Author Topic: Post-FI/RE - How do you answer the question "What do you do for a living?"  (Read 16216 times)

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In some cultural groups I have learned that what you do defines who you are.  "Retired" means you are either: 1) Too old to work, 2) Too sick to work, or 3) To stupid to work.

Since I do not want to be considered old, dumb or stupid will I need to have an appropriate "Career" response.  Portfolio Manager is a good response.  If pressed I can say it is a closed, private portfolio (my own) and not say anything more.

Or you could raise a finger to people that assume you're old, sick, or stupid and go find other people to hang out with that don't suck so much.  I hate, and can't abide by, societal expectations.

I feel that a friendlier, more accommodating approach gets me much further in life than copping a bad attitude.  Societal expectations are a big part of....society.

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In some cultural groups I have learned that what you do defines who you are.  "Retired" means you are either: 1) Too old to work, 2) Too sick to work, or 3) To stupid to work.

Since I do not want to be considered old, dumb or stupid will I need to have an appropriate "Career" response.  Portfolio Manager is a good response.  If pressed I can say it is a closed, private portfolio (my own) and not say anything more.

Or you could raise a finger to people that assume you're old, sick, or stupid and go find other people to hang out with that don't suck so much.  I hate, and can't abide by, societal expectations.

I feel that a friendlier, more accommodating approach gets me much further in life than copping a bad attitude.  Societal expectations are a big part of....society.

Heh, I didn't mean a literal finger.  Friendly until otherwise required.  But if you want to say retired, say retired.  If someone has an issue with it that's their problem not yours.  And if they think less of you for it, I would consider that an effective filter for people I don't need in my life.

Of course I say this as someone who will probably not use the term 'retired' if I FIRE before 50.  Not because I care what they think, just because I know I'll get sick of having the same discussion/argument over and over, unless it's someone I think could carry on a real conversation about it.  I will just say I'm between jobs but I work in whatever field I left, and if they ask about money I'll say I'm taking a break and living off savings for a while until I have to go back to work.  They don't need to know that will hopefully be never, and if they inquire later about how I'm still not working... 'Haven't run out of savings yet, I've been pretty frugal'

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But if you want to say retired, say retired.  If someone has an issue with it that's their problem not yours.  And if they think less of you for it, I would consider that an effective filter for people I don't need in my life.

Well put.

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But if you want to say retired, say retired.  If someone has an issue with it that's their problem not yours.  And if they think less of you for it, I would consider that an effective filter for people I don't need in my life.


Man this hits the nail on the head. Isn't this the whole point of FI. So you don't need to deal with people that look down on you for some bs reason or have their whole identity wrapped up in their job? So that you have the opportunity to choose how you spend your time and who you spend it with?
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