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Your post-FIRE life if you were single
« on: March 29, 2015, 09:31:57 AM »
As I read the posts by FIRE folks I see how many deeply enjoy the time to be with their partner. As someone who is single, I'm curious how you imagine your FIRE life would be if you were single (with no kids) - would you travel more? would you still live where you are? would you have more/less pets? Thanks for helping me visualize options for my FIRE life!
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Re: Your post-FIRE life if your were single
« Reply #1 on: March 29, 2015, 09:37:31 AM »
Posting to follow along, as another single pre-FIRE but possibly smoldering mustachian...

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« Reply #2 on: March 29, 2015, 09:56:09 AM »
More travel. More random volunteering. Also you have more options for cheap/unusual living situations if you don't have to get partner approval - ie. co-housing, tiny houses. Cheaper living expenses, depending on your theoretical partner. More random side-gigs (if you want to work). I'm hoping to pick up some house-sitting gigs.

Personally I don't like the responsibility/work of pets. They tie me down too much. But now I could foster cats where I couldn't before, as my ex was allergic to cats.

So much of this depends on your partner vs your single tastes. As a newly singled person I'm still figuring this stuff out. My ex husband would do all the driving when we'd travel. Now I have to decide if I want to drive myself (super stressful for me) or do different types of travel.

It's also cheaper for me to live singly, but that could be the opposite in the right relationship.

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« Reply #3 on: March 29, 2015, 04:40:21 PM »
If I were single and pet-free, I would be FIRE'd on a sailboat in the Caribbean.  My main activities would be coral reef diving, digital nature photography and fishing.  And probably blogging about it all.

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Re: Your post-FIRE life if your were single
« Reply #4 on: March 29, 2015, 04:45:26 PM »
As I read the posts by FIRE folks I see how many deeply enjoy the time to be with their partner. As someone who is single, I'm curious how you imagine your FIRE life would be if you were single (with no kids) - would you travel more? would you still live where you are? would you have more/less pets? Thanks for helping me visualize options for my FIRE life!

My FIRE plans would remain the same.

We're planning on traveling the world constantly.  If something were to happen to my wife, I would still do this.

If we were able to have kids first, I'd keep doing the same.  If we weren't, ditto.

I don't know that I'd be with someone that didn't have similar goals and dreams, personally.  So my SO wouldn't ever be a hindrance to FIRE plans, so FIRE plans remain the same with/without them.  I'm just glad she'll be there along with me!  :)
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« Reply #5 on: March 29, 2015, 04:50:08 PM »
My SO and I have spent many years apart in the past. Many of my trips are without him. Many of his are without me. We prefer to be together.

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« Reply #6 on: March 29, 2015, 10:15:41 PM »
Thank you arebelspy, Retired To Win and Kestra for sharing your thoughts about being single post-FIRE. I just read Tales of a Female Nomad and The Feast Nearby which got me to wondering about this question. I'm not ruling out being partnered in the future, but also don't want to depend on it happening.

arebelspy - do you plan to teach abroad or is the plan to no longer teach?

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« Reply #7 on: March 29, 2015, 11:53:19 PM »
On my own, I would be happy retiring to some...less developed locale. My partner depends more upon the comforts of American civilization, so my current plans involve staying there. As I would enjoy either plan, I don't consider him a "hindrance."

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« Reply #8 on: March 30, 2015, 12:34:22 AM »
arebelspy - do you plan to teach abroad or is the plan to no longer teach?

We have no plans of paid employment in the near future.

At some point we may teach, either as a fallback income plan or just for the pleasure of it (especially my wife, who feels like she may get bored at some point and want to teach for a year or two), but for now the plan is permanent ER.
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« Reply #9 on: March 30, 2015, 07:39:14 AM »
oh man, I don't like to think about this too much.  but basically, I'd be a vagabond.  I probably wouldn't stay in one place more than 3-4 months before I moved on to another, and it would be between mountains and beaches.  S.O. not nearly as adventurous (and doesn't have my wanderlust), so this won't happen, though FIRE should be some "FIRE-Lite" version of this.

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« Reply #10 on: March 30, 2015, 08:42:25 AM »
...if I had retired with no pets, I would have sold off everything I owned, the house, the car, and traveled full time for a few years (living in many different places as long, or as short, as I wanted) and would do as many adventurous and challenging thinks I could stand. Climb ALL the mountains, kayak ALL the rivers, hike ALL the trails, etc... :-)!

