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Title: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on June 26, 2015, 08:44:07 AM
http://www.supremecourt.gov/opinions/14pdf/14-556_3204.pdf

The right to marry is a fundamental right inherent in the liberty of the person, and under the Due Process and Equal Protection Clauses of the Fourteenth Amendment couples of the same-sex may not be deprived of that right and that liberty. Same-sex couples may exercise the fundamental right to marry.

The Fourteenth Amendment requires States to recognize same-sex marriages validly performed out of State. Since same-sex couplesmay now exercise the fundamental right to marry in all States, there is no lawful basis for a State to refuse to recognize a lawful same-sexmarriage performed in another State on the ground of its same-sexcharacter.


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Also, for those nit pickers, I'm aware I was copying from the syllabus :)
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: OttoVonBisquick on June 26, 2015, 08:47:26 AM
Saw this bit of news from a friend of mine. What a great day for the US, and about time, too.

I had no idea we were even close to making this any sort of reality.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on June 26, 2015, 08:51:23 AM
Congratulations America!

I will admit to formerly being prejudiced against individuals with a same-sex orientation. I am embarrassed at my old, uninformed, and wrongheaded perspective. I have been amazed at how quickly the nation has undergone the same transformation that I had. I'm very proud of us today. We finally did something that should have been done a long time ago. But our ability to change for the better, even if stubbornly slow, is one of the best features of our nation. I know that many people are not on board with this decision yet. But I also know that those fears and prejudices will fade with time.

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The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends towards justice.

― Martin Luther King Jr.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: GuitarStv on June 26, 2015, 08:56:19 AM
Did anyone really think they would rule otherwise?
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: I'm a red panda on June 26, 2015, 09:03:15 AM
Did anyone really think they would rule otherwise?

I'm kind of surprised Roberts is the writer of the dissenting opinion. I really figured that he wouldn't want to be on the wrong side of history with this one.  Of course, in history he will get credit for the judgement because "his" court made the decision.

But yes, some of this court's decisions have been very questionable- so I thought that the dissenting opinion (which was basically "we aren't making a judgement about gay marriage, we are judging whether we can tell states how to define marriage") had a very good chance of being the majority opinion.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: OttoVonBisquick on June 26, 2015, 09:13:14 AM
Did anyone really think they would rule otherwise?

I'm kind of surprised Roberts is the writer of the dissenting opinion. I really figured that he wouldn't want to be on the wrong side of history with this one.  Of course, in history he will get credit for the judgement because "his" court made the decision.

But yes, some of this court's decisions have been very questionable- so I thought that the dissenting opinion (which was basically "we aren't making a judgement about gay marriage, we are judging whether we can tell states how to define marriage") had a very good chance of being the majority opinion.

Yeah, it wasn't a landslide voting, but quite a close call. And, also, ya know, we *did* used to classify homosexuality as a mental disorder not so many decades ago, and bigotry is still at large among massive amounts of the population, so it's not like they were the last ones to give in to a sweeping overwhelming movement, although it is certainly the correct decision.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: trailrated on June 26, 2015, 09:19:16 AM
So I am a Republican who is totally for gay marriage, and I applaud the decision of the court.

I am wondering where this moves the debate (if there even can be one) in the future or at the very least for this coming election cycle amongst the Republican contenders.

Is there a point where they do not have to cater to the hard core religious right on this issue because it is already settled, or am I just being naive and hopeful.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: CheapskateWife on June 26, 2015, 09:23:41 AM
So I am a Republican who is totally for gay marriage, and I applaud the decision of the court.

I am wondering where this moves the debate (if there even can be one) in the future or at the very least for this coming election cycle amongst the Republican contenders.

Is there a point where they do not have to cater to the hard core religious right on this issue because it is already settled, or am I just being naive and hopeful.

Take a look at how Rowe V. Wade has been marginalized in many states with what many (including me) view as unconstitutional laws that intentionally limit access to healthcare for women, and you have your answer.  I think this is not the end of the discussion nor the far Right's fight against equality for everyone.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: trailrated on June 26, 2015, 09:29:10 AM
So I am a Republican who is totally for gay marriage, and I applaud the decision of the court.

I am wondering where this moves the debate (if there even can be one) in the future or at the very least for this coming election cycle amongst the Republican contenders.

Is there a point where they do not have to cater to the hard core religious right on this issue because it is already settled, or am I just being naive and hopeful.

Take a look at how Rowe V. Wade has been marginalized in many states with what many (including me) view as unconstitutional laws that intentionally limit access to healthcare for women, and you have your answer.  I think this is not the end of the discussion nor the far Right's fight against equality for everyone.

Sadly I started thinking about the same thing after I hit the "post" button. I wish there was a better outlet or group that I could identify with that is a strange mix of political beliefs that fits more with my ideals and leaves out the craziness I see in the hard core religious right.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on June 26, 2015, 09:30:54 AM
So I am a Republican who is totally for gay marriage, and I applaud the decision of the court.

I am wondering where this moves the debate (if there even can be one) in the future or at the very least for this coming election cycle amongst the Republican contenders.

Is there a point where they do not have to cater to the hard core religious right on this issue because it is already settled, or am I just being naive and hopeful.

Take a look at how Rowe V. Wade has been marginalized in many states with what many (including me) view as unconstitutional laws that intentionally limit access to healthcare for women, and you have your answer.  I think this is not the end of the discussion nor the far Right's fight against equality for everyone.

Judge Moore (Chief Justice of the Alabama Supreme Court) has already said that prior federal court rulings on this issue do not apply to Alabama and has prohibited officials from issuing same-sex marriage licenses--in open violation of the federal court ruling. He said something like federal courts don't have any jurisdiction over Alabama. Which should be impeachible on the grounds of incompetence...
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: trailrated on June 26, 2015, 09:35:07 AM
So I am a Republican who is totally for gay marriage, and I applaud the decision of the court.

I am wondering where this moves the debate (if there even can be one) in the future or at the very least for this coming election cycle amongst the Republican contenders.

Is there a point where they do not have to cater to the hard core religious right on this issue because it is already settled, or am I just being naive and hopeful.

Take a look at how Rowe V. Wade has been marginalized in many states with what many (including me) view as unconstitutional laws that intentionally limit access to healthcare for women, and you have your answer.  I think this is not the end of the discussion nor the far Right's fight against equality for everyone.

Judge Moore (Chief Justice of the Alabama Supreme Court) has already said that prior federal court rulings on this issue do not apply to Alabama and has prohibited officials from issuing same-sex marriage licenses--in open violation of the federal court ruling. He said something like federal courts don't have any jurisdiction over Alabama. Which should be impeachible on the grounds of incompetence...

Technically it does not fully go into effect for about another three weeks
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The ruling will not take effect immediately because the court gives the losing side roughly three weeks to ask for reconsideration.
However, anyone going out of their way to make it more difficult for people to do something that is (going to be) within the law is bullshit and I agree with you.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: MoneyCat on June 26, 2015, 09:38:45 AM
Congratulations America!

I will admit to formerly being prejudiced against individuals with a same-sex orientation. I am embarrassed at my old, uninformed, and wrongheaded perspective. I have been amazed at how quickly the nation has undergone the same transformation that I had. I'm very proud of us today. We finally did something that should have been done a long time ago. But our ability to change for the better, even if stubbornly slow, is one of the best features of our nation. I know that many people are not on board with this decision yet. But I also know that those fears and prejudices will fade with time.

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The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends towards justice.

― Martin Luther King Jr.

I also was really homophobic when I was younger and it embarrasses me to think about it.  People grow and learn, though, and that's exactly what happened to the United States as a nation.  As much as we still struggle over issues of Civil Rights, Americans are becoming better people all the time.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on June 26, 2015, 09:42:17 AM
So I am a Republican who is totally for gay marriage, and I applaud the decision of the court.

I am wondering where this moves the debate (if there even can be one) in the future or at the very least for this coming election cycle amongst the Republican contenders.

Is there a point where they do not have to cater to the hard core religious right on this issue because it is already settled, or am I just being naive and hopeful.

Take a look at how Rowe V. Wade has been marginalized in many states with what many (including me) view as unconstitutional laws that intentionally limit access to healthcare for women, and you have your answer.  I think this is not the end of the discussion nor the far Right's fight against equality for everyone.

Judge Moore (Chief Justice of the Alabama Supreme Court) has already said that prior federal court rulings on this issue do not apply to Alabama and has prohibited officials from issuing same-sex marriage licenses--in open violation of the federal court ruling. He said something like federal courts don't have any jurisdiction over Alabama. Which should be impeachible on the grounds of incompetence...

Technically it does not fully go into effect for about another three weeks
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The ruling will not take effect immediately because the court gives the losing side roughly three weeks to ask for reconsideration.
However, anyone going out of their way to make it more difficult for people to do something that is (going to be) within the law is bullshit and I agree with you.

Just to clarify, Moore's actions were in response to a prior federal court ruling earlier this year that pertained to Alabama specifically. Moore's actions were clearly illegal. The federal court had ruled. I do not know what Moore will do going forward now that SCOTUS has ruled, further enforcing the right to marry in Alabama.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: trailrated on June 26, 2015, 09:44:59 AM
So I am a Republican who is totally for gay marriage, and I applaud the decision of the court.

I am wondering where this moves the debate (if there even can be one) in the future or at the very least for this coming election cycle amongst the Republican contenders.

Is there a point where they do not have to cater to the hard core religious right on this issue because it is already settled, or am I just being naive and hopeful.

Take a look at how Rowe V. Wade has been marginalized in many states with what many (including me) view as unconstitutional laws that intentionally limit access to healthcare for women, and you have your answer.  I think this is not the end of the discussion nor the far Right's fight against equality for everyone.

Judge Moore (Chief Justice of the Alabama Supreme Court) has already said that prior federal court rulings on this issue do not apply to Alabama and has prohibited officials from issuing same-sex marriage licenses--in open violation of the federal court ruling. He said something like federal courts don't have any jurisdiction over Alabama. Which should be impeachible on the grounds of incompetence...

Technically it does not fully go into effect for about another three weeks
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The ruling will not take effect immediately because the court gives the losing side roughly three weeks to ask for reconsideration.
However, anyone going out of their way to make it more difficult for people to do something that is (going to be) within the law is bullshit and I agree with you.

Just to clarify, Moore's actions were in response to a prior federal court ruling earlier this year that pertained to Alabama specifically. Moore's actions were clearly illegal. The federal court had ruled. I do not know what Moore will do going forward now that SCOTUS has ruled, further enforcing the right to marry in Alabama.

Thanks, I should have looked into it more before posting right away. :)
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Erica/NWEdible on June 26, 2015, 09:51:46 AM
Did anyone really think they would rule otherwise?
The last 15 years haven't been good for lovers of individual liberty in the U.S., so...you know...crap shoot. I'm so glad for this ruling.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: trailrated on June 26, 2015, 09:57:41 AM
I guess this is how I hoped it would go (minus the last sentence). The Onion is amazing.

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http://www.theonion.com/article/nations-homophobic-bigots-pack-it-50766
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Cathy on June 26, 2015, 10:01:15 AM
The legal basis for the suggestion that the decision does not take effect immediately is Supreme Court Rule 45 (https://www.law.cornell.edu/rules/supct/rule_45)(2), which provides that the formal mandate will not generally issue until 25 days after the decision, unless the parties agree otherwise. Rule 45(3) says that when reviewing an order of a federal court, no formal mandate will actually issue, but that Rule 45(2) otherwise applies. The exact meaning of these rules is pretty unclear in this context.

The "mandate" of a Court is a name for its formal order, directing the parties on exactly what to do in response to the decision. In Canada, the term "reasons for judgment" is sometimes used for the opinion, while the mandate itself is strictly called the "judgment". However, those terms are a bit misleading because the general rule is that (in the absence of a rule of court that says otherwise), the reasons for judgment are self-executing even if never memorialised into a formal mandate. Although that's already the default rule, some courts choose to affirm it explicitly in their rules. For example, Rule 9.6 (https://www.canlii.org/en/ab/laws/regu/alta-reg-124-2010/) of the Alberta Rules of Court says that the judgment of the Court comes into effect on the date of pronouncement, whether or not the mandate has been formally issued. Rule 45 of the US Supreme Court apparently takes a different approach, but the exact legal effect here is unclear.

As mentioned, there will not be any physical mandate in this case because it was a federal case and Rule 45(3) dispenses with formal mandates in such cases. However, if there were a formal mandate, it would not say anything like "every state must now licence marriages without regard to sex", because that's merely the reasoning behind the judgment; it's not the judgment itself. The mandate, if one existed, would be limited solely to: "The judgment of the Sixth Circuit Court of Appeals is hereby reversed." That is the only order whose issuance Rule 45(2) is arguably delaying by 25 days.

But what is the legal effect of reversing the judgment of the Sixth Circuit? To understand that, we have to take a step back and understand what the mandate of that Court would have been. The procedural history of the case is that the plaintiffs filed suit in various district courts to obtain recognition of their own marriages. The district courts ruled in favour of plaintiffs and issued various injunctions to compel such recognition. On appeal, the Sixth Circuit reversed those effects, and the sole provision of its mandate in each case would be something to the effect of: "The judgment of the district court is reversed, and the injunctions are vacated." When the theoretical Supreme Court mandate issues in 25 days, the order of the Sixth Circuit will be reversed, which means that those injunctions will be restored, and the officials in the specific states involved in the case will be compelled by court order to give recognition to marriages according to the terms of the injunction. However, that only applies to the states actually involved in the case (not every case in the country), and generally only according to the terms of the injunctions which may not include every couple in the state.

However, now that the Supreme Court has declared of the land, there is no rule that requires a state official to wait to be enjoined to act in accordance with the law. In other words, states are free to comply with the law as declared herein even if no injunction compels them to do so. The law takes effect immediately; the only thing delayed is the injunctions to specific state officials in the states actually party to the case.

Some states in the US were not parties to the case. For those states, nothing interesting will occur in 25 days. The state officials will instead decide (at any time) whether to follow the law or not. If they decide to follow it, they need not wait for the formal mandate of the Court, which has no direct relevance to their state; instead, they can follow it at any time. If they decline to follow it, affected couples will need to separately seek injunctions in courts in their own states; the mandate of the Supreme Court in this case will not have that effect by itself.

As I mentioned, the text and effect of Rule 45 is far from clear, especially as it applies to federal court review. As a result, it has been sometimes interpreted as not even delaying the effective date of the reversal of the court of appeals. For example, consider the case of Hollingsworth v. Perry, popularly known as the proposition 8 case. The district court judge in that case ordered state officials to comply with certain injunctions. That order was stayed pending review. The reasons for judgment of the Supreme Court, affirming the decision of the district judge, were released on June 26, 2013. A mere two days later on June 28, 2013, the Ninth Circuit dissolved the stay and brought the district court's injunctions into effect immediately: Perry v. Hollingworth (Doc #432 (http://sblog.s3.amazonaws.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/06/Prop.-8-CA-order-6-28-13.pdf)). The supporters of proposition 8 filed papers in the Supreme Court asking it reverse the Ninth Circuit on the basis that since no hypothetical mandate had yet issued, the Ninth Circuit lacked authority to vacate the stay, but Kennedy J denied that motion without reasons on June 30, 2013.

In conclusion, the effect of Rule 45 is unclear.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on June 26, 2015, 10:07:15 AM
This is not your usual dry legal fodder. This is framed-on-the-wall worthy.

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No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice, and family. In forming a marital union, two people become something greater than once they were. As some of the petitioners in these cases demonstrate, marriage embodies a love that may endure even past death. It would misunderstand these men and women to say they disrespect the idea of marriage. Their plea is that they do respect it, respect it so deeply that they seek to find its fulfillment for themselves. Their hope is not to be condemned to live in loneliness, excluded from one of civilization’s oldest institutions. They ask for equal dignity in the eyes of the law.

The Constitution grants them that right. The judgment of the Court of Appeals for the Sixth Circuit is reversed.

It is so ordered.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gin1984 on June 26, 2015, 10:08:27 AM
So I am a Republican who is totally for gay marriage, and I applaud the decision of the court.

I am wondering where this moves the debate (if there even can be one) in the future or at the very least for this coming election cycle amongst the Republican contenders.

Is there a point where they do not have to cater to the hard core religious right on this issue because it is already settled, or am I just being naive and hopeful.

Take a look at how Rowe V. Wade has been marginalized in many states with what many (including me) view as unconstitutional laws that intentionally limit access to healthcare for women, and you have your answer.  I think this is not the end of the discussion nor the far Right's fight against equality for everyone.

Sadly I started thinking about the same thing after I hit the "post" button. I wish there was a better outlet or group that I could identify with that is a strange mix of political beliefs that fits more with my ideals and leaves out the craziness I see in the hard core religious right.
I know many former republicans in the bay or southern Ca that now claim no party, are democrats or claim independent because they did not want to be associated with the anti-gay, anti-women, anti-non-Christian group.  Most are pro-gun and fiscally conservative, but believe everyone deserves equal rights.  I actually worry that I am going to end up in the Green Party because some of the local offices are too conservative for me.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: trailrated on June 26, 2015, 10:10:34 AM
Thank you for the great info Cathy
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: birdman2003 on June 26, 2015, 10:18:15 AM
If you are excited about the Supreme Court's marriage ruling today, express it with tolerance to those religious minorities that believe that marriage is best expressed as a union of a man and a woman.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Erica/NWEdible on June 26, 2015, 10:24:30 AM
If you are excited about the Supreme Court's marriage ruling today, express it with tolerance to those religious minorities that believe that marriage is best expressed as a union of a man and a woman.
How about if I just support your right to marry an opposite-sex person with equal fervor and we'll call it good.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on June 26, 2015, 10:45:55 AM
If you are excited about the Supreme Court's marriage ruling today, express it with tolerance to those religious minorities that believe that marriage is best expressed as a union of a man and a woman.

Yes. Or a man and his brother's wife or a man and 1000 women or a man and his prostitute or a man/god and a religious institution or a man and his 4 wives or...
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: I'm a red panda on June 26, 2015, 10:50:22 AM
If you are excited about the Supreme Court's marriage ruling today, express it with tolerance to those religious minorities that believe that marriage is best expressed as a union of a man and a woman.

There is NOTHING in this ruling that says practitioners of any religion must marry same-sex couples. Churches are free to continue doing as they wish.

This says that marriage is a constitutional right, and that a STATE must recognize marriage between same sex couples.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Cathy on June 26, 2015, 10:56:32 AM
There is NOTHING in this ruling that says practitioners of any religion must marry same-sex couples. Churches are free to continue doing as they wish.

This says that marriage is a constitutional right, and that a STATE must recognize marriage between same sex couples.

To the extent that church officials are blessed with the power of the state to give legal effect to marriages, allowing them to opt out of ratifying marriages on the basis of the gender of the participants does potentially raise constitutional concerns, although not ones discussed in the decision. I won't say those issues have a clear resolution in US constitutional law, but the arguments aren't frivolous.

The next marriage-related frontier will likely be an onslaught of state laws that purport to authorise marriage officials to decline, at their option, to grant a marriage licence on the basis of personal beliefs. Those laws are typically passed under the rubric of promoting freedom of religion, but they can have the effect of making it logistically difficult to find an official to ratify a marriage in less-progressive regions. In Marriage Commissioners Appointed Under The Marriage Act (Re), 2011 SKCA 3 (https://www.canlii.org/en/sk/skca/doc/2011/2011skca3/2011skca3.html), the Court of Appeal for Saskatchewan considered legislation that authorised marriage officials to implement their personal religious beliefs by, at their option, refusing to perform same-sex marriages. The Court found that such legislation is contrary to the constitution of Canada. I expect that this issue will be litigated in the US in due course.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Sparafusile on June 26, 2015, 10:58:36 AM
If you are excited about the Supreme Court's marriage ruling today, express it with tolerance to those religious minorities that believe that marriage is best expressed as a union of a man and a woman.

I have several points:

Point the first: What religious minorities? 83% of Americans identify as Christian. Do you think gays would have had to fight for the right to equal treatment if the opponents were only a "minority"?

Point the second: If Christians want tolerance, perhaps they should try giving some out once in a while.

Point the third: Even if you believe that marriage is "best" expressed by the union of a man and a woman, why would you want to keep people who don't feel that way from expressing their own views to the contrary? "Best" does not mean "only". "Best" is not even objective.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: SunshineAZ on June 26, 2015, 11:00:09 AM
This whole issue annoys me.  While I lean right on fiscal issues, I am definitely left leaning on social issues and the fact that the government even needs to be involved at all makes me mad.  The government should stay out of peoples bedrooms and out of women's reproductive organs.  /end rant

However with that being said, I grew up in Southern California with a mom who is a hairdresser, so I grew up around many gay people and I am happy that they can now have that right. 
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Sparafusile on June 26, 2015, 11:04:45 AM
To the extent that church officials are blessed with the power of the state to give legal effect to marriages, allowing them to opt out of ratifying marriages on the basis of the gender of the participants does potentially raise constitutional concerns, although not ones discussed in the decision.

This is something that confuses me. It's the state that grants the marriage certificate, not the priest. It's the state that recognizes the union legally. You don't even need a priest to perform the ceremony (I didn't have one when I married my wife). At what point is the marriage "ratified" by a priest? Blessed maybe, presided over yes, but nothing else. Is this different in various states?

That being said, church officials should not be forced to be a part of ceremonies they don't agree with. Is that even a question here? Do couples really ask a priest they've never met to perform a ceremony for them? Like I said, I'm confused here.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: I'm a red panda on June 26, 2015, 11:09:18 AM

To the extent that church officials are blessed with the power of the state to give legal effect to marriages, allowing them to opt out of ratifying marriages on the basis of the gender of the participants does potentially raise constitutional concerns, although not ones discussed in the decision. I won't say those issues have a clear resolution in US constitutional law, but the arguments aren't frivolous.

The priest who married me could have refused to do so if I told him I took birth control.  I'm pretty sure a state official could not have refused me a marriage license for the same reason. And the church could have refused me if I was a Muslim, so already churches can discriminate against protected classes when choosing who to marry. I had to be a member of the church, and marrying a Christian.  I really don't see this decision affecting church ceremonies.

Although if it took away religious authority to conduct civil marriages, I'd be fine with that. There are many countries where you have to get married by a JP equivalent, and then go get married in your church.  If church is truly separate from the state, it should be that way.


Do couples really ask a priest they've never met to perform a ceremony for them?
Yes, this happens. Especially if the priest has a really pretty church.  My sister got married in a church we had never been in before by a priest she met just to get married. She also priest shopped because she wanted a priest who would let her non-Catholic, but Christian, father-in-law conduct the ceremony. She was able to find one who said he could do everything but one small part of the ceremony that he felt made it official as a sacrament.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Cathy on June 26, 2015, 11:15:14 AM
This is something that confuses me. It's the state that grants the marriage certificate, not the priest. It's the state that recognizes the union legally. You don't even need a priest to perform the ceremony (I didn't have one when I married my wife). At what point is the marriage "ratified" by a priest? Blessed maybe, presided over yes, but nothing else. Is this different in various states?

The area of law regarding what makes a marriage "legal" is referred to as "solemnisation of marriage". In some states, no official is required to be present to solemnise a marriage. In other states, the involvement of a state official is required. Common officials given this power include magistrates like justices of the peace. In Canada, the power is usually given by provincial law to an administrative agency.

It's possible for state law to provide that certain religious officials are authorised to solemnise marriages. For example, Arkansas Code § 9-11-215 (http://law.justia.com/codes/arkansas/2010/title-9/subtitle-2/chapter-11/subchapter-2/9-11-213)(5) provides that "[a]ny regularly ordained minister or priest of any religious sect or denomination" may solemnise a marriage. This is an act of state. No one in Arkansas is forced to have their marriage solemnised by a priest rather than a judge because the code provides other options as well, but it's an option to use a priest rather than a judge.

I should have explained this more clearly, but yes, in many jurisdictions, religious officials are granted the power of the state to solemnise marriages. The fact that applicants can choose to use somebody else will certainly be an argument that is raised in the eventual litigation on this topic, if it comes up. In my post, I did not purport to write a dissertation on the merits of this issue under US law. I did not discuss which constitutional provisions might be relevant or what the arguments would be for or against. That was intentional because it was a very brief post. With these clarifications in mind, I think my earlier post should be more clear.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Financial.Velociraptor on June 26, 2015, 11:27:34 AM
I'm not for gay marriage. I'm AGAINST straight marriage.  I mean seriously 62% of them end in divorce. At what point do we recognize reality and admit that straight marriage, on average, does more harm than good?  Clearly straight marriage is a negative for society as a whole.  #BanStraightMarriage
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: bacchi on June 26, 2015, 11:28:12 AM
Just to clarify, Moore's actions were in response to a prior federal court ruling earlier this year that pertained to Alabama specifically. Moore's actions were clearly illegal. The federal court had ruled. I do not know what Moore will do going forward now that SCOTUS has ruled, further enforcing the right to marry in Alabama.

The response to Granade's ruling was to stop issuing all marriage licenses, at least in some Alabama counties.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Cathy on June 26, 2015, 11:33:51 AM
... so already churches can discriminate against protected classes when choosing who to marry....

This is not a particularly strong argument. For centuries, states discriminated on the basis of gender in deciding whether to licence a marriage. That lengthy history did not prevent the Court from ruling that it was unconstitutional. The constitutionality of the current marriage solemnisation laws in various states is not a simple issue in law.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Pigeon on June 26, 2015, 11:38:52 AM
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I should have explained this more clearly, but yes, in many jurisdictions, religious officials are granted the power of the state to solemnise marriages. The fact that applicants can choose to use somebody else will certainly be an argument that is raised in the eventual litigation on this topic, if it comes up. In my post, I did not purport to write a dissertation on the merits of this issue under US law. I did not discuss which constitutional provisions might be relevant or what the arguments would be for or against. That was intentional because it was a very brief post. With these clarifications in mind, I think my earlier post should be more clear.

Religious officials have always been allowed to refuse to marry people, no?  The catholic priest in the church in which I was raised refused to marry my sister to her Jewish husband because he wouldn't promise to raise any kids catholic.  Likewise, he wouldn't marry my divorced brother to my divorced sister in law (neither had annulments).  LDS bishops aren't forced to marry Muslims, etc.

How is this any different?
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: MoneyCat on June 26, 2015, 11:39:51 AM


Point the second: If Christians want tolerance, perhaps they should try giving some out once in a while.

Christians are extremely tolerant compared to other religions.  You'll notice that the typical Christian doesn't burn down Temples and Mosques.  Christians don't round up people of other religions and stone them to death in the street.  I understand that you apparently disagree with certain aspects of certain Christian denominations' beliefs, but let's be honest here.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Mississippi Mudstache on June 26, 2015, 11:41:17 AM
Wow, what a great two days for the Supreme Court. This ruling doesn't affect me in the slightest, which is precisely why it had to pass. Gay marriage bans don't affect anyone except those who are discriminated against. Can't wait to see the wailing and gnashing of teeth of my conservative bigoted friends on Facebook this evening.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Cathy on June 26, 2015, 11:44:04 AM
Religious officials have always been allowed to refuse to marry people, no?  The catholic priest in the church in which I was raised refused to marry my sister to her Jewish husband because he wouldn't promise to raise any kids catholic.  Likewise, he wouldn't marry my divorced brother to my divorced sister in law (neither had annulments).  LDS bishops aren't forced to marry Muslims, etc.

How is this any different?

First of all, I'm not so sure you are right about some of these claims. Most or all states have generic statutory laws that restrict discrimination in the provision of services to the general public, and that applies to solemnising marriages. Some but not all states provide religious exceptions. Whether a given priest refusing to marry a given couple for a given reason is legal in a given jurisdiction is not a question has any easy or single answer in the US.

Secondly, even if you were right, then my post above (http://forum.mrmoneymustache.com/off-topic/scotus-rules-same-sex-marriage-is-constitutional-right/msg709934/#msg709934) would apply.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: sol on June 26, 2015, 11:44:36 AM


Point the second: If Christians want tolerance, perhaps they should try giving some out once in a while.

Christians are extremely tolerant compared to other religions. 

Oooh, let's make a list of all the ways this is wrong.

I'll start:  "other religions" is a very broad category, one that includes many religions that are far more tolerant than Christianity.  Maybe you meant to say "compared to some religions"?
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: GuitarStv on June 26, 2015, 11:58:21 AM
Christians are extremely tolerant compared to other religions.  You'll notice that the typical Christian doesn't burn down Temples and Mosques.  Christians don't round up people of other religions and stone them to death in the street.  I understand that you apparently disagree with certain aspects of certain Christian denominations' beliefs, but let's be honest here.

Christians in Uganda lobbied to give the death penalty to gay people for y'know, being gay.  Christians made up close to 100% of the IRA which was responsible for bombing churches.  The NLFT is a Christian terrorist group operating in India right now.  Let's not pretend that holding a cross somehow makes you unique or better than all other humans.  (It doesn't make you worse either.)  Every group of people has a few assholes.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: sol on June 26, 2015, 11:59:44 AM


Point the second: If Christians want tolerance, perhaps they should try giving some out once in a while.

Christians are extremely tolerant compared to other religions. 

Oooh, let's make a list of all the ways this is wrong.

I'll start:  "other religions" is a very broad category, one that includes many religions that are far more tolerant than Christianity.  Maybe you meant to say "compared to some religions"?

Can I go again?  I know I'm out of turn but it's such a looong list.

Christians absolutely DO still burn down temples and mosques.  Mosque arsons happen in the USA several times per year, without even counting Ireland or the middle east or Africa.  Google it.

Plus there's that whole Library of Alexandria burning by Christians, arguably the single grratest setback to human progress ever perpetrated by anyone.  Thanks Christians!

Lest you claim that not ALL Christians would commit such crimes, I might preemptively remind you that most Muslims are also upstanding and law abiding culturally tolerant members of modern society.  Jews too.  I don't think we even need to talk about Shintoists or Hindus it Buddhists.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: I'm a red panda on June 26, 2015, 12:00:56 PM

Christians are extremely tolerant compared to other religions.  You'll notice that the typical Christian doesn't burn down Temples and Mosques.  Christians don't round up people of other religions and stone them to death in the street.

I don't believe these actions are -typical- of any other religion either.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: I'm a red panda on June 26, 2015, 12:02:20 PM

This is not a particularly strong argument. For centuries, states discriminated on the basis of gender in deciding whether to licence a marriage. That lengthy history did not prevent the Court from ruling that it was unconstitutional. The constitutionality of the current marriage solemnisation laws in various states is not a simple issue in law.

States did this, and it was unconstitutional. Churches are NOT states.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on June 26, 2015, 12:02:45 PM


Point the second: If Christians want tolerance, perhaps they should try giving some out once in a while.

Christians are extremely tolerant compared to other religions.  You'll notice that the typical Christian doesn't burn down Temples and Mosques.  Christians don't round up people of other religions and stone them to death in the street.  I understand that you apparently disagree with certain aspects of certain Christian denominations' beliefs, but let's be honest here.

Yes, let's be honest here. Does the "typical" [fill in the blank religious member] burn down temples and mosques?

There are some pretty evil people in the world that claim to be Muslim (who knows if that's a correct claim) that commit hideous acts of murder. There are some pretty evil people in the world that claim to be Christian (who knows if that's a correct claim) that commit hideous acts of murder. In both cases, the number of these people is far less than a hundredth of a percent of the billion+ people that claim affiliation with each of those two religions. So, probably not "typical" then.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: sol on June 26, 2015, 12:04:55 PM


Point the second: If Christians want tolerance, perhaps they should try giving some out once in a while.

Christians are extremely tolerant compared to other religions. 

Oooh, let's make a list of all the ways this is wrong.

I'll start:  "other religions" is a very broad category, one that includes many religions that are far more tolerant than Christianity.  Maybe you meant to say "compared to some religions"?

And has anyone else noted that while we're arguing about which religion is most hateful, the atheists and agnostics and  nones are sitting back smugly smiling to themselves? 

In the era of internet and space travel and gay marriage, why are we talking about which group of made up superstitions causes the most harm when the obvious answer is "all of them, when compared to not believing in any of that bigoted bullshit."
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Sparafusile on June 26, 2015, 12:06:31 PM
Point the second: If Christians want tolerance, perhaps they should try giving some out once in a while.

Christians are extremely tolerant compared to other religions.  You'll notice that the typical Christian doesn't burn down Temples and Mosques.  Christians don't round up people of other religions and stone them to death in the street.  I understand that you apparently disagree with certain aspects of certain Christian denominations' beliefs, but let's be honest here.

I realize that many Christians are very tolerant - most in fact are wonderful people. People in general are wonderful people, regardless of faith. If you yourself feel that you are tolerant then I wont doubt it.

Since you brought it up however, let's look at some of the atrocities committed in history by the tolerant Christians. I'm sure we could come up with an equally long list of atrocities for all religions.

http://www.truthbeknown.com/victims.htm

Add to the list the fact that some Christians refuse to allow any two people to marry based on their sexual orientation because their beliefs don't allow it. That's a textbook definition of intolerance. I'm very happy to be on the side of fairness, love, and equality.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on June 26, 2015, 12:11:38 PM
People are flooding Twitter saying that since same-sex marriage is legal in the US, they are moving to Canada. Boy are they going to be surprised when they get there...

http://www.buzzfeed.com/daves4/its-legal-there#.kwmenzVn2

Maybe Saudi Arabia is a better destination.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: GuitarStv on June 26, 2015, 12:16:06 PM
I figure they'll all come screaming back when they hear that one of our major parties is *gasp* Liberal. . .

This assumes that they somehow get through the border with all of their concealed weapons.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Sparafusile on June 26, 2015, 12:17:29 PM
This is the vocal minority you are hearing. Thankfully, most people are more liberal than that. And if they're serious then all I can say is good riddance. Once the millennials assume power in the country then this will become a non-issue just as antislavery and women voting has become a non-issue.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Kris on June 26, 2015, 12:25:45 PM
People are flooding Twitter saying that since same-sex marriage is legal in the US, they are moving to Canada. Boy are they going to be surprised when they get there...

http://www.buzzfeed.com/daves4/its-legal-there#.kwmenzVn2

Maybe Saudi Arabia is a better destination.

God, if they think it's bad *here*, imagine what a living hell it's going to be when they go to Canada, realize that same-sex marriage is legal there, too, and that they'll also have to give up most of their firearms and put up with high-quality, socialized health care.  The horror!!!
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: dycker1978 on June 26, 2015, 12:27:36 PM
I think that this is an awesome ruling, and really about time that it happened in the USA.  On the point of churches being able to refuse marriages, you are not taking into consideration of one critical point.

Would you want to get married by someone who doesn't even acknowledge that you exist?  The answer is no.  I think that this will make this a non issue.

I am not sure how discriminating against any person can be in anyone religious beliefs any how, but that is another subject all together.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: dycker1978 on June 26, 2015, 12:29:17 PM
People are flooding Twitter saying that since same-sex marriage is legal in the US, they are moving to Canada. Boy are they going to be surprised when they get there...

http://www.buzzfeed.com/daves4/its-legal-there#.kwmenzVn2

Maybe Saudi Arabia is a better destination.

God, if they think it's bad *here*, imagine what a living hell it's going to be when they go to Canada, realize that same-sex marriage is legal there, too, and that they'll also have to give up most of their firearms and put up with high-quality, socialized health care.  The horror!!!

HAHA maybe they can go to Mexica... oh wait...

http://www.breitbart.com/national-security/2015/06/23/mexico-legalizes-same-sex-marriage-marriage-not-for-procreation/

It seems that the USA is lagging in this area.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Cathy on June 26, 2015, 12:35:42 PM

This is not a particularly strong argument. For centuries, states discriminated on the basis of gender in deciding whether to licence a marriage. That lengthy history did not prevent the Court from ruling that it was unconstitutional. The constitutionality of the current marriage solemnisation laws in various states is not a simple issue in law.

States did this, and it was unconstitutional. Churches are NOT states.

