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kjulez_83

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Thoughts on co-housing?
« on: February 14, 2017, 04:44:44 AM »
Hi. I'm interested if anyone likes the idea of co-housing? I saw this Ted Talk on it http://www.ted.com/talks/courtney_martin_the_new_american_dream/transcript?language=en on it and I was like I WISH I could live like that. I have researched it a bit in my city and found one group that is looking to start it but it is pretty hard practically to set up and I would worry that I would not like the people I'm co-housing with or something. Not that I wouldn't like them, but that they wouldn't be "my sort of people" (I'm a bit of a hippy but really I have a lot of conventionality built into me too).

Maybe it would just be better if you could find a nice street to live in with neighbourly people, that sure would be a lot easier but without quite as much benefits. Just wondering what other Mustachians thought of this idea of co-housing?

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Re: Thoughts on co-housing?
« Reply #1 on: February 14, 2017, 06:10:36 AM »
Most cohousing communities have guest or trial programs where you can test it out or stay shorter term. Have you looked into that?

In my post-college days, I lived at several co-housing communities this way in Arizona and North Carolina. Ultimately wasn't for me. The cost was fairly high too.

I'm also a bit of a hippy/greenie but with a lot of conventionality, and I'm very happy in my nice walkable community with pleasant neighbors and lower cost of living.

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Re: Thoughts on co-housing?
« Reply #2 on: February 14, 2017, 08:45:57 AM »
Been on the edges / early part of several co-housing groups: at the time pricing and sub-optimal design / site decisions meant I didn't pursue this further. 

DH would be good in a group; I'm less sanguine and tend to see 'what's wrong' with any idea, so not sure others would appreciate the counter perspectives.

Haha, come over here and sit by me, I am such as naysayer in my neighborhood about "new ideas" because guess what, they are never new and often are not workable.

Just last week an enthusiastic young neigubor went off on a crime fighting riff about "what if we close our neighborhoods's streets? We could make them key entry only! They do that in the West End!"

Incredulous, I said "dude, no. These are public streets. We have no right just to close up public street.  Umm, just--no!" But he went on for a bit.

Agh, the Idea People. Give me a drink to handle them.

I have already determined that cohousing would mke my head explode.

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Re: Thoughts on co-housing?
« Reply #3 on: February 14, 2017, 09:17:50 AM »
So what is interesting to you about co-housing? If you feel concerned about who you would end up living with, why not create your own co-housing situation? Buy a house with several bedrooms/bathrooms and rent out the bedrooms to people you like or who are like you. You will then be in charge of who is in your co-housing group. Try to find people who are looking for a long term situation such as co-housing so you don't feel like you are in a rooming house.

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Re: Thoughts on co-housing?
« Reply #4 on: February 15, 2017, 04:06:57 AM »
What is interesting to me about co-housing is the village feel. Like the whole it takes a village to raise a family thing, I would love to have babysitters on hand if I had to duck to the doctors or supermarket or something and I would be glad to do the same for others when I was home. The sharing of chores and resources and occasional meals, having big cooking days, I love the whole concept.

My husband I don't think would like it so much - especially not renting out rooms to people, he is too private! We usually keep to ourselves a lot because we are both introverts and not that good at making friends with random strangers. But for instance when we have been on overseas tours and stuff where we have a reason to talk to people (because we are all the part of the same group) we do like socialising and making friends.

I think in reality what would be good for us just a street with young like-minded people but it's just so hard to know these things! Before you buy a house you don't exactly get to meet and vet the neighbours.

Oh well, its all just a pipe dream anyway like pretty much any of my other ideas that involve moving - because my DH is not really interested in moving *sigh*

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Re: Thoughts on co-housing?
« Reply #5 on: February 15, 2017, 04:35:09 AM »
Kjulez_83, I recently moved into a cohousing community. I first read about the idea in Your Money or Your Life and thought it sounded ideal. I haven't been here long enough to really know what it's like (vs those who have lived here for years), especially the cons, but can already feel the benefits.

I'm a single parent of two, so community is important to me. There are older teens around to babysit, or other parents to swap kids with. When I'm out of something while cooking, easy enough to see if a neighbor has it, so I wouldn't need to run to the store last minute, which logistically is a bit hard for me.

Another benefit is I would be able to buy a much smaller condo than if not in a community, due to availability of shared areas and resources. I like the idea of a large yard, but not so much the maintenance on my own, so having large shared space suits me. Condo fees are similar to other condos, but the smaller home size means lower expenses in general.

I'm highly introverted and from talking to people, there's a good number of introverts in cohousing! I retreat when I need to. My children are (so far) extroverts and they love having people around all the time.

People have expressed frustration over their interaction with others. Can't be avoided when living closely with other people. At the same time, people make an effort because they want to be in cohousing.






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kjulez_83

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Re: Thoughts on co-housing?
« Reply #6 on: February 15, 2017, 04:57:10 AM »
That's really cool Catan, I hope it works out for you, so far so good for you by the sounds of things!

Thanks for your perspective :)

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Re: Thoughts on co-housing?
« Reply #7 on: February 16, 2017, 09:15:27 PM »
I am in love with this idea! It has a lot of potential and would be fantastic, in my opinion.

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