Would you be willing to share your solo travel wish list? (But only if it's a fun list to make/share.) I'm interested in what/where would make the cut.

I've done what you describe above twice in my life (except didn't have much stuff to sell) and don't regret either times (one of those was when I landed in the PNW - a very good move).
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« Reply #11 on: March 30, 2015, 08:45:49 AM »
oh man, I don't like to think about this too much.  but basically, I'd be a vagabond.  I probably wouldn't stay in one place more than 3-4 months before I moved on to another, and it would be between mountains and beaches.  S.O. not nearly as adventurous (and doesn't have my wanderlust), so this won't happen, though FIRE should be some "FIRE-Lite" version of this.

You might want to check out Tales of a Female Nomad - she does just that (moving from place to place) and has a great time, gets to know people, spends part of the year near her kids, etc. Might show your SO the attractive side of this way of life.

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« Reply #12 on: March 30, 2015, 08:49:40 AM »
I plan to FIRE single + dog (no kids). Looking forward to having a permanent home-base (I've been traveling/house-sitting for the past several years)....Plan to travel for ~3-4 months in the summer when the weather is miserable in FL, stay with family/friends in northern US/Canada...

I think this will be what I do as well - live two different places according to weather. I'm being priced out of my city (and don't care for city life) so not sure where I'll land. Good for you know you have a home base in your FL home.

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« Reply #13 on: March 30, 2015, 09:56:54 AM »
oh man, I don't like to think about this too much.  but basically, I'd be a vagabond.  I probably wouldn't stay in one place more than 3-4 months before I moved on to another, and it would be between mountains and beaches.  S.O. not nearly as adventurous (and doesn't have my wanderlust), so this won't happen, though FIRE should be some "FIRE-Lite" version of this.

You might want to check out Tales of a Female Nomad - she does just that (moving from place to place) and has a great time, gets to know people, spends part of the year near her kids, etc. Might show your SO the attractive side of this way of life.

Ugh, not available at my library. :( But her second book is there 'Female Nomad and Friends'. Hopefully it's just as good.

I'm 'single' when I fill out government forms, but I have a boyfriend. When I'm FIRE I'd like to travel like the description above. For the first couple years I imagine I will go back and forth between being close to my family in northern Canada in the summer (there is a family cabin there I can use for free), and in Phoenix with my boyfriend in the winter, and if I keep my house part way between the two, I'll spend time there too. I'd probably rent the main floor to trusted friends if possible, and keep the walkout basement suite available for when I need it. I could also rent one of the rooms in the basement. If it's not possible to rent to trusted people, I may just sell it.

I currently have a dog who is almost 6 years old. He loves road trips, but I will not get any more pets after he is gone so that I have more flexibility to travel. By the time I am FI he will either be old or gone. If I FI earlier than expected he will have no problem traveling around North America with me as described above.

Eventually I'd like to do Alaska to Argentina, then everywhere else.  Especially Asia, I haven't been to Asia yet. This may happen after boyfriend is also FI, or maybe he will decide he doesn't enjoy travel as much as I do. Time will tell.

I also picture having a small quiet and self-sufficient home base to return to. Somewhere with a garden, lots of land, and maybe dogs again if I feel like settling in one place for awhile (I'd like to adopt older dogs). Small house, large shop, and no neighbors within half a mile.

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I currently have a dog who is almost 6 years old. He loves road trips, but I will not get any more pets after he is gone so that I have more flexibility to travel. By the time I am FI he will either be old or gone. If I FI earlier than expected he will have no problem traveling around North America with me as described above.


ditto -- we have a large breed dog who is nearing the end of his life expectancy (but hopefully not too soon, because I love him more than words can express), and I suggested to my S.O. once that we probably shouldn't get another one because I'd like to travel a lot in retirement -- she didn't take that so well; said we have to have a dog because we are dog people . . .  so I have some work to do.

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I currently have a dog who is almost 6 years old. He loves road trips, but I will not get any more pets after he is gone so that I have more flexibility to travel. By the time I am FI he will either be old or gone. If I FI earlier than expected he will have no problem traveling around North America with me as described above.


ditto -- we have a large breed dog who is nearing the end of his life expectancy (but hopefully not too soon, because I love him more than words can express), and I suggested to my S.O. once that we probably shouldn't get another one because I'd like to travel a lot in retirement -- she didn't take that so well; said we have to have a dog because we are dog people . . .  so I have some work to do.