As I already explained, in at least some states, church officials are acting as officials of the state when they solemnise marriages. That was addressed in my first very first post (http://forum.mrmoneymustache.com/off-topic/scotus-rules-same-sex-marriage-is-constitutional-right/msg709870/#msg709870) on this issue, which I prefaced with "[t]o the extent that church officials are blessed with the power of the state".

It is not a simple issue whether it is constitutional for these state officials to refuse to solemise certain marriages. As Scalia J pointed out at oral argument, this is a novel issue and it has never been decided. You may believe it is very simple, but legally it is not.

Let's be clear about one thing. Today's decision does not decide whether religious ministers acting as officials of the state are constitutionally entitled to refuse to exercise their state-granted function to solemise marriages on the basis of religious beliefs that, if enforced by the state, would violate substantive due process. That is an open question and the answer is not straightforward. The answer could go either way.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Midwest on June 26, 2015, 12:40:57 PM
Point the second: If Christians want tolerance, perhaps they should try giving some out once in a while.

Christians are extremely tolerant compared to other religions.  You'll notice that the typical Christian doesn't burn down Temples and Mosques.  Christians don't round up people of other religions and stone them to death in the street.  I understand that you apparently disagree with certain aspects of certain Christian denominations' beliefs, but let's be honest here.

I realize that many Christians are very tolerant - most in fact are wonderful people. People in general are wonderful people, regardless of faith. If you yourself feel that you are tolerant then I wont doubt it.

Since you brought it up however, let's look at some of the atrocities committed in history by the tolerant Christians. I'm sure we could come up with an equally long list of atrocities for all religions.

http://www.truthbeknown.com/victims.htm

Add to the list the fact that some Christians refuse to allow any two people to marry based on their sexual orientation because their beliefs don't allow it. That's a textbook definition of intolerance. I'm very happy to be on the side of fairness, love, and equality.

The 20th century list you provided  for Christians is pretty short compared to ISIS.  Also, the broad community of Christians tend to condemn those sort of acts (as do non-Christians for the most part).

I could care less if homosexuals want to get married.  That being said, if a minister has a religious objection to marrying someone, that should be respected.  My own parents had an issue because my father was previously divorced. 

Tolerance of opposing beliefs is a 2 way street.  I don't belittle others for their different beliefs, other religions or non-religions should do the same.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Mississippi Mudstache on June 26, 2015, 12:47:51 PM
Plus there's that whole Library of Alexandria burning by Christians, arguably the single greatest setback to human progress ever perpetrated by anyone.  Thanks Christians!

Wait, what? I was of the understanding that the Library at Alexandria suffered a number of destructive fires on many different occasions over hundreds of years, not a single catastrophic event that destroyed everything. Wikipedia seems to agree with me (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Destruction_of_the_Library_of_Alexandria). They do note that Pope/Emperor Theodosius was responsible for one of the events.

In any case, I won't argue that Christianity has culpable for a number of crimes against intellectual progress over the last couple of centuries. Heliocentrism, evolution, the Big Bang, old Earth geology, and even (bizarrely) global warming have a powerful enemy. We can probably remove heliocentrism from the list at this point, but the rest? Goddamn.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Sparafusile on June 26, 2015, 01:04:16 PM
Point the second: If Christians want tolerance, perhaps they should try giving some out once in a while.

Christians are extremely tolerant compared to other religions.  You'll notice that the typical Christian doesn't burn down Temples and Mosques.  Christians don't round up people of other religions and stone them to death in the street.  I understand that you apparently disagree with certain aspects of certain Christian denominations' beliefs, but let's be honest here.

I realize that many Christians are very tolerant - most in fact are wonderful people. People in general are wonderful people, regardless of faith. If you yourself feel that you are tolerant then I wont doubt it.

Since you brought it up however, let's look at some of the atrocities committed in history by the tolerant Christians. I'm sure we could come up with an equally long list of atrocities for all religions.

http://www.truthbeknown.com/victims.htm

Add to the list the fact that some Christians refuse to allow any two people to marry based on their sexual orientation because their beliefs don't allow it. That's a textbook definition of intolerance. I'm very happy to be on the side of fairness, love, and equality.

The 20th century list you provided  for Christians is pretty short compared to ISIS.  Also, Christians tend to condemn those sort of acts (as do non-Christians for the most part).

I could care less if homosexuals want to get married.  That being said, if a minister has a religious objection to marrying someone, that should be respected.  My own parents had an issue because my father was previously divorced.  Tolerance of opposing beliefs is a 2 way street.

You REALLY believe that all Muslims are perfectly fine with what ISIS is doing? When was the last time you publicly condemned The Army of God, Eastern Lightning, The Lord's Resistance Army, The National Liberation Front of Tripura, etc etc etc?

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Christian_terrorism#Contemporary

Things I didn't see listed: the KKK, abortion clinic violence and murders, deliberately misinforming children in school.

ISIS was created by the United States - a primarily Christian nation - by creating a war through lies and misinformation. That's a really bad example to use if you want to prove how wonderful Christians are.

Tolerance is a 2 way street, sure, but I've never heard atheists demand that Christians stop getting married. When religious people use the argument that everybody else has to respect their beliefs, what they really are saying is "you have to respect my right to be intolerant" which is ridiculous. A ridiculousness that was thankfully overcome by the supreme court today.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: former player on June 26, 2015, 01:33:15 PM
People are flooding Twitter saying that since same-sex marriage is legal in the US, they are moving to Canada. Boy are they going to be surprised when they get there...

http://www.buzzfeed.com/daves4/its-legal-there#.kwmenzVn2

Maybe Saudi Arabia is a better destination.

God, if they think it's bad *here*, imagine what a living hell it's going to be when they go to Canada, realize that same-sex marriage is legal there, too, and that they'll also have to give up most of their firearms and put up with high-quality, socialized health care.  The horror!!!

HAHA maybe they can go to Mexica... oh wait...

http://www.breitbart.com/national-security/2015/06/23/mexico-legalizes-same-sex-marriage-marriage-not-for-procreation/

It seems that the USA is lagging in this area.

They're not going to be happy back in the UK either -

http://www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/2013/30/contents/enacted

They'd be OK in the Republic of Ireland- but only until Autumn this year.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: sol on June 26, 2015, 01:41:17 PM
Tolerance of opposing beliefs is a 2 way street.  I don't belittle others for their different beliefs, other religions or non-religions should do the same.

The difference here is that only one side is actively trying to prohibit the other side from enjoying the same rights that they do.

Your argument is like saying that releasing Japanese Americans from the internment camps violated the rights of white Americans.  It's totally NOT a two way street, and that's the very problem we're trying to address.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Midwest on June 26, 2015, 01:42:12 PM

I realize that many Christians are very tolerant - most in fact are wonderful people. People in general are wonderful people, regardless of faith. If you yourself feel that you are tolerant then I wont doubt it.

Since you brought it up however, let's look at some of the atrocities committed in history by the tolerant Christians. I'm sure we could come up with an equally long list of atrocities for all religions.

http://www.truthbeknown.com/victims.htm

Add to the list the fact that some Christians refuse to allow any two people to marry based on their sexual orientation because their beliefs don't allow it. That's a textbook definition of intolerance. I'm very happy to be on the side of fairness, love, and equality.

The 20th century list you provided  for Christians is pretty short compared to ISIS.  Also, Christians tend to condemn those sort of acts (as do non-Christians for the most part).

I could care less if homosexuals want to get married.  That being said, if a minister has a religious objection to marrying someone, that should be respected.  My own parents had an issue because my father was previously divorced.  Tolerance of opposing beliefs is a 2 way street.

You REALLY believe that all Muslims are perfectly fine with what ISIS is doing? When was the last time you publicly condemned The Army of God, Eastern Lightning, The Lord's Resistance Army, The National Liberation Front of Tripura, etc etc etc?

I never said or inferred they did.  In fact I went as far as to say, most non-Christians (Muslims are included in that) condemn them as well.

ISIS was created by the United States - a primarily Christian nation - by creating a war through lies and misinformation. That's a really bad example to use if you want to prove how wonderful Christians are.

The US is not, in the name of Christianity, killing Muslims.  ISIS, on the other hand, is. 

Blaming ISIS on the US is a stretch.  Blaming ISIS on Christianity is ridiculous.

Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Midwest on June 26, 2015, 01:45:33 PM
Tolerance of opposing beliefs is a 2 way street.  I don't belittle others for their different beliefs, other religions or non-religions should do the same.

The difference here is that only one side is actively trying to prohibit the other side from enjoying the same rights that they do.


Sol - I'm not arguing against gay marriage or the fact that Christians are sometimes intolerant.  Others are intolerant as well, two wrongs don't make a right
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on June 26, 2015, 02:02:35 PM
People are flooding Twitter saying that since same-sex marriage is legal in the US, they are moving to Canada. Boy are they going to be surprised when they get there...

http://www.buzzfeed.com/daves4/its-legal-there#.kwmenzVn2

Maybe Saudi Arabia is a better destination.

God, if they think it's bad *here*, imagine what a living hell it's going to be when they go to Canada, realize that same-sex marriage is legal there, too, and that they'll also have to give up most of their firearms and put up with high-quality, socialized health care.  The horror!!!

And Canada doesn't even go off starting huge wars or bombing random countries??? What is this place?
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Sparafusile on June 26, 2015, 02:05:21 PM
Quote from: Sparafusile
You REALLY believe that all Muslims are perfectly fine with what ISIS is doing? When was the last time you publicly condemned The Army of God, Eastern Lightning, The Lord's Resistance Army, The National Liberation Front of Tripura, etc etc etc?

I never said or inferred they did.  In fact I went as far as to say, most non-Christians (Muslims are included in that) condemn them as well.

Reading comprehension failure on my part. My apologies.

ISIS was created by the United States - a primarily Christian nation - by creating a war through lies and misinformation. That's a really bad example to use if you want to prove how wonderful Christians are.

The US is not, in the name of Christianity, killing Muslims.  ISIS, on the other hand, is. 

Blaming ISIS on the US is a stretch.  Blaming ISIS on Christianity is ridiculous.

I believe we are both getting way off topic here. If you'd like to continue a civil discussion, let us take this to a new thread. Otherwise, thank you for your point of view.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: CanuckExpat on June 26, 2015, 02:14:17 PM
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Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: trailrated on June 26, 2015, 02:22:55 PM
So I am a Republican who is totally for gay marriage, and I applaud the decision of the court.

I am wondering where this moves the debate (if there even can be one) in the future or at the very least for this coming election cycle amongst the Republican contenders.

Is there a point where they do not have to cater to the hard core religious right on this issue because it is already settled, or am I just being naive and hopeful.

Just found the answer to my question, it is looking half/half, but I am happy to see there are more Republicans that support gay marriage. (some are quoted in the article, link at the bottom)

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Lindsey Graham (S.C.) quickly pledged not to pursue “a divisive effort that would be doomed to fail” against the Supreme Court’s decision, but rather to commit himself “to ensuring the protection of religious liberties of all Americans.” Former Florida Gov. Jeb Bush said that “good people who have opposing views should be able to live side by side.” Sen. Marco Rubio (Fla.) said he disagreed with the decision but recognized that the country had to “abide by the law.”

So for the time being... I know who is not getting my vote.

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Gov. Scott Walker (Wis.) called for an amendment to the Constitution to “reaffirm the ability of the states to continue to define marriage.” Former Arkansas Gov. Mike Huckabee called the ruling “judicial tyranny.” And Louisiana Gov. Bobby Jindal offered, well, this:

Marriage between a man and a woman was established by God, and no earthly court can alter that.
This decision will pave the way for an all-out assault against the religious freedom rights of Christians who disagree with this decision. This ruling must not be used as pretext by Washington to erode our right to religious liberty.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/06/26/gop-gay-marriage_n_7673344.html (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/06/26/gop-gay-marriage_n_7673344.html)
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Rural on June 26, 2015, 02:35:30 PM
Yay Supremes. Oh, and yay Constitution.

Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: GuitarStv on June 26, 2015, 02:39:27 PM
(http://41.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lf2dg05Eqj1qzwaddo1_500.png)

Actually, the curriculum in Ontario has been updated this year to explain gay sex in classes . . . soo . . . mebbe your chart is incorrect.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Tyson on June 26, 2015, 02:45:27 PM
Did anyone really think they would rule otherwise?

I'm kind of surprised Roberts is the writer of the dissenting opinion. I really figured that he wouldn't want to be on the wrong side of history with this one.  Of course, in history he will get credit for the judgement because "his" court made the decision.

But yes, some of this court's decisions have been very questionable- so I thought that the dissenting opinion (which was basically "we aren't making a judgement about gay marriage, we are judging whether we can tell states how to define marriage") had a very good chance of being the majority opinion.

Well, I think that people at the Federal level are starting to realize "Hey, the states HAD their chance and they cocked it up.  So now we have to clean up their mess".  I expect more and more trending toward these types of decisions.  A good thing, IMO.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Mr Dorothy Dollar on June 26, 2015, 02:59:02 PM
Did anyone really think they would rule otherwise?

I'm kind of surprised Roberts is the writer of the dissenting opinion. I really figured that he wouldn't want to be on the wrong side of history with this one.  Of course, in history he will get credit for the judgement because "his" court made the decision.

But yes, some of this court's decisions have been very questionable- so I thought that the dissenting opinion (which was basically "we aren't making a judgement about gay marriage, we are judging whether we can tell states how to define marriage") had a very good chance of being the majority opinion.

Well, I think that people at the Federal level are starting to realize "Hey, the states HAD their chance and they cocked it up.  So now we have to clean up their mess".  I expect more and more trending toward these types of decisions.  A good thing, IMO.

As long as Alabama and Mississippi exist I support more federal laws trumping state laws.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: trailrated on June 26, 2015, 03:00:17 PM
Did anyone really think they would rule otherwise?

I'm kind of surprised Roberts is the writer of the dissenting opinion. I really figured that he wouldn't want to be on the wrong side of history with this one.  Of course, in history he will get credit for the judgement because "his" court made the decision.

Please forgive the ignorance but can you give me the cliff notes version of how/why Roberts is the Chief Justice on the Supreme Court. Is it voted on amongst justices, is it just luck based on when you were appointed, I can't imagine it is based on seniority cause I know other justices have been there longer.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: regulator on June 26, 2015, 03:14:10 PM
So now gay people can be as miserable as straight married people in all states.  I predict a booming divorce lawyer trade within a year.

It occurs to me to wonder: how long before bigamists/polygamists demand their day in Supreme Court?  I hear bitter suggestions that NAMBLA types will be pleading their case as well soon, but they do not have all parties involved as freely consenting adults.  Bigamists/polygamists presumably do.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Tyson on June 26, 2015, 03:29:35 PM
So now gay people can be as miserable as straight married people in all states.  I predict a booming divorce lawyer trade within a year.

It occurs to me to wonder: how long before bigamists/polygamists demand their day in Supreme Court?  I hear bitter suggestions that NAMBLA types will be pleading their case as well soon, but they do not have all parties involved as freely consenting adults.  Bigamists/polygamists presumably do.

If SCOTUS had moved against Gay Marriage on religious infringement grounds, then I think they would have opened themselves up a lot more to the bigamist/polygamist, since those have traditionally been religiously sanctioned.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: regulator on June 26, 2015, 03:33:30 PM
So now gay people can be as miserable as straight married people in all states.  I predict a booming divorce lawyer trade within a year.

It occurs to me to wonder: how long before bigamists/polygamists demand their day in Supreme Court?  I hear bitter suggestions that NAMBLA types will be pleading their case as well soon, but they do not have all parties involved as freely consenting adults.  Bigamists/polygamists presumably do.

If SCOTUS had moved against Gay Marriage on religious infringement grounds, then I think they would have opened themselves up a lot more to the bigamist/polygamist, since those have traditionally been religiously sanctioned.

Equal rights was the basis of the ruling as I crudely understand it.  So why should the State turn away more than two parties who wish to be in the same marriage?  Why should states refuse to allow first cousins to marry?  Does it not infringe upon those people's rights?
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gin1984 on June 26, 2015, 03:40:12 PM
So now gay people can be as miserable as straight married people in all states.  I predict a booming divorce lawyer trade within a year.

It occurs to me to wonder: how long before bigamists/polygamists demand their day in Supreme Court?  I hear bitter suggestions that NAMBLA types will be pleading their case as well soon, but they do not have all parties involved as freely consenting adults.  Bigamists/polygamists presumably do.

If SCOTUS had moved against Gay Marriage on religious infringement grounds, then I think they would have opened themselves up a lot more to the bigamist/polygamist, since those have traditionally been religiously sanctioned.

Equal rights was the basis of the ruling as I crudely understand it.  So why should the State turn away more than two parties who wish to be in the same marriage?  Why should states refuse to allow first cousins to marry? Does it not infringe upon those people's rights?
Actually some states do allow first cousins to get married, some only if one member of the couple is infertile.  And there are benefits to society to keep cousins from breeding.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: sol on June 26, 2015, 03:43:21 PM
Please forgive the ignorance but can you give me the cliff notes version of how/why Roberts is the Chief Justice on the Supreme Court. Is it voted on amongst justices, is it just luck based on when you were appointed, I can't imagine it is based on seniority cause I know other justices have been there longer.

Basically it's just luck based on when you were appointed. 

Technically the appointing President picks, but in practice this usually means that when the current CJ retirees, the next person appointed becomes the new CJ.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Glenstache on June 26, 2015, 03:49:07 PM
Did anyone really think they would rule otherwise?

I'm kind of surprised Roberts is the writer of the dissenting opinion. I really figured that he wouldn't want to be on the wrong side of history with this one.  Of course, in history he will get credit for the judgement because "his" court made the decision.

Please forgive the ignorance but can you give me the cliff notes version of how/why Roberts is the Chief Justice on the Supreme Court. Is it voted on amongst justices, is it just luck based on when you were appointed, I can't imagine it is based on seniority cause I know other justices have been there longer.

GW Bush nominated him to the Chief Justice position. http://www.cnn.com/2005/POLITICS/09/05/roberts.nomination/
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: regulator on June 26, 2015, 03:51:05 PM
So now gay people can be as miserable as straight married people in all states.  I predict a booming divorce lawyer trade within a year.

It occurs to me to wonder: how long before bigamists/polygamists demand their day in Supreme Court?  I hear bitter suggestions that NAMBLA types will be pleading their case as well soon, but they do not have all parties involved as freely consenting adults.  Bigamists/polygamists presumably do.

If SCOTUS had moved against Gay Marriage on religious infringement grounds, then I think they would have opened themselves up a lot more to the bigamist/polygamist, since those have traditionally been religiously sanctioned.

Equal rights was the basis of the ruling as I crudely understand it.  So why should the State turn away more than two parties who wish to be in the same marriage?  Why should states refuse to allow first cousins to marry? Does it not infringe upon those people's rights?
Actually some states do allow first cousins to get married, some only if one member of the couple is infertile.  And there are benefits to society to keep cousins from breeding.

When I got my marriage license some years ago I had to be able to truthfully state that I was not intoxicated, syphilitic or about to marry someone closer than my third cousin in order to receive said license.  I imagine that quite a number of states have similar requirements.

I am sure there are plenty of people who would still today argue that society would benefit by keeping same sex couples from marrying, so I can't say I find that argument convincing.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Tyson on June 26, 2015, 03:54:38 PM

I realize that many Christians are very tolerant - most in fact are wonderful people. People in general are wonderful people, regardless of faith. If you yourself feel that you are tolerant then I wont doubt it.

Since you brought it up however, let's look at some of the atrocities committed in history by the tolerant Christians. I'm sure we could come up with an equally long list of atrocities for all religions.

http://www.truthbeknown.com/victims.htm

Add to the list the fact that some Christians refuse to allow any two people to marry based on their sexual orientation because their beliefs don't allow it. That's a textbook definition of intolerance. I'm very happy to be on the side of fairness, love, and equality.

The 20th century list you provided  for Christians is pretty short compared to ISIS.  Also, Christians tend to condemn those sort of acts (as do non-Christians for the most part).

I could care less if homosexuals want to get married.  That being said, if a minister has a religious objection to marrying someone, that should be respected.  My own parents had an issue because my father was previously divorced.  Tolerance of opposing beliefs is a 2 way street.

You REALLY believe that all Muslims are perfectly fine with what ISIS is doing? When was the last time you publicly condemned The Army of God, Eastern Lightning, The Lord's Resistance Army, The National Liberation Front of Tripura, etc etc etc?

I never said or inferred they did.  In fact I went as far as to say, most non-Christians (Muslims are included in that) condemn them as well.

ISIS was created by the United States - a primarily Christian nation - by creating a war through lies and misinformation. That's a really bad example to use if you want to prove how wonderful Christians are.

The US is not, in the name of Christianity, killing Muslims.  ISIS, on the other hand, is. 

Blaming ISIS on the US is a stretch.  Blaming ISIS on Christianity is ridiculous.

The US is more than 80% Christian AND a democracy.  So the USA is in fact a "Christian Nation".  And when we go bombing the Middle East, it is in fact an act of Christian aggression.  Or, do you think that Iraq and Afghanistan are thinking to themselves "Why are our Muslim brothers in the USA bombing us?".  No, they are thinking "Why are the western Christians bombing us".  So, ipso facto, we DID create ISIS. 

Of course as a None's, I wash my hands of the whole stinking mess.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Tyson on June 26, 2015, 03:56:18 PM
So now gay people can be as miserable as straight married people in all states.  I predict a booming divorce lawyer trade within a year.

It occurs to me to wonder: how long before bigamists/polygamists demand their day in Supreme Court?  I hear bitter suggestions that NAMBLA types will be pleading their case as well soon, but they do not have all parties involved as freely consenting adults.  Bigamists/polygamists presumably do.


Equal rights was the basis of the ruling as I crudely understand it.  So why should the State turn away more than two parties who wish to be in the same marriage?  Why should states refuse to allow first cousins to marry?  Does it not infringe upon those people's rights?
You could substitute "bi-racial" marriage for "gay marriage" and come up with the same argument, you know.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gin1984 on June 26, 2015, 04:00:12 PM
So now gay people can be as miserable as straight married people in all states.  I predict a booming divorce lawyer trade within a year.

It occurs to me to wonder: how long before bigamists/polygamists demand their day in Supreme Court?  I hear bitter suggestions that NAMBLA types will be pleading their case as well soon, but they do not have all parties involved as freely consenting adults.  Bigamists/polygamists presumably do.

If SCOTUS had moved against Gay Marriage on religious infringement grounds, then I think they would have opened themselves up a lot more to the bigamist/polygamist, since those have traditionally been religiously sanctioned.

Equal rights was the basis of the ruling as I crudely understand it.  So why should the State turn away more than two parties who wish to be in the same marriage?  Why should states refuse to allow first cousins to marry? Does it not infringe upon those people's rights?
Actually some states do allow first cousins to get married, some only if one member of the couple is infertile.  And there are benefits to society to keep cousins from breeding.

When I got my marriage license some years ago I had to be able to truthfully state that I was not intoxicated, syphilitic or about to marry someone closer than my third cousin in order to receive said license.  I imagine that quite a number of states have similar requirements.

I am sure there are plenty of people who would still today argue that society would benefit by keeping same sex couples from marrying, so I can't say I find that argument convincing.
Name one, that does not come from a religion.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: regulator on June 26, 2015, 04:01:55 PM
So now gay people can be as miserable as straight married people in all states.  I predict a booming divorce lawyer trade within a year.

It occurs to me to wonder: how long before bigamists/polygamists demand their day in Supreme Court?  I hear bitter suggestions that NAMBLA types will be pleading their case as well soon, but they do not have all parties involved as freely consenting adults.  Bigamists/polygamists presumably do.

If SCOTUS had moved against Gay Marriage on religious infringement grounds, then I think they would have opened themselves up a lot more to the bigamist/polygamist, since those have traditionally been religiously sanctioned.

Equal rights was the basis of the ruling as I crudely understand it.  So why should the State turn away more than two parties who wish to be in the same marriage?  Why should states refuse to allow first cousins to marry? Does it not infringe upon those people's rights?
Actually some states do allow first cousins to get married, some only if one member of the couple is infertile.  And there are benefits to society to keep cousins from breeding.

When I got my marriage license some years ago I had to be able to truthfully state that I was not intoxicated, syphilitic or about to marry someone closer than my third cousin in order to receive said license.  I imagine that quite a number of states have similar requirements.

I am sure there are plenty of people who would still today argue that society would benefit by keeping same sex couples from marrying, so I can't say I find that argument convincing.
Name one, that does not come from a religion.

They will not have the same ability to bring more new, little taxpayers into the world, for one.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Tyson on June 26, 2015, 04:05:15 PM
So now gay people can be as miserable as straight married people in all states.  I predict a booming divorce lawyer trade within a year.

It occurs to me to wonder: how long before bigamists/polygamists demand their day in Supreme Court?  I hear bitter suggestions that NAMBLA types will be pleading their case as well soon, but they do not have all parties involved as freely consenting adults.  Bigamists/polygamists presumably do.

If SCOTUS had moved against Gay Marriage on religious infringement grounds, then I think they would have opened themselves up a lot more to the bigamist/polygamist, since those have traditionally been religiously sanctioned.

Equal rights was the basis of the ruling as I crudely understand it.  So why should the State turn away more than two parties who wish to be in the same marriage?  Why should states refuse to allow first cousins to marry? Does it not infringe upon those people's rights?
Actually some states do allow first cousins to get married, some only if one member of the couple is infertile.  And there are benefits to society to keep cousins from breeding.

When I got my marriage license some years ago I had to be able to truthfully state that I was not intoxicated, syphilitic or about to marry someone closer than my third cousin in order to receive said license.  I imagine that quite a number of states have similar requirements.

I am sure there are plenty of people who would still today argue that society would benefit by keeping same sex couples from marrying, so I can't say I find that argument convincing.
Name one, that does not come from a religion.

They will not have the same ability to bring more new, little taxpayers into the world, for one.

But they will in fact be able to provide a good home though adoption to children that might otherwise end up orphanages, in broken homes, or on the street.  So fewer juvenile delinquents, more happy homes, and more teaching kids to grow up to be responsible adults and contributing members of society.  So win-win-win-win-win.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Cressida on June 26, 2015, 04:05:29 PM
The US is more than 80% Christian AND a democracy.  So the USA is in fact a "Christian Nation".  And when we go bombing the Middle East, it is in fact an act of Christian aggression.  Or, do you think that Iraq and Afghanistan are thinking to themselves "Why are our Muslim brothers in the USA bombing us?".  No, they are thinking "Why are the western Christians bombing us".  So, ipso facto, we DID create ISIS. 

Of course as a None's, I wash my hands of the whole stinking mess.

71% and falling fast, actually. http://www.pewforum.org/2015/05/12/americas-changing-religious-landscape/
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gin1984 on June 26, 2015, 04:05:57 PM
So now gay people can be as miserable as straight married people in all states.  I predict a booming divorce lawyer trade within a year.

It occurs to me to wonder: how long before bigamists/polygamists demand their day in Supreme Court?  I hear bitter suggestions that NAMBLA types will be pleading their case as well soon, but they do not have all parties involved as freely consenting adults.  Bigamists/polygamists presumably do.

If SCOTUS had moved against Gay Marriage on religious infringement grounds, then I think they would have opened themselves up a lot more to the bigamist/polygamist, since those have traditionally been religiously sanctioned.

Equal rights was the basis of the ruling as I crudely understand it.  So why should the State turn away more than two parties who wish to be in the same marriage?  Why should states refuse to allow first cousins to marry? Does it not infringe upon those people's rights?
Actually some states do allow first cousins to get married, some only if one member of the couple is infertile.  And there are benefits to society to keep cousins from breeding.

When I got my marriage license some years ago I had to be able to truthfully state that I was not intoxicated, syphilitic or about to marry someone closer than my third cousin in order to receive said license.  I imagine that quite a number of states have similar requirements.

I am sure there are plenty of people who would still today argue that society would benefit by keeping same sex couples from marrying, so I can't say I find that argument convincing.
Name one, that does not come from a religion.

They will not have the same ability to bring more new, little taxpayers into the world, for one.
You don't have to be fertile to get married.  As I stated, some states require you to infertile to get married.  That is not a harm to society.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: regulator on June 26, 2015, 04:11:36 PM
So now gay people can be as miserable as straight married people in all states.  I predict a booming divorce lawyer trade within a year.

It occurs to me to wonder: how long before bigamists/polygamists demand their day in Supreme Court?  I hear bitter suggestions that NAMBLA types will be pleading their case as well soon, but they do not have all parties involved as freely consenting adults.  Bigamists/polygamists presumably do.

If SCOTUS had moved against Gay Marriage on religious infringement grounds, then I think they would have opened themselves up a lot more to the bigamist/polygamist, since those have traditionally been religiously sanctioned.

Equal rights was the basis of the ruling as I crudely understand it.  So why should the State turn away more than two parties who wish to be in the same marriage?  Why should states refuse to allow first cousins to marry? Does it not infringe upon those people's rights?
Actually some states do allow first cousins to get married, some only if one member of the couple is infertile.  And there are benefits to society to keep cousins from breeding.

When I got my marriage license some years ago I had to be able to truthfully state that I was not intoxicated, syphilitic or about to marry someone closer than my third cousin in order to receive said license.  I imagine that quite a number of states have similar requirements.

I am sure there are plenty of people who would still today argue that society would benefit by keeping same sex couples from marrying, so I can't say I find that argument convincing.
Name one, that does not come from a religion.

They will not have the same ability to bring more new, little taxpayers into the world, for one.
You don't have to be fertile to get married.  As I stated, some states require you to infertile to get married.  That is not a harm to society.

When one looks at the tax code, it is almost impossible not to conclude that the gubmint wants you to have as many little taxpayers as possible.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Cathy on June 26, 2015, 04:45:24 PM
The procreation argument is patently without merit. I was actually surprised that it was alluded to in the dissenting opinions of Roberts CJ and Thomas and Alito JJ, even though none of them relied on it as a part of their core legal reasoning. The separate opinion of Scalia J mercifully did not mention that argument, but he did join in the other dissenting opinions.

There hasn't been much litigation of plural relationships in recent years. In Reference re: Section 293 of the Criminal Code of Canada, 2011 BCSC 1588 (http://www.canlii.org/en/bc/bcsc/doc/2011/2011bcsc1588/2011bcsc1588.html), the BC Supreme Court upheld various criminal restrictions on certain plural relationships and did not recognise any right to participate in them. The decision was not appealed. I express no view on the merits of the decision. It is just provided for informational purposes.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Bardo on June 26, 2015, 04:58:22 PM
This whole complaint that equal marriage rights somehow impinges on religious freedom just slays me.  In what possible way is anyone's religious freedom impeded by granting others rights?  Would the argument hold that if I decided that my religion told me that blacks were inferior, and therefore must be treated as second-class citizens?  How can freedom for one person take away another's freedom?  Unless these "religious freedom" cranks are somehow being forced to marry within their sex their argument is just so bogus.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: regulator on June 26, 2015, 05:04:50 PM
This whole complaint that equal marriage rights somehow impinges on religious freedom just slays me.  In what possible way is anyone's religious freedom impeded by granting others rights?  Would the argument hold that if I decided that my religion told me that blacks were inferior, and therefore must be treated as second-class citizens?  How can freedom for one person take away another's freedom?  Unless these "religious freedom" cranks are somehow being forced to marry within their sex their argument is just so bogus.

I think that it is mostly a way to say that they don't approve of same sex marriage.  That said, given numerous cases where people (mostly bakers, for whatever reason) are forced to supply stuff for same sex marriages or else be sued/ruined even though it goes against their deeply held beliefs, I can see at least some of the argument.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on June 26, 2015, 05:07:56 PM
(http://41.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lf2dg05Eqj1qzwaddo1_500.png)

Maybe conservatives really are color-blind.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Tyson on June 26, 2015, 05:12:01 PM
This whole complaint that equal marriage rights somehow impinges on religious freedom just slays me.  In what possible way is anyone's religious freedom impeded by granting others rights?  Would the argument hold that if I decided that my religion told me that blacks were inferior, and therefore must be treated as second-class citizens?  How can freedom for one person take away another's freedom?  Unless these "religious freedom" cranks are somehow being forced to marry within their sex their argument is just so bogus.

I think that it is mostly a way to say that they don't approve of same sex marriage.  That said, given numerous cases where people (mostly bakers, for whatever reason) are forced to supply stuff for same sex marriages or else be sued/ruined even though it goes against their deeply held beliefs, I can see at least some of the argument.

Again, substitute "black" for "same sex" and see if your argument still holds. 
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on June 26, 2015, 05:12:49 PM
Did anyone really think they would rule otherwise?

I'm kind of surprised Roberts is the writer of the dissenting opinion. I really figured that he wouldn't want to be on the wrong side of history with this one.  Of course, in history he will get credit for the judgement because "his" court made the decision.

Please forgive the ignorance but can you give me the cliff notes version of how/why Roberts is the Chief Justice on the Supreme Court. Is it voted on amongst justices, is it just luck based on when you were appointed, I can't imagine it is based on seniority cause I know other justices have been there longer.

GW Bush nominated him to the Chief Justice position. http://www.cnn.com/2005/POLITICS/09/05/roberts.nomination/

Sometimes when the Chief Justice dies or retires, the President promotes one of the sitting justices and nominates a new one. Bush was wanting to promote O'Connor but she decided not to stay on the Court.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on June 26, 2015, 05:14:24 PM
So now gay people can be as miserable as straight married people in all states.  I predict a booming divorce lawyer trade within a year.

It occurs to me to wonder: how long before bigamists/polygamists demand their day in Supreme Court?  I hear bitter suggestions that NAMBLA types will be pleading their case as well soon, but they do not have all parties involved as freely consenting adults.  Bigamists/polygamists presumably do.

If SCOTUS had moved against Gay Marriage on religious infringement grounds, then I think they would have opened themselves up a lot more to the bigamist/polygamist, since those have traditionally been religiously sanctioned.

Equal rights was the basis of the ruling as I crudely understand it.  So why should the State turn away more than two parties who wish to be in the same marriage?  Why should states refuse to allow first cousins to marry? Does it not infringe upon those people's rights?
Actually some states do allow first cousins to get married, some only if one member of the couple is infertile.  And there are benefits to society to keep cousins from breeding.

When I got my marriage license some years ago I had to be able to truthfully state that I was not intoxicated, syphilitic or about to marry someone closer than my third cousin in order to receive said license.  I imagine that quite a number of states have similar requirements.

I am sure there are plenty of people who would still today argue that society would benefit by keeping same sex couples from marrying, so I can't say I find that argument convincing.
Name one, that does not come from a religion.

They will not have the same ability to bring more new, little taxpayers into the world, for one.

But they will in fact be able to provide a good home though adoption to children that might otherwise end up orphanages, in broken homes, or on the street.  So fewer juvenile delinquents, more happy homes, and more teaching kids to grow up to be responsible adults and contributing members of society.  So win-win-win-win-win.

And I know quite a lot of gay people with kids of their own.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: regulator on June 26, 2015, 05:31:30 PM
This whole complaint that equal marriage rights somehow impinges on religious freedom just slays me.  In what possible way is anyone's religious freedom impeded by granting others rights?  Would the argument hold that if I decided that my religion told me that blacks were inferior, and therefore must be treated as second-class citizens?  How can freedom for one person take away another's freedom?  Unless these "religious freedom" cranks are somehow being forced to marry within their sex their argument is just so bogus.


I think that it is mostly a way to say that they don't approve of same sex marriage.  That said, given numerous cases where people (mostly bakers, for whatever reason) are forced to supply stuff for same sex marriages or else be sued/ruined even though it goes against their deeply held beliefs, I can see at least some of the argument.

Again, substitute "black" for "same sex" and see if your argument still holds.

This is not about race, so leave it be with the straw person.

