Thanks for the link,
I've looked into the 3rd party self-directed options a while ago (I actually paid one of them to set it up for me without contributing anything yet so I can have it on the books for 2020)
However, they all seem to make you do your own record keeping. on every contribution, transfer, distribution, etc, which I feel would be a nightmare for me. that's what made me think of the brokerage options, but if they don't have the mega backdoor then I am back to square one.