I'd highly recommend fostering dogs to have the best of both worlds. You don't have to pay for any of the costs and you don't have the long term commitment. But you get the love and benefits of having dogs around, plus you get to drastically improve their lives and their chances of being adopted into a forever home. Also, if you love puppies, you can choose to foster puppies. If you prefer older dogs you can decide to only foster older dogs. Big dogs, small dogs, whichever you want. If you like a challenge and prefer to have dogs for longer than a month or two, foster a hard to adopt dog who needs special care, either medically or behaviorally.

I know people have a hard time with the thought that you eventually need to say goodbye to the dog when they get adopted, but in my experience it's a small price to pay for the experiences they bring and the feeling I get knowing I've helped them get a better life.

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« Reply #16 on: March 31, 2015, 04:47:53 AM »
Single and no kids? I'd be travelling....a lot!

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« Reply #17 on: March 31, 2015, 05:15:10 AM »
I would spend:
* December-February in SE Asia (Thailand, Philippines, Malaysia, or Bali/traveling Indonesia depending on projects)
* March-May in Sicily and/or Greece
* June-August in various non-Schengen countries near the EU (ie Morocco, the UK, Turkey, depending on projects)
* Sept-Nov in Sicily and/Greece

Locations are chosen according to weather, (mostly) affordable off-peak travel, opportunities for art projects and art material research, and to make the most of my holiday rentals. Funny, today I'd been trying to imagine what I'd do if FI alone, wrote this down, felt better about my current situation, and later read your post.

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« Reply #18 on: April 01, 2015, 09:24:10 AM »
I'm hoping to FIRE in 18 months.  Right now here's my plan for the first year of FIRE:

* One month in US with family (no work)
* 5 months traveling by land from Gibralter to Cape Town via west Africa with Oasis Overland
* 2-3 months traveling South Africa & Lesotho
* 3 months in Madagascar
* 2-3 months island hopping Mauritius, Reunion & Seychelles
* One month back in the US with family.

This will be a fairly expensive year but I plan on making the next year much cheaper (slower travel, either in central america or eastern europe & caucasus or india & nepal).  I'm actually going to try for the 30 days or less in the US to avoid ACA but purchase an expat health insurance policy (which is about $200 a month).
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« Reply #19 on: April 01, 2015, 09:46:46 PM »
I would spend:
* December-February in SE Asia (Thailand, Philippines, Malaysia, or Bali/traveling Indonesia depending on projects)
* March-May in Sicily and/or Greece
* June-August in various non-Schengen countries near the EU (ie Morocco, the UK, Turkey, depending on projects)
* Sept-Nov in Sicily and/Greece

Locations are chosen according to weather, (mostly) affordable off-peak travel, opportunities for art projects and art material research, and to make the most of my holiday rentals. Funny, today I'd been trying to imagine what I'd do if FI alone, wrote this down, felt better about my current situation, and later read your post.

Thanks for the new term - "Schengen countries" (knew about it, but not what it was called).

Will it be hard to transport your art supplies or do you do more site-specific work? Would you return to the same places each year?
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« Reply #20 on: April 01, 2015, 09:54:57 PM »
I'm hoping to FIRE in 18 months.  Right now here's my plan for the first year of FIRE:
* One month in US with family (no work)
* 5 months traveling by land from Gibralter to Cape Town via west Africa with Oasis Overland
* 2-3 months traveling South Africa & Lesotho
* 3 months in Madagascar
* 2-3 months island hopping Mauritius, Reunion & Seychelles
* One month back in the US with family.


Wow - that an amazing itinerary! Looking at it I realized how differently people handle moving into their FIRE life
- You'll be hitting the road (after time with family)
- Jon Snow focused on getting healthy & fit
- Others have moved to PT work (even though they were FI) before proceeding to the RE part of FIRE

Do you envision continuing to do a lot of traveling after these first couple years of trips or do you have other things you'll focus on after the big trips?

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« Reply #21 on: April 01, 2015, 09:56:29 PM »
Single and no kids? I'd be travelling....a lot!

Solo travel? Or would you go with groups (or friends)?

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« Reply #22 on: April 02, 2015, 03:55:29 AM »
Single and no kids? I'd be travelling....a lot!