I personally don't care who wishes to marry whom.  If nothing else, it will give the social scientists endless fodder for studying things like divorce rates, comparisons to conventional marriages on things like health, income, etc.  But  would have a much easier time living and let live if I felt like the same courtesy were extended all around.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gin1984 on June 26, 2015, 05:32:23 PM
This whole complaint that equal marriage rights somehow impinges on religious freedom just slays me.  In what possible way is anyone's religious freedom impeded by granting others rights?  Would the argument hold that if I decided that my religion told me that blacks were inferior, and therefore must be treated as second-class citizens?  How can freedom for one person take away another's freedom?  Unless these "religious freedom" cranks are somehow being forced to marry within their sex their argument is just so bogus.

I think that it is mostly a way to say that they don't approve of same sex marriage.  That said, given numerous cases where people (mostly bakers, for whatever reason) are forced to supply stuff for same sex marriages or else be sued/ruined even though it goes against their deeply held beliefs, I can see at least some of the argument.
If you want to be a bigot, that sometimes comes with backlash.  I won't shop at places owned by bigots.  That has nothing to do with your religion, it has to do with you being a bigot.  Just because you want to hide behind your religion as an excuse does not change the fact, bigot.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Tyson on June 26, 2015, 05:37:12 PM
This whole complaint that equal marriage rights somehow impinges on religious freedom just slays me.  In what possible way is anyone's religious freedom impeded by granting others rights?  Would the argument hold that if I decided that my religion told me that blacks were inferior, and therefore must be treated as second-class citizens?  How can freedom for one person take away another's freedom?  Unless these "religious freedom" cranks are somehow being forced to marry within their sex their argument is just so bogus.


I think that it is mostly a way to say that they don't approve of same sex marriage.  That said, given numerous cases where people (mostly bakers, for whatever reason) are forced to supply stuff for same sex marriages or else be sued/ruined even though it goes against their deeply held beliefs, I can see at least some of the argument.

Again, substitute "black" for "same sex" and see if your argument still holds.

This is not about race, so leave it be with the straw person.

I personally don't care who wishes to marry whom.  If nothing else, it will give the social scientists endless fodder for studying things like divorce rates, comparisons to conventional marriages on things like health, income, etc.  But  would have a much easier time living and let live if I felt like the same courtesy were extended all around.

It's about equal rights.  Civil Rights, Gay Rights.  You can pretend that they are not equivalent, but they are.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: sol on June 26, 2015, 05:38:07 PM
Just because you want to hide behind your religion as an excuse does not change the fact, bigot.

Shut up, you heathen.  Slavery is IN THE BIBLE.  God clearly sanctions my bigotry, are you saying God is wrong? 
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gin1984 on June 26, 2015, 05:40:10 PM
This whole complaint that equal marriage rights somehow impinges on religious freedom just slays me.  In what possible way is anyone's religious freedom impeded by granting others rights?  Would the argument hold that if I decided that my religion told me that blacks were inferior, and therefore must be treated as second-class citizens?  How can freedom for one person take away another's freedom?  Unless these "religious freedom" cranks are somehow being forced to marry within their sex their argument is just so bogus.


I think that it is mostly a way to say that they don't approve of same sex marriage.  That said, given numerous cases where people (mostly bakers, for whatever reason) are forced to supply stuff for same sex marriages or else be sued/ruined even though it goes against their deeply held beliefs, I can see at least some of the argument.

Again, substitute "black" for "same sex" and see if your argument still holds.

This is not about race, so leave it be with the straw person.

I personally don't care who wishes to marry whom.  If nothing else, it will give the social scientists endless fodder for studying things like divorce rates, comparisons to conventional marriages on things like health, income, etc.  But  would have a much easier time living and let live if I felt like the same courtesy were extended all around.
Actually race is a pretty good equivalent.  Both are caused by genetics influenced by environment (some of that being within the womb as the environment) and have no actual negative or positive features based on those genetics. 
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Sparafusile on June 26, 2015, 05:49:06 PM
What I find hilarious is that many religious people will pick and choose which parts of their respective doctrines to follow depending on their own desires. For example, many a Christian that was interviewed about gay marriage were, unsurprisingly, against it. When asked how many of them had been divorced, many of them had been! Both things are banned in the bible, but only one is followed.


Why are any of these things less important than being gay and getting married? They are all banned in the bible.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: regulator on June 26, 2015, 05:51:43 PM
This whole complaint that equal marriage rights somehow impinges on religious freedom just slays me.  In what possible way is anyone's religious freedom impeded by granting others rights?  Would the argument hold that if I decided that my religion told me that blacks were inferior, and therefore must be treated as second-class citizens?  How can freedom for one person take away another's freedom?  Unless these "religious freedom" cranks are somehow being forced to marry within their sex their argument is just so bogus.


I think that it is mostly a way to say that they don't approve of same sex marriage.  That said, given numerous cases where people (mostly bakers, for whatever reason) are forced to supply stuff for same sex marriages or else be sued/ruined even though it goes against their deeply held beliefs, I can see at least some of the argument.

Again, substitute "black" for "same sex" and see if your argument still holds.

This is not about race, so leave it be with the straw person.

I personally don't care who wishes to marry whom.  If nothing else, it will give the social scientists endless fodder for studying things like divorce rates, comparisons to conventional marriages on things like health, income, etc.  But  would have a much easier time living and let live if I felt like the same courtesy were extended all around.
Actually race is a pretty good equivalent.  Both are caused by genetics influenced by environment (some of that being within the womb as the environment) and have no actual negative or positive features based on those genetics.

But of course a homosexual always has the option of STFU and pretend to be straight in public.  If they are white or Asian, poof!  No discrimination.  Not saying it is right, but it is an important distinction when attempting to equate being gay with being, say, black.

Like I said, mostly I could not give a flying reproductive act with the baked good of your choice (I am open minded) about any of this.  I am white, straight, very married and have kids I am raising in a house in the burbs.  I live my life and everyone else lives theirs.  What I don't care for is the ever-increasing central gubmint control of damn near everything and if you don't agree things get rammed down your throat even if it means you lose teeth in the process.  Should the state discriminate on who it grants marriage licenses to?  As far as I am concerned, what consenting adults choose to do with their lives is up to them, whether that means single, conventional marriage, gay marriage, marrying a close relative, bigamy, whatever.  Forcing private citizens to do things that are against their deeply held personal or religious beliefs?  Not so much.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: trailrated on June 26, 2015, 05:52:02 PM
What I find hilarious is that many religious people will pick and choose which parts of their respective doctrines to follow depending on their own desires. For example, many a Christian that was interviewed about gay marriage were, unsurprisingly, against it. When asked how many of them had been divorced, many of them had been! Both things are banned in the bible, but only one is followed.

  • eating shell fish
  • getting tattooed
  • masturbating
  • watching porn
  • gossiping
  • eating too much
  • playing football
  • working every day of the week

Why are any of these things less important than being gay and getting married? They are all banned in the bible.

I call bullshit because it did not address me specifically watching porn on my laptop. Therefore it is ok.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Sparafusile on June 26, 2015, 06:24:09 PM
Forcing private citizens to do things that are against their deeply held personal or religious beliefs?  Not so much.

I mostly agree with everything you said, but I'd like to discuss this statement for a moment. This is just a thought exercise and isn't directed at you personally. I have two hypothetical scenarios:

1) What if it was my deeply held person belief that I didn't want to pay taxes any more - would that be acceptable? I'm a surgeon and it's my deeply held personal belief that my patients never receive blood transfusions and several of my patients (who do not share that belief) have died because of it. Is that acceptable? How about this - it is my deeply held personal belief that everybody with blue eyes is really the devil and I decide to start shooting them in the street. Hopefully that's not acceptable.

Now my next scenario:

2) A group of people come into power in the government that decide that it is not acceptable to eat sushi any more. I happen to love sushi, but ok, I can live with that. Next the same group of people decide that it's not acceptable to buy any type of shoe except Converse (chosen at random). Probably not a big deal, but may be a little annoying. Finally, the same group of people decide that any one that's not of Scandinavian descent can no longer attend college. That's probably going to be a problem.

Both of these were taken to the extreme to illustrate a point. Now let's extrapolate this into the current topic.

1) I'm Christian and I believe that people that fall in love with someone of the same sex is not able to be seen as equal under the law and are therefor not allowed to get married.

2) I'm gay and the government says that I'm not allowed to visit the love of my life in the hospital or have a decision on whether to pull the plug.

Notice that in all of my #1 scenarios, the person holding the belief drastically affects people that don't hold that belief. All of my #2 scenarios the person being affected is powerless to change the circumstances that happen to be repressive. So my opinion is that you should NOT be able to act on any belief that you have. If it doesn't affect anybody other than yourself in your own house then YES do whatever you want. But when people's beliefs start becoming law that's a huge problem for me.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: regulator on June 26, 2015, 06:40:04 PM
Forcing private citizens to do things that are against their deeply held personal or religious beliefs?  Not so much.

I mostly agree with everything you said, but I'd like to discuss this statement for a moment. This is just a thought exercise and isn't directed at you personally. I have two hypothetical scenarios:

1) What if it was my deeply held person belief that I didn't want to pay taxes any more - would that be acceptable? I'm a surgeon and it's my deeply held personal belief that my patients never receive blood transfusions and several of my patients (who do not share that belief) have died because of it. Is that acceptable? How about this - it is my deeply held personal belief that everybody with blue eyes is really the devil and I decide to start shooting them in the street. Hopefully that's not acceptable.

Now my next scenario:

2) A group of people come into power in the government that decide that it is not acceptable to eat sushi any more. I happen to love sushi, but ok, I can live with that. Next the same group of people decide that it's not acceptable to buy any type of shoe except Converse (chosen at random). Probably not a big deal, but may be a little annoying. Finally, the same group of people decide that any one that's not of Scandinavian descent can no longer attend college. That's probably going to be a problem.

Both of these were taken to the extreme to illustrate a point. Now let's extrapolate this into the current topic.

1) I'm Christian and I believe that people that fall in love with someone of the same sex is not able to be seen as equal under the law and are therefor not allowed to get married.

2) I'm gay and the government says that I'm not allowed to visit the love of my life in the hospital or have a decision on whether to pull the plug.

Notice that in all of my #1 scenarios, the person holding the belief drastically affects people that don't hold that belief. All of my #2 scenarios the person being affected is powerless to change the circumstances that happen to be repressive. So my opinion is that you should NOT be able to act on any belief that you have. If it doesn't affect anybody other than yourself in your own house then YES do whatever you want. But when people's beliefs start becoming law that's a huge problem for me.

I'd say we are not that far apart.  In the case of your surgeon, he can have whatever beliefs about blood transfusions he wishes (although this is highly improbably considering what most doctors are comfy doing to people), but since it clearly has direct negative effects on other people (they die) he can also expect to suffer the consequences (loss of medical license, malpractice suits, etc.).  Obviously this is hyperbole.

Your two scenarios are quite different from the intentional extremes.  The Xtian in 1 is free to believe whatever they like and vote accordingly.  If their viewpoint does not carry the majority, tough titties.  However, forcing them to take personal actions that do not square with their beliefs (e.g. presiding at a homosexual marriage ceremony) is where I get all 2nd Amendment/well regulated militia/the tree of freedom is watered with the blood of tyrants.

Scenario 2 is problematic in the extreme, which is why I have no particular problem with homosexuals, cousins or bigamists getting married.  This is an issue of state control.  Either the state should keep its ugly, dirty nose out of marriage entirely (tax code, I am looking at you), or it should bless all unions equally.

Acting on stuff that hurts other people (aside from voting, which is a right of all citizens however pleasant or repugnant their views might be) should be a no-no.  Being forced to do things should also obviously be a no-no.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Tyson on June 26, 2015, 06:47:49 PM
This whole complaint that equal marriage rights somehow impinges on religious freedom just slays me.  In what possible way is anyone's religious freedom impeded by granting others rights?  Would the argument hold that if I decided that my religion told me that blacks were inferior, and therefore must be treated as second-class citizens?  How can freedom for one person take away another's freedom?  Unless these "religious freedom" cranks are somehow being forced to marry within their sex their argument is just so bogus.


I think that it is mostly a way to say that they don't approve of same sex marriage.  That said, given numerous cases where people (mostly bakers, for whatever reason) are forced to supply stuff for same sex marriages or else be sued/ruined even though it goes against their deeply held beliefs, I can see at least some of the argument.

Again, substitute "black" for "same sex" and see if your argument still holds.

This is not about race, so leave it be with the straw person.

I personally don't care who wishes to marry whom.  If nothing else, it will give the social scientists endless fodder for studying things like divorce rates, comparisons to conventional marriages on things like health, income, etc.  But  would have a much easier time living and let live if I felt like the same courtesy were extended all around.
Actually race is a pretty good equivalent.  Both are caused by genetics influenced by environment (some of that being within the womb as the environment) and have no actual negative or positive features based on those genetics.

But of course a homosexual always has the option of STFU and pretend to be straight in public.  If they are white or Asian, poof!  No discrimination.  Not saying it is right, but it is an important distinction when attempting to equate being gay with being, say, black.

Like I said, mostly I could not give a flying reproductive act with the baked good of your choice (I am open minded) about any of this.  I am white, straight, very married and have kids I am raising in a house in the burbs.  I live my life and everyone else lives theirs.  What I don't care for is the ever-increasing central gubmint control of damn near everything and if you don't agree things get rammed down your throat even if it means you lose teeth in the process.  Should the state discriminate on who it grants marriage licenses to?  As far as I am concerned, what consenting adults choose to do with their lives is up to them, whether that means single, conventional marriage, gay marriage, marrying a close relative, bigamy, whatever.  Forcing private citizens to do things that are against their deeply held personal or religious beliefs?  Not so much.

Ah, the small government argument.  Well, in this case you should be very happy, because the government had ALREADY overstepped by not allowing gay people to marry in the first place and thus were infringing their rights.  This ruling REMOVED that government over reach.  So, Yay Small Government!
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Cathy on June 26, 2015, 06:53:02 PM
The true libertarian position on marriage would be that the state should not be in the business of licensing interpersonal relationships. (The phrase "true libertarian" is used with intentional jest.) If people want to enter into an agreement regarding their joint dealings, the instrument for that is a contract. Currently, many rights associated with marriage are statutory and can't be obtained through contract, but in a libertarian post-marriage world, those statutory rights would not exist, so that wouldn't be an issue.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: regulator on June 26, 2015, 06:54:11 PM
This whole complaint that equal marriage rights somehow impinges on religious freedom just slays me.  In what possible way is anyone's religious freedom impeded by granting others rights?  Would the argument hold that if I decided that my religion told me that blacks were inferior, and therefore must be treated as second-class citizens?  How can freedom for one person take away another's freedom?  Unless these "religious freedom" cranks are somehow being forced to marry within their sex their argument is just so bogus.


I think that it is mostly a way to say that they don't approve of same sex marriage.  That said, given numerous cases where people (mostly bakers, for whatever reason) are forced to supply stuff for same sex marriages or else be sued/ruined even though it goes against their deeply held beliefs, I can see at least some of the argument.

Again, substitute "black" for "same sex" and see if your argument still holds.

This is not about race, so leave it be with the straw person.

I personally don't care who wishes to marry whom.  If nothing else, it will give the social scientists endless fodder for studying things like divorce rates, comparisons to conventional marriages on things like health, income, etc.  But  would have a much easier time living and let live if I felt like the same courtesy were extended all around.
Actually race is a pretty good equivalent.  Both are caused by genetics influenced by environment (some of that being within the womb as the environment) and have no actual negative or positive features based on those genetics.

But of course a homosexual always has the option of STFU and pretend to be straight in public.  If they are white or Asian, poof!  No discrimination.  Not saying it is right, but it is an important distinction when attempting to equate being gay with being, say, black.

Like I said, mostly I could not give a flying reproductive act with the baked good of your choice (I am open minded) about any of this.  I am white, straight, very married and have kids I am raising in a house in the burbs.  I live my life and everyone else lives theirs.  What I don't care for is the ever-increasing central gubmint control of damn near everything and if you don't agree things get rammed down your throat even if it means you lose teeth in the process.  Should the state discriminate on who it grants marriage licenses to?  As far as I am concerned, what consenting adults choose to do with their lives is up to them, whether that means single, conventional marriage, gay marriage, marrying a close relative, bigamy, whatever.  Forcing private citizens to do things that are against their deeply held personal or religious beliefs?  Not so much.

Ah, the small government argument.  Well, in this case you should be very happy, because the government had ALREADY overstepped by not allowing gay people to marry and thus were infringing their rights.  This ruling REMOVED that government over reach.  So, Yay Small Government!

But this is an issue I mostly don't care about.  Want a list of hideous gubmint interference in everyday life that is unnecessary and repugnant?  We might be here a while...
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Tyson on June 26, 2015, 06:56:58 PM
The true libertarian position on marriage would be that the state should not be in the business of licensing interpersonal relationships. (The phrase "true libertarian" is used with intentional jest.) If people want to enter into an agreement regarding their joint dealings, the instrument for that is a contract. Currently, many rights associated with marriage are statutory and can't be obtained through contract, but in a libertarian post-marriage world, those statutory rights would not exist, so that wouldn't be an issue.

I like you, Cathy :)
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Tyson on June 26, 2015, 06:59:01 PM
This whole complaint that equal marriage rights somehow impinges on religious freedom just slays me.  In what possible way is anyone's religious freedom impeded by granting others rights?  Would the argument hold that if I decided that my religion told me that blacks were inferior, and therefore must be treated as second-class citizens?  How can freedom for one person take away another's freedom?  Unless these "religious freedom" cranks are somehow being forced to marry within their sex their argument is just so bogus.


I think that it is mostly a way to say that they don't approve of same sex marriage.  That said, given numerous cases where people (mostly bakers, for whatever reason) are forced to supply stuff for same sex marriages or else be sued/ruined even though it goes against their deeply held beliefs, I can see at least some of the argument.

Again, substitute "black" for "same sex" and see if your argument still holds.

This is not about race, so leave it be with the straw person.

I personally don't care who wishes to marry whom.  If nothing else, it will give the social scientists endless fodder for studying things like divorce rates, comparisons to conventional marriages on things like health, income, etc.  But  would have a much easier time living and let live if I felt like the same courtesy were extended all around.
Actually race is a pretty good equivalent.  Both are caused by genetics influenced by environment (some of that being within the womb as the environment) and have no actual negative or positive features based on those genetics.

But of course a homosexual always has the option of STFU and pretend to be straight in public.  If they are white or Asian, poof!  No discrimination.  Not saying it is right, but it is an important distinction when attempting to equate being gay with being, say, black.

Like I said, mostly I could not give a flying reproductive act with the baked good of your choice (I am open minded) about any of this.  I am white, straight, very married and have kids I am raising in a house in the burbs.  I live my life and everyone else lives theirs.  What I don't care for is the ever-increasing central gubmint control of damn near everything and if you don't agree things get rammed down your throat even if it means you lose teeth in the process.  Should the state discriminate on who it grants marriage licenses to?  As far as I am concerned, what consenting adults choose to do with their lives is up to them, whether that means single, conventional marriage, gay marriage, marrying a close relative, bigamy, whatever.  Forcing private citizens to do things that are against their deeply held personal or religious beliefs?  Not so much.

Ah, the small government argument.  Well, in this case you should be very happy, because the government had ALREADY overstepped by not allowing gay people to marry and thus were infringing their rights.  This ruling REMOVED that government over reach.  So, Yay Small Government!

But this is an issue I mostly don't care about.  Want a list of hideous gubmint interference in everyday life that is unnecessary and repugnant?  We might be here a while...

You are welcome to start another thread.  In THIS thread I'm going to be happy that you lost the argument and most of the members actively disagreed with your views.  That, IMO, is progress.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: regulator on June 26, 2015, 07:06:42 PM
This whole complaint that equal marriage rights somehow impinges on religious freedom just slays me.  In what possible way is anyone's religious freedom impeded by granting others rights?  Would the argument hold that if I decided that my religion told me that blacks were inferior, and therefore must be treated as second-class citizens?  How can freedom for one person take away another's freedom?  Unless these "religious freedom" cranks are somehow being forced to marry within their sex their argument is just so bogus.


I think that it is mostly a way to say that they don't approve of same sex marriage.  That said, given numerous cases where people (mostly bakers, for whatever reason) are forced to supply stuff for same sex marriages or else be sued/ruined even though it goes against their deeply held beliefs, I can see at least some of the argument.

Again, substitute "black" for "same sex" and see if your argument still holds.

This is not about race, so leave it be with the straw person.

I personally don't care who wishes to marry whom.  If nothing else, it will give the social scientists endless fodder for studying things like divorce rates, comparisons to conventional marriages on things like health, income, etc.  But  would have a much easier time living and let live if I felt like the same courtesy were extended all around.
Actually race is a pretty good equivalent.  Both are caused by genetics influenced by environment (some of that being within the womb as the environment) and have no actual negative or positive features based on those genetics.

But of course a homosexual always has the option of STFU and pretend to be straight in public.  If they are white or Asian, poof!  No discrimination.  Not saying it is right, but it is an important distinction when attempting to equate being gay with being, say, black.

Like I said, mostly I could not give a flying reproductive act with the baked good of your choice (I am open minded) about any of this.  I am white, straight, very married and have kids I am raising in a house in the burbs.  I live my life and everyone else lives theirs.  What I don't care for is the ever-increasing central gubmint control of damn near everything and if you don't agree things get rammed down your throat even if it means you lose teeth in the process.  Should the state discriminate on who it grants marriage licenses to?  As far as I am concerned, what consenting adults choose to do with their lives is up to them, whether that means single, conventional marriage, gay marriage, marrying a close relative, bigamy, whatever.  Forcing private citizens to do things that are against their deeply held personal or religious beliefs?  Not so much.

Ah, the small government argument.  Well, in this case you should be very happy, because the government had ALREADY overstepped by not allowing gay people to marry and thus were infringing their rights.  This ruling REMOVED that government over reach.  So, Yay Small Government!

But this is an issue I mostly don't care about.  Want a list of hideous gubmint interference in everyday life that is unnecessary and repugnant?  We might be here a while...

You are welcome to start another thread.  In THIS thread I'm going to be happy that you lost the argument and most of the members actively disagreed with your views.  That, IMO, is progress.

That seems a tad petty, no?  You love Cathy's view even though it squares with mine and then give me a hard time.  Hmmm...

I could care less what the majority or anyone in particular thinks.  We each live by our own lights.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Tyson on June 26, 2015, 07:27:36 PM
This whole complaint that equal marriage rights somehow impinges on religious freedom just slays me.  In what possible way is anyone's religious freedom impeded by granting others rights?  Would the argument hold that if I decided that my religion told me that blacks were inferior, and therefore must be treated as second-class citizens?  How can freedom for one person take away another's freedom?  Unless these "religious freedom" cranks are somehow being forced to marry within their sex their argument is just so bogus.


I think that it is mostly a way to say that they don't approve of same sex marriage.  That said, given numerous cases where people (mostly bakers, for whatever reason) are forced to supply stuff for same sex marriages or else be sued/ruined even though it goes against their deeply held beliefs, I can see at least some of the argument.

Again, substitute "black" for "same sex" and see if your argument still holds.

This is not about race, so leave it be with the straw person.

I personally don't care who wishes to marry whom.  If nothing else, it will give the social scientists endless fodder for studying things like divorce rates, comparisons to conventional marriages on things like health, income, etc.  But  would have a much easier time living and let live if I felt like the same courtesy were extended all around.
Actually race is a pretty good equivalent.  Both are caused by genetics influenced by environment (some of that being within the womb as the environment) and have no actual negative or positive features based on those genetics.

But of course a homosexual always has the option of STFU and pretend to be straight in public.  If they are white or Asian, poof!  No discrimination.  Not saying it is right, but it is an important distinction when attempting to equate being gay with being, say, black.

Like I said, mostly I could not give a flying reproductive act with the baked good of your choice (I am open minded) about any of this.  I am white, straight, very married and have kids I am raising in a house in the burbs.  I live my life and everyone else lives theirs.  What I don't care for is the ever-increasing central gubmint control of damn near everything and if you don't agree things get rammed down your throat even if it means you lose teeth in the process.  Should the state discriminate on who it grants marriage licenses to?  As far as I am concerned, what consenting adults choose to do with their lives is up to them, whether that means single, conventional marriage, gay marriage, marrying a close relative, bigamy, whatever.  Forcing private citizens to do things that are against their deeply held personal or religious beliefs?  Not so much.

Ah, the small government argument.  Well, in this case you should be very happy, because the government had ALREADY overstepped by not allowing gay people to marry and thus were infringing their rights.  This ruling REMOVED that government over reach.  So, Yay Small Government!

But this is an issue I mostly don't care about.  Want a list of hideous gubmint interference in everyday life that is unnecessary and repugnant?  We might be here a while...

You are welcome to start another thread.  In THIS thread I'm going to be happy that you lost the argument and most of the members actively disagreed with your views.  That, IMO, is progress.

That seems a tad petty, no?  You love Cathy's view even though it squares with mine and then give me a hard time.  Hmmm...

I could care less what the majority or anyone in particular thinks.  We each live by our own lights.

Cathy is mocking.... oh never mind. 

And, BTW, if you don't care what anyone thinks, why are you posting here?  Hell, if you really don't care what anyone thinks, why are you even READING this thread full of other people's opinions?
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: MDM on June 26, 2015, 07:34:01 PM
The one with the highest ratio of original thought to quoted text wins.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: regulator on June 26, 2015, 07:46:20 PM
This whole complaint that equal marriage rights somehow impinges on religious freedom just slays me.  In what possible way is anyone's religious freedom impeded by granting others rights?  Would the argument hold that if I decided that my religion told me that blacks were inferior, and therefore must be treated as second-class citizens?  How can freedom for one person take away another's freedom?  Unless these "religious freedom" cranks are somehow being forced to marry within their sex their argument is just so bogus.


I think that it is mostly a way to say that they don't approve of same sex marriage.  That said, given numerous cases where people (mostly bakers, for whatever reason) are forced to supply stuff for same sex marriages or else be sued/ruined even though it goes against their deeply held beliefs, I can see at least some of the argument.

Again, substitute "black" for "same sex" and see if your argument still holds.

This is not about race, so leave it be with the straw person.

I personally don't care who wishes to marry whom.  If nothing else, it will give the social scientists endless fodder for studying things like divorce rates, comparisons to conventional marriages on things like health, income, etc.  But  would have a much easier time living and let live if I felt like the same courtesy were extended all around.
Actually race is a pretty good equivalent.  Both are caused by genetics influenced by environment (some of that being within the womb as the environment) and have no actual negative or positive features based on those genetics.

But of course a homosexual always has the option of STFU and pretend to be straight in public.  If they are white or Asian, poof!  No discrimination.  Not saying it is right, but it is an important distinction when attempting to equate being gay with being, say, black.

Like I said, mostly I could not give a flying reproductive act with the baked good of your choice (I am open minded) about any of this.  I am white, straight, very married and have kids I am raising in a house in the burbs.  I live my life and everyone else lives theirs.  What I don't care for is the ever-increasing central gubmint control of damn near everything and if you don't agree things get rammed down your throat even if it means you lose teeth in the process.  Should the state discriminate on who it grants marriage licenses to?  As far as I am concerned, what consenting adults choose to do with their lives is up to them, whether that means single, conventional marriage, gay marriage, marrying a close relative, bigamy, whatever.  Forcing private citizens to do things that are against their deeply held personal or religious beliefs?  Not so much.

Ah, the small government argument.  Well, in this case you should be very happy, because the government had ALREADY overstepped by not allowing gay people to marry and thus were infringing their rights.  This ruling REMOVED that government over reach.  So, Yay Small Government!

But this is an issue I mostly don't care about.  Want a list of hideous gubmint interference in everyday life that is unnecessary and repugnant?  We might be here a while...

You are welcome to start another thread.  In THIS thread I'm going to be happy that you lost the argument and most of the members actively disagreed with your views.  That, IMO, is progress.

That seems a tad petty, no?  You love Cathy's view even though it squares with mine and then give me a hard time.  Hmmm...

I could care less what the majority or anyone in particular thinks.  We each live by our own lights.

Cathy is mocking.... oh never mind. 

And, BTW, if you don't care what anyone thinks, why are you posting here?  Hell, if you really don't care what anyone thinks, why are you even READING this thread full of other people's opinions?

Truthfully, I am bored and not having the best day, so I am here to amuse myself.  Quite a large percentage of people on any forum about any topic could say the same.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Tyson on June 26, 2015, 08:23:24 PM
The one with the highest ratio of original thought to quoted text wins.

I like the pretty patterns of the high quote posts :P
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Bardo on June 26, 2015, 08:45:43 PM
Just found out that an old friend in Texas got married today.  I am so proud!
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: bludreamin on June 26, 2015, 09:11:49 PM

But of course a homosexual bigot always has the option of STFU and pretend to be straight a decent human in public.

(taken out of context but...) fixed it for you.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: CommonCents on June 26, 2015, 09:51:38 PM
Just learned it's my old firm that argued the case (pro bono).  Makes me a bit proud of them to learn that, which I wasn't quite expecting.  It's pretty damn awesome for those still there who can claim that bit of history.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: sol on June 26, 2015, 10:35:08 PM
Forcing them to take personal actions that do not square with their beliefs (e.g. presiding at a homosexual marriage ceremony) is where I get all 2nd Amendment/well regulated militia/the tree of freedom is watered with the blood of tyrants.

We've already settled this argument in America. You lost.

This exact argument was used by people who owned segregated lunch counters.  They claimed it was their religious right to refuse service to black people, and the government was infringing their rights by forcing desegregation on them.  They openly defied the new laws.

I don't see how refusing to bake a cake for a gay wedding is any different than refusing to serve lunch to black people.  We've already determined that a business owner does not have the right to discriminate against individuals even for personal religious reasons.  Get over it.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Cathy on June 26, 2015, 10:52:38 PM
For those interested in the topic, and further to my earlier posts, I came across this article, "By the Power Vested in Me? Licensing Religious Officials to Solemnize Marriage in the Age of Same-Sex Marriage (http://law.emory.edu/elj/content/volume-63/issue-4/comments/licensing-religious-officials-in-age-of-same-sex-marriage.html)" (the "Stevens article"), which argues that the marriage solemnisation laws in most or all states are currently unconstitutional, although it proposes some solutions (such as clearly separating the state function from the religious one).

In the interest of balance, I also found another article "Why Can Clergy Opt Out of Same-Sex Marriage? (https://verdict.justia.com/2015/05/06/why-can-clergy-opt-out-of-same-sex-marriage)" (the "Dorf article"), which considers the same question, and concludes that if religious ministers officiating marriages are presumed to be state officials, then it is very difficult to justify the constitutionality of current solemnisation laws. However, the article argues that this problem is avoidable by finding that such ministers are not state officials, by analogy to a school voucher system where students can choose to spend state funds on a religious school.

The Stevens article anticipates the "private actor" argument but finds that it doesn't save the current laws, because if the ministers are assumed to be purely religious actors, the current regime then amounts to an impermissible delegation of state power to non-state religious actors, contrary to the 1st and 14th amendments.

The Dorf article also makes a prediction that US courts are unlikely to invalidate the current solemnisation regime, under which ministers can reject proposed couples for marriage, but the author points out that coming up with a persuasive legal justification for that assumed result is very difficult. In other words, the article predicts that courts will engage in "results-driven reasoning" to preserve "minister opt-out". I offer no view on the accuracy of this prediction, but it is contained within the article.

Again, this issue was not discussed in the Supreme Court opinion released on June 25 and I offer no opinion on the merits of it. I am simply pointing out that this is not a "no-brainer" issue from a constitutional law perspective, even if popular American consciousness treats the result as obvious. The majority opinion in Obergefell actually carefully avoided discussing this issue, and there might be some significance to that choice. Page 27 of the slip opinion says that the 1st amendment protects the right of religious persons to "teach" and "advocate" their views opposing gender-neutral marriage, but it avoids saying that a state may constitutionally permit its deputised officials (religious or otherwise) to opt out of performing lawful marriages. The dissenting opinion of Roberts CJ seemingly comments on this omission and calls it "[o]minous[]" (page 28).

Once again, I am not suggesting that this any of this is good or bad. It is just neutrally-provided information.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on June 27, 2015, 07:39:55 AM
Those were excellent.

I wonder if Ahnold personally wrote the retort.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Kris on June 27, 2015, 09:20:16 AM
Those were fantastic. I laughed out loud at all of them.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Midwest on June 27, 2015, 09:33:43 AM
Quote from: Sparafusile
You REALLY believe that all Muslims are perfectly fine with what ISIS is doing? When was the last time you publicly condemned The Army of God, Eastern Lightning, The Lord's Resistance Army, The National Liberation Front of Tripura, etc etc etc?

I never said or inferred they did.  In fact I went as far as to say, most non-Christians (Muslims are included in that) condemn them as well.

Reading comprehension failure on my part. My apologies.

ISIS was created by the United States - a primarily Christian nation - by creating a war through lies and misinformation. That's a really bad example to use if you want to prove how wonderful Christians are.

The US is not, in the name of Christianity, killing Muslims.  ISIS, on the other hand, is. 

Blaming ISIS on the US is a stretch.  Blaming ISIS on Christianity is ridiculous.

I believe we are both getting way off topic here. If you'd like to continue a civil discussion, let us take this to a new thread. Otherwise, thank you for your point of view.

That's fine.  Might I suggest that when you infer blame to the Christian religion for ills of the world which most current day adherents have nothing to do with (KKK, the crusades, and ISIS for example), you should expect a response.  Inferring those things to all Christians is like blaming all Muslims for terrorism or all African Americans for problems in the inner city.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: regulator on June 27, 2015, 10:57:56 PM
Forcing them to take personal actions that do not square with their beliefs (e.g. presiding at a homosexual marriage ceremony) is where I get all 2nd Amendment/well regulated militia/the tree of freedom is watered with the blood of tyrants.

We've already settled this argument in America. You lost.

This exact argument was used by people who owned segregated lunch counters.  They claimed it was their religious right to refuse service to black people, and the government was infringing their rights by forcing desegregation on them.  They openly defied the new laws.

I don't see how refusing to bake a cake for a gay wedding is any different than refusing to serve lunch to black people.  We've already determined that a business owner does not have the right to discriminate against individuals even for personal religious reasons.  Get over it.

We will have to agree to disagree.  See you at the ballot box...
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: sol on June 28, 2015, 12:45:02 AM
We will have to agree to disagree.  See you at the ballot box...

Just so we're clear, you're really arguing that a business owner has the right to refuse service to someone based solely on their skin color or sexual orientation?
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Abe on June 28, 2015, 02:39:22 AM
Regarding not serving people at your business because you don't like them for various reasons that don't really affect you:
 
My hometown (formerly of KKK highway billboard fame) has two Waffle Houses. On a recent visit home, the waitress (with a smirk on her face) told me they had no waffle mix left to make my family waffles at 11am. Strangely enough, everyone else had waffles that looked fairly recently made.  The manager (also with a smirk) informed me that this surprising logistic issue had in fact just come to their attention. As surprised as I was at this oversight on their part, my family was happy to go to the other establishment that apparently had a larger waffle stockpile.  Moral of this story: good thing there's more than one Waffle House in my town.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: libertarian4321 on June 28, 2015, 04:01:15 AM
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I should have explained this more clearly, but yes, in many jurisdictions, religious officials are granted the power of the state to solemnise marriages. The fact that applicants can choose to use somebody else will certainly be an argument that is raised in the eventual litigation on this topic, if it comes up. In my post, I did not purport to write a dissertation on the merits of this issue under US law. I did not discuss which constitutional provisions might be relevant or what the arguments would be for or against. That was intentional because it was a very brief post. With these clarifications in mind, I think my earlier post should be more clear.

Religious officials have always been allowed to refuse to marry people, no?  The catholic priest in the church in which I was raised refused to marry my sister to her Jewish husband because he wouldn't promise to raise any kids catholic.  Likewise, he wouldn't marry my divorced brother to my divorced sister in law (neither had annulments).  LDS bishops aren't forced to marry Muslims, etc.

How is this any different?

