-I cannot use my laptop to send texts (links, pictures, etc) through my Iphone SE because of the walled garden. If I had an android phone this would work.
Linux and Android software to the rescue:
KDE ConnectFor WindowsFor GnomeFor iOSFor Android
A decent quality, refurb, business laptop where you can replace the battery and upgrade the RAM is going to be just as good as a macbook. And about a fifth of the price.
Thank you to everyone for your replies and insights. dave, I am probably going to do something like this.
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It's frustrating how much work the consumer NOW has to do to maintain their privacy WHILE acting as their own tech support since the big guys have crap/non-existent customer service. I would love a third option here, I know linux is the right directions but there are often trade-offs and limitations including more time required by the user to maintain the system/device, while I have plenty of free time, I've been using tech for so long I'm bored with doing my own tech-support like I used to, it just becomes a chore/burden that limits my enjoyment of using said equip.
Used/refurbished SMB/Enterprise laptops from the likes of Dell and Lenovo are where it's at. Makes it easier to avoid exotic hardware like Nvidia GPUs and Broadcom WiFi chipsets that still can cause headaches under Linux.
As for Linux distros, I've been through this song and dance recently after abandoning Linux after more than a decade running it exclusively on my desktop for Windows 10 given I wanted stuff to just work and Windows 10 was that answer when desktop Linux was getting really messy. (Used to use and recommend Debian/Ubuntu, then recommended Arch/Manjaro, but even that grew old.) After coming back to Linux and distro hopping/tire kicking for months recently, I'd about given up and figured I'd have to embrace Windows 11 for better or worse. Repository hell and the prevalence of Gnome really took the wind out of me, figuring that desktop Linux just wouldn't work... then I discovered that something I advocated for two decades ago was finally happening in the Linux world: immutable, semi-rolling release operating systems. The core OS is locked down, standardized, and made read only.
Fedora has come a long way toward being low maintenance and user friendly becoming the upstream for RHEL (enough that Linux Torvalds himself, notorious curmudgeon and easy usability fan switched to it as his distro of choice), and RedHat's gone bleeding edge and have their own version of immutable system called
CoreOS, built with
OSTree, which brings GIT versioning to core OS files. It takes a minute or two to wrap your mind around how everything works compared to the old ways, and it's not the best solution for people who need a lot of custom command line tools and can't get 95+% of all the software they need off of
Flatpak, but if you can and once you do, it's amazing. Stuff just works.
Fedora today is where Ubuntu should have been already... basically a versioned six-month rolling release at this point (best of both stable and current). OSTree is bulletproof, and both their Gnome (
Silverblue) and KDE (
Kinoite) builds are well rounded, stock, and very complete. Flatpak as a packaging system to an immutable OS is far superior and far less bloated than Snap, and provides sandboxing and granular access controls to the apps themselves. Between OSTree's auto upgrade system and Flatpak, once I understood how it worked and what I actually needed, I can do a clean OS install with all software needed in under an hour. Of all the immutable distros I tried, the learning curve was the shortest and easiest to pick up with OSTree/Fedora after a single afternoon for the core stuff. The installs are stable, (again)
bulletproof, and even if something breaks during an install, recovery is trivial. If set up right, it can be as appliance-like as ChromeOS, and comes the closest I've ever seen to the mythical perfect grandma box.
This said, default KDE on a decent distro really leans into the decades of Windows UI/UX experience. Much like macOS, you gotta learn how to do things their way with Gnome, and that learning curve is steep and deeply counterintuitive to the way most people have learned to use a desktop computer. Extra points to KDE Plasma being even lighter on system resources than XFCE these days. Default Kinoite/Wayland desktop at idle weighs in under 1.4GiB.
As for phones? If you're fine with Android but not with Google, look into
GrapheneOS,
CalyxOS, and
/e/OS. Paired with the right hardware, it's a great combo and decent alternative to the quality/experience you get with modern feature phones running KaiOS.
That's all I got.