Thank you guys for the clarification. That link was very helpful too.
So the 457 does not affect any of the other items, she can max it out at $20,500 without impacting the others.
She can also max the 403b at $20,500 (both 457 and 403b are from the same school employer)
On her Solo 401k, she can't contribute any deferral amount since the $20,500 deferral limit applies to all plans combined. But would have been able to contribute another $61,000 as employer-side contributions (assuming there's enough income).
But because of the weird 403(b) exception, the 403(b) from her employer counts towards the $61,000 limit from her own business, therefore she can only contribute $40,500 into her Solo 401k (which would require a minimum of $162,000 in income). Right?
$20,500+$20,500+$40,500 for a grand total of $81,500 not too bad! Thanks again.