This isn't about forcing Christian priests to marry muslim gays.  It's about allowing gay people to marry with the assistance of a willing officiant.  That does not have to be a religious figure, many non-religious people are authorized to conduct marriages.

Plus, of course, many religious people will gladly marry gay couples.  Hell, I have my online ministry from the Universal Life Church (don't laugh, it's no more ridiculous than any other religion)- for the right fee, I'll gladly do gay marriages.

Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on June 28, 2015, 05:51:05 AM
We will have to agree to disagree.  See you at the ballot box...

Just so we're clear, you're really arguing that a business owner has the right to refuse service to someone based solely on their skin color or sexual orientation?

A pretty common libertarian position. Until they run for president.
http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/fact-checker/post/rand-pauls-rewriting-of-his-own-remarks-on-the-civil-rights-act/2013/04/10/5b8d91c4-a235-11e2-82bc-511538ae90a4_blog.html
http://thinkprogress.org/justice/2015/04/07/3643434/rand-paul-worst-president-civil-rights-since-reconstruction/
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: MoneyCat on June 28, 2015, 07:19:41 AM
Polygamy is outlawed because it is almost always exploitative and harmful to women.  Hippies say otherwise, but hippies are generally wrong about pretty much everything.


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Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on June 28, 2015, 07:47:22 AM
Polygamy is outlawed because it is almost always exploitative and harmful to women.  Hippies say otherwise, but hippies are generally wrong about pretty much everything.

I've noticed that you like to make huge sweeping and overbroad statements about things. Perhaps you might consider that there are many different kinds of people within categories of people. And your own opinions (even if informed by your experience) are unlikely to hold true for others.

I would be surprised if concern for women had anything to do with laws against polygamy. That may have been used as political cover for the policy. But religious considerations and social norms are among the primary reasons.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Jack on June 28, 2015, 01:12:17 PM
First, I wish congratulations to those whose rights were made whole by the fact that the Supreme Court finally got around to grasping a concept that should have been blatantly obvious since forever (i.e., the concept that gender or any other sort of discriminatory criteria is irrelevant to competent adults' right to enter contracts with each other).

Now that that's out of the way, I have to ask: Why the fuck are all you people hanging out here arguing about this bread-and-circus "hot-button issue" distraction when you should be up in arms about things like the trans-pacific partnership and campaign finance reform? No offense intended to homosexuals (but plenty of offense intended towards dumbass busybody prudes who forced the issue), but this should never have been a so-called "important" issue to begin with, damn it!
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: MoneyCat on June 28, 2015, 01:13:56 PM
Polygamy is outlawed because it is almost always exploitative and harmful to women.  Hippies say otherwise, but hippies are generally wrong about pretty much everything.

I've noticed that you like to make huge sweeping and overbroad statements about things. Perhaps you might consider that there are many different kinds of people within categories of people. And your own opinions (even if informed by your experience) are unlikely to hold true for others.

I would be surprised if concern for women had anything to do with laws against polygamy. That may have been used as political cover for the policy. But religious considerations and social norms are among the primary reasons.

Go read about Fundamentalist Mormons and see if your opinion stays the same.  Throughout history, that's pretty much been how polygamy works.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on June 28, 2015, 02:24:05 PM
Polygamy is outlawed because it is almost always exploitative and harmful to women.  Hippies say otherwise, but hippies are generally wrong about pretty much everything.

I've noticed that you like to make huge sweeping and overbroad statements about things. Perhaps you might consider that there are many different kinds of people within categories of people. And your own opinions (even if informed by your experience) are unlikely to hold true for others.

I would be surprised if concern for women had anything to do with laws against polygamy. That may have been used as political cover for the policy. But religious considerations and social norms are among the primary reasons.

Go read about Fundamentalist Mormons and see if your opinion stays the same.  Throughout history, that's pretty much been how polygamy works.

That doesn't address either of my points. In the 1800s, people (largely Christians) didn't like Mormons, persecuted them, and succeeded at sequestering them in the desert. As part of the persecution, and in accordance with their social norms and religious beliefs, they also used the law to ban this Mormon practice. How women were treated under that system was likely irrelevant (as it has tended to be historically). Women weren't even allowed to vote.

And there's been a lot of polygamy that treated women relatively well. It's not just a Mormon practice--it's in the Bible and Quran too.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mormonism_and_violence
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anti-Mormonism
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Bardo on June 28, 2015, 02:39:23 PM
Quote from: Sparafusile
You REALLY believe that all Muslims are perfectly fine with what ISIS is doing? When was the last time you publicly condemned The Army of God, Eastern Lightning, The Lord's Resistance Army, The National Liberation Front of Tripura, etc etc etc?

I never said or inferred they did.  In fact I went as far as to say, most non-Christians (Muslims are included in that) condemn them as well.

Reading comprehension failure on my part. My apologies.

ISIS was created by the United States - a primarily Christian nation - by creating a war through lies and misinformation. That's a really bad example to use if you want to prove how wonderful Christians are.

The US is not, in the name of Christianity, killing Muslims.  ISIS, on the other hand, is. 

Blaming ISIS on the US is a stretch.  Blaming ISIS on Christianity is ridiculous.

I believe we are both getting way off topic here. If you'd like to continue a civil discussion, let us take this to a new thread. Otherwise, thank you for your point of view.

That's fine.  Might I suggest that when you infer blame to the Christian religion for ills of the world which most current day adherents have nothing to do with (KKK, the crusades, and ISIS for example), you should expect a response.  Inferring those things to all Christians is like blaming all Muslims for terrorism or all African Americans for problems in the inner city.

I certainly agree that it is wrong to blame all Christians.  That said, the simple fact is that it has been the Christians who have long promoted an agenda of hatred and state-supported discrimination against gays.  You can't really expect people to overlook that just to spare the feelings of their co-religionists.


Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Cathy on June 28, 2015, 02:51:48 PM
... the Supreme Court finally got around to ... the concept that gender ... is irrelevant to competent adults' right[s] ...

I agree with this analysis, although it did not appear in the opinion of the Court.

The previous system of limiting marriage to "one man and one woman" was properly viewed as being a form of impermissible gender-based classification system, and could have been found to be unconstitutional on that basis. This argument has always appealed to me, but judges don't seem too fond of it in either Canada or the US. I only know of one judge who used this reasoning, namely Greaney J in his concurring opinion in Goodridge v. Dept of Public Health, 798 NE2d 941 (Mass 2003), which found that the impugned marriage laws were an impermissible sex-based classification system, and were contrary to the Constitution of Massachusetts for that reason. None of the other judges of the Court joined his concurrence.

The US Supreme Court preferred other lines of reasoning and did not even mention this possible analysis.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Midwest on June 28, 2015, 03:18:00 PM

I certainly agree that it is wrong to blame all Christians.  That said, the simple fact is that it has been the Christians who have long promoted an agenda of hatred and state-supported discrimination against gays.  You can't really expect people to overlook that just to spare the feelings of their co-religionists.

Bardo - Few things - 1) Christianity is not the only religion to oppose same sex marriage. 2) I didn't expect anybody to ignore the issue, but some of the things being brought up went way beyond the issue at hand in my opinion.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Sparafusile on June 28, 2015, 06:37:37 PM
1) Christianity is not the only religion to oppose same sex marriage.

This in no way makes it acceptable. If other religions jumped off a bridge, would Christianity do it to? I'm pretty sure Jesus said "Love thy neighbor" not "Outlaw what they neighbor does in the privacy of their own bedroom". I'm still waiting on a Christian to explain why being gay is so terrible when eating shell fish, getting divorced, and playing football are not! Practitioners of Christianity are hypocrites and, in general, ignorant of the bible. Maybe practitioners of other religions are too, but I don't have to deal with them (and, again, that doesn't make it acceptable).

2) I didn't expect anybody to ignore the issue, but some of the things being brought up went way beyond the issue at hand in my opinion.

Tolerance is the ENTIRE issue here. It was a Christian in this thread that claimed that no Christian had ever burn down a temple or a mosque, stoned anybody in the streets, or beheaded somebody in public in order to prove they were more tolerant. After I showed otherwise, they changed the rules to only include things in the 20th century. Okay then:

Christians destroy mosques: http://shoebat.com/2015/03/18/christians-destroy-almost-all-of-the-mosques-in-central-africa/
Christian stoning gay man to death: http://articles.philly.com/2011-03-18/news/29142081_1_stoning-death-court-documents-police
Christian beheads man: http://shoebat.com/2015/05/29/christian-man-sick-and-tired-of-christians-being-killed-by-muslims-takes-isis-terrorist-and-beheads-him/

The second story is perfectly relevant to this topic. Please, just stop killing people in the name of God and instead treat them as equal. Do unto other as you would have them do for God's sake!
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gin1984 on June 28, 2015, 06:43:26 PM
Polygamy is outlawed because it is almost always exploitative and harmful to women.  Hippies say otherwise, but hippies are generally wrong about pretty much everything.

I've noticed that you like to make huge sweeping and overbroad statements about things. Perhaps you might consider that there are many different kinds of people within categories of people. And your own opinions (even if informed by your experience) are unlikely to hold true for others.

I would be surprised if concern for women had anything to do with laws against polygamy. That may have been used as political cover for the policy. But religious considerations and social norms are among the primary reasons.

Go read about Fundamentalist Mormons and see if your opinion stays the same.  Throughout history, that's pretty much been how polygamy works.

That doesn't address either of my points. In the 1800s, people (largely Christians) didn't like Mormons, persecuted them, and succeeded at sequestering them in the desert. As part of the persecution, and in accordance with their social norms and religious beliefs, they also used the law to ban this Mormon practice. How women were treated under that system was likely irrelevant (as it has tended to be historically). Women weren't even allowed to vote.

And there's been a lot of polygamy that treated women relatively well. It's not just a Mormon practice--it's in the Bible and Quran too.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mormonism_and_violence
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anti-Mormonism
I am not part of your argument, but I have never heard of any.  Could you direct me to some information?  Your examples, bible and Quran don't have the best history with women either.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Cathy on June 28, 2015, 08:40:42 PM
I think "polygamy" as a term has a bad history in that the term is mostly associated with practices that oppressed women and children.

However, the concept of a relationship with more than two consenting adults is obviously not inherently oppressive. If three or more people voluntary enter into a loving relationship, I don't see why that is any of our concern. I am sure there are many healthy plural relationships in existence right now in every state in the USA. Many of those people are likely atheists or otherwise not affiliated with religions popularly associated with "polygamy". We just don't hear about it as much because people in such relationships are widely discriminated against (including through criminal sanctions), similar to how we didn't used to hear much about gay people.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Annamal on June 28, 2015, 09:55:22 PM
I think "polygamy" as a term has a bad history in that the term is mostly associated with practices that oppressed women and children.

However, the concept of a relationship with more than two consenting adults is obviously not inherently oppressive. If three or more people voluntary enter into a loving relationship, I don't see why that is any of our concern. I am sure there are many healthy plural relationships in existence right now in every state in the USA. Many of those people are likely atheists or otherwise not affiliated with religions popularly associated with "polygamy". We just don't hear about it as much because people in such relationships are widely discriminated against (including through criminal sanctions), similar to how we didn't used to hear much about gay people.

Agreed, I don't think outlawing multiple relationships is just .

I do think that any kind of state recognition of multiple relationships probably needs a lot of careful thought and design by lawmakers as things like relationship break-downs and child care/visitation/support get  significantly more complex with the involvement of each new person.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Midwest on June 28, 2015, 11:15:13 PM
 

2) I didn't expect anybody to ignore the issue, but some of the things being brought up went way beyond the issue at hand in my opinion.

Tolerance is the ENTIRE issue here. It was a Christian in this thread that claimed that no Christian had ever burn down a temple or a mosque, stoned anybody in the streets, or beheaded somebody in public in order to prove they were more tolerant. After I showed otherwise, they changed the rules to only include things in the 20th century. Okay then:

Christians destroy mosques: http://shoebat.com/2015/03/18/christians-destroy-almost-all-of-the-mosques-in-central-africa/
Christian stoning gay man to death: http://articles.philly.com/2011-03-18/news/29142081_1_stoning-death-court-documents-police
Christian beheads man: http://shoebat.com/2015/05/29/christian-man-sick-and-tired-of-christians-being-killed-by-muslims-takes-isis-terrorist-and-beheads-him/

The second story is perfectly relevant to this topic. Please, just stop killing people in the name of God and instead treat them as equal. Do unto other as you would have them do for God's sake!

You are correct, the 2nd article does sum up the issue perfectly.  A lunatic killed this innocent man because he was gay.  Although this murderer claimed the bible told him to do it, he was just another nut.  I didn't see anything about Christians or the Christian religion defending this lunatic for killing someone.  The situation is only related to the Christian religion in that this murderer used the Bible as an excuse for his actions.  Christians certainly didn't tolerate this murderer.

If you want to make an argument that certain republicans are idiots for proposing a constitutional amendment on same sex marriage in the name of Christianity, I'll agree with you.  However,  using stories such as the above indict an entire religion for the act of a lunatic are over reaching.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Midwest on June 28, 2015, 11:51:59 PM
2) I didn't expect anybody to ignore the issue, but some of the things being brought up went way beyond the issue at hand in my opinion.

Tolerance is the ENTIRE issue here. It was a Christian in this thread that claimed that no Christian had ever burn down a temple or a mosque, stoned anybody in the streets, or beheaded somebody in public in order to prove they were more tolerant.

After I showed otherwise, they changed the rules to only include things in the 20th century. Okay then:

Christians destroy mosques: http://shoebat.com/2015/03/18/christians-destroy-almost-all-of-the-mosques-in-central-africa/
Christian stoning gay man to death: http://articles.philly.com/2011-03-18/news/29142081_1_stoning-death-court-documents-police
Christian beheads man: http://shoebat.com/2015/05/29/christian-man-sick-and-tired-of-christians-being-killed-by-muslims-takes-isis-terrorist-and-beheads-him/

The second story is perfectly relevant to this topic. Please, just stop killing people in the name of God and instead treat them as equal. Do unto other as you would have them do for God's sake!

The original comment, not mine, indicated the typical christian didn't perform those actions.  I think we could infer that we are talking about a typical Christian in the US since we are discussing same sex marriage in the US.  Given that, I've seen very little evidence to the contrary in this thread (including the examples below) that the typical US Christian is performing any of those actions (beheadings, stonings or mosque burnings).  I've also seen little or no evidence that the typical Christian worldwide is performing those actions. 

You are correct, the 2nd article does sum up the issue perfectly.  A lunatic killed this innocent man because he was gay.  Although this murderer claimed the bible told him to do it, he was just another nut.  I didn't see anything about Christians or the Christian religion defending this lunatic for killing someone.  The situation is only related to the Christian religion in that this murderer used the Bible as an excuse for his actions.  Christians certainly didn't tolerate this murderer.

If you want to make an argument that certain republicans are idiots for proposing a constitutional amendment on same sex marriage in the name of Christianity, I'll agree with you.  If you want to argue that protesting homosexuality at military funerals in the name of religion is wrong, I'll agree with you. 

However,  using stories such as the above indict an entire religion for the act of a lunatic are over reaching.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: KodeBlue on June 29, 2015, 04:00:17 AM
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Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: dycker1978 on June 29, 2015, 09:18:39 AM
I have to reply to this again.  I am not sure what got so messed up in this world.  I think that gay (lets just call it marriage) marriage, is a fundamental HUMAN right in much of this world.  It allows people to receive benefits, both social and through work. 

Now having said that - how is some ones HUMAN rights different then someone else's?

Are all people not HUMAN, and therefore should they not be subject to the same HUMAN  rights as the next HUMAN?

Why does the government need to enforce these laws at all.  Just because my beliefs differ from yours. doesn't make any of them wrong.  It makes them different.  That does not give me the right to force mine down your throat, and visa versa. 

I think there is much to be said for tolerance of all HUMANS.  It is through this tolerance that a society can grow and overcome the obstacles that will come to it. 

I wish that everyone can remember that HUMANS are just that, and all deserve to celebrate the uniqueness and similarities that make our countries great.

Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Sparafusile on June 29, 2015, 09:29:35 AM
The original comment, not mine, indicated the typical christian didn't perform those actions.  I think we could infer that we are talking about a typical Christian in the US since we are discussing same sex marriage in the US.  Given that, I've seen very little evidence to the contrary in this thread (including the examples below) that the typical US Christian is performing any of those actions (beheadings, stonings or mosque burnings).  I've also seen little or no evidence that the typical Christian worldwide is performing those actions. 

You are correct, the 2nd article does sum up the issue perfectly.  A lunatic killed this innocent man because he was gay.  Although this murderer claimed the bible told him to do it, he was just another nut.  I didn't see anything about Christians or the Christian religion defending this lunatic for killing someone.  The situation is only related to the Christian religion in that this murderer used the Bible as an excuse for his actions.  Christians certainly didn't tolerate this murderer.

If you want to make an argument that certain republicans are idiots for proposing a constitutional amendment on same sex marriage in the name of Christianity, I'll agree with you.  If you want to argue that protesting homosexuality at military funerals in the name of religion is wrong, I'll agree with you. 

However,  using stories such as the above indict an entire religion for the act of a lunatic are over reaching.

I love that you avoid my first point. So now we can only talk about Christians in the 20th century, that live in the US, and are not insane. You're ending up with a pretty small pool of people.

I was in a hit and run one time laying on the side of the road broken and bleeding. The first person to show up asked what had happened so I said that some guy swerved to hit me and then drove off. My would-be rescuer replied "I drive a car. Not every car driver is like that! You jerk, I'm insulted!"

Not all Christians are like that.
Not all Muslims are like that.
Not all Nazis are like that.
Not all rapists are like that.

I don't care that YOU aren't like that, I care that far too many Christians ARE like that. The man in the second article used a Bible as justification for murder, but you think he was just insane. I'm sure all the participants in the crusades were just insane too. And the Pope that turned a blind eye to the Holocaust was probably insane. The members of the KKK, the people that bomb abortion clinics, the politicians that try to force creationism in schools, and the priests that sexually abuse their flock were probably insane too. And let's not forget the people that were against same sex marriage, they were certainly insane. Why do all these things happen?

The Crusades were fought to reclaim the holy land as described in the Bible.
The KKK lynched thousands of blacks because "You shall not intermarry with them, giving your daughters to their sons or taking their daughters for your sons" as stated in the Bible.
The abortion clinics were bombed because abortion is murder according to the Bible.
Creationism is being forced into school because "that's what the Bible says".
Same sex marriage is wrong because gays are evil according to the Bible.

The Bible and Christian teachings are used as justification for horrible acts. These acts were performed by people that perhaps had a predisposition to committing them, true. There have been many many studies done that state that having access to a gun significantly increases the chances that it will be used in violence. Some people without a gun probably would have committed murder anyway, but many certainly would not have. It's easy to draw a parallel to people that have a propensity for acts of violence being more willing to act that violence out if they believe they have a justification. In other words, if somebody hates gays anyway, but has a holy book telling them that "gays are evil, gays should be killed, go stone your gay neighbor" they are significantly more likely to beat their gay neighbor to death with a sock filled with rocks.

If that's not enough, let's use my own personal experience. I live in Indian which as been in the news recently for enacting the "Religions Freedom" act which allows people of religion to legally discriminate or ignore other laws if they decide their beliefs are more important. It is illegal here to buy a 6-pack of beer at the grocery store on Sunday. Amazingly, it's illegal to buy a new car in Indiana on a Sunday. These Christian laws are in place and in force over people who are not even Christian. If this were a Muslim country, we would call this sharia law. But it's okay, I'm sure the politicians were just insane.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Midwest on June 29, 2015, 11:15:23 AM
The original comment, not mine, indicated the typical christian didn't perform those actions.  I think we could infer that we are talking about a typical Christian in the US since we are discussing same sex marriage in the US.  Given that, I've seen very little evidence to the contrary in this thread (including the examples below) that the typical US Christian is performing any of those actions (beheadings, stonings or mosque burnings).  I've also seen little or no evidence that the typical Christian worldwide is performing those actions. 

You are correct, the 2nd article does sum up the issue perfectly.  A lunatic killed this innocent man because he was gay.  Although this murderer claimed the bible told him to do it, he was just another nut.  I didn't see anything about Christians or the Christian religion defending this lunatic for killing someone.  The situation is only related to the Christian religion in that this murderer used the Bible as an excuse for his actions.  Christians certainly didn't tolerate this murderer.

If you want to make an argument that certain republicans are idiots for proposing a constitutional amendment on same sex marriage in the name of Christianity, I'll agree with you.  If you want to argue that protesting homosexuality at military funerals in the name of religion is wrong, I'll agree with you. 

However,  using stories such as the above indict an entire religion for the act of a lunatic are over reaching.

I love that you avoid my first point. So now we can only talk about Christians in the 20th century, that live in the US, and are not insane. You're ending up with a pretty small pool of people.

I didn't deal with your first point, because there was some truth to it and I didn't feel the need to debate it.  Christians, as well many others, are hypocrites at times.

With regard to the above, the US has in excess of 300M people many of who identify as Christian.  That's a huge pool of people, the vast majority of whom have nothing to do with the things you continue to bring up (KKK, beheadings, Mosque burnings, abortion clinic bombings,etc).

The murderer in the 2nd article, apparently I (or Christianity in general) is not condemning him enough?  He's a demented piece of excrement.  The majority of Christians would agree.  Does that do the trick?

Apparently Christians opposition to Sunday beer in Indiana is a reason to indict a religion? (At least you can get a keg at 1:30 in the morning and liquor from the drug store, but I digress).

When you continue to bring in the KKK (and the kitchen sink) into the argument that Christianity is intolerant, I think the commentary has jumped the shark.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: regulator on June 29, 2015, 11:18:54 AM
We will have to agree to disagree.  See you at the ballot box...

Just so we're clear, you're really arguing that a business owner has the right to refuse service to someone based solely on their skin color or sexual orientation?

Nice straw man.  Does he also scare away crows?

Nope, I am simply suggesting that the rights of homosexuals (or anyone else) are not absolute.  We will need to figure out ways to square the right to express religious views (you know, that old freedom of speech and religion thing) with the rights of homosexuals to marry (and other rights).  A failure to do so will be very messy over time.  I foresee an election season backlash, personally.  After that, who knows?  I don't know what the answer is in reconciling all of this and Merica being Merica, I assume the line will be redrawn/wiggle all over the map over time.  And we will probably get it wrong most of the time.  But I think it is very foolish to simply ignore the conflict and the quite legitimate issues both sides have with this.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: happyfeet on June 29, 2015, 11:28:08 AM
Thank you Midwest
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: sol on June 29, 2015, 11:47:51 AM
Nice straw man.  Does he also scare away crows?

Really?  I thought it was pretty pertinent.  I said the US already had a civil rights movement that determined that business owners do not have the right to discriminate against people, and you said you disagreed, so I was asking for clarification before eviscerating you for being ignorant of history.  You know, as a courtesy.  In case you wanted to rephrase your opposition to civil rights.

Unless I misunderstood, you think a baker has the right to refuse to bake a cake for a gay wedding, or a lunch counter does have the right to refuse to serve black people. If I'm wrong please correct me.  Otherwise I'm about to call you unpleasant names.

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Nope, I am simply suggesting that the rights of homosexuals (or anyone else) are not absolute.  We will need to figure out ways to square the right to express religious views (you know, that old freedom of speech and religion thing) with the rights of homosexuals to marry (and other rights).

I'm sure you understand the difference between the right to express your opinion (also not an absolute) and the right to discriminate against somebody by actively denying them the same services and benefits that you enjoy.  You are totally allowed to believe that black people are an inferior subhuman race, and I will even (begrudgingly) defend your right to say so in public.  You are not allowed to make them sit in the back of the bus because of your beliefs.  See the difference?
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Sparafusile on June 29, 2015, 11:52:45 AM
When you continue to bring in the KKK (and the kitchen sink) into the argument that Christianity is intolerant, I think the commentary has jumped the shark.

Here's a relevant quote from Frank Ancona, the president of a Virginia Ku Klux Klan group: "We are a Christian organization". It doesn't get much clearer than that. The KKK is the face of intolerance in the United States. The KKK is a Christian organization. This is relevant because, like the blacks before the civil rights movement, the gays were persecuted and shunned by self identified Christians. Denying what should be a human right to a group of people based on a belief you have is intolerant. I don't care if you personally were intolerant, I'm talking about Christianity as a whole.

It may seem like I'm tossing the kitchen sink into the ring and calling it a day, but that's not the case. I've only started to scratch the surface of all the intolerant acts committed in the name of Christianity. Here are a few more I haven't mentioned: Eradication of Native Americans, the vandalism and destruction of mosques following 9/11 (there is evidence this happened in 31 states), and the persecution and murder of Jews throughout time. The list goes on and on and I will too if you think those don't count for some reason.

In at least two states, you must believe in a God in order to run for office. Who do you think put that law in place? In Arkansas, non-theists are legally disqualified from bearing witness in court despite it being against the constitution. In a recent study, almost 50% of Christian parents said they would disprove if their child married an Atheist. Only a quarter of them said they would disprove if the same child married a black person.

If Christians were as tolerant as you say they are, these things wouldn't happen!
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Glenstache on June 29, 2015, 11:56:07 AM
We will have to agree to disagree.  See you at the ballot box...

Just so we're clear, you're really arguing that a business owner has the right to refuse service to someone based solely on their skin color or sexual orientation?

Nice straw man.  Does he also scare away crows?

Nope, I am simply suggesting that the rights of homosexuals (or anyone else) are not absolute.  We will need to figure out ways to square the right to express religious views (you know, that old freedom of speech and religion thing) with the rights of homosexuals to marry (and other rights).  A failure to do so will be very messy over time.  I foresee an election season backlash, personally.  After that, who knows?  I don't know what the answer is in reconciling all of this and Merica being Merica, I assume the line will be redrawn/wiggle all over the map over time.  And we will probably get it wrong most of the time.  But I think it is very foolish to simply ignore the conflict and the quite legitimate issues both sides have with this.

I don't think sol's comment fit the definition of straw man argument. "Squaring religious liberties" in this specific context reduces to "is it okay to deny service based on a person's sexual orientation?" And you're right, the rights of homosexuals are not absolute. But the point is that their rights are not any more or less than anyone else.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Tyson on June 29, 2015, 11:58:28 AM
When you continue to bring in the KKK (and the kitchen sink) into the argument that Christianity is intolerant, I think the commentary has jumped the shark.

Here's a relevant quote from Frank Ancona, the president of a Virginia Ku Klux Klan group: "We are a Christian organization". It doesn't get much clearer than that. The KKK is the face of intolerance in the United States. The KKK is a Christian organization. This is relevant because, like the blacks before the civil rights movement, the gays were persecuted and shunned by self identified Christians. Denying what should be a human right to a group of people based on a belief you have is intolerant. I don't care if you personally were intolerant, I'm talking about Christianity as a whole.

It may seem like I'm tossing the kitchen sink into the ring and calling it a day, but that's not the case. I've only started to scratch the surface of all the intolerant acts committed in the name of Christianity. Here are a few more I haven't mentioned: Eradication of Native Americans, the vandalism and destruction of mosques following 9/11 (there is evidence this happened in 31 states), and the persecution and murder of Jews throughout time. The list goes on and on and I will too if you think those don't count for some reason.

In at least two states, you must believe in a God in order to run for office. Who do you think put that law in place? In Arkansas, non-theists are legally disqualified from bearing witness in court despite it being against the constitution. In a recent study, almost 50% of Christian parents said they would disprove if their child married an Atheist. Only a quarter of them said they would disprove if the same child married a black person.

If Christians were as tolerant as you say they are, these things wouldn't happen!

"Yeah, but I PERSONALLY don't know any Christians like that, so therefore it's all a bunch of nuts that aren't 'Real Christians'."

:P
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: regulator on June 29, 2015, 11:59:55 AM
Nice straw man.  Does he also scare away crows?

Really?  I thought it was pretty pertient.  I said the US already had a civil rights movement that determined that business owners do not have the right to discriminate against people, and you said you disagreed, so I was asking for clarification before eviscerating you for being ignorant of history.  You know, as a courtesy.  In case you wanted to rephrase your opposition to civil rights.

Unless I misunderstood, you think a baker has the right to refuse to bake a cake for a gay wedding, or a lunch counter does have the right to refuse to serve black people. If I'm wrong please correct me.  Otherwise I'm about to call you unpleasant names.

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Nope, I am simply suggesting that the rights of homosexuals (or anyone else) are not absolute.  We will need to figure out ways to square the right to express religious views (you know, that old freedom of speech and religion thing) with the rights of homosexuals to marry (and other rights).

I'm sure you understand the difference between the right to express your opinion (also not an absolute) and the right to discriminate against somebody by actively denying them the same services and benefits that you enjoy.  You are totally allowed to believe that black people are an inferior subhuman race, and I will even (begrudgingly) defend your right to say so in public.  You are not allowed to make them sit in the back of the bus because of your beliefs.  See the difference?

As I said earlier, we will have to agree to disagree.  You can call me names if you like, but I am pretty sure that would be against the forum rules.

You will note that I have said little or nothing about race.  We are not talking about the color of one's epidermis.  I also have pretty bluntly said I don't know what the right way to reconcile all of this might be. 

Since you clearly have made up your mind and are well on your way to riding your high horse over the cliff, I will step back and let you do so.  Feel free to have the last word.  Don't be surprised if a large number of your fellow Merkins do not see it your way.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Midwest on June 29, 2015, 12:10:02 PM
When you continue to bring in the KKK (and the kitchen sink) into the argument that Christianity is intolerant, I think the commentary has jumped the shark.

Here's a relevant quote from Frank Ancona, the president of a Virginia Ku Klux Klan group: "We are a Christian organization". It doesn't get much clearer than that. The KKK is the face of intolerance in the United States. The KKK is a Christian organization. This is relevant because, like the blacks before the civil rights movement, the gays were persecuted and shunned by self identified Christians. Denying what should be a human right to a group of people based on a belief you have is intolerant. I don't care if you personally were intolerant, I'm talking about Christianity as a whole.

The KKK representing the Christian faith (as you infer) is like claiming all Muslims are terrorists or members of ISIS.  Both are so false on their face as to be laughable.

Little education on the KKK, I think they hate Catholics too.  Last time I checked Catholics are Christians as well.  Are the Catholics safe from the KKK argument?  Maybe I'll convert.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Sparafusile on June 29, 2015, 12:17:20 PM
"Yeah, but I PERSONALLY don't know any Christians like that, so therefore it's all a bunch of nuts that aren't 'Real Christians'."

This is the crux of the problem. If you ask individuals, they most likely will all say "Well, I don't care if gays get married". If that's the case, how do you explain why the supreme court had to rule on the issue? Because people have their head in the sand and can't see the truth due to wearing belief-tinted glasses.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Sparafusile on June 29, 2015, 12:21:07 PM
The KKK representing the Christian faith (as you infer) is like claiming all Muslims are terrorists or members of ISIS.  Both are so false on their face as to be laughable.

Little education on the KKK, I think they hate Catholics too.  Last time I checked Catholics are Christians as well.  Are the Catholics safe from the KKK argument?  Maybe I'll convert.

I didn't say the KKK represented Christians. I merely presented them as one instance where Christians were intolerant. One of many many many instances. One thing I've kind of glossed over is inter-denomination violence within the Christian faith. That's another good example of intolerance, thank you for mentioning it. Not even within the same religion can Christians live and let live.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: dycker1978 on June 29, 2015, 12:27:57 PM
"Yeah, but I PERSONALLY don't know any Christians like that, so therefore it's all a bunch of nuts that aren't 'Real Christians'."

This is the crux of the problem. If you ask individuals, they most likely will all say "Well, I don't care if gays get married". If that's the case, how do you explain why the supreme court had to rule on the issue? Because people have their head in the sand and can't see the truth due to wearing belief-tinted glasses.

You are right Sparafusile.  This is the issue.  Just because you have your head so far up your buried in the sand does not mean there are not travesties going on.  As I said in my earlier post, why is this an argument.  If you are human, you have human rights.  Done. 

Unless you prove that you cannot handle those rights, by breaking the societal laws, and becoming incarcerated. In my opinion this is the only class of people that deserve less rights, while in jail, because they proved they cant handle them.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Tyson on June 29, 2015, 12:36:22 PM
"Yeah, but I PERSONALLY don't know any Christians like that, so therefore it's all a bunch of nuts that aren't 'Real Christians'."

This is the crux of the problem. If you ask individuals, they most likely will all say "Well, I don't care if gays get married". If that's the case, how do you explain why the supreme court had to rule on the issue? Because people have their head in the sand and can't see the truth due to wearing belief-tinted glasses.

Right, my response was sarcasm.  Perhaps I should have indicated that more clearly.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: sol on June 29, 2015, 12:36:46 PM
As I said earlier, we will have to agree to disagree.

Reg, why is it so hard for you to just answer the question?  Do you believe business owners should be allowed to discriminate against people, or not?

Our maybe you think discrimination based on sexuality is okay, but based on race is not?  I'm bending over backwards here to give you the benefit of the doubt, because it sure sounds like you disagree with some pillars of the civil rights movement.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Midwest on June 29, 2015, 12:41:17 PM
The KKK representing the Christian faith (as you infer) is like claiming all Muslims are terrorists or members of ISIS.  Both are so false on their face as to be laughable.

Little education on the KKK, I think they hate Catholics too.  Last time I checked Catholics are Christians as well.  Are the Catholics safe from the KKK argument?  Maybe I'll convert.


I didn't say the KKK represented Christians. I merely presented them as one instance where Christians were intolerant. One of many many many instances. One thing I've kind of glossed over is inter-denomination violence within the Christian faith. That's another good example of intolerance, thank you for mentioning it. Not even within the same religion can Christians live and let live.

Apparently all Hoosiers are intolerant as well.  By your criteria, the Indiana Klan is an Indiana organization therefore we should vilify the entire state.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Indiana_Klan

Your statement with few alterations:

"I didn't say the KKK represented Hoosiers Christians. I merely presented them as one instance where Hoosiers Christians were intolerant. One of many many many instances. Not even within the same state religion can Hoosiers Christians live and let live."

Claiming the KKK is representative of Christians is liking saying the KKK represents Hoosiers.  I don't think that's any more true than claiming the KKK is a Christian organization.

On the Indiana topic, the pizza place refusing to serve homosexuals is a moron.  I don't blame you (or any other Hoosiers I know), for that.  I try to avoid using the actions of a few idiots to indict an entire state (or religion for that matter).
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: regulator on June 29, 2015, 12:59:34 PM
As I said earlier, we will have to agree to disagree.

Reg, why is it so hard for you to just answer the question?  Do you believe business owners should be allowed to discriminate against people, or not?

Our maybe you think discrimination based on sexuality is okay, but based on race is not?  I'm bending over backwards here to give you the benefit of the doubt, because it sure sounds like you disagree with some pillars of the civil rights movement.

There are lots of things I don't like about the Civil Rights movement.  I bet it would be hard to find someone who liked every aspect of it, if they gave it any thought (raise your hand if you love Al Sharpton...).  That said, I don't think discrimination on the basis of someone's race is right.   Not sure why it matters in this context, but there it is.

As for gay marriage, etc.  I have unformed views, by and large.  I think it is different from race in some important ways, but I haven't decided by how much or whether the differences matter when you get down to the bottom of it.  I also understand that there are people who don't see a difference and that is up to them.  It appears to me that gay relationships are fundamentally different from the long term heterosexual marriages I am familiar with.  Is that because the option of marriage was never on the table as an option and it changed the structure of many of those relationships?  Or is it because homosexual relationships are just *different*?  I guess we will all get to find out now that the option is open to all.  There is a lot of "I don't know" here and it is genuine on my part.

Do I think very religious people should be allowed to refuse service to homosexuals?  Again, unformed views on my part.  I am pretty much a disinterested observer in all of this (being neither homosexual or subscribing to everything the Catholic Church says), and I have plenty of more pressing things to pay attention to.  I do know that there is a significant minority of the US population that is deeply offended by all of this due to religious/cultural views.  They will be politically galvanized by all of this and they do have at least some good points (e.g. freedom of expression, freedom of religion, etc.).  I think it would be foolish to discount their views out of hand and simply mock or ignore them.