Solo travel? Or would you go with groups (or friends)?

Speaking hypothetically (because I'm not single and I have toddler), I'd mix it up.

I'm exceptionally lucky to have friends all over the world so I'd plan to visit them, do some solo travel and maybe an Intrepid trip here and there when I wanted the company and didn't want to deal with logistics. In fact many of the people I call my friends I've met on an Intrepid trip and stayed in touch. I might organise to travel with them since they are usually single women with a bad case of wanderlust like myself. They make good travelling companions.

As it stands, DH doesn't love to travel, so my most enjoyable trips have been with girlfriends or on my own. When our son is a bit older and we live close to his grandparents I might start going away on my own again. I feel like a piece of me is missing when I don't get to travel.

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« Reply #23 on: April 02, 2015, 04:59:27 AM »
I haven't traveled for more than 20 years, and suddenly in the next year I will do more international trips than I have ever done!

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« Reply #24 on: April 02, 2015, 12:04:45 PM »
I'm hoping to FIRE in 18 months.  Right now here's my plan for the first year of FIRE:
* One month in US with family (no work)
* 5 months traveling by land from Gibralter to Cape Town via west Africa with Oasis Overland
* 2-3 months traveling South Africa & Lesotho
* 3 months in Madagascar
* 2-3 months island hopping Mauritius, Reunion & Seychelles
* One month back in the US with family.


Wow - that an amazing itinerary! Looking at it I realized how differently people handle moving into their FIRE life
- You'll be hitting the road (after time with family)
- Jon Snow focused on getting healthy & fit
- Others have moved to PT work (even though they were FI) before proceeding to the RE part of FIRE

Do you envision continuing to do a lot of traveling after these first couple years of trips or do you have other things you'll focus on after the big trips?

I actually did the long term travel thing from age 31-33 and it's best not to plan too much in advance.  You meet people, you like places much more that you thought you would.  I my case, I cut 2 years of full on travel to 12 months full on travel + 1 month with family (wedding + traveling in the US, and reflecting on what I wanted to do with the next year of my life) + 7 months teaching english in Ecuador, which was one of my favorite spots from the prior year and I had made some good friends there.   One thing I learned about full on travel is that at some point it starts to feel tedious and then you want to settle down for awhile (In my case of a year, I spend a full month in two different places along the way which really helped).

That's one advantage of being single - you don't really need to plan  and you can  change your mind when you want.  I may choose to keep traveling, or settle down, or work or take classes or volunteer somewhere, or whatever.

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« Reply #25 on: April 04, 2015, 08:01:44 PM »
oh man, I don't like to think about this too much.  but basically, I'd be a vagabond.  I probably wouldn't stay in one place more than 3-4 months before I moved on to another, and it would be between mountains and beaches.  S.O. not nearly as adventurous (and doesn't have my wanderlust), so this won't happen, though FIRE should be some "FIRE-Lite" version of this.

And I thought it was just me lol

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« Reply #26 on: April 05, 2015, 01:21:26 AM »
As someone who is single, I'm curious how you imagine your FIRE life would be if you were single (with no kids)

To quote the wise philosopher Bender (of Futurama), “What I want, when I want, who I want.” Seriously, even pre-FIRE I enjoy being able to do whatever I want without having to seek any Significant Other's approval.

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« Reply #27 on: April 05, 2015, 05:37:26 AM »
My gf shares all the same hobbies and enjoys all the same travel as me. Whether it's hiking, mountain biking, camping, weightlifing, you name it. She's been doing all of these things with me the last several years I would have a hard time imagine having to do them solo.

That being said, I feel kids are what will put such a major damper on all those things for many years, and unfortunately I'm spending a lot of time working up until that point as well. I'm sure I will love children but still.

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« Reply #28 on: April 05, 2015, 05:11:46 PM »
As someone who is single, I'm curious how you imagine your FIRE life would be if you were single (with no kids)

To quote the wise philosopher Bender (of Futurama), “What I want, when I want, who I want.” Seriously, even pre-FIRE I enjoy being able to do whatever I want without having to seek any Significant Other's approval.

It is a beautiful thing. Perhaps more beautiful if two people are completely on the same page but this is rare indeed.

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« Reply #29 on: April 05, 2015, 08:05:24 PM »
Will it be hard to transport your art supplies or do you do more site-specific work? Would you return to the same places each year?

