Everyone can use this forum as long as they follow the rules.
The forum is a part of the society in which we live and is therefore a part of the patriarchy. That's unavoidable. Basically, if you live here, you breathe in all the racism, sexism and every other bias that permeates our air.
We keep it from turning into a tool of the patriarchy by making sure that we acknowledge the existence of sexism and its effects on our society. We should not pretend that sexism does not exist, nor pretend that men are not advantaged in our society. We should know that women who reach the same level of achievement that men reach generally had to scale a number of extra barriers to get there.
By acknowledgement of those simple, obvious facts about our society, we make this forum a more open and welcoming place for everyone to learn about and discuss financial independence. If we pretend sexism doesn't exist, or constantly demand some absurd level of proof regarding something so obvious, we'd make half the population feel like outsiders, and I have no desire to do that.
Toque.
You haven't stated one fact at all. You've stated your highly left wing opinion and tried to state it as a fact. It's not a fact. Prove anything that you stated.
You want some fucking facts? I'll add to what Cressida wrote:
Women are routinely fired while on maternity leave.
https://www.cnn.com/2018/02/01/health/fired-pregnant-parenting-strauss/index.htmlWomen are routinely not hired while of child-bearing age.
https://www.theguardian.com/money/2014/aug/12/managers-avoid-hiring-younger-women-maternity-leaveWomen are routinely ridiculed for not changing their last names upon marriage (Oh, you're one of *those*?)
https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/it-s-man-s-and-woman-s-world/201809/should-women-change-their-name-when-they-get-marriedWomen are routinely offered less money for the same position, despite having the same resume. (We've done tests when we submit the same resumes to prospective employers and just swap the gender of the names)
https://blogs.scientificamerican.com/unofficial-prognosis/study-shows-gender-bias-in-science-is-real-heres-why-it-matters/https://www.nysscpa.org/news/publications/the-trusted-professional/article/woman-who-switched-to-man%27s-name-on-resume-goes-from-0-to-70-percent-response-rate-060816Women ask for raises as often as men, but it doesn't pay off
https://hbr.org/2018/06/research-women-ask-for-raises-as-often-as-men-but-are-less-likely-to-get-themGirls are routinely steered toward lower paying careers and told they can't do math.
Elementary school teachers are usually women because babies.
High school teachers are usually men because it's so serious at higher levels.
Women are routinely interrupted in meetings.
https://www.advisory.com/daily-briefing/2017/07/07/men-interrupting-womenWomen routinely have their ideas stolen in meetings, then credited to the men who repeat them.
Trans people frequently tell us how their opinions are more respected when they switch to male, and less respected when they switch to female.
Women are frequently gaslit into thinking they don't have real problems by arrogant men who demand mathematical levels of proof for their everyday experiences.
But I see that you like anecdotes, so let's try some anecdotes as regards the idea that feminists have all the power in our society.
Brock Turner was caught raping an unconscious women behind a dumpster. He was sentenced to SIX MONTHS in jail and only served THREE, since the judge didn't want to ruin his life.
Bill Clinton undoubtedly sexually harassed several women and his career was fine.
Donald Trump clearly, by his own admission, sexually assaulted dozens of teen girls by walking into their dressing room. He's doing fine.
Rehtaeh Parsons rapists photographed themselves raping her, but the RCMP didn't feel like investigating, questioning them or examining their phones.
CNN anchors lament how bad it's going to be for two football playing rapists, because their raping of an unconscious girl is going to follow them around forever.
https://www.thedailybeast.com/cnn-feels-sorry-for-steubenville-rapists-world-cant-believe-its-earsOh, but the slightest tinge of accusation destroys a man?
In. What. Fucking. World?
I don't know where you're living, but we're all getting tired of this. The facts are there for anyone with an open mind, which you clearly don't have.
I, specifically, am getting tired of this sort of thing on the forum.
Sexism exists.
It permeates our entire world.
It is as obvious to an unbiased observer as the rotation of the planet, the changing of the climate and greenness of the grass.
It starts with the giant contradictory list of actions a woman must take and not take to avoid rape, lest we all blame her (You stayed out past 11pm? You were alone with a man you'd only met 3 times before? You didn't have a buddy system, a rape whistle, three male relatives and a pitbull accompanying you? Well, then, you must have wanted it!)
It goes on through the suicides of men who feel they aren't manly enough because they have emotions they aren't allowed to name and get weary of having to constantly perform the masculinity that society demands of them.
It ends with having this same conversation, over and over again, with people like you who stubbornly demand that the grass might be teal, it's cold outside today so global warming is fake, and maybe the earth is flat and NASA faked the moon landing.
Enough is enough. The facts are before you and obvious.
Toque.