As an aside, a lot of this is what I very much hate about Merkin politics these days.  Everyone who expresses a view seems to have a strident one and it is "you are either for us or against us."  Nobody wants to even listen to the other side, we all just seem to want to segregate ourselves by viewpoint so that we largely hear views we already agree with.  Probably this is one of the reasons I become more and more disenchanted with this country's political process over time, although idiot Boy Scout me still considers it to be a duty of a citizen to cast a vote (even if I am retching while doing so).
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Sparafusile on June 29, 2015, 01:10:01 PM
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I didn't say the KKK represented Christians. I merely presented them as one instance where Christians were intolerant. One of many many many instances. One thing I've kind of glossed over is inter-denomination violence within the Christian faith. That's another good example of intolerance, thank you for mentioning it. Not even within the same religion can Christians live and let live.

Apparently all Hoosiers are intolerant as well.  By your criteria, the Indiana Klan is an Indiana organization therefore we should vilify the entire state.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Indiana_Klan

Your statement with few alterations:

"I didn't say the KKK represented Hoosiers Christians. I merely presented them as one instance where Hoosiers Christians were intolerant. One of many many many instances. Not even within the same state religion can Hoosiers Christians live and let live."

Claiming the KKK is representative of Christians is liking saying the KKK represents Hoosiers.  I don't think that's any more true than claiming the KKK is a Christian organization.

On the Indiana topic, the pizza place refusing to serve homosexuals is a moron.  I don't blame you (or any other Hoosiers I know), for that.  I try to avoid using the actions of a few idiots to indict an entire state (or religion for that matter).

There is a difference. The KKK doesn't identify itself as a Hoosier organization, but they do identify as a Christian organization. Indiana being the birthplace of the KKK (actually just down the road from where I live is the home of the first Grand Dragon) is a sore point with a lot of people here. Thankfully, they have mostly left our state.

Comparing a pizza place to Christianity is a little absurd. Pizza parlors don't have any power to enforce their beliefs, but the right-wing Christians that have assumed public offices do. A perfect example of this is Mike Pence the Governor of Indiana. So in one way I do agree with you, Indiana is intolerant. Hoosiers elected a Christian Governor that enacted one of the more ridiculous laws in years. Pretty sure it wasn't the gays that voted for him though.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: GuitarStv on June 29, 2015, 01:11:05 PM
As I said earlier, we will have to agree to disagree.

Reg, why is it so hard for you to just answer the question?  Do you believe business owners should be allowed to discriminate against people, or not?

Our maybe you think discrimination based on sexuality is okay, but based on race is not?  I'm bending over backwards here to give you the benefit of the doubt, because it sure sounds like you disagree with some pillars of the civil rights movement.

There are lots of things I don't like about the Civil Rights movement.  I bet it would be hard to find someone who liked every aspect of it, if they gave it any thought (raise your hand if you love Al Sharpton...).  That said, I don't think discrimination on the basis of someone's race is right.   Not sure why it matters in this context, but there it is.

As for gay marriage, etc.  I have unformed views, by and large.  I think it is different from race in some important ways, but I haven't decided by how much or whether the differences matter when you get down to the bottom of it.  I also understand that there are people who don't see a difference and that is up to them.  It appears to me that gay relationships are fundamentally different from the long term heterosexual marriages I am familiar with.  Is that because the option of marriage was never on the table as an option and it changed the structure of many of those relationships?  Or is it because homosexual relationships are just *different*?  I guess we will all get to find out now that the option is open to all.  There is a lot of "I don't know" here and it is genuine on my part.

Do I think very religious people should be allowed to refuse service to homosexuals?  Again, unformed views on my part.  I am pretty much a disinterested observer in all of this (being neither homosexual or subscribing to everything the Catholic Church says), and I have plenty of more pressing things to pay attention to.  I do know that there is a significant minority of the US population that is deeply offended by all of this due to religious/cultural views.  They will be politically galvanized by all of this and they do have at least some good points (e.g. freedom of expression, freedom of religion, etc.).  I think it would be foolish to discount their views out of hand and simply mock or ignore them.

As an aside, a lot of this is what I very much hate about Merkin politics these days.  Everyone who expresses a view seems to have a strident one and it is "you are either for us or against us."  Nobody wants to even listen to the other side, we all just seem to want to segregate ourselves by viewpoint so that we largely hear views we already agree with.  Probably this is one of the reasons I become more and more disenchanted with this country's political process over time, although idiot Boy Scout me still considers it to be a duty of a citizen to cast a vote (even if I am retching while doing so).

By your own admission, you don't have a formed view of anything being discussed.  Maybe that's why nobody's listening to you.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: regulator on June 29, 2015, 01:14:53 PM
As I said earlier, we will have to agree to disagree.

Reg, why is it so hard for you to just answer the question?  Do you believe business owners should be allowed to discriminate against people, or not?

Our maybe you think discrimination based on sexuality is okay, but based on race is not?  I'm bending over backwards here to give you the benefit of the doubt, because it sure sounds like you disagree with some pillars of the civil rights movement.

There are lots of things I don't like about the Civil Rights movement.  I bet it would be hard to find someone who liked every aspect of it, if they gave it any thought (raise your hand if you love Al Sharpton...).  That said, I don't think discrimination on the basis of someone's race is right.   Not sure why it matters in this context, but there it is.

As for gay marriage, etc.  I have unformed views, by and large.  I think it is different from race in some important ways, but I haven't decided by how much or whether the differences matter when you get down to the bottom of it.  I also understand that there are people who don't see a difference and that is up to them.  It appears to me that gay relationships are fundamentally different from the long term heterosexual marriages I am familiar with.  Is that because the option of marriage was never on the table as an option and it changed the structure of many of those relationships?  Or is it because homosexual relationships are just *different*?  I guess we will all get to find out now that the option is open to all.  There is a lot of "I don't know" here and it is genuine on my part.

Do I think very religious people should be allowed to refuse service to homosexuals?  Again, unformed views on my part.  I am pretty much a disinterested observer in all of this (being neither homosexual or subscribing to everything the Catholic Church says), and I have plenty of more pressing things to pay attention to.  I do know that there is a significant minority of the US population that is deeply offended by all of this due to religious/cultural views.  They will be politically galvanized by all of this and they do have at least some good points (e.g. freedom of expression, freedom of religion, etc.).  I think it would be foolish to discount their views out of hand and simply mock or ignore them.

As an aside, a lot of this is what I very much hate about Merkin politics these days.  Everyone who expresses a view seems to have a strident one and it is "you are either for us or against us."  Nobody wants to even listen to the other side, we all just seem to want to segregate ourselves by viewpoint so that we largely hear views we already agree with.  Probably this is one of the reasons I become more and more disenchanted with this country's political process over time, although idiot Boy Scout me still considers it to be a duty of a citizen to cast a vote (even if I am retching while doing so).

By your own admission, you don't have a formed view of anything being discussed.  Maybe that's why nobody's listening to you.

Did it ever occur to you that I might be trying to form an opinion?  If you aren't a raging egotist, a good way to do so is to listen to opposing views on the subject you are investigating.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: GuitarStv on June 29, 2015, 01:23:44 PM
As I said earlier, we will have to agree to disagree.

Reg, why is it so hard for you to just answer the question?  Do you believe business owners should be allowed to discriminate against people, or not?

Our maybe you think discrimination based on sexuality is okay, but based on race is not?  I'm bending over backwards here to give you the benefit of the doubt, because it sure sounds like you disagree with some pillars of the civil rights movement.

There are lots of things I don't like about the Civil Rights movement.  I bet it would be hard to find someone who liked every aspect of it, if they gave it any thought (raise your hand if you love Al Sharpton...).  That said, I don't think discrimination on the basis of someone's race is right.   Not sure why it matters in this context, but there it is.

As for gay marriage, etc.  I have unformed views, by and large.  I think it is different from race in some important ways, but I haven't decided by how much or whether the differences matter when you get down to the bottom of it.  I also understand that there are people who don't see a difference and that is up to them.  It appears to me that gay relationships are fundamentally different from the long term heterosexual marriages I am familiar with.  Is that because the option of marriage was never on the table as an option and it changed the structure of many of those relationships?  Or is it because homosexual relationships are just *different*?  I guess we will all get to find out now that the option is open to all.  There is a lot of "I don't know" here and it is genuine on my part.

Do I think very religious people should be allowed to refuse service to homosexuals?  Again, unformed views on my part.  I am pretty much a disinterested observer in all of this (being neither homosexual or subscribing to everything the Catholic Church says), and I have plenty of more pressing things to pay attention to.  I do know that there is a significant minority of the US population that is deeply offended by all of this due to religious/cultural views.  They will be politically galvanized by all of this and they do have at least some good points (e.g. freedom of expression, freedom of religion, etc.).  I think it would be foolish to discount their views out of hand and simply mock or ignore them.

As an aside, a lot of this is what I very much hate about Merkin politics these days.  Everyone who expresses a view seems to have a strident one and it is "you are either for us or against us."  Nobody wants to even listen to the other side, we all just seem to want to segregate ourselves by viewpoint so that we largely hear views we already agree with.  Probably this is one of the reasons I become more and more disenchanted with this country's political process over time, although idiot Boy Scout me still considers it to be a duty of a citizen to cast a vote (even if I am retching while doing so).

By your own admission, you don't have a formed view of anything being discussed.  Maybe that's why nobody's listening to you.

Did it ever occur to you that I might be trying to form an opinion?  If you aren't a raging egotist, a good way to do so is to listen to opposing views on the subject you are investigating.

So when will you start listening?
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Tyson on June 29, 2015, 01:30:58 PM
Being a bigot is like being a sociopath - you have every right to have bigoted or violent thoughts all you want.  But you do NOT have the right to act on those beliefs.  The moment you deny service (or attack someone) your right to your "beliefs" ends. 
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: regulator on June 29, 2015, 01:37:50 PM
As I said earlier, we will have to agree to disagree.

Reg, why is it so hard for you to just answer the question?  Do you believe business owners should be allowed to discriminate against people, or not?

Our maybe you think discrimination based on sexuality is okay, but based on race is not?  I'm bending over backwards here to give you the benefit of the doubt, because it sure sounds like you disagree with some pillars of the civil rights movement.

There are lots of things I don't like about the Civil Rights movement.  I bet it would be hard to find someone who liked every aspect of it, if they gave it any thought (raise your hand if you love Al Sharpton...).  That said, I don't think discrimination on the basis of someone's race is right.   Not sure why it matters in this context, but there it is.

As for gay marriage, etc.  I have unformed views, by and large.  I think it is different from race in some important ways, but I haven't decided by how much or whether the differences matter when you get down to the bottom of it.  I also understand that there are people who don't see a difference and that is up to them.  It appears to me that gay relationships are fundamentally different from the long term heterosexual marriages I am familiar with.  Is that because the option of marriage was never on the table as an option and it changed the structure of many of those relationships?  Or is it because homosexual relationships are just *different*?  I guess we will all get to find out now that the option is open to all.  There is a lot of "I don't know" here and it is genuine on my part.

Do I think very religious people should be allowed to refuse service to homosexuals?  Again, unformed views on my part.  I am pretty much a disinterested observer in all of this (being neither homosexual or subscribing to everything the Catholic Church says), and I have plenty of more pressing things to pay attention to.  I do know that there is a significant minority of the US population that is deeply offended by all of this due to religious/cultural views.  They will be politically galvanized by all of this and they do have at least some good points (e.g. freedom of expression, freedom of religion, etc.).  I think it would be foolish to discount their views out of hand and simply mock or ignore them.

As an aside, a lot of this is what I very much hate about Merkin politics these days.  Everyone who expresses a view seems to have a strident one and it is "you are either for us or against us."  Nobody wants to even listen to the other side, we all just seem to want to segregate ourselves by viewpoint so that we largely hear views we already agree with.  Probably this is one of the reasons I become more and more disenchanted with this country's political process over time, although idiot Boy Scout me still considers it to be a duty of a citizen to cast a vote (even if I am retching while doing so).

By your own admission, you don't have a formed view of anything being discussed.  Maybe that's why nobody's listening to you.

Did it ever occur to you that I might be trying to form an opinion?  If you aren't a raging egotist, a good way to do so is to listen to opposing views on the subject you are investigating.

So when will you start listening?

Listening is not always equal to agreeing.  Remember, I am not here for an echo chamber.  YMMV.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Midwest on June 29, 2015, 01:43:25 PM
There is a difference. The KKK doesn't identify itself as a Hoosier organization, but they do identify as a Christian organization. Indiana being the birthplace of the KKK (actually just down the road from where I live is the home of the first Grand Dragon) is a sore point with a lot of people here. Thankfully, they have mostly left our state.

Comparing a pizza place to Christianity is a little absurd. Pizza parlors don't have any power to enforce their beliefs, but the right-wing Christians that have assumed public offices do. A perfect example of this is Mike Pence the Governor of Indiana. So in one way I do agree with you, Indiana is intolerant. Hoosiers elected a Christian Governor that enacted one of the more ridiculous laws in years. Pretty sure it wasn't the gays that voted for him though.

Bringing up Mike Pence would have been a rationale response as an example of Christians being intolerant.  It's recent and he had widespread support among conservatives.  I can see a rationale reason to criticize Christians for that.  i don't have to agree or disagree on the topic to understand why it's relevant.

The KKK, on the other hand, has almost no members at this point and no support among main stream Christians.  It's simply brought up for it's inflammatory appeal.  KKK is bad therefore Christians are bad.  No other real reason to use it as an example.

ISIS identifies as Muslim.  Should I use it as an example of why the entire Muslim religion is bad?  If I did so, I would be called intolerant.

This, and the kitchen sink of arguments you were throwing out against Christians is why I engaged you in this debate.

You are trying too hard to make the Christian religion scapegoats for all the ills of the world.  Christians are humans and get things wrong sometimes.  So do atheists and muslims.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: sol on June 29, 2015, 02:05:52 PM
Christians are humans and get things wrong sometimes.  So do atheists and muslims.

Ah, the hilarity.  I can think of one very specific thing that Christians and Muslims get wrong that atheists do not, but it's one that leads to all kind of other mistakes.

Here's a hint: magic isn't real.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Midwest on June 29, 2015, 02:10:27 PM
Christians are humans and get things wrong sometimes.  So do atheists and muslims.

Ah, the hilarity.  I can think of one very specific thing that Christians and Muslims get wrong that atheists do not, but it's one that leads to all kind of other mistakes.

Here's a hint: magic isn't real.

I guess tolerance only extends to things you believe in.  You can have beliefs without forcing them on others. 
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: sol on June 29, 2015, 02:13:02 PM
Did it ever occur to you that I might be trying to form an opinion?  If you aren't a raging egotist, a good way to do so is to listen to opposing views on the subject you are investigating.

It did occur to me, which is why I'm still here.  Whenever I meet a person who seems otherwise rational, yet clings to irrational views, part of me feels compelled to explore.

In this case, I see a widespread disconnect in America in people who recognize that discriminating on race is wrong but still think discriminating on sexuality is okay.  Like they've somehow accepted that blacks are really people who deserve equal rights, but not gays or lesbians?  Why is a gay man less human than a black man?  What's the grounds for actively denying that person the rights everyone else has?

I think that in a hundred years, future children will be very confused about the status of American civil rights in the 1990s.  "So, were they still killing each other for being different, or not?"
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: sol on June 29, 2015, 02:21:01 PM
You can have beliefs without forcing them on others.

One of the great things about atheism is that it doesn't have any official mandate to evangelize.  It doesn't ask that you believe in anything, or ask anyone else to believe in anything.  Only that you stop believing in things that you already know aren't true.

I'm a grown up.  Grown ups don't believe in magic, not really.  They believe in wonder and beauty and a sense of reverence for the natural world, and they sometimes lie about believing in magic for the benefit of children, but they don't really believe in miracles or ghosts or invisible men who live in the sky.  Except when their families or social support organization demands that they pretend to believe, then they usually fake it.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: regulator on June 29, 2015, 02:21:20 PM

I think that in a hundred years, future children will be very confused about the status of American civil rights in the 1990s.  "So, were they still killing each other for being different, or not?"

Ah, an optimist!  I am pretty sure that in a hundred years we will still be killing each other for being different.  If not, we will find another reason to kill each other.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: regulator on June 29, 2015, 02:22:52 PM
You can have beliefs without forcing them on others.

One of the great things about atheism is that it doesn't have any official mandate to evangelize.  It doesn't ask that you believe in anything, or ask anyone else to believe in anything.  Only that you stop believing in things that you already know aren't true.

I'm a grown up.  Grown ups don't believe in magic, not really.  They believe in wonder and beauty and a sense of reverence for the natural world, and they sometimes lie about believing in magic for the benefit of children, but they don't really believe in miracles or ghosts or invisible men who live in the sky.  Except when their families or social support organization demands that they pretend to believe, then they usually fake it.

Sol, WADR, do you realize how unnecessarily insulting this line of discussion is?  I am glad your system of thought works for you.  Perhaps you could acknowledge that others have different systems and it works for them.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Sparafusile on June 29, 2015, 02:23:17 PM
Bringing up Mike Pence would have been a rationale response as an example of Christians being intolerant.  It's recent and he had widespread support among conservatives.  I can see a rationale reason to criticize Christians for that.  i don't have to agree or disagree on the topic to understand why it's relevant.

The KKK, on the other hand, has almost no members at this point and no support among main stream Christians.  It's simply brought up for it's inflammatory appeal.  KKK is bad therefore Christians are bad.  No other real reason to use it as an example.

ISIS identifies as Muslim.  Should I use it as an example of why the entire Muslim religion is bad?  If I did so, I would be called intolerant.

This, and the kitchen sink of arguments you were throwing out against Christians is why I engaged you in this debate.

You are trying too hard to make the Christian religion scapegoats for all the ills of the world.  Christians are humans and get things wrong sometimes.  So do atheists and muslims.

I brought up the KKK because everybody is familiar with it. Rather than try to explain why Christian are destroying Mosques in Africa, it was a common ground on which to frame a debate. If it causes an inflammatory response, it's simply indicative of the head-in-the-sand response that occurs any time a negative aspect of Christianity is brought up. I also never said that all Christians are bad. In fact, I said the opposite if you care to go back to the first page.

ISIS certainly does identify as Muslim. And saying that all Muslims are intolerant would be wrong as well. Fortunately, most Muslims (and people in general) condemn what ISIS is doing as barbaric. The same cannot be said for Christians in the United States when it comes to the unfair treatment of homosexuals. If we use the supreme court as representative of the entire populate, nearly 45% of the people disagree with what occurred last week. Polls indicate that, among Christians, the disapproval rating of some groups as high as 75%. In contrast, Jewish approval is around 85% and non-affiliated approval is around 75%.

Since we know that history will show that allowing gays equal rights is the correct position to be on I don't know what better example to give on how out of touch Christianity as a group is. On the other hand, non-evangelical Protestants and Catholics had surprising high amounts of support for gay rights so perhaps there is hope for the religion after all. Still, I can't help but feel that had Christians not campaigned so hard against gay rights that there would have been no need for a supreme court decision in the first place.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Midwest on June 29, 2015, 02:24:34 PM
You can have beliefs without forcing them on others.

One of the great things about atheism is that it doesn't have any official mandate to evangelize.  It doesn't ask that you believe in anything, or ask anyone else to believe in anything.  Only that you stop believing in things that you already know aren't true.

I'm a grown up.  Grown ups don't believe in magic, not really.  They believe in wonder and beauty and a sense of reverence for the natural world, and they sometimes lie about believing in magic for the benefit of children, but they don't really believe in miracles or ghosts or invisible men who live in the sky.  Except when their families or social support organization demands that they pretend to believe, then they usually fake it.

And yet you are evangelizing.  I work/socialize with several agnostics, muslims, a hindu and some Christians.  None of us feel compelled to mock each others beliefs or try and convert the others.  Maybe you could try that.

If you feel religion is magic, enjoy your extra hour or 2 a week.  I'm good with that. 
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Sparafusile on June 29, 2015, 02:29:01 PM
Sol, WADR, do you realize how unnecessarily insulting this line of discussion is?  I am glad your system of thought works for you.  Perhaps you could acknowledge that others have different systems and it works for them.

His point, which you seemed to miss completely, is that we don't like having somebody else's belief system enforced on us. It's okay to believe whatever you want and I'm sure Sol would agree. But when your beliefs manifest themselves as laws that everybody must obey then there is a problem. Atheists don't do this, it is unique to Christians in this country.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Tyson on June 29, 2015, 02:34:33 PM
Polls indicate that, among Christians, the disapproval rating of some groups as high as 75%. In contrast, Jewish approval is around 85% and non-affiliated approval is around 75%.


Well there you have it.  The numbers don't lie.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: sol on June 29, 2015, 02:35:54 PM
And yet you are evangelizing....
Sometimes I chose to do things even if I don't have an ancient text giving me instructions.  It's another perk of thinking for yourself.

For the record, I like and support most aspects of religion.  My kids go to church.  I like the social support structure, the sense of community, the charitable works, and most of the messaging.  I just don't like how they tie all of that together with ridiculously nonsensical fairy tales.  I've never understood why that part is still necessary in this day and age.

Sol, WADR, do you realize how unnecessarily insulting this line of discussion is?  I am glad your system of thought works for you.  Perhaps you could acknowledge that others have different systems and it works for them.

His point, which you seemed to miss completely, is that we don't like having somebody else's belief system enforced on us. It's okay to believe whatever you want and I'm sure Sol would agree. But when your beliefs manifest themselves as laws that everybody must obey then there is a problem. Atheists don't do this, it is unique to Christians in this country.

Right on.

Reg, I totally recognize that my beliefs are far from universal.  I will even defend your right to espouse your beliefs door to door in my neighborhood.  Please consider extending me the same courtesy.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: regulator on June 29, 2015, 02:37:25 PM
Sol, WADR, do you realize how unnecessarily insulting this line of discussion is?  I am glad your system of thought works for you.  Perhaps you could acknowledge that others have different systems and it works for them.

His point, which you seemed to miss completely, is that we don't like having somebody else's belief system enforced on us. It's okay to believe whatever you want and I'm sure Sol would agree. But when your beliefs manifest themselves as laws that everybody must obey then there is a problem. Atheists don't do this, it is unique to Christians in this country.

Well, you are the mod, so you get whatever you like.  Enjoy.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: beltim on June 29, 2015, 02:39:46 PM
Polls indicate that, among Christians, the disapproval rating of some groups as high as 75%. In contrast, Jewish approval is around 85% and non-affiliated approval is around 75%.


Well there you have it.  The numbers don't lie.

The numbers can be cherry-picked in order to mislead, though.  More American Christians support same-sex marriage than not: http://publicreligion.org/2015/04/attitudes-on-same-sex-marriage-by-religious-affiliation-and-denominational-family/#.VZGsDaY_Zt0
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Tyson on June 29, 2015, 02:48:38 PM
Polls indicate that, among Christians, the disapproval rating of some groups as high as 75%. In contrast, Jewish approval is around 85% and non-affiliated approval is around 75%.


Well there you have it.  The numbers don't lie.

The numbers can be cherry-picked in order to mislead, though.  More American Christians support same-sex marriage than not: http://publicreligion.org/2015/04/attitudes-on-same-sex-marriage-by-religious-affiliation-and-denominational-family/#.VZGsDaY_Zt0

That's because most people that are Christians are moderate Christians.  I should point out that the intense your religious belief (i.e. how "evangelical" you are), the more your tolerance drops and drops and drops.  So in this case, the numbers don't even mislead - they show that the more influence their religion has in their life, the less tolerant they are.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: beltim on June 29, 2015, 02:50:44 PM
Polls indicate that, among Christians, the disapproval rating of some groups as high as 75%. In contrast, Jewish approval is around 85% and non-affiliated approval is around 75%.


Well there you have it.  The numbers don't lie.

The numbers can be cherry-picked in order to mislead, though.  More American Christians support same-sex marriage than not: http://publicreligion.org/2015/04/attitudes-on-same-sex-marriage-by-religious-affiliation-and-denominational-family/#.VZGsDaY_Zt0

That's because most people that are Christians are moderate Christians.  I should point out that the intense your religious belief (i.e. how "evangelical" you are), the more your tolerance drops and drops and drops.  So in this case, the numbers don't even mislead - they show that the more influence their religion has in their life, the less tolerant they are.

I don't accept the premise that the more evangelical you are the more religious you are.  I think the vast majority would disagree with you as well - both religious and not.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Sparafusile on June 29, 2015, 02:56:52 PM
... This community used to be inclusive and a lot of fun.  Not sure where all the maturity went... Regarding the Supreme Court decision, they've definitely overstepped their bounds here... homosexuality is still sin...

Not sure if you're trolling here or not, but I'll bite.

If I was gay, would you be mature and include me in the forum? Keeping in mind that there is a separation of church and state in the United States, according to whom is homosexuality a sin and should therefor be illegal?
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Tyson on June 29, 2015, 03:01:57 PM
Polls indicate that, among Christians, the disapproval rating of some groups as high as 75%. In contrast, Jewish approval is around 85% and non-affiliated approval is around 75%.


Well there you have it.  The numbers don't lie.

The numbers can be cherry-picked in order to mislead, though.  More American Christians support same-sex marriage than not: http://publicreligion.org/2015/04/attitudes-on-same-sex-marriage-by-religious-affiliation-and-denominational-family/#.VZGsDaY_Zt0

That's because most people that are Christians are moderate Christians.  I should point out that the intense your religious belief (i.e. how "evangelical" you are), the more your tolerance drops and drops and drops.  So in this case, the numbers don't even mislead - they show that the more influence their religion has in their life, the less tolerant they are.

I don't accept the premise that the more evangelical you are the more religious you are.  I think the vast majority would disagree with you as well - both religious and not.

That's fine, we can agree to disagree.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Tyson on June 29, 2015, 03:03:05 PM
Lots of hate in this thread for Christianity, which sadly seems to be the norm in Mustache Land.  This community used to be inclusive and a lot of fun.  Not sure where all the maturity went.  But the mods allow it, so the hate must be ok.  Regarding the Supreme Court decision, they've definitely overstepped their bounds here.  They didn't define marriage, so they have no business trying to redefine it.  5 people making homosexual "marriage" legal in a country doesn't change the fact that homosexuality is still sin.  If tomorrow they legalize theft, stealing would still be wrong.  If next week they legalize killing your neighbor for not returning your shovel, murder would still be wrong.  Sorry if you find the truth offensive, but it's still the truth.

You must be one of those moderate, highly tolerant Christians beltime was JUST talking about!
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: johnny847 on June 29, 2015, 03:08:54 PM
Lots of hate in this thread for Christianity, which sadly seems to be the norm in Mustache Land.  This community used to be inclusive and a lot of fun.  Not sure where all the maturity went.  But the mods allow it, so the hate must be ok.  Regarding the Supreme Court decision, they've definitely overstepped their bounds here.  They didn't define marriage, so they have no business trying to redefine it.  5 people making homosexual "marriage" legal in a country doesn't change the fact that homosexuality is still sin.  If tomorrow they legalize theft, stealing would still be wrong.  If next week they legalize killing your neighbor for not returning your shovel, murder would still be wrong.  Sorry if you find the truth offensive, but it's still the truth.

You must be one of those moderate, highly tolerant Christians beltime was JUST talking about!

Careful tyort1. Apparently your use of sarcasm isn't obvious enough to some people!
*sigh*
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: sol on June 29, 2015, 03:18:00 PM
I work/socialize with several agnostics, muslims, a hindu and some Christians.  None of us feel compelled to mock each others beliefs or try and convert the others.  Maybe you could try that.

If you feel religion is magic, enjoy your extra hour or 2 a week.  I'm good with that.

Your workplace is actually a beautiful argument for atheism, because you each deny the existence of several gods in the room, and rightly so.  I just deny one more than each of the rest of you.  The agnostic is the only odd man out, since he apparently believes in everything.

And I'm not sure why you would accuse me of mocking for saying that magic isn't real, while we both use computers to communicate in near real time over vast distances.  Science is amazing, simultaneously useful and exciting and transformative.  What has magic done for you lately?

Children believe in magical all-seeing father figures with white beards who judge their actions and rewards good behavior.  At some point they give up the magic reindeer and stockings full of presents, while still clinging to prayer and eternal life.  I'm actually okay with that choice, but I admit that sometimes I let slip a little giggle at how silly it seems.  We each get to choose what to believe, and I will continue to defend your choice and your right to preach it.  That's what grown ups do.

Lots of hate in this thread for Christianity, which sadly seems to be the norm in Mustache Land.  This community used to be inclusive and a lot of fun. 

No hate here, just a little eye rolling.  All opinions are welcome in the interest of respectful discussion.

The only hate I see is in your post, where you argue for discriminating against people.  Please tell us more about why you think discrimination against gay people is a good thing.  What's the societal benefit?  What about bisexual people who want straight marriages?  How do you feel about interracial marriage?  In the interest of inclusiveness and lots of fun, I personally invite you to contribute more.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Midwest on June 29, 2015, 03:18:26 PM
Bringing up Mike Pence would have been a rationale response as an example of Christians being intolerant.  It's recent and he had widespread support among conservatives.  I can see a rationale reason to criticize Christians for that.  i don't have to agree or disagree on the topic to understand why it's relevant.

The KKK, on the other hand, has almost no members at this point and no support among main stream Christians.  It's simply brought up for it's inflammatory appeal.  KKK is bad therefore Christians are bad.  No other real reason to use it as an example.

ISIS identifies as Muslim.  Should I use it as an example of why the entire Muslim religion is bad?  If I did so, I would be called intolerant.

This, and the kitchen sink of arguments you were throwing out against Christians is why I engaged you in this debate.

You are trying too hard to make the Christian religion scapegoats for all the ills of the world.  Christians are humans and get things wrong sometimes.  So do atheists and muslims.

I brought up the KKK because everybody is familiar with it.

You continue to bring up the KKK in an effort to prove that Christianity is intolerant and evil despite a tenuous connection at best.  The KKK is even less a Christian organization than ISIS a muslim.

most Muslims (and people in general) condemn what ISIS is doing as barbaric. The same cannot be said for Christians in the United States when it comes to the unfair treatment of homosexuals.

You are comparing the atrocities that ISIS is committing to Christians campaigning against gay rights in the US?   

ISIS is so barbaric they are even being condemned by Al-Qaeda.   I think most homosexuals would rather forgo marriage than be murdered.  What certain Christian factions are doing is wrong on gay rights, but those two aren't even in the same universe.

I gave you a perfectly reasonable position to complain about Christians and gay rights, yet you persist with the KKK line of reasoning. 

I'm sorry you had such a bad time with Christians, but the comparisons to the KKK and ISIS seem over reaching and illogical to me.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Philociraptor on June 29, 2015, 03:43:42 PM
Regarding the Supreme Court decision, they've definitely overstepped their bounds here.  They didn't define marriage, so they have no business trying to redefine it.

But the U.S. government DID create a definition for marriage for use in tax laws, visitation rights, adoption laws, etc. The supreme court has simply decided that the definition they created must include homosexuals due to the 14th amendment. Not sure what you mean here.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Midwest on June 29, 2015, 03:44:06 PM
I work/socialize with several agnostics, muslims, a hindu and some Christians.  None of us feel compelled to mock each others beliefs or try and convert the others.  Maybe you could try that.

If you feel religion is magic, enjoy your extra hour or 2 a week.  I'm good with that.

Your workplace is actually a beautiful argument for atheism, because you each deny the existence of several gods in the room, and rightly so.  I just deny one more than each of the rest of you.  The agnostic is the only odd man out, since he apparently believes in everything.

And I'm not sure why you would accuse me of mocking for saying that magic isn't real, while we both use computers to communicate in near real time over vast distances.  Science is amazing, simultaneously useful and exciting and transformative.  What has magic done for you lately?

Children believe in magical all-seeing father figures with white beards who judge their actions and rewards good behavior.  At some point they give up the magic reindeer and stockings full of presents, while still clinging to prayer and eternal life.  I'm actually okay with that choice, but I admit that sometimes I let slip a little giggle at how silly it seems.  We each get to choose what to believe, and I will continue to defend your choice and your right to preach it.  That's what grown ups do.

I don't feel a need or desire to defend my religion to you.  I'll give you the same respect regarding your lack thereof.

With regard to respecting traditions, I love steak but I don't eat it in front the hindu.  Something about respecting sacred cows.  The comments about magic are kind of the same thing in my mind.

Glad you respect the positive aspects of religion even if  you are not all in on the all mighty being.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Sparafusile on June 29, 2015, 03:52:33 PM
You are comparing the atrocities that ISIS is committing to Christians campaigning against gay rights in the US?

Sure - they are both evil.

ISIS is so barbaric they are even being condemned by Al-Qaeda.   I think most homosexuals would rather forgo marriage than be murdered.  What certain Christian factions are doing is wrong on gay rights, but those two aren't even in the same universe.

Really? You do realize that "marriage" is more than just a label right? Until the ACA, my wife couldn't get insurance unless we were married. If we weren't married, I would have no say in life-or-death decisions regarding her. We have a tax benefit and have special rules concerning social security because we are married. And that's just on a federal level. Many wars have been started on unequal treatment just like this. I, for one, would be willing to fight (and yes, die) in order to be considered equal under the law. Fortunately, out country has ways to avoid that scenario and still overcome intolerance.

I gave you a perfectly reasonable position to complain about Christians and gay rights, yet you persist with the KKK line of reasoning. 

I first mentioned it as an off-hand comment among a myriad of other things. You're the one that has latched onto the KKK and demanded responses which I have provided. I'm not sure why you decided to dwell on that one point.

I'm sorry you had such a bad time with Christians, but the comparisons to the KKK and ISIS seem over reaching and illogical to me.

You brought up ISIS, not me. In fact, I mentioned that it was too far off topic to continue discussing. I think you need to reread the debate since this "kitchen sink" you keep mentioning is equally a result of your argument. Besides, I'm going to rest my case after Mr. Tummy Mustache chimed in and made me ironically redundant.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: happyfeet on June 29, 2015, 03:53:14 PM
Yes.  Lots of hate/mocking for Christians. 
Not as smart or witty as you all here(so I cannot engage in any sort of argument or defense of my faith because it is  my faith) but for what it's worth - I'm 57 and been a Christian since I was 18.  I believe in the Bible and it is truth to me.  So homosexuality is a sin - like a lot of other sins.  No better or no worse a sin. Just a sin. So to me - it's wrong -like other sins.  Roll your eyes, mock me - do whatever. The Bible is my truth.  I will continue to be as kind as I can to all and live a decent life and treat others as such - whether that person is gay,not gay whatever. The leadership of our country has changed the law and so it is.   I know a lot of other people like me - living life - doing our best - but believe in the Bible. It is my plum line for living a life.
Oh well. Looking forward to retirement soon.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: dycker1978 on June 29, 2015, 03:58:05 PM
Lots of hate in this thread for Christianity, which sadly seems to be the norm in Mustache Land.  This community used to be inclusive and a lot of fun.  Not sure where all the maturity went.  But the mods allow it, so the hate must be ok.  Regarding the Supreme Court decision, they've definitely overstepped their bounds here.  They didn't define marriage, so they have no business trying to redefine it.  5 people making homosexual "marriage" legal in a country doesn't change the fact that homosexuality is still sin.  If tomorrow they legalize theft, stealing would still be wrong.  If next week they legalize killing your neighbor for not returning your shovel, murder would still be wrong.  Sorry if you find the truth offensive, but it's still the truth.

Yet inclusive does not include gays hey?  Kinda hypocritical don't ya think?
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Midwest on June 29, 2015, 03:58:53 PM
Sparafusile

We'll agree to disagree on your perceptions of Christianity.  Regarding latching on to the KKK or myriad of responses I demanded, that's a 2 way street.

