@Roadrunner53 , we told our kids (8, 10, 12) last year that we weren't buying them a singe toy for Christmas. Instead, they each got the following:
1) a gift card to their favorite restaurant, to treat the family on a day of their choosing
2) A gift certificate for an experience they had been asking for (roller skating, a trampoline park, and pottery lessons)
3) A $10 gift card to the used bookstore
They were THRILLED. Youngest positively beamed as he paid for our meal a few weeks later.
Grandparents went overboard on toys and stuff, most of which will be decluttered this summer.
The highlights for my kids were books and useful stuff (ipad chargers in different colors so they won't fight over them).
The oldest's favorite present was a book her uncle gave her with profiles of scientist women through history. (I would NEVER have chosen this for her - I don't know what possessed him to pick it out, but it was an inspired purchase.) She now wants to be an astrophysicist.
In the past, the kids have also been happy with a day with grandparents (to pick out a new outfit or new shoes), a day at the zoo, etc. They like spending time with people doing stuff.