Just going to chime in as contrarian to the two previous posters. Being not very excited about having a baby ("rather not") does not portend that you will be an unhappy parent or have an unhappy child (exceptions perhaps for if someone is really set against having children). I think more people in this day and age are nervous about having kids and recognize the tradeoffs, which may manifest as going along with a partner's choice but expressing hesitation (as you have). It is hard for many people to see all the great things that come with having a child, whereas the hard parts are more obvious. Thus, you have a better idea about what the joys of retirement might be than what the joys of parenthood might be, making that seem like the better choice. In sum, it is hard to predict how children will affect your life, but I don't agree that what you have said suggests that it is a terrible idea (though there may be other, unspoken reasons why it is a bad idea).