this case, you may not want the person find out you have decluttered the books - personal and may be sensitive

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Re: Continued: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter! PART 2
« Reply #3188 on: December 08, 2019, 09:24:29 AM »
What would you do with small books that an acquaintance self publishes then pens a sentimental verse to me inside the book and then signs their name?

I have no interest in these books, but if I were to donate them, my name and the author's name are inside the cover. These books just annoy the crap out of me and seems each year this person publishes another one and sends it to me. As soon as I see the envelope with their handwriting, I know it is another book. Another issue with these books is that they are not written in English and I do not speak the language it is published in. OMG!

I have mixed feeling on this and I think it is thoughtful in a way to 'think' of me to send the books. However, it kind of makes me mad it is clutter that I have no use for! So they sit on a shelf, unread, unappreciated collecting dust.

Guilt trip!

Do you have any friend or family that
a) speaks/reads this language
b) have not received these books
c) would have any interest in reading these books

If yes to all questions, ask this person if they one or more of the books.

If no to any of above: I fully agree with LetItGrow - recycle/trash in a way no-one can pick them up. I normally try to give away as much as possible but in this case, you may not want the person find out you have decluttered the books - personal and may be sensitive

No, I know no one who speaks this language

Do libraries take self published books?


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Re: Continued: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter! PART 2
« Reply #3189 on: December 08, 2019, 10:21:58 AM »
What would you do with small books that an acquaintance self publishes then pens a sentimental verse to me inside the book and then signs their name?

I have no interest in these books, but if I were to donate them, my name and the author's name are inside the cover. These books just annoy the crap out of me and seems each year this person publishes another one and sends it to me. As soon as I see the envelope with their handwriting, I know it is another book. Another issue with these books is that they are not written in English and I do not speak the language it is published in. OMG!

I have mixed feeling on this and I think it is thoughtful in a way to 'think' of me to send the books. However, it kind of makes me mad it is clutter that I have no use for! So they sit on a shelf, unread, unappreciated collecting dust.

Guilt trip!

Do you have any friend or family that
a) speaks/reads this language
b) have not received these books
c) would have any interest in reading these books

If yes to all questions, ask this person if they one or more of the books.

If no to any of above: I fully agree with LetItGrow - recycle/trash in a way no-one can pick them up. I normally try to give away as much as possible but in this case, you may not want the person find out you have decluttered the books - personal and may be sensitive

No, I know no one who speaks this language

Do libraries take self published books?
You could try a university which teaches the language, either the main library or the language faculty.

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Re: Continued: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter! PART 2
« Reply #3190 on: December 08, 2019, 10:46:59 AM »
Take a black marker to the names and donate if possible or recycle.  Then let the "friend" know that while you appreciate the thought, you cannot read the books and don't want him to waste the money of the copy and the mail cost sending you one.

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Re: Continued: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter! PART 2
« Reply #3191 on: December 08, 2019, 11:04:37 AM »
Looking it at it from a practical, volume of clutter perspective, could you not just keep the books together somewhere and know you will recycle them  someday? Seems he/she is only sending you one book per year, no??? 

Or... maybe it would be fun to just toss them all into the municipal recycling bin and yell "I'm  mad as hell and I'm not taking it anymore!!!" to the astonished crowd. 

OK, I may be projecting a bit here, lol.......   

And what would you say if the acquaintance popped in and you didn't have the books around ???   OMG....

Easier just to keep them for now, no ????
 


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Re: Continued: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter! PART 2
« Reply #3192 on: December 08, 2019, 05:21:25 PM »
Recycling.

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Re: Continued: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter! PART 2
« Reply #3193 on: December 08, 2019, 05:31:47 PM »
I will keep the books. It is really annoying and until I decide to sell my house and leave I guess I am stuck with them. This person is so kind and even though I have not seen the person in years I could ask for a ride two hours away to an airport and person would do it. I really just can't stomach this person though. It is a love hate situation. Totally weird. There is so much more about this person that I cannot stomach but I will spare you! Nothing perverted!

