No great answers, but my husband and I have been looking too. Depends on exactly where you work and how you want to commute. We are NOT east bayers. Looking at Daly City, Brisbane, or Pacifica, which have lower prices because they are weirdly unpopular despite being crazy close to city. We work from home though, and thus don't need proximity to BART or Muni necessarily (though we still want it).
Also there are these really boring neighborhoods in outer sunset that can be surprisingly affordable too, again, because they're even farther from DT SF than Oakland is!
Farther out east bay like Richmond or Orinda may have much better deals if you're willing.