Good questions!

My main artform is portable/site-specific (19th-century photo process).

The plan would be to return to the same places each year, or every couple of years, building networks as we go. I'm/We're building towards this now: we have a (tiny, very cheap) home base in Sicily, another we'll renovate eventually in another town, I'm in the process of purchasing a studio in Athens now, with another planned in Palermo. These would either be holiday rentals or longer-term rentals to locals, we could stay in them - or not, depending on our tenant situation.

If I were to become single for some reason, the Schengen restrictions will apply; with DH as a UK citizen it's not such a concern.

@JoJo, what expat insurance are you considering which is a mere $200/month? That's a great rate!

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« Reply #30 on: April 05, 2015, 08:19:20 PM »
If I were single and pet-free, I would be FIRE'd on a sailboat in the Caribbean.  My main activities would be coral reef diving, digital nature photography and fishing.  And probably blogging about it all.

+1 .. I spent some time on tall-ships, and that would be a great life for a solo FIRE mustascian.. you volunteer your time with a vessel, get food and a bunk to sleep in, and you sail all the time and meet great people!

Some quick links that come to mind...
http://www.sailtraining.org/
www.kalmarnyckel.org
www.soic.se
http://www.picton-castle.com/
http://www.hermione2015.com/
http://www.sailbaltimore.org/ship-prideofbaltimoreii/ http://www.pride2.org/
http://historicalseaport.org/about-us/our-vessels/lady-washington/

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« Reply #31 on: April 05, 2015, 08:52:58 PM »
Single, free (though I do raise a kid), and I'm living my perfect life right now. It involves: daydreaming, drinking tea, working on projects, hanging with neighbours and friends, raising my kid, walking through quiet countryside, therapy, reading, helping neighbours with their physical projects (decluttering, gardening, etc), learning (lots on this forum, but also books, study groups, soon an art class), resting, and napping.

I think it helps that, although I'm definitely warm and sociable, I'm an introvert so my joy is high in solitude.

When my kid is grown, I will go to shamanism school, or university (probably business and marketing), or theological college, or do case advocacy for people marginalized by various circumstances. Or build, sponsor, and run a transition house.

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« Reply #32 on: April 05, 2015, 09:38:13 PM »
If I were single and pet-free, I would be FIRE'd on a sailboat in the Caribbean.  My main activities would be coral reef diving, digital nature photography and fishing.  And probably blogging about it all.

+1 .. I spent some time on tall-ships, and that would be a great life for a solo FIRE mustascian.. you volunteer your time with a vessel, get food and a bunk to sleep in, and you sail all the time and meet great people!

Some quick links that come to mind...
http://www.sailtraining.org/
www.kalmarnyckel.org
www.soic.se
http://www.picton-castle.com/
http://www.hermione2015.com/
http://www.sailbaltimore.org/ship-prideofbaltimoreii/ http://www.pride2.org/
http://historicalseaport.org/about-us/our-vessels/lady-washington/

Thank you! I love this idea!

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« Reply #33 on: April 05, 2015, 10:14:55 PM »
I actually did the long term travel thing [...] it's best not to plan too much in advance.  You meet people, you like places much more that you thought you would.

ha, yes! Twice I went someplace far away "for two weeks", emerging from it a year later :)    Another time I went somewhere far away "for, I guess, ever" and was done 5 months later. I learned to keep return flight/drive dates wide open.

Funny, although I'm totally fine with it (e.g., will go when a partner or kid wants to), I can't quite grasp the appeal of travel now. I think after some years of wandering near and far I hit saturation at one point and haven't craved it since. But after a year or two in a place, I do start itching to relocate (immerse in different aspects of the earth, meet new people, experience a new region's norms, etc). A partner or pet can interfere with that, but happily a kid doesn't, so I've continued that. I do feel some internal pressure to keep Kid connected with his relatives, so except for shorter trips have stayed somewhat near them since he was born, but we've still managed to pull off four relocations, a trip across the world, and many regional trips.

Most of my wanderings were done as a solo female.

