Good discussion points Norajean and Malkynn!
Norajean- you are not wrong BUT, Malkynn has good points in response. I often feel frustrated because the S/O works and I want to tear off into the world and become a bit nomadic/move to a place more conducive to our lifestyle (less traffic, more nature, better hiking trails etc.) but the S/O wants to put in a few more years at her current location. She's in healthcare office management and wants to wait until a couple of her docs retire before she's ready/willing to leave that location.
That means I sometimes feel "stuck". That led to me getting the work from home job (it's not work, not in any real sense) BUT, with the extreme flexibility it offers and my "FU money", it means I can do the job in my own way and, if the employer doesn't appreciate my performance, we can part ways, no harm no foul. Still, there are days I resent not being as "Free" or flexible as the dual FIRE folks we often hear about. I'm working on that though, realizing that my pessimistic POV and baseline level of happiness will often cause me to find fault no matter my situation.
I think the key thing is to seek peace and contentment no matter the situation BUT, it's easier to do when you HAVE to do something/be somewhere. Example, I served a year in Afghanistan, in tight spots, dirty conditions, small areas etc. I was able to endure and smile through the entire process as I made a choice to be there. In my current situation, it feels (at times) like the choice isn't mine, that's the tough part of it. To counter-act that, I realize that I made other choices that "put me here" and I try to come to terms with those choices and look to the future of freedom, I'm young, there is time and my "situation" is so laughably "good" I often feel guilty about not being "MR. Rodgers" every day...
All that said, the S/O is growing weary of her work-place and the added constraints placed by the corporate side of the house, I suspect our "next move" may come sooner than we think, I just hope that after our agreed upon 3-5 years of her doing what she's doing, she doesn't move the goalpost on us and want to go "just a little longer" my patience will be tried at that point.
Until the next fork in the road comes, I continue to take days to myself, take short trips alone (spent two days on the AT last month) and/or we take more trips together, shorter in duration than a traditional vacation but still enough to get her out of the office and me out of the house, we'll continue in this manner, as Malkynn said, working out our own process, continuing to save more for eventual "Full FIRE" and doing what works for us, if only I can be patient in all of this...