Midwest.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Philociraptor on June 29, 2015, 03:59:05 PM
Yes.  Lots of hate/mocking for Christians. 
Not as smart or witty as you all here(so I cannot engage in any sort of argument or defense of my faith because it is  my faith) but for what it's worth - I'm 57 and been a Christian since I was 18.  I believe in the Bible and it is truth to me.  So homosexuality is a sin - like a lot of other sins.  No better or no worse a sin. Just a sin. So to me - it's wrong -like other sins.  Roll your eyes, mock me - do whatever. The Bible is my truth.  I will continue to be as kind as I can to all and live a decent life and treat others as such - whether that person is gay,not gay whatever. The leadership of our country has changed the law and so it is.   I know a lot of other people like me - living life - doing our best - but believe in the Bible. It is my plum line for living a life.
Oh well. Looking forward to retirement soon.

Do you believe it's right for others, acting on similar beliefs, to vote to restrict the rights of homosexuals to enjoy the same benefits that our government gives to heterosexual couples? In that case, that is where we see things differently. However, if you're content to keep your belief AND allow others to have freedom of choice in their private lives, carry on dude!
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Tyson on June 29, 2015, 04:03:55 PM
Well, the conversation around gay marriage at least has the civil rights paradigm to fall back on, so most of the time people can be shown that they are similar and thus the arguments stay substantive.

I remember arguing a lot back in the day about evolution and it's validity.  There was no prior paradigm to reference back to so those discussions tended to go completely off the rails. 

Ironically (or not), it was also ENTIRELY Christians that just "didn't accept" evolution.  So the anti-gay people are the same as the anti-science people.  Shocking, I tell you, shocking!
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: enigmaT120 on June 29, 2015, 04:13:09 PM
Yes.  Lots of hate/mocking for Christians. 
Not as smart or witty as you all here(so I cannot engage in any sort of argument or defense of my faith because it is  my faith) but for what it's worth - I'm 57 and been a Christian since I was 18.  I believe in the Bible and it is truth to me.  So homosexuality is a sin - like a lot of other sins.  No better or no worse a sin. Just a sin. So to me - it's wrong -like other sins.  Roll your eyes, mock me - do whatever. The Bible is my truth.  I will continue to be as kind as I can to all and live a decent life and treat others as such - whether that person is gay,not gay whatever. The leadership of our country has changed the law and so it is.   I know a lot of other people like me - living life - doing our best - but believe in the Bible. It is my plum line for living a life.
Oh well. Looking forward to retirement soon.

Just because it's a sin doesn't mean it should be illegal.  We're not a theocracy, and Jesus clearly said "My kingdom is not of this world."  I'll only worry about the ruling if somebody decides to make same sex marriage mandatory.

Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: dycker1978 on June 29, 2015, 04:14:03 PM
I have to say that I find it entertaining having done lots of reading on this decision that was made in the USA, how many people quote the bible and find it to be the absolute truth.  It was written a long time ago.  Although many believe it is the word of God, it was written by man.

Let say that in the beginning, it was the true word of God.  That he spoke through these men.  I am not here to debate this, I was not there, I do not know, but lets for argument sake say that is truth.

It was written in a language that is now dead.  It was translated to what it was.  It has been updated and changed into modern English.  I have two points here...

1. Who is to say, that in someone's best estimate, of what they were translating, they did not make a mistake, and translate this wrong.  Now what you are reading, is not precisely the word of God. It is but humans translation of what they think the original people meant.

2. Who is stopping, from any where in history, people manipulating this word to suit what their beliefs are.  People are power hungry in a lot of instances, and may change this to suit them.

I know a lot of people of all denominations.  There are good, bad, and crazy in all.  I refuse to believe in a book that could have been changed in either of these two ways.

And for the people that choose to follow the bible - I have read the bible, and a couple of lessons that I learnt from it are:

1. And the second is like, namely this, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. There is none other commandment greater than these. - This does not say love thy neighbor unless they are different than you.... does it?????

2. “He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.” ... Only those who are faultless have the right to pass judgment upon others" - and we all know from the bible that sin is impossible to avoid, therefore none should judge.

Everyone is free to believe what they want, but if you are using Christianity to breed any kind of hate, you might want to reread the book that teaches you all.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: enigmaT120 on June 29, 2015, 04:18:08 PM
What I find hilarious is that many religious people will pick and choose which parts of their respective doctrines to follow depending on their own desires. For example, many a Christian that was interviewed about gay marriage were, unsurprisingly, against it. When asked how many of them had been divorced, many of them had been! Both things are banned in the bible, but only one is followed.

  • masturbating
  • watching porn
  • playing football

Why are any of these things less important than being gay and getting married? They are all banned in the bible.

Where are they banned?  Or even mentioned?  Neither of the first two is included in the list of definitions of the word "fornication" that I read.

Yeah everybody, this is the main thing I got from 4 pages of this thread.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Sparafusile on June 29, 2015, 04:36:14 PM
What I find hilarious is that many religious people will pick and choose which parts of their respective doctrines to follow depending on their own desires. For example, many a Christian that was interviewed about gay marriage were, unsurprisingly, against it. When asked how many of them had been divorced, many of them had been! Both things are banned in the bible, but only one is followed.

  • masturbating
  • watching porn
  • playing football

Why are any of these things less important than being gay and getting married? They are all banned in the bible.

Where are they banned?  Or even mentioned?  Neither of the first two is included in the list of definitions of the word "fornication" that I read.

Yeah everybody, this is the main thing I got from 4 pages of this thread.

Masturbation http://www.openbible.info/topics/masterbation
Pornography: 1 John 2:16 - For everything in the world--the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life--comes not from the Father but from the world.
Football: Leviticus 11:7-8 - And the pig, though it has a divided hoof, does not chew the cud; it is unclean for you. You must not eat their meat or touch their carcasses; they are unclean for you.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: sol on June 29, 2015, 04:37:01 PM
With regard to respecting traditions, I love steak but I don't eat it in front the hindu.  Something about respecting sacred cows.  The comments about magic are kind of the same thing in my mind.

The difference between actions and beliefs is an important one, and I've been trying to make the distinction clear here.

Your Hindu friend doesn't have to approve of eating cows, but he doesn't get to legally prohibit you from enjoying steak.  You don't have to approve of gay marriage, but you can't legally prohibit other people from getting gay married.  I don't have to believe in a Christian god, but I won't support any law that keeps anyone from worshipping (or not) as they see fit.  One person's belief should not be another person's law.

The supreme court ruling doesn't force anyone to approve or sanction or condone gay marriage, privately.  It prohibits anyone from forcing those private beliefs onto other people, in the spirit of the US civil rights movement protecting equality for all.  If you value your right to worship freely and eat that steak, I think you kind of have to support the court's decision in this case. 

Gay people are people, and they should probably have the same rights as other people.  You are free to call them sinners as long as you don't infringe their rights.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: dycker1978 on June 29, 2015, 04:41:33 PM
With regard to respecting traditions, I love steak but I don't eat it in front the hindu.  Something about respecting sacred cows.  The comments about magic are kind of the same thing in my mind.

The difference between actions and beliefs is an important one, and I've been trying to make the distinction clear here.

Your Hindu friend doesn't have to approve of eating cows, but he doesn't get to legally prohibit you from enjoying steak.  You don't have to approve of gay marriage, but you can't legally prohibit other people from getting gay married.  I don't have to believe in a Christian god, but I won't support any law that keeps anyone from worshipping (or not) as they see fit.  One person's belief should not be another person's law.

The supreme court ruling doesn't force anyone to approve or sanction or condone gay marriage, privately.  It prohibits anyone from forcing those private beliefs onto other people, in the spirit of the US civil rights movement protecting equality for all.  If you value your right to worship freely and eat that steak, I think you kind of have to support the court's decision in this case. 

Gay people are people, and they should probably have the same rights as other people.  You are free to call them sinners as long as you don't infringe their rights.

Very well said!
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Midwest on June 29, 2015, 04:48:02 PM
With regard to respecting traditions, I love steak but I don't eat it in front the hindu.  Something about respecting sacred cows.  The comments about magic are kind of the same thing in my mind.

The difference between actions and beliefs is an important one, and I've been trying to make the distinction clear here.

Your Hindu friend doesn't have to approve of eating cows, but he doesn't get to legally prohibit you from enjoying steak.  You don't have to approve of gay marriage, but you can't legally prohibit other people from getting gay married.  I don't have to believe in a Christian god, but I won't support any law that keeps anyone from worshipping (or not) as they see fit.  One person's belief should not be another person's law.

The supreme court ruling doesn't force anyone to approve or sanction or condone gay marriage, privately.  It prohibits anyone from forcing those private beliefs onto other people, in the spirit of the US civil rights movement protecting equality for all.  If you value your right to worship freely and eat that steak, I think you kind of have to support the court's decision in this case. 

Gay people are people, and they should probably have the same rights as other people.  You are free to call them sinners as long as you don't infringe their rights.

Completely agree.  Personal beliefs on gay marriage should be respected, but that's not a license to discriminate.  I also don't feel the need to yell sinner at others (or mock them) for a behavior that doesn't impact me.  Judge not. lest ye be judged.

I would make the exception that the clergy and churches should have the right to deny wedding ceremonies to anyone they so choose.  If same sex couples want to form the church of same sex, they are free to deny hetero couples the right to marry in their church.

County clerks and justice of the peace, obey the law.  State sponsored marriage is not a religious issue.  Religious marriage is another matter.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Tyson on June 29, 2015, 04:54:31 PM
With regard to respecting traditions, I love steak but I don't eat it in front the hindu.  Something about respecting sacred cows.  The comments about magic are kind of the same thing in my mind.

The difference between actions and beliefs is an important one, and I've been trying to make the distinction clear here.

Your Hindu friend doesn't have to approve of eating cows, but he doesn't get to legally prohibit you from enjoying steak.  You don't have to approve of gay marriage, but you can't legally prohibit other people from getting gay married.  I don't have to believe in a Christian god, but I won't support any law that keeps anyone from worshipping (or not) as they see fit.  One person's belief should not be another person's law.

The supreme court ruling doesn't force anyone to approve or sanction or condone gay marriage, privately.  It prohibits anyone from forcing those private beliefs onto other people, in the spirit of the US civil rights movement protecting equality for all.  If you value your right to worship freely and eat that steak, I think you kind of have to support the court's decision in this case. 

Gay people are people, and they should probably have the same rights as other people.  You are free to call them sinners as long as you don't infringe their rights.

Completely agree.  Personal beliefs on gay marriage should be respected, but that's not a license to discriminate.  I also don't feel the need to yell sinner at others for a behavior that doesn't impact me.  Judge not. lest ye be judged.

I would make the exception that the clergy and churches should have the right to deny wedding ceremonies to anyone they so choose.  If same sex couples want to form the church of same sex, they are free to deny hetero couples the right to marry in their church.

County clerks and justice of the peace, obey the law.  State sponsored marriage is not a religious issue.  Religious marriage is another matter.

I completely agree with you.  :-O  :-)  In fact, clergy and other churches already refuse to marry couples already, in large numbers.  For example, if you are Catholic and want to marry a Jewish person, good luck with that!
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Kris on June 29, 2015, 05:02:22 PM
With regard to respecting traditions, I love steak but I don't eat it in front the hindu.  Something about respecting sacred cows.  The comments about magic are kind of the same thing in my mind.

The difference between actions and beliefs is an important one, and I've been trying to make the distinction clear here.

Your Hindu friend doesn't have to approve of eating cows, but he doesn't get to legally prohibit you from enjoying steak.  You don't have to approve of gay marriage, but you can't legally prohibit other people from getting gay married.  I don't have to believe in a Christian god, but I won't support any law that keeps anyone from worshipping (or not) as they see fit.  One person's belief should not be another person's law.

The supreme court ruling doesn't force anyone to approve or sanction or condone gay marriage, privately.  It prohibits anyone from forcing those private beliefs onto other people, in the spirit of the US civil rights movement protecting equality for all.  If you value your right to worship freely and eat that steak, I think you kind of have to support the court's decision in this case. 

Gay people are people, and they should probably have the same rights as other people.  You are free to call them sinners as long as you don't infringe their rights.

Completely agree.  Personal beliefs on gay marriage should be respected, but that's not a license to discriminate.  I also don't feel the need to yell sinner at others (or mock them) for a behavior that doesn't impact me.  Judge not. lest ye be judged.

I would make the exception that the clergy and churches should have the right to deny wedding ceremonies to anyone they so choose.  If same sex couples want to form the church of same sex, they are free to deny hetero couples the right to marry in their church.

County clerks and justice of the peace, obey the law.  State sponsored marriage is not a religious issue.  Religious marriage is another matter.

Exactly. And of course, clergy has always been able to refuse to marry people whose beliefs or practices they don't agree with.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: bludreamin on June 29, 2015, 06:44:12 PM
Regarding the Supreme Court decision, they've definitely overstepped their bounds here.  They didn't define marriage, so they have no business trying to redefine it.

But the U.S. government DID create a definition for marriage for use in tax laws, visitation rights, adoption laws, etc. The supreme court has simply decided that the definition they created must include homosexuals due to the 14th amendment. Not sure what you mean here.

^^^this this this x 1000000^^^

Government definition is used for determining those legal/financial benefits. Plus isn't it government that issues marriage licenses? Having never been married that's my understanding. They don't ask for your sexual orientation when you apply for your drivers license so why for marriage?
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: MDM on June 29, 2015, 07:17:56 PM
Completely agree.  Personal beliefs on gay marriage should be respected, but that's not a license to discriminate.  I also don't feel the need to yell sinner at others (or mock them) for a behavior that doesn't impact me.  Judge not. lest ye be judged.

I would make the exception that the clergy and churches should have the right to deny wedding ceremonies to anyone they so choose.  If same sex couples want to form the church of same sex, they are free to deny hetero couples the right to marry in their church.

County clerks and justice of the peace, obey the law.  State sponsored marriage is not a religious issue.  Religious marriage is another matter.

I completely agree with you.  :-O  :-)  In fact, clergy and other churches already refuse to marry couples already, in large numbers.  For example, if you are Catholic and want to marry a Jewish person, good luck with that!

Exactly. And of course, clergy has always been able to refuse to marry people whose beliefs or practices they don't agree with.

Hmm...tolerance and respect for others' positions?  Maybe the three of you can start a trend....
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Financial.Velociraptor on June 29, 2015, 07:34:54 PM
ATTN MODS:  One vote for locking this thread.  No longer on topic and getting snippy.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: sol on June 29, 2015, 07:44:55 PM
ATTN MODS:  One vote for locking this thread.  No longer on topic and getting snippy.

I'll give you snippy, but I think we're still on topic.  We're talking about the Supreme Court's ruling on same sex marriage, and how it fits into the other religious and social freedoms we enjoy, how those freedoms have grown over time, and how they might be threatened in the future by the very exercise they are designed to protect. 

I think religious bigotry is the single biggest threat to religious freedom in the US.  Funny how that works, isn't it?  It's most commonly conservative religious folks who argue in favor restricting the rights of others, and who have organized against the American expansion of civil rights over the decades.  Those of us without any religion to exercise are no less obligated to defend their right to preach discrimination than we are to defend their other rights.  All we ask in return is that we be allowed to point out the hypocrisy once in a while as a gentle reminder that other people's freedoms are protected just like yours are. 
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: regulator on June 29, 2015, 08:28:21 PM
ATTN MODS:  One vote for locking this thread.  No longer on topic and getting snippy.

+1.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Financial.Velociraptor on June 29, 2015, 08:34:59 PM
ATTN MODS:  One vote for locking this thread.  No longer on topic and getting snippy.

I'll give you snippy, but I think we're still on topic. 

Fair enough.  Hope the mods consider your viewpoint too.  :-)
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: arebelspy on June 29, 2015, 08:57:05 PM
MOD NOTE: Mods may never have seen this if not for Cathy's post.
http://forum.mrmoneymustache.com/off-topic/about-locking-threads/

There is a "report to moderator" button on the bottom right of each post. Use it, if you think a post is breaking forum rules.  Otherwise a post 5 pages deep on a topic the mods may not be following, or moderating even if they are, isn't going to do anything.  :)
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: MDM on June 29, 2015, 09:39:41 PM
At least that other thread clarified whether F.V was serious, or was making an ironic comment on the post just prior to F.V's here.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Tyson on June 29, 2015, 09:58:59 PM
ATTN MODS:  One vote for locking this thread.  No longer on topic and getting snippy.

Disagree - I'm surprise (and impressed) how civil and on-topic things have stayed. 
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gin1984 on June 30, 2015, 07:18:41 AM
ATTN MODS:  One vote for locking this thread.  No longer on topic and getting snippy.

I'll give you snippy, but I think we're still on topic.  We're talking about the Supreme Court's ruling on same sex marriage, and how it fits into the other religious and social freedoms we enjoy, how those freedoms have grown over time, and how they might be threatened in the future by the very exercise they are designed to protect. 

I think religious bigotry is the single biggest threat to religious freedom in the US.  Funny how that works, isn't it?  It's most commonly conservative religious folks who argue in favor restricting the rights of others, and who have organized against the American expansion of civil rights over the decades.  Those of us without any religion to exercise are no less obligated to defend their right to preach discrimination than we are to defend their other rights.  All we ask in return is that we be allowed to point out the hypocrisy once in a while as a gentle reminder that other people's freedoms are protected just like yours are.
I agree with Sol (and that rarely happens on social discussions, lol).  And I am religious, just not Christian. 
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: KisKis on June 30, 2015, 09:07:58 AM
I have to say that I have enjoyed lurking and reading this thread.  If you take note of my location, you can just imagine the type of arguments I've heard this past week.  This really has been quite a civil discussion.  A few flareups are to be expected when discussing politics and religion.  I knew I could come to a forum that handles the taboo topic of money so well for some intellectual stimulation on these other topics.  Thanks to both sides. 
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Cookie78 on June 30, 2015, 09:47:56 AM
I have to say that I have enjoyed lurking and reading this thread.  If you take note my location, you can just imagine the type of arguments I've heard this past week.  This really has been quite a civil discussion.  A few flareups are to be expected when discussing politics and religion.  I knew I could come to a forum that handles the taboo topic of money so well for some intellectual stimulation on these other topics.  Thanks to both sides.

+1
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: sol on June 30, 2015, 10:18:53 AM
ATTN MODS:  One vote for locking this thread.  No longer on topic and getting snippy.

Disagree - I'm surprise (and impressed) how civil and on-topic things have stayed.

Sometimes, I think that people try to shut down these kinds of discussions because they find them uncomfortable, not because that are inappropriate.  It's a fine line when interpreting your own emotions.

Particularly for people who are raised with a very sheltered world view, the sudden realization that they themselves might be racist or otherwise discriminatory can be a shock.  Nobody likes to think of themselves as opposing equality, but they don't always realize that when their church leaders tell then to vote against something like gay marriage, they become the new generation's David Dukes, footsoldiers of hate.  It's like waking up on the wrong side of history.

And that can be an uncomfortable moment.  I've seen it unfold on race, sexuality, capitalism, religion, even American patriotism.  That moment when you first see that the things you love are more complicated and nuanced than you have been led to believe can be heartbreaking for some people. 

So I don't really begrudge them their unwillingness to talk about it.  Sometimes it's just easier to put your fingers in your ears and fall back on old patterns and try to drown out the people who make you think for yourself.  It's a slowly unfolding process for everybody.  I'm still working on it myself.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on June 30, 2015, 11:01:40 AM
Echoing Sol here. I started the thread by saying that I was ashamed of my former views on the subject. It was not comfortable for them to shift. But now I can't understand how I was able to be so blinded by the nonsensical opinions and hypocrisy of others. There are Christian churches that don't allow gays and lesbians to be members or to serve in leadership unless they take a vow of celibacy. Do they do the same thing with all their unmarried heterosexual attendees? I doubt it. Or require anyone who gets divorced to be booted? Or anyone who breaks any of the other commandments? There are a whole bunch of Bible verses that say that one sin is as bad as another (and since it's the Bible and the Bible is full of contradictions, there are others that can be interpreted as saying some sins are worse). And some of these put drunkenness on the same plane as sexual sins. Do these churches require vows of sobriety too? Strange.

http://www.nytimes.com/2015/06/29/us/with-same-sex-decision-evangelical-churches-address-new-reality.html
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on June 30, 2015, 11:09:07 AM
Quote
This is My commandment, that you love one another, just as I have loved you.
--Jesus in John 15:12

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A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, even as I have loved you, that you also love one another.
--Jesus in John 13:34

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For this is the message you heard from the beginning: We should love one another.
--1 John 3:11

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And this is his command:...to love one another as he commanded us.
--1 John 3:23

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And now, dear lady, I am not writing you a new command but one we have had from the beginning. I ask that we love one another.
--2 John 1:5

Maybe he meant it.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Tyson on June 30, 2015, 11:15:44 AM
I had started to post some of my issues with religion, but I think that's not really called for.  But I will note some statistics that should be concerning to the religious folks.  Namely that people who have no religious affiliation (the 'nones') are seriously on the rise in the US:

(http://www.pewresearch.org/files/2015/05/FT_15.05.12.Nones_.png)

And if you break it down by age, the news is even worse (or better, depending on your perspective):

(http://www.pewresearch.org/files/2015/05/FT_15.05.13_nones.png)
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Kris on June 30, 2015, 11:28:41 AM
^^^ Although I don't know why it would be concerning for them, since it's none of their business who believes what.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Tyson on June 30, 2015, 11:36:48 AM
^^^ Although I don't know why it would be concerning for them, since it's none of their business who believes what.

The REALLY interesting part is if you dive a bit deeper into the data, you can see that the hardcore christians (the evangelicals) are not changing very much at all.  They are steady.  It's the moderate (mainline) christians that are leaving the religion to become the Nones:

(http://www.pewforum.org/files/2015/05/PR_15.05.12_RLS_chapter1-01.png)

To bring this back on topic - it is my strong suspicion that the defection from mainline Christianity to Nones strongly parallels the increase in tolerance for things like gay marriage, and a more progressive world view in general. 
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: sol on June 30, 2015, 11:54:17 AM
But I will note some statistics that should be concerning to the religious folks.  Namely that people who have no religious affiliation (the 'nones') are seriously on the rise in the US:

To be fair, the US still lags the rest of the developed world on this measure.  There are still some places that are more religious than America, but not anywhere I'd like to live.  Africa, the middle east, and southeast Asia come to mind.

I sort of see the rising percentage of self identified nones as analogous to other long term trending statistics like vaccination rate, literacy rate, life expectancy, teen pregnancy rate, and violent crime.  These stats tend to lag behind the types of measures we have previously used to measure a country's development, like access to indoor plumbing and electricity or per capita GDP, but they still mark progress.  I'd like to see wealth inequality added to that list, but I think that one is centuries away still.

I think it's all part of the natural progression of societies.  The pyramids were built by slaves who worshipped sun gods. Four thousand years later we have spaceships and internet, but have only recently taken a stand against slavery and we're still stuck with the sun gods and their modern derivatives.  Eventually we'll drop those too as people realize that they just serve to support the same sort of power imbalance now that they did then.  Freedom of information makes it pretty tough to keep thinking adults believing in the supernatural, so I expect that the coming century will see religions of the western world morph into cultural and historical institutions that celebrate their supernatural origins as traditions, not as facts.  My kids still get presents from Santa, even though they know that reindeer can't really fly.

Judaism is already most of the way down this road.  Most of the Jews I know are atheists, despite active involvement with their temples and traditions.  They see it as a cultural identity and a celebration of their past, but they're not seriously preparing for the arrival of the son of god to walk among men.  They recognize that their creation stories are historical embellishments that became myths, just like the Greek and Roman myths, the Egyptian myths, the Native American myths, and the Christian myths.  Beautiful stories worth teaching and remembering, but not literally true.

it is my strong suspicion that the defection from mainline Christianity to Nones strongly parallels the increase in tolerance for things like gay marriage, and a more progressive world view in general. 

Wow, that's a much more succinct way of saying the same thing I just spent three paragraphs on.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Tyson on June 30, 2015, 11:58:21 AM

Judaism is already most of the way down this road.  Most of the Jews I know are atheists, despite active involvement with their temples and traditions.  They see it as a cultural identity and a celebration of their past, but they're not seriously preparing for the arrival of the son of god to walk among men.  They recognize that their creation stories are myths, just like the Greek and Roman myths, the Egyptian myths, the Native American myths, and the Christian myths.  Beautiful stories worth teaching and remembering, but not literally true.

That's a REALLY good point, I've never thought of it that way.  Now that you put it that way, I think that is probably spot on.  I do think there are important social and community functions that a church fulfills that is really difficult to replicate elsewhere, which is part of the reason why church is so attractive to a lot of non-evangelical believers.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: arebelspy on June 30, 2015, 12:15:16 PM
^^^ Although I don't know why it would be concerning for them, since it's none of their business who believes what.

Well sure, you and I can believe that, but if part of their religion is to convert others, you can see why it would be concerning for them (and thus concerning for us that it's concerning for them, as they dig in and fight and up the stakes).
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Kris on June 30, 2015, 12:24:39 PM
^^^ Although I don't know why it would be concerning for them, since it's none of their business who believes what.

Well sure, you and I can believe that, but if part of their religion is to convert others, you can see why it would be concerning for them (and thus concerning for us that it's concerning for them, as they dig in and fight and up the stakes).

Of course.  I get that part of many Christian faiths is the obligation to prosletyze.  Which I find absolutely maddening, for a number of reasons, but I get why they are told to do it -- both the stated and the instated reasons.  I was commenting on the irritating hypocrisy of those who try to force their faith on others, but then cry foul when they think that a constitutional ruling by the courts is tantamount to someone else forcing them to do something they don't want to do.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Tyson on June 30, 2015, 12:36:53 PM
^^^ Although I don't know why it would be concerning for them, since it's none of their business who believes what.

Well sure, you and I can believe that, but if part of their religion is to convert others, you can see why it would be concerning for them (and thus concerning for us that it's concerning for them, as they dig in and fight and up the stakes).

Of course.  I get that part of many Christian faiths is the obligation to prosletyze.  Which I find absolutely maddening, for a number of reasons, but I get why they are told to do it -- both the stated and the instated reasons.  I was commenting on the irritating hypocrisy of those who try to force their faith on others, but then cry foul when they think that a constitutional ruling by the courts is tantamount to someone else forcing them to do something they don't want to do.

Proselytizing is mainly the focus of evangelicals, the moderates not so much.  Which is probably why the Evangelicals are not shrinking, they are holding steady.  The moderates, as noted, are the place where the real change is happening.  And that's to be expected.

The interesting thing (to me, anyway), is how much of Evangelical belief is geographically specific.  It tends to cluster around certain states very strongly, and other states not at all.  I am of course referring to "the South".  The Evangelicals (and thus the Tea Party) have a strong influence/control in these states and that's not likely to change any time soon, because as you can see, the percentage of Evangelicals is not really changing all that much. 

What you end up seeing as a result of this is that on progressive social issues, this group now realizes they cannot win the national conversation.  So they re-focus on the issue of "States Rights". 

Of course, as a progressive myself, nowadays when I hear the term "States Rights" I usually translate it in my head to "We are doing something shitty and don't want no stinking Federal Government coming in here and changing things."  Which is why you see the rhetoric around gay marriage invoke "States Rights" so often from the Right/Conservatives/Tea Party/Evangelical crowd.

I predict this same set of arguments will come up when it comes to pretty much any social change.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: CommonCents on June 30, 2015, 12:37:34 PM
Judaism is already most of the way down this road.  Most of the Jews I know are atheists, despite active involvement with their temples and traditions.  They see it as a cultural identity and a celebration of their past, but they're not seriously preparing for the arrival of the son of god to walk among men.  They recognize that their creation stories are historical embellishments that became myths, just like the Greek and Roman myths, the Egyptian myths, the Native American myths, and the Christian myths.  Beautiful stories worth teaching and remembering, but not literally true.

I'd agree with this in regards to most of my Jewish friends (and my husband).
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Squirrel away on June 30, 2015, 12:40:36 PM
I thought it was fantastic news.:) The human world is slowly evolving.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on June 30, 2015, 12:43:28 PM
^^^ Although I don't know why it would be concerning for them, since it's none of their business who believes what.

Well sure, you and I can believe that, but if part of their religion is to convert others, you can see why it would be concerning for them (and thus concerning for us that it's concerning for them, as they dig in and fight and up the stakes).

Of course.  I get that part of many Christian faiths is the obligation to prosletyze.  Which I find absolutely maddening, for a number of reasons, but I get why they are told to do it -- both the stated and the instated reasons.  I was commenting on the irritating hypocrisy of those who try to force their faith on others, but then cry foul when they think that a constitutional ruling by the courts is tantamount to someone else forcing them to do something they don't want to do.

There's a strong Christian tradition of reveling in "persecution"--whether real or imagined. It's commonly taught that anything that goes wrong in the world is Satan's doing, and that anything going wrong in their own lives is Satan's doing because God is allowing them to be tested. So many Christians see some policy decision that doesn't impact their lives but take it as though Satan is deliberately doing it, and "winning" the battle.

"Being persecuted" is a strong social tool to rally people in a group around a common enemy--sort of a negative integration tactic. It builds group cohesion, solidifies individual identification with the movement, and moves people more into an emotional reaction paradigm instead of a thinking and rational paradigm.

Many Christians see anything they don't like and call it persecution. Someone saying "Happy Hollidays" is fighting the "War on Christmas(TM)" and that's a form of persecution. Policies that don't allow schools to force group prayer is another form of "persecution". It's really common. The shifts in religious belief in the country is definitely enough to get the battle flags flying.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Kris on June 30, 2015, 12:47:36 PM
^^^ Although I don't know why it would be concerning for them, since it's none of their business who believes what.

Well sure, you and I can believe that, but if part of their religion is to convert others, you can see why it would be concerning for them (and thus concerning for us that it's concerning for them, as they dig in and fight and up the stakes).

Of course.  I get that part of many Christian faiths is the obligation to prosletyze.  Which I find absolutely maddening, for a number of reasons, but I get why they are told to do it -- both the stated and the instated reasons.  I was commenting on the irritating hypocrisy of those who try to force their faith on others, but then cry foul when they think that a constitutional ruling by the courts is tantamount to someone else forcing them to do something they don't want to do.

There's a strong Christian tradition of reveling in "persecution"--whether real or imagined. It's commonly taught that anything that goes wrong in the world is Satan's doing, and that anything going wrong in their own lives is Satan's doing because God is allowing them to be tested. So many Christians see some policy decision that doesn't impact their lives but take it as though Satan is deliberately doing it, and "winning" the battle.

"Being persecuted" is a strong social tool to rally people in a group around a common enemy--sort of a negative integration tactic. It builds group cohesion, solidifies individual identification with the movement, and moves people more into an emotional reaction paradigm instead of a thinking and rational paradigm.

Many Christians see anything they don't like and call it persecution. Someone saying "Happy Hollidays" is fighting the "War on Christmas(TM)" and that's a form of persecution. Policies that don't allow schools to force group prayer is another form of "persecution". It's really common. The shifts in religious belief in the country is definitely enough to get the battle flags flying.

Well put.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: MLKnits on June 30, 2015, 12:57:53 PM
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Actually, the curriculum in Ontario has been updated this year to explain gay sex in classes . . . soo . . . mebbe your chart is incorrect.

I know you're mostly kidding, but just as a reminder for the lurkers, there's nothing gay people do that straights don't also do--it's not like we have secret different genitalia. Straights have vastly more anal sex, on a numbers basis and probably even proportionally, than gay men do, and there's certainly plenty of oral all around.

It's vital to be honest in sex-ed classes about the real things people do (not just "vaginal intercourse exists, don't do it or you're a bad person," which has been proven very thoroughly to increase teen pregnancies and STIs). By acknowledging other acts, we help kids learn to use protection and safer sex, and to choose lower-risk activities. If teens are going to be having sex anyway--and they are--I'm glad to live in a province that makes sure they know handjobs (and masturbation, for that matter!) exist and are low-risk.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: GuitarStv on June 30, 2015, 01:09:20 PM
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Actually, the curriculum in Ontario has been updated this year to explain gay sex in classes . . . soo . . . mebbe your chart is incorrect.

I know you're mostly kidding, but just as a reminder for the lurkers, there's nothing gay people do that straights don't also do--it's not like we have secret different genitalia. Straights have vastly more anal sex, on a numbers basis and probably even proportionally, than gay men do, and there's certainly plenty of oral all around.

It's vital to be honest in sex-ed classes about the real things people do (not just "vaginal intercourse exists, don't do it or you're a bad person," which has been proven very thoroughly to increase teen pregnancies and STIs). By acknowledging other acts, we help kids learn to use protection and safer sex, and to choose lower-risk activities. If teens are going to be having sex anyway--and they are--I'm glad to live in a province that makes sure they know handjobs (and masturbation, for that matter!) exist and are low-risk.

You and I know this . . . but the backlash against updating a badly out of date curriculum in Canada was rather shocking.  The funny thing is, you can opt to take your kid out of sex ed if you want . . . all the protesting was centered around trying to prevent other children from being educated, using the reasoning that the educated children might tell what they know to the zealots and ruin the carefully crafted reality that their parents had been allowing them to see.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: MLKnits on June 30, 2015, 01:48:47 PM
As for gay marriage, etc.  I have unformed views, by and large.  I think it is different from race in some important ways, but I haven't decided by how much or whether the differences matter when you get down to the bottom of it.  I also understand that there are people who don't see a difference and that is up to them.  It appears to me that gay relationships are fundamentally different from the long term heterosexual marriages I am familiar with.  Is that because the option of marriage was never on the table as an option and it changed the structure of many of those relationships?  Or is it because homosexual relationships are just *different*?  I guess we will all get to find out now that the option is open to all.  There is a lot of "I don't know" here and it is genuine on my part.


On a statistical level, they are different from heterosexual relationships. They have a more balanced division of housework and childcare than heterosexual relationships do, for instance. Also, the overall outcomes for children raised in them are better, though, to be fair, same-sex couples are vastly less likely to have "oops!" babies they aren't prepared for/can't afford.

In addition, many of the assumptions that are often brought to the table in heterosexual relationships, like who's expected to nurture and who's expected to provide, don't exist in same-sex relationships: we have to decide that based on our actual skills and desires, not what's between our legs.

So yes, there are differences. Personally, I think they're great ones, and I'm hopeful that seeing the range of relationship options that truly exist will be beneficial for those who might otherwise assume "man works, woman cleans" is their only choice.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: MLKnits on June 30, 2015, 01:54:40 PM

Exactly. And of course, clergy has always been able to refuse to marry people whose beliefs or practices they don't agree with.

The more interesting question, to me, is how the "religious freedom" argument only gets extended to refusal to marry people (which, yes: who wants that energy in their wedding?) and people rarely talk about the other side of it, which is that lots of churches, temples, mosques, etc, have been willing and happy to marry same-sex people for decades while being refused by the state. What about their religious freedoms, if we're going to endlessly debate the right to refuse? There are pastors and so on in Alabama and Mississippi who, if their governors can make it happen, will not be able to marry their parishioners because of state action. Somehow the people who claim to be centrally concerned with religious freedom don't seem to mind that.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: KodeBlue on June 30, 2015, 02:23:20 PM
I hope this thread doesn't get locked. I consider this a mustachian issue; if you accept the premise that in addition we to trying to earn, save and be frugal we should make sure our financial and legal affairs are in order. For me as a gay man this means making sure that if either my spouse or myself should be faced with a catastrophic illness or death that the other is protected and provided for. Marriage offers certain protections and advantages, such as survivor benefits, and I believe it's only fair that same sex couples have access to legal marriage if they feel this is the a good option for them. Some couples, same sex or heterosexual, decide to marry, some don't based on their situation. But I believe every couple should have the choice.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gin1984 on June 30, 2015, 02:33:10 PM
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Actually, the curriculum in Ontario has been updated this year to explain gay sex in classes . . . soo . . . mebbe your chart is incorrect.