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« Reply #34 on: April 23, 2015, 02:06:25 PM »
I've recently retired (Single, no kids but one older dog). I love him but it does hold me back on the travels. So for now I've been focusing on my health/fitness (Dropped almost 30 lbs since January). The only travels I've had are to family/friends houses. I told all my friends to keep me in mind if something is going on and give me at least a 3 days heads up so I can find a dog sitter, that gives me 2 days to drive anywhere (I'm pretty centralized in Kansas). I've already taken a few spur of the moment trips: like friends call me up hey come on over we have some meat in the smoker...ok I'll be there, give me a couple of hours for the drive. I also plan to make both my family reunions this year...this will be the first time in 20 some years.

After my DD (Dear Dog lol) goes then it's game on for travels. Still trying to decide if I want to sell the house or have a home base.

I'd like to find a SO or travel buddy but it's hard to find someone who is FI, single and adventurous. Until that happens I'm perfectly happy by myself.

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« Reply #35 on: April 23, 2015, 02:14:46 PM »
I've recently retired (Single, no kids but one older dog). I love him but it does hold me back on the travels. So for now I've been focusing on my health/fitness (Dropped almost 30 lbs since January). The only travels I've had are to family/friends houses. I told all my friends to keep me in mind if something is going on and give me at least a 3 days heads up so I can find a dog sitter, that gives me 2 days to drive anywhere (I'm pretty centralized in Kansas). I've already taken a few spur of the moment trips: like friends call me up hey come on over we have some meat in the smoker...ok I'll be there, give me a couple of hours for the drive. I also plan to make both my family reunions this year...this will be the first time in 20 some years.

After my DD (Dear Dog lol) goes then it's game on for travels. Still trying to decide if I want to sell the house or have a home base.

I'd like to find a SO or travel buddy but it's hard to find someone who is FI, single and adventurous. Until that happens I'm perfectly happy by myself.

DD! I love it. I'm in the same situation with the dog. Well, that and I'm not quite FIREd yet (hopefully just 27 more months). DD is 6 and going strong, so may have a few years left. After that I'll be your travel buddy.

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Re: Your post-FIRE life if your were single
« Reply #36 on: April 23, 2015, 02:38:59 PM »
oh man, I don't like to think about this too much.  but basically, I'd be a vagabond.  I probably wouldn't stay in one place more than 3-4 months before I moved on to another, and it would be between mountains and beaches.  S.O. not nearly as adventurous (and doesn't have my wanderlust), so this won't happen, though FIRE should be some "FIRE-Lite" version of this.

And I thought it was just me lol

I am another one in this pile.  My S.O. is not as adventurous as me.  If I make the plans she will go along with it, but she is not driven to new experiences and places like I am, so it means I am always dragging her along.  If I was single and FIRE, I would keep my possessions as light as possible and move around often.  If I felt like staying in a place for several years, I would, or if I wanted to move on quickly, I would do that too.  The logistics are much more complicated when its two people.

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« Reply #37 on: April 23, 2015, 07:19:32 PM »
Single, free (though I do raise a kid), and I'm living my perfect life right now. It involves: daydreaming, drinking tea, working on projects, hanging with neighbours and friends, raising my kid, walking through quiet countryside, therapy, reading, helping neighbours with their physical projects (decluttering, gardening, etc), learning (lots on this forum, but also books, study groups, soon an art class), resting, and napping.

I think it helps that, although I'm definitely warm and sociable, I'm an introvert so my joy is high in solitude.

When my kid is grown, I will go to shamanism school, or university (probably business and marketing), or theological college, or do case advocacy for people marginalized by various circumstances. Or build, sponsor, and run a transition house.

Wow, so cool scrubbyfish. I loved hearing about the ways in which you connect with community as well as ideas for the future. Hope your share some of those adventures with us!

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« Reply #38 on: April 24, 2015, 10:07:18 AM »
I'd go to India, study Sanskrit and smoke pot while contemplating the next step - or something in that vein.

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« Reply #39 on: April 24, 2015, 01:24:50 PM »

well, i am single; and now that i'm a mmm convert i imagine the women willing to agree the my minimalist lifestyle is a small pool.

if it am still at fire, i;ll be traveling all over the lower 48; sleeping in tents as much as possible. i know a mmm trait is to drop the car, but i'd like to be able to spend a week or two getting to know cities and scenic places all over the usa. like spending two weeks around asheville, nc or portland, or would be great; i hear they're great places to live and i've barely seen them.

not having a car limits that dream a lot.