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Re: Continued: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter! PART 2
« Reply #3194 on: December 08, 2019, 05:45:19 PM »
I will keep the books. It is really annoying and until I decide to sell my house and leave I guess I am stuck with them. This person is so kind and even though I have not seen the person in years I could ask for a ride two hours away to an airport and person would do it. I really just can't stomach this person though. It is a love hate situation. Totally weird. There is so much more about this person that I cannot stomach but I will spare you! Nothing perverted!

I don't get that reasoning.  What does moving have to do with it?  You haven't seen the person in years, so they're not likely to show up at your house and wonder where the books are.  AND, you don't even like the person!  Seems to me that you're keeping them out of some sort of guilt/obligation because they're nice (too nice)?  What would Marie Kondo say?

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Re: Continued: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter! PART 2
« Reply #3195 on: December 08, 2019, 05:56:41 PM »
I will keep the books. It is really annoying and until I decide to sell my house and leave I guess I am stuck with them. This person is so kind and even though I have not seen the person in years I could ask for a ride two hours away to an airport and person would do it. I really just can't stomach this person though. It is a love hate situation. Totally weird. There is so much more about this person that I cannot stomach but I will spare you! Nothing perverted!
Why? If you can't stomach the person and haven't seen them in years, then all the books are doing is make you think of that person, how  you don't like them and that you *should* like them more "because they are so kind" even though you are very unlikely to ask a favour of them. Why keep this energy around?

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Re: Continued: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter! PART 2
« Reply #3196 on: December 08, 2019, 11:12:12 PM »
I will keep the books. It is really annoying and until I decide to sell my house and leave I guess I am stuck with them. This person is so kind and even though I have not seen the person in years I could ask for a ride two hours away to an airport and person would do it. I really just can't stomach this person though. It is a love hate situation. Totally weird. There is so much more about this person that I cannot stomach but I will spare you! Nothing perverted!
Why? If you can't stomach the person and haven't seen them in years, then all the books are doing is make you think of that person, how  you don't like them and that you *should* like them more "because they are so kind" even though you are very unlikely to ask a favour of them. Why keep this energy around?

+1

And...never as this person for a ride to the airport.  Even if you are desperate.  Cab or rideshare instead.  Don't ask this person for any favors!

I no longer have any tolerance for love/hate relationships.  It's love/love...or begone with ye!

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Re: Continued: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter! PART 2
« Reply #3197 on: December 09, 2019, 08:13:22 AM »
I know, I am WEIRD about getting rid of the books! The person is around 83 years old and I know the person won't be banging on my door demanding where they are! LOL!  The books are in another room on a bookshelf so they really aren't in the way. But do annoy me!

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Re: Continued: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter! PART 2
« Reply #3198 on: December 09, 2019, 09:24:50 AM »
What would you do with small books that an acquaintance self publishes then pens a sentimental verse to me inside the book and then signs their name?

I have no interest in these books, but if I were to donate them, my name and the author's name are inside the cover. These books just annoy the crap out of me and seems each year this person publishes another one and sends it to me. As soon as I see the envelope with their handwriting, I know it is another book. Another issue with these books is that they are not written in English and I do not speak the language it is published in. OMG!

I have mixed feeling on this and I think it is thoughtful in a way to 'think' of me to send the books. However, it kind of makes me mad it is clutter that I have no use for! So they sit on a shelf, unread, unappreciated collecting dust.

Guilt trip!

Can you cut out the page with the sentimental verse while leaving the rest of the book intact?  Its the personal note that matters most.  Keep that and let the books themselves go.

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Re: Continued: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter! PART 2
« Reply #3199 on: December 09, 2019, 10:53:17 AM »
This is more of a promise than a I've done it (yet). At my parent's house this week while my mom has surgery/hospital stay. I noticed a box of beef broth in the fridge that expired in 2017. I'm cleaning out the fridge this week.