I know you're mostly kidding, but just as a reminder for the lurkers, there's nothing gay people do that straights don't also do--it's not like we have secret different genitalia. Straights have vastly more anal sex, on a numbers basis and probably even proportionally, than gay men do, and there's certainly plenty of oral all around.

It's vital to be honest in sex-ed classes about the real things people do (not just "vaginal intercourse exists, don't do it or you're a bad person," which has been proven very thoroughly to increase teen pregnancies and STIs). By acknowledging other acts, we help kids learn to use protection and safer sex, and to choose lower-risk activities. If teens are going to be having sex anyway--and they are--I'm glad to live in a province that makes sure they know handjobs (and masturbation, for that matter!) exist and are low-risk.
I know this is serious, but the bolded made me laugh.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on June 30, 2015, 02:37:03 PM

Exactly. And of course, clergy has always been able to refuse to marry people whose beliefs or practices they don't agree with.

The more interesting question, to me, is how the "religious freedom" argument only gets extended to refusal to marry people (which, yes: who wants that energy in their wedding?) and people rarely talk about the other side of it, which is that lots of churches, temples, mosques, etc, have been willing and happy to marry same-sex people for decades while being refused by the state. What about their religious freedoms, if we're going to endlessly debate the right to refuse? There are pastors and so on in Alabama and Mississippi who, if their governors can make it happen, will not be able to marry their parishioners because of state action. Somehow the people who claim to be centrally concerned with religious freedom don't seem to mind that.

No, you don't understand. It's the speaker's "religious freedom" as interpreted by themselves that's important--not some other person's.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: regulator on June 30, 2015, 02:41:12 PM
As for gay marriage, etc.  I have unformed views, by and large.  I think it is different from race in some important ways, but I haven't decided by how much or whether the differences matter when you get down to the bottom of it.  I also understand that there are people who don't see a difference and that is up to them.  It appears to me that gay relationships are fundamentally different from the long term heterosexual marriages I am familiar with.  Is that because the option of marriage was never on the table as an option and it changed the structure of many of those relationships?  Or is it because homosexual relationships are just *different*?  I guess we will all get to find out now that the option is open to all.  There is a lot of "I don't know" here and it is genuine on my part.


On a statistical level, they are different from heterosexual relationships. They have a more balanced division of housework and childcare than heterosexual relationships do, for instance. Also, the overall outcomes for children raised in them are better, though, to be fair, same-sex couples are vastly less likely to have "oops!" babies they aren't prepared for/can't afford.

In addition, many of the assumptions that are often brought to the table in heterosexual relationships, like who's expected to nurture and who's expected to provide, don't exist in same-sex relationships: we have to decide that based on our actual skills and desires, not what's between our legs.

So yes, there are differences. Personally, I think they're great ones, and I'm hopeful that seeing the range of relationship options that truly exist will be beneficial for those who might otherwise assume "man works, woman cleans" is their only choice.

I am pretty much done with this thread since it is clear that moderation swings a particular way and open mocking of other people's beliefs is tolerated and encouraged.  That said, I suspect you have extremely cherry-picked statistics on homosexual couples, especially when it comes to raising children.  The reluctance of adoption agencies, etc. to place children with such families means that only the squeakiest clean, most stable and well-off ones get kids to raise that did not come from a prior heterosexual relationship or artificial insemination.  Hard to believe that would not yield different outcomes from he general population, ceteris paribus.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: johnny847 on June 30, 2015, 02:44:15 PM
As for gay marriage, etc.  I have unformed views, by and large.  I think it is different from race in some important ways, but I haven't decided by how much or whether the differences matter when you get down to the bottom of it.  I also understand that there are people who don't see a difference and that is up to them.  It appears to me that gay relationships are fundamentally different from the long term heterosexual marriages I am familiar with.  Is that because the option of marriage was never on the table as an option and it changed the structure of many of those relationships?  Or is it because homosexual relationships are just *different*?  I guess we will all get to find out now that the option is open to all.  There is a lot of "I don't know" here and it is genuine on my part.


On a statistical level, they are different from heterosexual relationships. They have a more balanced division of housework and childcare than heterosexual relationships do, for instance. Also, the overall outcomes for children raised in them are better, though, to be fair, same-sex couples are vastly less likely to have "oops!" babies they aren't prepared for/can't afford.

In addition, many of the assumptions that are often brought to the table in heterosexual relationships, like who's expected to nurture and who's expected to provide, don't exist in same-sex relationships: we have to decide that based on our actual skills and desires, not what's between our legs.

So yes, there are differences. Personally, I think they're great ones, and I'm hopeful that seeing the range of relationship options that truly exist will be beneficial for those who might otherwise assume "man works, woman cleans" is their only choice.

I am pretty much done with this thread since it is clear that moderation swings a particular way and open mocking of other people's beliefs is tolerated and encouraged.  That said, I suspect you have extremely cherry-picked statistics on homosexual couples, especially when it comes to raising children.  The reluctance of adoption agencies, etc. to place children with such families means that only the squeakiest clean, most stable and well-off ones get kids to raise that did not come from a prior heterosexual relationship or artificial insemination.  Hard to believe that would not yield different outcomes from he general population, ceteris paribus.

Remember when people asked you when you would start listening?

Here you have conclusions presented in front of you and you are casting them aside.
If you think these are cherry picked statistics, then present other studies with different conclusions. Otherwise, I don't see the point of you staying on this thread any longer if you're not going to listen to what is being said.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Philociraptor on June 30, 2015, 02:51:24 PM
I am pretty much done with this thread since it is clear that moderation swings a particular way and open mocking of other people's beliefs is tolerated and encouraged.

Moderation seems content to let most discussions carry on as they will, as long as they remain civil. As far as mocking goes, religious belief shouldn't be protected from criticism, as long as that criticism doesn't become an ad hominem attack on the person professing that belief. You should be able to provide rational, logical arguments for why you believe homosexual relationships shouldn't be given the same treatment under the government's law, and those reasons should hold weight on their own. Your belief that a particular religion is the best is no different than my beliefs that country music sucks and my wife is beautiful.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Kris on June 30, 2015, 02:59:41 PM
As for gay marriage, etc.  I have unformed views, by and large.  I think it is different from race in some important ways, but I haven't decided by how much or whether the differences matter when you get down to the bottom of it.  I also understand that there are people who don't see a difference and that is up to them.  It appears to me that gay relationships are fundamentally different from the long term heterosexual marriages I am familiar with.  Is that because the option of marriage was never on the table as an option and it changed the structure of many of those relationships?  Or is it because homosexual relationships are just *different*?  I guess we will all get to find out now that the option is open to all.  There is a lot of "I don't know" here and it is genuine on my part.


On a statistical level, they are different from heterosexual relationships. They have a more balanced division of housework and childcare than heterosexual relationships do, for instance. Also, the overall outcomes for children raised in them are better, though, to be fair, same-sex couples are vastly less likely to have "oops!" babies they aren't prepared for/can't afford.

In addition, many of the assumptions that are often brought to the table in heterosexual relationships, like who's expected to nurture and who's expected to provide, don't exist in same-sex relationships: we have to decide that based on our actual skills and desires, not what's between our legs.

So yes, there are differences. Personally, I think they're great ones, and I'm hopeful that seeing the range of relationship options that truly exist will be beneficial for those who might otherwise assume "man works, woman cleans" is their only choice.

I am pretty much done with this thread since it is clear that moderation swings a particular way and open mocking of other people's beliefs is tolerated and encouraged.  That said, I suspect you have extremely cherry-picked statistics on homosexual couples, especially when it comes to raising children.  The reluctance of adoption agencies, etc. to place children with such families means that only the squeakiest clean, most stable and well-off ones get kids to raise that did not come from a prior heterosexual relationship or artificial insemination.  Hard to believe that would not yield different outcomes from he general population, ceteris paribus.

I don't understand why you consider MLKnits' remarks mockery just because they don't support what you believe. He did not cite sources, true, but there are studies on a number of the things he says.. Re raising children, here is an article that rovides abstracts and links to scholarly articles to some of the studies done.

http://journalistsresource.org/studies/society/gender-society/same-sex-marriage-children-well-being-research-roundup
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Cathy on June 30, 2015, 03:02:58 PM
The more interesting question, to me, is how the "religious freedom" argument only gets extended to refusal to marry people (which, yes: who wants that energy in their wedding?) and people rarely talk about the other side of it, which is that lots of churches, temples, mosques, etc, have been willing and happy to marry same-sex people for decades while being refused by the state. ...

This is another argument that isn't discussed much. In Halpern v. Canada (Attorney General), 65 OR (3d) 161, 2003 CanLII 26403 (http://canlii.ca/t/6v7k), the Court of Appeal for Ontario considered the argument that gender-based restrictions on marriage were unconstitutional because they violated the religious freedom of ministers who supported marrying couples of the same gender. However, the Court found that the argument lacked merit because "this case does not engage religious rights and freedoms" (para 53). According to the Court, these ministers were free to perform all the same-gender marriages they wanted (although the state would not legally recognise the marriages) and therefore freedom of religion was not violated (paras 56-57). However, the Court did accept the alternative argument that the restrictions violated constitutional equality rights by discriminating against gay people, and, as a result, the judgment of the court immediately removed gender restrictions on marriage in Ontario, back in 2003.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: TrulyStashin on June 30, 2015, 03:12:13 PM
Regarding the Supreme Court decision, they've definitely overstepped their bounds here.  They didn't define marriage, so they have no business trying to redefine it.

But the U.S. government DID create a definition for marriage for use in tax laws, visitation rights, adoption laws, etc. The supreme court has simply decided that the definition they created must include homosexuals due to the 14th amendment. Not sure what you mean here.

And, the decision in Obergefell is aligned with a long string of precedent all of which says, essentially, that Americans have a fundamental right to order their private lives as they see fit and government can only infringe on that right when it has a compelling interest and the law is narrowly tailored to achieve that interest.  In this case, there is no compelling interest in restricting marriage only to heterosexuals -- religious objections are not legitimate state interests.  The case law on this principle goes back 100 years and it supports a wide range of privacy interests:  educating children as parents see fit, marrying outside of your race, end of life decisions, birth control, abortion,  non-criminal sexual behavior between consenting adults and etc. and etc.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: sol on June 30, 2015, 03:16:46 PM
religious belief shouldn't be protected from criticism, as long as that criticism doesn't become an ad hominem attack on the person professing that belief. You should be able to provide rational, logical arguments for why you believe homosexual relationships shouldn't be given the same treatment under the government's law

Those are the kinds of arguments I've been seeking here.  If you believe gay people should have fewer rights than straight people, please explain why.  I'm genuinely interested in hearing the rationalizations for such beliefs.

People used to cite the bible as justification for slavery, but as a nation we've mostly accepted that the bible is a product of its ancient times, and some things that it supports are no longer acceptable to us.  I think we're moving that direction on gay rights, too.  The people who wrote the bible lived in a very different world than we do, and I don't think you have to toss out the good parts just because parts of it are openly racist or whatever.

The problem, raptor, with asking people to provide logical defenses of supernatural beliefs is that there aren't any.  The very nature of the supernatural makes it logically indefensible, so you have to appeal instead to emotion, or societal benefit, or tradition.  They are just as likely to be offended by your request as I would be if you asked me to explain how the internet works by citing the koran.  It's just the wrong medium to address that particular topic.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: regulator on June 30, 2015, 03:49:30 PM
As for gay marriage, etc.  I have unformed views, by and large.  I think it is different from race in some important ways, but I haven't decided by how much or whether the differences matter when you get down to the bottom of it.  I also understand that there are people who don't see a difference and that is up to them.  It appears to me that gay relationships are fundamentally different from the long term heterosexual marriages I am familiar with.  Is that because the option of marriage was never on the table as an option and it changed the structure of many of those relationships?  Or is it because homosexual relationships are just *different*?  I guess we will all get to find out now that the option is open to all.  There is a lot of "I don't know" here and it is genuine on my part.


On a statistical level, they are different from heterosexual relationships. They have a more balanced division of housework and childcare than heterosexual relationships do, for instance. Also, the overall outcomes for children raised in them are better, though, to be fair, same-sex couples are vastly less likely to have "oops!" babies they aren't prepared for/can't afford.

In addition, many of the assumptions that are often brought to the table in heterosexual relationships, like who's expected to nurture and who's expected to provide, don't exist in same-sex relationships: we have to decide that based on our actual skills and desires, not what's between our legs.

So yes, there are differences. Personally, I think they're great ones, and I'm hopeful that seeing the range of relationship options that truly exist will be beneficial for those who might otherwise assume "man works, woman cleans" is their only choice.

I am pretty much done with this thread since it is clear that moderation swings a particular way and open mocking of other people's beliefs is tolerated and encouraged.  That said, I suspect you have extremely cherry-picked statistics on homosexual couples, especially when it comes to raising children.  The reluctance of adoption agencies, etc. to place children with such families means that only the squeakiest clean, most stable and well-off ones get kids to raise that did not come from a prior heterosexual relationship or artificial insemination.  Hard to believe that would not yield different outcomes from he general population, ceteris paribus.

I don't understand why you consider MLKnits' remarks mockery just because they don't support what you believe. He did not cite sources, true, but there are studies on a number of the things he says.. Re raising children, here is an article that rovides abstracts and links to scholarly articles to some of the studies done.

http://journalistsresource.org/studies/society/gender-society/same-sex-marriage-children-well-being-research-roundup

Ah, cited sources.  Thanks.  Much better than bald statements with no backing, one way or the other.

As for the rest, even the most bigoted atheists seem to express frustration that they cannot "reason" with religious people.  Congratulations, you have it!  Religious people have decided for reasons of their own that they believe in the tenets of their faith.  Believe, not reason to that position (apologetics and theological arguments aside).  Yes, you will not be able to use argument to persuade them to drop their faith.  So give it up.  Learn to live and let live.  You are wasting your time.

I love all the posters beating on me for "not listening" or trumpeting the superiority of my religion.  I have done no such things.  The problem is that there is such dogmatic groupthink here that anyone that does not 99.9% agree with the most outspoken posters is evil/not listening/irrational/whatever.  For all the alleged tolerance you folks profess, it sure does not extend to anyone who disagrees with you.

Well, I leave you to enjoy the groupthink and high-fiving.  enjoy.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Kris on June 30, 2015, 03:57:12 PM
As for gay marriage, etc.  I have unformed views, by and large.  I think it is different from race in some important ways, but I haven't decided by how much or whether the differences matter when you get down to the bottom of it.  I also understand that there are people who don't see a difference and that is up to them.  It appears to me that gay relationships are fundamentally different from the long term heterosexual marriages I am familiar with.  Is that because the option of marriage was never on the table as an option and it changed the structure of many of those relationships?  Or is it because homosexual relationships are just *different*?  I guess we will all get to find out now that the option is open to all.  There is a lot of "I don't know" here and it is genuine on my part.


On a statistical level, they are different from heterosexual relationships. They have a more balanced division of housework and childcare than heterosexual relationships do, for instance. Also, the overall outcomes for children raised in them are better, though, to be fair, same-sex couples are vastly less likely to have "oops!" babies they aren't prepared for/can't afford.

In addition, many of the assumptions that are often brought to the table in heterosexual relationships, like who's expected to nurture and who's expected to provide, don't exist in same-sex relationships: we have to decide that based on our actual skills and desires, not what's between our legs.

So yes, there are differences. Personally, I think they're great ones, and I'm hopeful that seeing the range of relationship options that truly exist will be beneficial for those who might otherwise assume "man works, woman cleans" is their only choice.

I am pretty much done with this thread since it is clear that moderation swings a particular way and open mocking of other people's beliefs is tolerated and encouraged.  That said, I suspect you have extremely cherry-picked statistics on homosexual couples, especially when it comes to raising children.  The reluctance of adoption agencies, etc. to place children with such families means that only the squeakiest clean, most stable and well-off ones get kids to raise that did not come from a prior heterosexual relationship or artificial insemination.  Hard to believe that would not yield different outcomes from he general population, ceteris paribus.

I don't understand why you consider MLKnits' remarks mockery just because they don't support what you believe. He did not cite sources, true, but there are studies on a number of the things he says.. Re raising children, here is an article that rovides abstracts and links to scholarly articles to some of the studies done.

http://journalistsresource.org/studies/society/gender-society/same-sex-marriage-children-well-being-research-roundup

Ah, cited sources.  Thanks.  Much better than bald statements with no backing, one way or the other.

As for the rest, even the most bigoted atheists seem to express frustration that they cannot "reason" with religious people.  Congratulations, you have it!  Religious people have decided for reasons of their own that they believe in the tenets of their faith.  Believe, not reason to that position (apologetics and theological arguments aside).  Yes, you will not be able to use argument to persuade them to drop their faith.  So give it up.  Learn to live and let live.  You are wasting your time.

I love all the posters beating on me for "not listening" or trumpeting the superiority of my religion.  I have done no such things.  The problem is that there is such dogmatic groupthink here that anyone that does not 99.9% agree with the most outspoken posters is evil/not listening/irrational/whatever.  For all the alleged tolerance you folks profess, it sure does not extend to anyone who disagrees with you.

Well, I leave you to enjoy the groupthink and high-fiving.  enjoy.

What I had hoped, because you are apparently someone who can listen and are reasohable, was that by providing you with some sources that show you credible studies say children fare just as well if not better with same-sex parents, you might engage with those sources here, as they appear to contradict what you believe.  Instead, you go off on a sarcastic tangent that in no way addresses the source I provided.

That kind of behavior might be part of why some people here get the feeling you aren't interested n actually discussing the issue reasonably. 
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gin1984 on June 30, 2015, 04:00:21 PM
As for gay marriage, etc.  I have unformed views, by and large.  I think it is different from race in some important ways, but I haven't decided by how much or whether the differences matter when you get down to the bottom of it.  I also understand that there are people who don't see a difference and that is up to them.  It appears to me that gay relationships are fundamentally different from the long term heterosexual marriages I am familiar with.  Is that because the option of marriage was never on the table as an option and it changed the structure of many of those relationships?  Or is it because homosexual relationships are just *different*?  I guess we will all get to find out now that the option is open to all.  There is a lot of "I don't know" here and it is genuine on my part.


On a statistical level, they are different from heterosexual relationships. They have a more balanced division of housework and childcare than heterosexual relationships do, for instance. Also, the overall outcomes for children raised in them are better, though, to be fair, same-sex couples are vastly less likely to have "oops!" babies they aren't prepared for/can't afford.

In addition, many of the assumptions that are often brought to the table in heterosexual relationships, like who's expected to nurture and who's expected to provide, don't exist in same-sex relationships: we have to decide that based on our actual skills and desires, not what's between our legs.

So yes, there are differences. Personally, I think they're great ones, and I'm hopeful that seeing the range of relationship options that truly exist will be beneficial for those who might otherwise assume "man works, woman cleans" is their only choice.

I am pretty much done with this thread since it is clear that moderation swings a particular way and open mocking of other people's beliefs is tolerated and encouraged.  That said, I suspect you have extremely cherry-picked statistics on homosexual couples, especially when it comes to raising children.  The reluctance of adoption agencies, etc. to place children with such families means that only the squeakiest clean, most stable and well-off ones get kids to raise that did not come from a prior heterosexual relationship or artificial insemination.  Hard to believe that would not yield different outcomes from he general population, ceteris paribus.
Actually many children on homosexual couples in these studies included not only adopted but also the biological child of one partner.  Why would those children be any different than the overall population?  And no, he is not cherry picking.  That data is common knowledge in the psych field.  Either there is no difference or the homosexual partners do better.  I'm straight, I have a daughter, that is not an attack on me.  It means I should look at what homosexuals are doing right, that is all.  Why would a moderator do anything here?  That he did not cite an article when there are so many to be considered common knowledge, seriously?
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: sol on June 30, 2015, 04:01:59 PM
In reg's defense, there has been kind of a lot of high fiving in this thread. 

I was hoping that he or others of faith might contribute more, for example by providing their thoughts on why it is okay to have laws that discriminate against people for being different, or extolling the virtues of adhering to a belief system several millennia old.  Our how they reconcile their apparent distaste for social progress with their presumed embrace of technological progress.  These open questions are an opportunity for two way communication, if anyone wants to chip in.  I'm trying to invite dissenting views, not shout them down.

IPDaily has written a bunch on these topics, and I thought his insights were interesting even when I disagreed with his positions.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: beltim on June 30, 2015, 04:30:04 PM
In reg's defense, there has been kind of a lot of high fiving in this thread. 

I was hoping that he or others of faith might contribute more, for example by providing their thoughts on why it is okay to have laws that discriminate against people for being different, or extolling the virtues of adhering to a belief system several millennia old.  Our how they reconcile their apparent distaste for social progress with their presumed embrace of technological progress.  These open questions are an opportunity for two way communication, if anyone wants to chip in.  I'm trying to invite dissenting views, not shout them down.

IPDaily has written a bunch on these topics, and I thought his insights were interesting even when I disagreed with his positions.

Much of this thread frames the discussion as people of faith are holding back social progress, and your post is an exemplar of that framing.  I've only gotten involved in the discussion when misinformation was being disseminated, and so here I enter again. 

There's a lack of precision in certain comments, for example your most recent, and several of Sparafusile's, that could lead one to think the comments are an attack on people of faith, or a faith itself, without regard to what those people, or that faith, actually profess.  Sparafusile cherry-picked a survey to suggest that American Christians were overwhelmingly against same-sex marriage.  The data, in fact, reveal that a majority of most American Christian denominations support same-sex marriage, including some of the biggest affiliations: Catholics at 60% approval and Mainline Protestants at 62%.  Sometimes Christians overwhelmingly support same-sex marriage: see Unitarian Universalists at 94%!  These numbers DO NOT exclude the "don't know" answer, so they're a minimum.

Most religious Americans support social progress, don't agree with laws that discriminate against people for people being different, and would probably object strongly to your characterization of them.

Numbers from http://publicreligion.org/2015/04/attitudes-on-same-sex-marriage-by-religious-affiliation-and-denominational-family/#.VZMVNaY_Zt1
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: sol on June 30, 2015, 05:13:41 PM
Much of this thread frames the discussion as people of faith are holding back social progress, and your post is an exemplar of that framing.

I didn't mean to assert that a majority of religious people oppose social progress, but I stand by my (precise) assertion that most opposition has been organized by religious groups.  Do you know of ANY groups who oppose gay marriage for reasons other than their religion?

There are county clerks in multiple states refusing to issue marriage licensed today to same sex couples because of their faith.  To my eyes, this is akin to the aforementioned Hindu refusing to slaughter a cow; why did you become a butcher?

If your religion prevents you from doing a job, don't do that job.  It's not discrimination when you are the one refusing to do what your employer has hired you to do.  It IS discrimination when you force your religious beliefs onto people who don't share them by violating their legally protected rights.

We're not talking about religious marriage, we're talking about filing legal paperwork with the county.  Priests and Shamans have always been able to refuse to marry anyone.  But a civil servant is not allowed to deny your driver's license or voter registration or marriage application because of their religious beliefs, any more than they are allowed to grant polygamous marriages if they are Mormon.  The law doesn't allow it.  Their job is to uphold the law.

I happily accept your criticism about framing the discussion in terms of how religion tramples rights, instead of the good things religions have done, because this is a thread about trampled rights. 
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: arebelspy on June 30, 2015, 05:14:53 PM
religious belief shouldn't be protected from criticism, as long as that criticism doesn't become an ad hominem attack on the person professing that belief. You should be able to provide rational, logical arguments for why you believe homosexual relationships shouldn't be given the same treatment under the government's law

Those are the kinds of arguments I've been seeking here.  If you believe gay people should have fewer rights than straight people, please explain why.  I'm genuinely interested in hearing the rationalizations for such beliefs.

On other forums I visit, almost all of the reasons I've seen are related to "harm to the children"--which, statistically/scientifically, doesn't hold up (and even if it did, still fails philosophically, IMO, as if studies showed that children of a particular race did worse, or children of mixed race couples, or whatever, we'd still let them get married.  We still let poor people get married, even though their children do worse).

I haven't seen any other (rational/logical/non-religious) arguments besides this one.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on June 30, 2015, 05:22:59 PM
Sometimes Christians overwhelmingly support same-sex marriage: see Unitarian Universalists at 94%!

I don't think Unitarian Universalist is a Christian denomination. There's no discussion of Christ at all in their belief statements. And even a belief in God is not necessarily required.
http://www.uua.org/beliefs/what-we-believe

http://www.uua.org/beliefs/what-we-believe/sacred-texts
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Unitarian Universalists are agnostic, theist, atheist and everything in between.

They are kind of a non-religious religion. Perhaps that's why they are so overwhelmingly in support of same-sex marriage.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: beltim on June 30, 2015, 05:33:43 PM
Much of this thread frames the discussion as people of faith are holding back social progress, and your post is an exemplar of that framing.

I didn't mean to assert that a majority of religious people oppose social progress, but I stand by my (precise) assertion that most opposition has been organized by religious groups.  Do you know of ANY groups who oppose gay marriage for reasons other than their religion?

That's fine.  I don't know any groups that oppose same sex marriage for nonreligious reasons, but then I haven't done any research into it at all.  I do know a lot of religious people and groups who are tireless advocates for marriage equality.

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There are county clerks in multiple states refusing to issue marriage licensed today to same sex couples because of their faith.  To my eyes, this is akin to the aforementioned Hindu refusing to slaughter a cow; why did you become a butcher?

If your religion prevents you from doing a job, don't do that job.  It's not discrimination when you are the one refusing to do what your employer has hired you to do.  It IS discrimination when you force your religious beliefs onto people who don't share them by violating their legally protected rights.

We're not talking about religious marriage, we're talking about filing legal paperwork with the county.  Priests and Shamans have always been able to refuse to marry anyone.  But a civil servant is not allowed to deny your driver's license or voter registration or marriage application because of their religious beliefs, any more than they are allowed to grant polygamous marriages if they are Mormon.  The law doesn't allow it.  Their job is to uphold the law.

No disagreement about any of this.  Remember - lots of Christians and members of other religions agree with us too!

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I happily accept your criticism about framing the discussion in terms of how religion tramples rights, instead of the good things religions have done, because this is a thread about trampled rights.

Sometimes.   This is where your lack of precision bothers me again.  Sometimes religious people trample rights.  All religions have people who do this.  But it's not unique to religion.  When atheists come to power, they have trampled rights too.  Is there anything meaningful you can say about relative frequency?  If not, then you don't help your argument by saying that religious people trample rights when more religious support the right under discussion than don't. 
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gin1984 on June 30, 2015, 05:47:10 PM
Much of this thread frames the discussion as people of faith are holding back social progress, and your post is an exemplar of that framing.

I didn't mean to assert that a majority of religious people oppose social progress, but I stand by my (precise) assertion that most opposition has been organized by religious groups.  Do you know of ANY groups who oppose gay marriage for reasons other than their religion?

There are county clerks in multiple states refusing to issue marriage licensed today to same sex couples because of their faith.  To my eyes, this is akin to the aforementioned Hindu refusing to slaughter a cow; why did you become a butcher?

If your religion prevents you from doing a job, don't do that job.  It's not discrimination when you are the one refusing to do what your employer has hired you to do.  It IS discrimination when you force your religious beliefs onto people who don't share them by violating their legally protected rights.

We're not talking about religious marriage, we're talking about filing legal paperwork with the county.  Priests and Shamans have always been able to refuse to marry anyone.  But a civil servant is not allowed to deny your driver's license or voter registration or marriage application because of their religious beliefs, any more than they are allowed to grant polygamous marriages if they are Mormon.  The law doesn't allow it.  Their job is to uphold the law.

I happily accept your criticism about framing the discussion in terms of how religion tramples rights, instead of the good things religions have done, because this is a thread about trampled rights.
I want to call out Sol for being inclusive here.  Not many would include Shamans when talking about religious.  Often those in non-Abrahamic religions sit on the side line with the non-religious arguing with the Abrahamic religions and the no one seems to consider that we are not agreeing with the Abrahamic religions.  So my hat off to Sol for his inclusion of religions that don't worship the God of Abraham.   
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: sol on June 30, 2015, 05:51:19 PM
you don't help your argument by saying that religious people trample rights when more religious support the right under discussion than don't.

I think this is probably just a matter of fighting your battles where you find them.

If you want to fight for equality, and the only people opposing equality are doing so for religious reasons, then it seems natural to attack the religious basis of the opposition as the unifying thread.

I would like nothing more than for the faith-based community to do a better job policing their own members when they promote intolerance and hate.  I would even stand at their side to help out.  It's not the belief in the supernatural that bothers me, I actually support everyone's right to find their own belief system, it's just the active discrimination against people who don't share your beliefs that gets me riled up.

So for anyone else our there who is feeling maligned, fret not. Atheists do not care what creation story or ancient book you believe in.  We only care that you allow everyone else to also choose their beliefs, free of discrimination or bias or oppressive laws.  We tend to think we've found the truth, and that the truth will eventually win out all by itself, so we're not threatened by your faith or trying to limit your freedoms.  We're trying to protect your freedoms, including your right to worship, just like we're trying to protect our own and everyone else's.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gin1984 on June 30, 2015, 05:58:12 PM
you don't help your argument by saying that religious people trample rights when more religious support the right under discussion than don't.

I think this is probably just a matter of fighting your battles where you find them.

If you want to fight for equality, and the only people opposing equality are doing so for religious reasons, then it seems natural to attack the religious basis of the opposition as the unifying thread.

I would like nothing more than for the faith-based community to do a better job policing their own members when they promote intolerance and hate.  I would even stand at their side to help out.  It's not the belief in the supernatural that bothers me, I actually support everyone's right to find their own belief system, it's just the active discrimination against people who don't share your beliefs that gets me riled up.

So for anyone else our there who is feeling maligned, fret not. Atheists do not care what creation story or ancient book you believe in.  We only care that you allow everyone else to also choose their beliefs, free of discrimination or bias or oppressive laws.  We tend to think we've found the truth, and that the truth will eventually win out all by itself, so we're not threatened by your faith or trying to limit your freedoms.  We're trying to protect your freedoms, including your right to worship, just like we're trying to protect our own and everyone else's.
I have to agree here.  I have found atheists who often think I'm nuts, but the general consensus seems to be, I don't care as long as you don't expect me to worship along with you.  Maybe those who are feeling attacked here, should figure out what the group you are identifying with has done to get this reaction and then decide if you should belong to it or not. 
I have friends who left the Republican Party because they got tired of being "attacked" for things they actually don't agree with but the party line stated.  Maybe the problem is your group, not those "attacking".
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: beltim on June 30, 2015, 06:01:29 PM
Sometimes Christians overwhelmingly support same-sex marriage: see Unitarian Universalists at 94%!

I don't think Unitarian Universalist is a Christian denomination. There's no discussion of Christ at all in their belief statements. And even a belief in God is not necessarily required.
http://www.uua.org/beliefs/what-we-believe

http://www.uua.org/beliefs/what-we-believe/sacred-texts
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Unitarian Universalists are agnostic, theist, atheist and everything in between.

They are kind of a non-religious religion. Perhaps that's why they are so overwhelmingly in support of same-sex marriage.

Sorry, that should have read "Unitarian/Universalist."  Unitarians are definitely Christian.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: beltim on June 30, 2015, 06:09:47 PM
you don't help your argument by saying that religious people trample rights when more religious support the right under discussion than don't.

I think this is probably just a matter of fighting your battles where you find them.

If you want to fight for equality, and the only people opposing equality are doing so for religious reasons, then it seems natural to attack the religious basis of the opposition as the unifying thread.

Attacking religions definitely has a long glorious past.  It seems like a smart.

This is arbitrarily narrow.  There are state sponsored reductions of rights - including same sex marriage - in many countries with no religious basis (China, Russia). 

I have no problem with you attacking religious reasons - that's a good idea.  But many of your posts lean towards attacking religion.  If your argument only affects a minority of the people you're characterizing, then you need to be more specific.   That's the precision I'm asking for, but you seem to be doubling down on religion as the problem.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Annamal on June 30, 2015, 06:15:11 PM
  We tend to think we've found the truth, and that the truth will eventually win out all by itself, so we're not threatened by your faith or trying to limit your freedoms.  We're trying to protect your freedoms, including your right to worship, just like we're trying to protect our own and everyone else's.

There are some limited cases where I (as a committed atheist) genuinely do believe that the beliefs of others should be able to restrict my actions even though those beliefs are not rational by my definition.

There are places in my country which are considered sacred by local Maori and where the behaviour of visitors is restricted in ways that it is not restricted in other places. I support the practice while not sharing the belief.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: sol on June 30, 2015, 06:31:18 PM
There are state sponsored reductions of rights - including same sex marriage - in many countries with no religious basis (China, Russia). 

Oooh, now there's an interesting tidbit.  Why do they do that?

Five minutes of internet research suggests that Russian opposition to homosexuality is primarily driven by the orthodox church, but supplemented with cold war era attitudes about the corrosive influence of western culture.

In China, by contrast, the opposition is apparently due to western influence.  Ancient China openly tolerated homosexuality (and polygamy), but they eventually imported western social mores and have just held onto them longer than the west has.

So in both cases, I think religion is still at least partially on the hook as the primary cause.  So much for that "no religious basis" claim.

I'm not sure you're helping, beltim.  You're reinforcing my suspicions that organized religion has been the primary obstacle to social progress, certainly in America but maybe everywhere else, too.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: sol on June 30, 2015, 06:40:20 PM
There are places in my country which are considered sacred by local Maori and where the behaviour of visitors is restricted in ways that it is not restricted in other places. I support the practice while not sharing the belief.

Your voluntary compliance with someone else's belief is not the same as legally mandated compliance for everyone.  Would you support a law restricting all access to Tongariro National park?

What if one tribe thinks a site is sacred and their neighbor tribe thinks it's good hunting grounds?  Do you forbid a tribe access to their usual and accustomed hunting grounds on the basis of some other groups beliefs?

It's much harder to enforce equality for everyone by placing restrictions on everyone than it is by granting freedoms to everyone.  You respect your sacred land and I'll respect mine.

Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: FIreDrill on June 30, 2015, 07:09:01 PM
First off, I am a Christian and I find it very interesting reading through this thread.  It does seem that religion is getting attacked quit a bit in this discussion but that could just be me reading into things.    With all that has happened in the last week I have been pretty silent and just observing the two sides basically attack each other non stop.  Also, I'm not just talking about this thread but everything that I am seeing over Facebook and social media.  So this is what I am seeing from both sides so far...

Christians:

OMG! The Supreme Court passed marriage equality!  How can they redefine marriage like that! 

Growing up in the Church it seems like the majority of Christians believe that the U.S. was brought up on purely christian values and they want it to stay that way.  I have noticed that the majority of Christians I see freaking out are really worried about society in general and how our societies views are changing.  The reasoning for these people on being against marriage equality is extremely simple, it's a sin according to the Bible and they don't want to see society moving to sinful ways.  So now let me get to what I am seeing on the other side.

Marriage Equality:

Everyone has the right to love and to join into marriage!  Yay marriage equality!  Christians are horrible people because they discriminate against gays!

I have literally seen a ton of Pro Equality FB friends attacking Christian FB friends for there beliefs.  I find it kinda ironic because the Pro Equality group is demeaning towards the Christian group for their beliefs.  But this totally goes the other way too.  It's like a full on Hate/Hate battle.

So from my point of view the reason it is so hard for both sides to comprehend each other is due to the fact that the correct answer on each side is just so simple...  You have one side rooting for equality and the other side rooting for their beliefs.



All of this is just what I have observed.  I try to keep an open mind in order to understand both sides usually in whatever I am looking into.  Now for what I think...

My thoughts:

I do not support of same sex marriage because I believe it is a sin.  That being said, I don't want to rant and rave about how stupid this decision is because what good does that do.  It doesn't help me show the love of Christ to anyone and honestly I can't control what the Supreme Court decided.  The only thing I control is how I treat others and hopefully I treat them as Christ would have treated them, with love and respect.  As Christians, we have a lot to think about and ponder and we must continue to focus on our relationship with Christ because that's the relationship we have the most control over.  We also must remember that sin is sin, being homosexual isn't any worse than the other sexual sins like adultery, sex outside of marriage, and divorce.  Seriously, Christians have the same divorce rate as the rest of society so we have plenty to work on ourselves.  My wife posted this scripture after the ruling came out and I think it sums things up nicely.