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« Reply #40 on: April 24, 2015, 01:30:09 PM »
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« Reply #41 on: April 24, 2015, 01:56:34 PM »
I'm single (and love it!) and i plan to pour myself into my guitar playing, and would like to attend music college, and acquire a useless degree in jazz performance! :-D

Additional education I'd want to pursue is updating my web development skills and restart my Japanese and/or French study.

Travel wise, I'd love to see Europe. And meander about the USA (learn to RV?) -- see Alaska and Utah's southwestern parks. See upstate New York area in an unhurried fashion. Maybe bird watching in Costa Rica?

I enjoy solo travel, so being single is no obstacle. My pets, however, are! (Boarding bills ahoy).

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« Reply #42 on: April 24, 2015, 02:09:06 PM »
Honestly? Have sex with as many women from as many countries as I could.

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« Reply #43 on: April 24, 2015, 03:03:07 PM »
I've recently retired (Single, no kids but one older dog). I love him but it does hold me back on the travels. So for now I've been focusing on my health/fitness (Dropped almost 30 lbs since January). The only travels I've had are to family/friends houses. I told all my friends to keep me in mind if something is going on and give me at least a 3 days heads up so I can find a dog sitter, that gives me 2 days to drive anywhere (I'm pretty centralized in Kansas). I've already taken a few spur of the moment trips: like friends call me up hey come on over we have some meat in the smoker...ok I'll be there, give me a couple of hours for the drive. I also plan to make both my family reunions this year...this will be the first time in 20 some years.

After my DD (Dear Dog lol) goes then it's game on for travels. Still trying to decide if I want to sell the house or have a home base.

I'd like to find a SO or travel buddy but it's hard to find someone who is FI, single and adventurous. Until that happens I'm perfectly happy by myself.

DD! I love it. I'm in the same situation with the dog. Well, that and I'm not quite FIREd yet (hopefully just 27 more months). DD is 6 and going strong, so may have a few years left. After that I'll be your travel buddy.
My DD is also 6ish but she's my travel buddy now since I'm FIRE'd already. I just travel North America and I generally car/tent camp (occasional Motel 6's where there is no extra pet fee/night like most motels) and have both a bike trailer and a handlebar basket to put her in, as well as a backpack I carry her in if on long hikes when she gets tired. It can be VERY limiting though but still fun.  I was always planning on selling the house this Spring to travel full time WITH the dog, but after doing some multi-month long trips with her I think I really want a home base somewhere to come back to and chill for awhile. Probably save the full timing until after she is gone.

I have 4 extra bedrooms...Maybe we should spilt a home base??? :)

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Re: Your post-FIRE life if your were single
« Reply #44 on: April 26, 2015, 08:22:13 AM »
Thanks for the link to the Women on Wheels site! That's what I want to do, but I'll be in my 50s when I retire (if I'm lucky) and I just hope I feel up to it then (I wonder if I could do it now!) I have a 10+ yo dog, and I debate getting another dog--I'm 11.5 years away from FI (fingers crossed). Maybe a small dog I can take with me like somebody else mentioned. I'd like to bike all over the U.S. and at some point maybe take a cargo ship to Europe and bike there for a few months. Maybe I'll take a year or two to travel and then return home and get pets again? It's such a long way off, anything could happen.

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« Reply #45 on: April 26, 2015, 08:59:11 AM »
I've recently retired (Single, no kids but one older dog). I love him but it does hold me back on the travels. So for now I've been focusing on my health/fitness (Dropped almost 30 lbs since January). The only travels I've had are to family/friends houses. I told all my friends to keep me in mind if something is going on and give me at least a 3 days heads up so I can find a dog sitter, that gives me 2 days to drive anywhere (I'm pretty centralized in Kansas). I've already taken a few spur of the moment trips: like friends call me up hey come on over we have some meat in the smoker...ok I'll be there, give me a couple of hours for the drive. I also plan to make both my family reunions this year...this will be the first time in 20 some years.

After my DD (Dear Dog lol) goes then it's game on for travels. Still trying to decide if I want to sell the house or have a home base.

I'd like to find a SO or travel buddy but it's hard to find someone who is FI, single and adventurous. Until that happens I'm perfectly happy by myself.

