Hi, I am new here, and I cannot tell anyone in real life about how brave we were so I have come here, to tell people in the virtual world!
Mr Brave and I are very quiet non confrontational people. We have 3 adult children, all in their 20's. 2 very quiet non confrontational young people, and one lying bully. I have not told anyone in real life about what he is like, it seems so disloyal.
Lying Bully does what he wants, takes what he wants, he has a good job for a young chap, but spends his money on what he wants and uses emotional blackmail, lies and manipulation to get more money out of us. He destroys our stuff, in particular Mr Braves tools, and refuses to mend/replace them. The list goes on. If we remonstrate LB shouts at us, and tells us how hard it is for him and we don't understand. In his defence he has NEVER been physically violent. But he can shout us down and we cave in every-time. He has a stronger will than us, and he knows how to use it.
Until last week LB lived at home.
We asked him to leave.
We were very Brave and supported each other, and said we wanted him to go. We kept saying it. We didn't justify it, we just said we thought all of us would be happier if he tried living out.
We did help with the rent in advance and letting fees etc for his bedsit because he spends all his money and we wanted him to go!
He has been the biggest money drain ever, and now he has gone!
And now we can move on with our lives. We have so many plans, like paying the mortgage off before Mr Brave is 60, (it has been going backwards.....line of credit mortgage....since October 2015 LB has had over $8000 from us)and maybe going away without worry about what will have happened when we get back. (He promises not to have parties, but then does)
Mr Brave thinks we should change the locks, but I think that is a bit over the top!
He is my boy, and I do love him, but right now he is not a very nice young man.
So here I am! We are going to get everything sorted, spend nothing at all we don't have to and have fun doing what we want, which is to be FREE to do what we want. And all we want is to live quietly at home, garden, read books, play music and walk Brave Dog on the beach!
Mrs Brave