DD! I love it. I'm in the same situation with the dog. Well, that and I'm not quite FIREd yet (hopefully just 27 more months). DD is 6 and going strong, so may have a few years left. After that I'll be your travel buddy.
My DD is also 6ish but she's my travel buddy now since I'm FIRE'd already. I just travel North America and I generally car/tent camp (occasional Motel 6's where there is no extra pet fee/night like most motels) and have both a bike trailer and a handlebar basket to put her in, as well as a backpack I carry her in if on long hikes when she gets tired. It can be VERY limiting though but still fun.  I was always planning on selling the house this Spring to travel full time WITH the dog, but after doing some multi-month long trips with her I think I really want a home base somewhere to come back to and chill for awhile. Probably save the full timing until after she is gone.

I have 4 extra bedrooms...Maybe we should spilt a home base??? :)
Ha ha - That's like a whole house each!! I have a 3 bedroom place I live in alone (it must be our ex's who needed all that space because minimalist me sure doesn't) so we'd have to rent out one and share the other. Lets see... where to live? A beach community in SoCal or somewhere in Kansas? Decisions, decisions :-)! Of course I'd love to be totally house-free but that won't happen yet like I had hoped and planned for. So the plan now is to downsize to something smaller (but have no idea where!) and just rent this time if possible - and to continue travelling part time from where ever that home base ends up being.
I bought it before I became so enlightened. Now I think about down sizing all the time but also don't know where to go. Playing V-ball on the beach in Socal sounds more my speed but would probably be double the cost. I'm leaning toward Arizona and Texas...but what I really need to do is go travel in a RV for a year just to see what I can discover. I just don't know if I want to do it by myself.

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Re: Your post-FIRE life if your were single
« Reply #46 on: April 26, 2015, 12:53:35 PM »
I've recently retired (Single, no kids but one older dog). I love him but it does hold me back on the travels...After my DD (Dear Dog lol) goes then it's game on for travels. Still trying to decide if I want to sell the house or have a home base...I'd like to find a SO or travel buddy but it's hard to find someone who is FI, single and adventurous. Until that happens I'm perfectly happy by myself.
DD! I love it. I'm in the same situation with the dog. Well, that and I'm not quite FIREd yet (hopefully just 27 more months). DD is 6 and going strong, so may have a few years left. After that I'll be your travel buddy.
My DD is also 6ish but she's my travel buddy now since I'm FIRE'd already...I was always planning on selling the house this Spring to travel full time WITH the dog, but after doing some multi-month long trips with her I think I really want a home base somewhere to come back to and chill for awhile. Probably save the full timing until after she is gone.
I have 4 extra bedrooms...Maybe we should spilt a home base??? :)
Ha ha - That's like a whole house each!! I have a 3 bedroom place I live in alone...so we'd have to rent out one and share the other. Lets see... where to live? A beach community in SoCal or somewhere in Kansas? Decisions, decisions :-)! Of course I'd love to be totally house-free but that won't happen yet like I had hoped and planned for. So the plan now is to downsize to something smaller (but have no idea where!) and just rent this time if possible - and to continue travelling part time from where ever that home base ends up being.

If it's in SoCal, count me in for a room and help with dogsitting since my idea of a great FIRE is gardening, writing and hanging out with dogs. :-)
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Re: Your post-FIRE life if your were single
« Reply #47 on: April 27, 2015, 08:44:48 AM »
Maybe we should start a "Home For Single Wayward Mustashians" :-)!

Yes, please! I plan to become wayward after my son finishes growing.

spartana, what about hosting via a housesitter/petsitter website? There's also Servas, etc, which are phenomenal, but for the latter you're supposed to be around, whereas the former allows you to take off. Win win. I've met some excellent people who work/travel through the housesitter/petsitter sites. They come with ratings and reviews -you can choose one with excellent reviews in abundance for your dog's care.

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« Reply #48 on: April 27, 2015, 09:44:54 AM »
Your situation sounds similar to mine, just replace dog with kid :)   So, not weird (to me) at all! My kid and I are perfectly happy to have a couple of days apart once in a while -and, more recently, even six days once or twice a year- but it would kill us to be separated for much longer. My kid travels extremely well, but it's so helpful for us to have a homebase to return to. When I'm done ("extroverted-out"), we just walk in to the quiet, stillness, simplicity. He can take off with friends. Etc. I don't want to own again, but situations like my current one -a small, cheap, perfect place in paradise- that I can return to is just right.

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« Reply #49 on: May 23, 2015, 08:20:45 PM »
I would also be doing some form of perpetual travel, maybe with a home base. Hard to know what else other than that.