Matthew 7:5
Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye.


Sorry for grammar/spelling mistakes.  Was in a rush to finish the post....
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gin1984 on June 30, 2015, 07:20:04 PM
First off, I am a Christian and I find it very interesting reading through this thread.  It does seem that religion is getting attacked quit a bit in this discussion but that could just be me reading into things.    With all that has happened in the last week I have been pretty silent and just observing the two sides basically attack each other non stop.  Also, I'm not just talking about this thread but everything that I am seeing over Facebook and social media.  So this is what I am seeing from both sides so far...

Christians:

OMG! The Supreme Court passed marriage equality!  How can they redefine marriage like that! 

Growing up in the Church it seems like the majority of Christians believe that the U.S. was brought up on purely christian values and they want it to stay that way. I have noticed that the majority of Christians I see freaking out are really worried about society in general and how our societies views are changing.  The reasoning for these people on being against marriage equality is extremely simple, it's a sin according to the Bible and they don't want to see society moving to sinful ways.  So now let me get to what I am seeing on the other side.

Marriage Equality:

Everyone has the right to love and to join into marriage!  Yay marriage equality!  Christians are horrible people because they discriminate against gays!

I have literally seen a ton of Pro Equality FB friends attacking Christian FB friends for there beliefs.  I find it kinda ironic because the Pro Equality group is demeaning towards the Christian group for their beliefs.  But this totally goes the other way too.  It's like a full on Hate/Hate battle.

So from my point of view the reason it is so hard for both sides to comprehend each other is due to the fact that the correct answer on each side is just so simple...  You have one side rooting for equality and the other side rooting for their beliefs.



All of this is just what I have observed.  I try to keep an open mind in order to understand both sides usually in whatever I am looking into.  Now for what I think...

My thoughts:

I do not support of same sex marriage because I believe it is a sin.  That being said, I don't want to rant and rave about how stupid this decision is because what good does that do.  It doesn't help me show the love of Christ to anyone and honestly I can't control what the Supreme Court decided.  The only thing I control is how I treat others and hopefully I treat them as Christ would have treated them, with love and respect.  As Christians, we have a lot to think about and ponder and we must continue to focus on our relationship with Christ because that's the relationship we have the most control over.  We also must remember that sin is sin, being homosexual isn't any worse than the other sexual sins like adultery, sex outside of marriage, and divorce.  Seriously, Christians have the same divorce rate as the rest of society so we have plenty to work on ourselves.  My wife posted this scripture after the ruling came out and I think it sums things up nicely.


Matthew 7:5
Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye.


Sorry for grammar/spelling mistakes.  Was in a rush to finish the post....
Uh, I went to Catholic school and they educated me a bit better than that.  You do realize that the USA is NOT a Christian country and we don't have "Christian values".  The US was modeled after Ancient Greece.  And when you try to restrict people from basic rights they really don't find that ok.  It is not about your beliefs, it is about you forcing them on others that people are hating. 
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Tyson on June 30, 2015, 07:23:41 PM
The problem with saying homosexuality is a sin is that it's not a CHOICE like adultery or divorce.  It's an inherent quality, like being black.  In other words, saying it's a sin is the equivalent of saying being black is a sin.  Of course, growing up in the South, I HAVE heard christians say that being black is a sin.  The referred to it as the mark of Cain, and the reason black people can be subjugated is because of that belief.  Seriously, I can't make this stuff up.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Annamal on June 30, 2015, 07:26:26 PM
There are places in my country which are considered sacred by local Maori and where the behaviour of visitors is restricted in ways that it is not restricted in other places. I support the practice while not sharing the belief.

Your voluntary compliance with someone else's belief is not the same as legally mandated compliance for everyone.  Would you support a law restricting all access to Tongariro National park?

What if one tribe thinks a site is sacred and their neighbor tribe thinks it's good hunting grounds?  Do you forbid a tribe access to their usual and accustomed hunting grounds on the basis of some other groups beliefs?

It's much harder to enforce equality for everyone by placing restrictions on everyone than it is by granting freedoms to everyone.  You respect your sacred land and I'll respect mine.

There are some places where access really is forbidden, there are also places like Mount Taranaki where behaviour on the summits is restricted by both local Iwi and DOC (things like not eating directly on the summit).

If two tribes have that kind of dispute then there are ways for them to resolve it.

Maori culture and tradition is tied into the law via the Treaty of Waitangi, it might not always be respected and there are frequently clashes but it is part of our legal system.

Of course public places such as memorials also have restrictions that are not strictly rational and I respect those as well
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: beltim on June 30, 2015, 07:38:45 PM
There are state sponsored reductions of rights - including same sex marriage - in many countries with no religious basis (China, Russia). 

Oooh, now there's an interesting tidbit.  Why do they do that?

Five minutes of internet research suggests that Russian opposition to homosexuality is primarily driven by the orthodox church, but supplemented with cold war era attitudes about the corrosive influence of western culture.

In China, by contrast, the opposition is apparently due to western influence.  Ancient China openly tolerated homosexuality (and polygamy), but they eventually imported western social mores and have just held onto them longer than the west has.

So in both cases, I think religion is still at least partially on the hook as the primary cause.  So much for that "no religious basis" claim.

I'm not sure you're helping, beltim.  You're reinforcing my suspicions that organized religion has been the primary obstacle to social progress, certainly in America but maybe everywhere else, too.

It seems a mistake to respond to any of your points - it only goes down a rabbit hole.  Perhaps you're right about Russia and China, honestly I don't care to research it.  My original point was only to point out that large majorities of most Christian denominations support same-sex marriage, and blaming all of a group for the actions of a minority is a classic logic error. 
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: FIreDrill on June 30, 2015, 08:14:14 PM
First off, I am a Christian and I find it very interesting reading through this thread.  It does seem that religion is getting attacked quit a bit in this discussion but that could just be me reading into things.    With all that has happened in the last week I have been pretty silent and just observing the two sides basically attack each other non stop.  Also, I'm not just talking about this thread but everything that I am seeing over Facebook and social media.  So this is what I am seeing from both sides so far...

Christians:

OMG! The Supreme Court passed marriage equality!  How can they redefine marriage like that! 

Growing up in the Church it seems like the majority of Christians believe that the U.S. was brought up on purely christian values and they want it to stay that way. I have noticed that the majority of Christians I see freaking out are really worried about society in general and how our societies views are changing.  The reasoning for these people on being against marriage equality is extremely simple, it's a sin according to the Bible and they don't want to see society moving to sinful ways.  So now let me get to what I am seeing on the other side.

Marriage Equality:

Everyone has the right to love and to join into marriage!  Yay marriage equality!  Christians are horrible people because they discriminate against gays!

I have literally seen a ton of Pro Equality FB friends attacking Christian FB friends for there beliefs.  I find it kinda ironic because the Pro Equality group is demeaning towards the Christian group for their beliefs.  But this totally goes the other way too.  It's like a full on Hate/Hate battle.

So from my point of view the reason it is so hard for both sides to comprehend each other is due to the fact that the correct answer on each side is just so simple...  You have one side rooting for equality and the other side rooting for their beliefs.



All of this is just what I have observed.  I try to keep an open mind in order to understand both sides usually in whatever I am looking into.  Now for what I think...

My thoughts:

I do not support of same sex marriage because I believe it is a sin.  That being said, I don't want to rant and rave about how stupid this decision is because what good does that do.  It doesn't help me show the love of Christ to anyone and honestly I can't control what the Supreme Court decided.  The only thing I control is how I treat others and hopefully I treat them as Christ would have treated them, with love and respect.  As Christians, we have a lot to think about and ponder and we must continue to focus on our relationship with Christ because that's the relationship we have the most control over.  We also must remember that sin is sin, being homosexual isn't any worse than the other sexual sins like adultery, sex outside of marriage, and divorce.  Seriously, Christians have the same divorce rate as the rest of society so we have plenty to work on ourselves.  My wife posted this scripture after the ruling came out and I think it sums things up nicely.


Matthew 7:5
Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye.


Sorry for grammar/spelling mistakes.  Was in a rush to finish the post....
Uh, I went to Catholic school and they educated me a bit better than that.  You do realize that the USA is NOT a Christian country and we don't have "Christian values".  The US was modeled after Ancient Greece.  And when you try to restrict people from basic rights they really don't find that ok.  It is not about your beliefs, it is about you forcing them on others that people are hating.

Ok, that section was supposed to be what I have observed from other Christians and do not reflect what I think.  I actually get really annoyed when I hear other Christians speaking as if that was true or when they talk like the USA somehow has more "Favor" with God than other nations.  The "Christians" and "Marriage Equality" sections are simply what I have observed from each group.  Anything after "My thoughts" is all me ;)
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Sparafusile on June 30, 2015, 08:36:26 PM
It seems a mistake to respond to any of your points - it only goes down a rabbit hole.  Perhaps you're right about Russia and China, honestly I don't care to research it.  My original point was only to point out that large majorities of most Christian denominations support same-sex marriage, and blaming all of a group for the actions of a minority is a classic logic error.

This fits into a lot of the things you hear Christians saying on the news: The evidence doesn't align with my world view and is therefor irrelevant. Maybe Sol's wrong - but I guess we'll never know since it's apparently not worthy of research or debate. That doesn't mean it's a "rabbit hole" however.

There are a couple things I think we can agree on here: 1) Gays had a hard time achieving equality and 2) This was do in large part to religious parties standing in the way. You say that most Christians supported same sex marriage. If we were to assume that is true, how do you explain why it was the elected representatives, who mostly self define as Christian, that were the spearhead preventing gay rights?

Here is a relavent image I found today. Too large to embed, please enjoy!

http://queerty-prodweb.s3.amazonaws.com/wp/docs/2015/05/1-onCEha4zx1dnu0crkEahcg.png
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gin1984 on June 30, 2015, 08:44:28 PM
It seems a mistake to respond to any of your points - it only goes down a rabbit hole.  Perhaps you're right about Russia and China, honestly I don't care to research it.  My original point was only to point out that large majorities of most Christian denominations support same-sex marriage, and blaming all of a group for the actions of a minority is a classic logic error.

This fits into a lot of the things you hear Christians saying on the news: The evidence doesn't align with my world view and is therefor irrelevant. Maybe Sol's wrong - but I guess we'll never know since it's apparently not worthy of research or debate. That doesn't mean it's a "rabbit hole" however.

There are a couple things I think we can agree on here: 1) Gays had a hard time achieving equality and 2) This was do in large part to religious parties standing in the way. You say that most Christians supported same sex marriage. If we were to assume that is true, how do you explain why it was the elected representatives, who mostly self define as Christian, that were the spearhead preventing gay rights?

Here is a relavent image I found today. Too large to embed, please enjoy!

http://queerty-prodweb.s3.amazonaws.com/wp/docs/2015/05/1-onCEha4zx1dnu0crkEahcg.png
That amused me, especially the line on the bottom.  :)
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: beltim on June 30, 2015, 08:48:31 PM
It seems a mistake to respond to any of your points - it only goes down a rabbit hole.  Perhaps you're right about Russia and China, honestly I don't care to research it.  My original point was only to point out that large majorities of most Christian denominations support same-sex marriage, and blaming all of a group for the actions of a minority is a classic logic error.

This fits into a lot of the things you hear Christians saying on the news: The evidence doesn't align with my world view and is therefor irrelevant.
I provided evidence that apparently doesn't agree with your worldview.  I think sol has clarified that he never intended to say that most Christians oppose same sex marriage - so I got my point across with him.

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Maybe Sol's wrong - but I guess we'll never know since it's apparently not worthy of research or debate. That doesn't mean it's a "rabbit hole" however.

Swing and a miss!  I didn't say it was irrelevant.  I said it got us down a rabbit hole, i.e. away from my original point, that you cherry picked data when surveys in fact show most members of most Christian denominations support same-sex marriage.

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There are a couple things I think we can agree on here: 1) Gays had a hard time achieving equality and 2) This was do in large part to religious parties standing in the way. You say that most Christians supported same sex marriage. If we were to assume that is true, how do you explain why it was the elected representatives, who mostly self define as Christian, that were the spearhead preventing gay rights?

We don't have to assume - I have now twice provided evidence. And the explanation for why some Christians spearheaded preventing gay rights is easy - they're in the minority.  No one said ALL Christians supported same sex marriage.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Sparafusile on June 30, 2015, 09:11:20 PM
It seems a mistake to respond to any of your points - it only goes down a rabbit hole.  Perhaps you're right about Russia and China, honestly I don't care to research it.  My original point was only to point out that large majorities of most Christian denominations support same-sex marriage, and blaming all of a group for the actions of a minority is a classic logic error.

This fits into a lot of the things you hear Christians saying on the news: The evidence doesn't align with my world view and is therefor irrelevant.
I provided evidence that apparently doesn't agree with your worldview.  I think sol has clarified that he never intended to say that most Christians oppose same sex marriage - so I got my point across with him.

You made a claim that Sol disagreed with. He came up with a hypothesis that perhaps contradicted your claim. You said you didn't care to research it any further. If it wasn't relevant in the first place then why did you bring it up? This is not how you convince anybody of your point of view.

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Maybe Sol's wrong - but I guess we'll never know since it's apparently not worthy of research or debate. That doesn't mean it's a "rabbit hole" however.

Swing and a miss!  I didn't say it was irrelevant.  I said it got us down a rabbit hole, i.e. away from my original point, that you cherry picked data when surveys in fact show most members of most Christian denominations support same-sex marriage.

"Going down a rabbit hole" is a metaphor for going into the unknown, not for getting off topic. Nothing that was said by Sol is something that couldn't be proven or disproven with a little bit of effort and knowledge.

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There are a couple things I think we can agree on here: 1) Gays had a hard time achieving equality and 2) This was do in large part to religious parties standing in the way. You say that most Christians supported same sex marriage. If we were to assume that is true, how do you explain why it was the elected representatives, who mostly self define as Christian, that were the spearhead preventing gay rights?

We don't have to assume - I have now twice provided evidence. And the explanation for why some Christians spearheaded preventing gay rights is easy - they're in the minority.  No one said ALL Christians supported same sex marriage.

You missed my point. The people in power that apposed gay rights were representatives of the people. They were elected into office, sometimes with a majority vote. These officials were elected by a country that is a majority Christian. Each person has one vote. How is it that these representatives were against gay rights if the majority of Christians are for gay rights? They were not elected by a minority, but they did not share the views of their constituents. How do you explain that discrepancy? And if you can't explain it (it's entirely possible that it cannot be explained) how do you explain why these same constituents did not speak out against their representatives in this matter?
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: beltim on June 30, 2015, 09:21:00 PM
It seems a mistake to respond to any of your points - it only goes down a rabbit hole.  Perhaps you're right about Russia and China, honestly I don't care to research it.  My original point was only to point out that large majorities of most Christian denominations support same-sex marriage, and blaming all of a group for the actions of a minority is a classic logic error.

This fits into a lot of the things you hear Christians saying on the news: The evidence doesn't align with my world view and is therefor irrelevant.
I provided evidence that apparently doesn't agree with your worldview.  I think sol has clarified that he never intended to say that most Christians oppose same sex marriage - so I got my point across with him.

You made a claim that Sol disagreed with. He came up with a hypothesis that perhaps contradicted your claim. You said you didn't care to research it any further. If it wasn't relevant in the first place then why did you bring it up? This is not how you convince anybody of your point of view.

I never said it was irrelevant.  It was a sidebar that distracted from my original point.

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There are a couple things I think we can agree on here: 1) Gays had a hard time achieving equality and 2) This was do in large part to religious parties standing in the way. You say that most Christians supported same sex marriage. If we were to assume that is true, how do you explain why it was the elected representatives, who mostly self define as Christian, that were the spearhead preventing gay rights?

We don't have to assume - I have now twice provided evidence. And the explanation for why some Christians spearheaded preventing gay rights is easy - they're in the minority.  No one said ALL Christians supported same sex marriage.

You missed my point. The people in power that apposed gay rights were representatives of the people. They were elected into office, sometimes with a majority vote. These officials were elected by a country that is a majority Christian. Each person has one vote. How is it that these representatives were against gay rights if the majority of Christians are for gay rights? They were not elected by a minority, but they did not share the views of their constituents. How do you explain that discrepancy? And if you can't explain it (it's entirely possible that it cannot be explained) how do you explain why these same constituents did not speak out against their representatives in this matter?

Look up gerrymandering.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Sparafusile on June 30, 2015, 09:30:03 PM
Look up gerrymandering.

The gerrymandering in my state is done by the Republican party which is comprised of conservative Christians. Perhaps it's different in other locations. Nonetheless, when Governor Pence enacted the "Religious Freedom" act, there was a tremendous backlash. If the majority of Christians are for equality, why didn't this happen more often when these types of laws were enacted? Why didn't the representatives know how their constituency felt so they wouldn't put their foot in their mouth over and over again? Why did gays have to fight so hard and long if everybody was in favor of their equality?
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: beltim on June 30, 2015, 09:44:57 PM
Also consider the 11 states where voters or legislators legalized same sex marriage. 

Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: beltim on June 30, 2015, 09:54:40 PM
Why did gays have to fight so hard and long if everybody was in favor of their equality?

Majority support for same sex marriage is pretty recent in the US.  Support is up 20-ish percentage among most groups over the last 15 years.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on July 01, 2015, 06:15:42 AM
It seems a mistake to respond to any of your points - it only goes down a rabbit hole.  Perhaps you're right about Russia and China, honestly I don't care to research it.  My original point was only to point out that large majorities of most Christian denominations support same-sex marriage, and blaming all of a group for the actions of a minority is a classic logic error.

This fits into a lot of the things you hear Christians saying on the news: The evidence doesn't align with my world view and is therefor irrelevant. Maybe Sol's wrong - but I guess we'll never know since it's apparently not worthy of research or debate. That doesn't mean it's a "rabbit hole" however.

There are a couple things I think we can agree on here: 1) Gays had a hard time achieving equality and 2) This was do in large part to religious parties standing in the way. You say that most Christians supported same sex marriage. If we were to assume that is true, how do you explain why it was the elected representatives, who mostly self define as Christian, that were the spearhead preventing gay rights?

Here is a relavent image I found today. Too large to embed, please enjoy!

http://queerty-prodweb.s3.amazonaws.com/wp/docs/2015/05/1-onCEha4zx1dnu0crkEahcg.png
That amused me, especially the line on the bottom.  :)

My favorite is the prohibition on wearing clothes made from two different cloths. Too bad it didn't make it on the list.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: davisgang90 on July 01, 2015, 07:11:20 AM
What I find hilarious is that many religious people will pick and choose which parts of their respective doctrines to follow depending on their own desires. For example, many a Christian that was interviewed about gay marriage were, unsurprisingly, against it. When asked how many of them had been divorced, many of them had been! Both things are banned in the bible, but only one is followed.

  • eating shell fish
  • getting tattooed
  • masturbating
  • watching porn
  • gossiping
  • eating too much
  • playing football
  • working every day of the week

Why are any of these things less important than being gay and getting married? They are all banned in the bible.
Not interested in wading into this debate, but the above is an often misunderstood concept of Christianity.  Most Christians don't follow Old Testament rules and laws against shellfish, bacon (mmmmm  bacon....), stoning adulterers etc.  We view the old testament law has been perfected by the sacrifice Christ made on the cross.

Here's a quick read on the topic for anyone who wants to educate themselves.  http://www.bible-apologetics.com/articles/otntlaw.htm

Carry on.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Kris on July 01, 2015, 07:14:02 AM
What I find hilarious is that many religious people will pick and choose which parts of their respective doctrines to follow depending on their own desires. For example, many a Christian that was interviewed about gay marriage were, unsurprisingly, against it. When asked how many of them had been divorced, many of them had been! Both things are banned in the bible, but only one is followed.

  • eating shell fish
  • getting tattooed
  • masturbating
  • watching porn
  • gossiping
  • eating too much
  • playing football
  • working every day of the week

Why are any of these things less important than being gay and getting married? They are all banned in the bible.
Not interested in wading into this debate, but the above is an often misunderstood concept of Christianity.  Most Christians don't follow Old Testament rules and laws against shellfish, bacon (mmmmm  bacon....), stoning adulterers etc.  We view the old testament law has been perfected by the sacrifice Christ made on the cross.

Here's a quick read on the topic for anyone who wants to educate themselves.  http://www.bible-apologetics.com/articles/otntlaw.htm

Carry on.

Yes, that's true... But the ones who are most virulently against homosexuality are using an Old Testament argument. Which means, for consistency they ought also to be condemning the things above.

ETA: and If they were consistent, and condemned homosexuality, but also didn't eat shellfish, or have tattoos, or wear clothing of more than one fiber, I'd be pretty impressed... But that still wouldn't give them the right to impose their ways on others.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: davisgang90 on July 01, 2015, 08:31:00 AM
What I find hilarious is that many religious people will pick and choose which parts of their respective doctrines to follow depending on their own desires. For example, many a Christian that was interviewed about gay marriage were, unsurprisingly, against it. When asked how many of them had been divorced, many of them had been! Both things are banned in the bible, but only one is followed.

  • eating shell fish
  • getting tattooed
  • masturbating
  • watching porn
  • gossiping
  • eating too much
  • playing football
  • working every day of the week

Why are any of these things less important than being gay and getting married? They are all banned in the bible.
Not interested in wading into this debate, but the above is an often misunderstood concept of Christianity.  Most Christians don't follow Old Testament rules and laws against shellfish, bacon (mmmmm  bacon....), stoning adulterers etc.  We view the old testament law has been perfected by the sacrifice Christ made on the cross.

Here's a quick read on the topic for anyone who wants to educate themselves.  http://www.bible-apologetics.com/articles/otntlaw.htm

Carry on.

Yes, that's true... But the ones who are most virulently against homosexuality are using an Old Testament argument. Which means, for consistency they ought also to be condemning the things above.

ETA: and If they were consistent, and condemned homosexuality, but also didn't eat shellfish, or have tattoos, or wear clothing of more than one fiber, I'd be pretty impressed... But that still wouldn't give them the right to impose their ways on others.
Homosexuality is also condemned in the New Testament.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Kris on July 01, 2015, 08:50:26 AM
What I find hilarious is that many religious people will pick and choose which parts of their respective doctrines to follow depending on their own desires. For example, many a Christian that was interviewed about gay marriage were, unsurprisingly, against it. When asked how many of them had been divorced, many of them had been! Both things are banned in the bible, but only one is followed.

  • eating shell fish
  • getting tattooed
  • masturbating
  • watching porn
  • gossiping
  • eating too much
  • playing football
  • working every day of the week

Why are any of these things less important than being gay and getting married? They are all banned in the bible.
Not interested in wading into this debate, but the above is an often misunderstood concept of Christianity.  Most Christians don't follow Old Testament rules and laws against shellfish, bacon (mmmmm  bacon....), stoning adulterers etc.  We view the old testament law has been perfected by the sacrifice Christ made on the cross.

Here's a quick read on the topic for anyone who wants to educate themselves.  http://www.bible-apologetics.com/articles/otntlaw.htm

Carry on.

Yes, that's true... But the ones who are most virulently against homosexuality are using an Old Testament argument. Which means, for consistency they ought also to be condemning the things above.

ETA: and If they were consistent, and condemned homosexuality, but also didn't eat shellfish, or have tattoos, or wear clothing of more than one fiber, I'd be pretty impressed... But that still wouldn't give them the right to impose their ways on others.
Homosexuality is also condemned in the New Testament.

Huh.  I stand corrected.  Well, then, why don't all Christians condemn homosexuality, if the New Testament is what they follow? 

(And of course, again,  that still wouldn't give them the right to impose their ways on others.)
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: davisgang90 on July 01, 2015, 09:03:17 AM
What I find hilarious is that many religious people will pick and choose which parts of their respective doctrines to follow depending on their own desires. For example, many a Christian that was interviewed about gay marriage were, unsurprisingly, against it. When asked how many of them had been divorced, many of them had been! Both things are banned in the bible, but only one is followed.

  • eating shell fish
  • getting tattooed
  • masturbating
  • watching porn
  • gossiping
  • eating too much
  • playing football
  • working every day of the week

Why are any of these things less important than being gay and getting married? They are all banned in the bible.
Not interested in wading into this debate, but the above is an often misunderstood concept of Christianity.  Most Christians don't follow Old Testament rules and laws against shellfish, bacon (mmmmm  bacon....), stoning adulterers etc.  We view the old testament law has been perfected by the sacrifice Christ made on the cross.

Here's a quick read on the topic for anyone who wants to educate themselves.  http://www.bible-apologetics.com/articles/otntlaw.htm

Carry on.

Yes, that's true... But the ones who are most virulently against homosexuality are using an Old Testament argument. Which means, for consistency they ought also to be condemning the things above.

ETA: and If they were consistent, and condemned homosexuality, but also didn't eat shellfish, or have tattoos, or wear clothing of more than one fiber, I'd be pretty impressed... But that still wouldn't give them the right to impose their ways on others.
Homosexuality is also condemned in the New Testament.

Huh.  I stand corrected.  Well, then, why don't all Christians condemn homosexuality, if the New Testament is what they follow? 

(And of course, again,  that still wouldn't give them the right to impose their ways on others.)
Some either disregard the letters Paul wrote (that make up the bulk of the NT) or feel that the discussions of social issues were relevant only to that timeframe.

For a more detailed answer I can ask at the next meeting.  ; )
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Kris on July 01, 2015, 09:11:47 AM
What I find hilarious is that many religious people will pick and choose which parts of their respective doctrines to follow depending on their own desires. For example, many a Christian that was interviewed about gay marriage were, unsurprisingly, against it. When asked how many of them had been divorced, many of them had been! Both things are banned in the bible, but only one is followed.

  • eating shell fish
  • getting tattooed
  • masturbating
  • watching porn
  • gossiping
  • eating too much
  • playing football
  • working every day of the week

Why are any of these things less important than being gay and getting married? They are all banned in the bible.
Not interested in wading into this debate, but the above is an often misunderstood concept of Christianity.  Most Christians don't follow Old Testament rules and laws against shellfish, bacon (mmmmm  bacon....), stoning adulterers etc.  We view the old testament law has been perfected by the sacrifice Christ made on the cross.

Here's a quick read on the topic for anyone who wants to educate themselves.  http://www.bible-apologetics.com/articles/otntlaw.htm

Carry on.

Yes, that's true... But the ones who are most virulently against homosexuality are using an Old Testament argument. Which means, for consistency they ought also to be condemning the things above.

ETA: and If they were consistent, and condemned homosexuality, but also didn't eat shellfish, or have tattoos, or wear clothing of more than one fiber, I'd be pretty impressed... But that still wouldn't give them the right to impose their ways on others.
Homosexuality is also condemned in the New Testament.

Huh.  I stand corrected.  Well, then, why don't all Christians condemn homosexuality, if the New Testament is what they follow? 

(And of course, again,  that still wouldn't give them the right to impose their ways on others.)
Some either disregard the letters Paul wrote (that make up the bulk of the NT) or feel that the discussions of social issues were relevant only to that timeframe.

For a more detailed answer I can ask at the next meeting.  ; )

Sigh.  I guess I forgot the cardinal rule of trying to make sense of people: they believe whatever they want to believe, randomly choosing what they think the important parts and ignoring the rest.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Glenstache on July 01, 2015, 09:36:06 AM
This quote from page 32 of the supreme court decision seems relevant:
Quote
Finally, it must be emphasized that religions, and those who adhere to religious doctrines, may continue to advocate with utmost, sincere conviction that, by divine precepts, same-sex marriage should not be condoned.  The First Amendment ensures that religious organizations and persons are given proper protection as they seek to teach the principles that are so fulfilling and so central to their
lives and faiths, and to their own deep aspirations to continue the family structure they have long revered.  The same is true of those who oppose same-sex marriage for other reasons.  In turn, those who believe allowing same-sex marriage is proper or indeed essential, whether as a matter of religious conviction or secular belief, may engage those who disagree with their view in an open and searching debate.   The Constitution, however, does not permit the State to bar same-sex couples from marriage on the same terms as accorded to couples of the opposite sex.

http://www.supremecourt.gov/opinions/14pdf/14-556_3204.pdf
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Midwest on July 01, 2015, 09:37:48 AM


Sigh.  I guess I forgot the cardinal rule of trying to make sense of people: they believe whatever they want to believe, randomly choosing what they think the important parts and ignoring the rest.

That's not a trait unique to Christianity.  That's one of the problems when we try and put people into homogeneous groups.  Often they are not nearly as similar as we think they are.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: johnny847 on July 01, 2015, 09:46:42 AM


Sigh.  I guess I forgot the cardinal rule of trying to make sense of people: they believe whatever they want to believe, randomly choosing what they think the important parts and ignoring the rest.

That's not a trait unique to Christianity.  That's one of the problems when we try and put people into homogeneous groups.  Often they are not nearly as similar as we think they are.
Notice how Kris said it's a cardinal rule of people, not Christians.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: KodeBlue on July 01, 2015, 09:49:01 AM
Why should anyone else's religious beliefs effect my decision to marry?
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Midwest on July 01, 2015, 09:49:38 AM


Sigh.  I guess I forgot the cardinal rule of trying to make sense of people: they believe whatever they want to believe, randomly choosing what they think the important parts and ignoring the rest.

That's not a trait unique to Christianity.  That's one of the problems when we try and put people into homogeneous groups.  Often they are not nearly as similar as we think they are.
Notice how Kris said it's a cardinal rule of people, not Christians.

Reading it in the context of the previous discussion, i didn't interpret it that way. 

My point remains the same regardless of the interpretation is people or Christians.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Tyson on July 01, 2015, 10:01:27 AM
Christians are people too, my friend.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: arebelspy on July 01, 2015, 10:08:06 AM

Why should anyone else's religious beliefs effect my decision to marry?

It shouldn't. If a religion believed no one except members of their religion should be able to get married (infidel marriage is illegal and immoral), no one would be all over "respecting" their religion.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Squirrel away on July 01, 2015, 10:14:47 AM
Why should anyone else's religious beliefs effect my decision to marry?

+1.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: johnny847 on July 01, 2015, 10:49:31 AM
Christians are people too, my friend.

When did I say or imply that? What I and I assume what I Kris meant as well is that the cardinal rule applies to all people including Christians
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on July 01, 2015, 10:50:27 AM
What I find hilarious is that many religious people will pick and choose which parts of their respective doctrines to follow depending on their own desires. For example, many a Christian that was interviewed about gay marriage were, unsurprisingly, against it. When asked how many of them had been divorced, many of them had been! Both things are banned in the bible, but only one is followed.

  • eating shell fish
  • getting tattooed
  • masturbating
  • watching porn
  • gossiping
  • eating too much
  • playing football
  • working every day of the week

Why are any of these things less important than being gay and getting married? They are all banned in the bible.
Not interested in wading into this debate, but the above is an often misunderstood concept of Christianity.  Most Christians don't follow Old Testament rules and laws against shellfish, bacon (mmmmm  bacon....), stoning adulterers etc.  We view the old testament law has been perfected by the sacrifice Christ made on the cross.

Here's a quick read on the topic for anyone who wants to educate themselves.  http://www.bible-apologetics.com/articles/otntlaw.htm

Carry on.

Yes, that's true... But the ones who are most virulently against homosexuality are using an Old Testament argument. Which means, for consistency they ought also to be condemning the things above.

ETA: and If they were consistent, and condemned homosexuality, but also didn't eat shellfish, or have tattoos, or wear clothing of more than one fiber, I'd be pretty impressed... But that still wouldn't give them the right to impose their ways on others.
Homosexuality is also condemned in the New Testament.

Huh.  I stand corrected.  Well, then, why don't all Christians condemn homosexuality, if the New Testament is what they follow? 

(And of course, again,  that still wouldn't give them the right to impose their ways on others.)

Being drunk is condemned in the same verse and in the same fashion as homosexuality in the NT. Why don't all Christians condemn drunkenness, require vows of alcohol abstinence, and push to ban alcohol? Same with premarital sex and divorce?

Oh, maybe it's because they like to drink, and approximately 97% of people have premarital sex, and half of people get divorced. Maybe it's easier to discriminate against a small minority instead of against pretty much everyone.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on July 01, 2015, 10:55:00 AM
Some conservatives are talking about banning the issuance of marriage licenses altogether. When they said that allowing gays to marry would "destroy the Institution of Marriage" (always capitalized for some reason), I had no idea that they meant that *they* would destroy it themselves out of spite.

http://www.newsweek.com/following-supreme-court-decision-mississippi-may-stop-issuing-any-marriage-347740
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Midwest on July 01, 2015, 10:59:27 AM

Being drunk is condemned in the same verse and in the same fashion as homosexuality in the NT. Why don't all Christians condemn drunkenness, require vows of alcohol abstinence, and push to ban alcohol? Same with premarital sex and divorce?

Oh, maybe it's because they like to drink, and approximately 97% of people have premarital sex, and half of people get divorced. Maybe it's easier to discriminate against a small minority instead of against pretty much everyone.

Have you been to a baptist/fundamentalist church?  I assure you some Baptists/fundamentalist congregations condemn those things as well.  I'm not saying some of the attendees aren't doing those things, but the church leadership is not preaching that its ok or ignoring it.

Did you miss the part about all people (Christians included) having different beliefs.  That's why all Christians are not condemning those things or gay relationships or gay marriage.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: beltim on July 01, 2015, 11:08:26 AM
What I find hilarious is that many religious people will pick and choose which parts of their respective doctrines to follow depending on their own desires. For example, many a Christian that was interviewed about gay marriage were, unsurprisingly, against it. When asked how many of them had been divorced, many of them had been! Both things are banned in the bible, but only one is followed.

  • eating shell fish
  • getting tattooed
  • masturbating
  • watching porn
  • gossiping
  • eating too much
  • playing football
  • working every day of the week

Why are any of these things less important than being gay and getting married? They are all banned in the bible.
Not interested in wading into this debate, but the above is an often misunderstood concept of Christianity.  Most Christians don't follow Old Testament rules and laws against shellfish, bacon (mmmmm  bacon....), stoning adulterers etc.  We view the old testament law has been perfected by the sacrifice Christ made on the cross.

Here's a quick read on the topic for anyone who wants to educate themselves.  http://www.bible-apologetics.com/articles/otntlaw.htm

Carry on.

Yes, that's true... But the ones who are most virulently against homosexuality are using an Old Testament argument. Which means, for consistency they ought also to be condemning the things above.

ETA: and If they were consistent, and condemned homosexuality, but also didn't eat shellfish, or have tattoos, or wear clothing of more than one fiber, I'd be pretty impressed... But that still wouldn't give them the right to impose their ways on others.
Homosexuality is also condemned in the New Testament.

Huh.  I stand corrected.  Well, then, why don't all Christians condemn homosexuality, if the New Testament is what they follow? 

(And of course, again,  that still wouldn't give them the right to impose their ways on others.)
Some either disregard the letters Paul wrote (that make up the bulk of the NT) or feel that the discussions of social issues were relevant only to that timeframe.

For a more detailed answer I can ask at the next meeting.  ; )

Sigh.  I guess I forgot the cardinal rule of trying to make sense of people: they believe whatever they want to believe, randomly choosing what they think the important parts and ignoring the rest.

The idea that the Bible is the literal word of God is a recent development in the history of Christianity (considering the length of the history of Christianity) and not one that most Christians agree with. 
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Midwest on July 01, 2015, 11:12:09 AM


The idea that the Bible is the literal word of God is a recent development in the history of Christianity (considering the length of the history of Christianity) and not one that most Christians agree with.

Not an argument, but an honest question - Do you have a source or basis for that?  I'd like to see that viewpoint.  Not asking for a discussion or to tear you apart, just curious.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: beltim on July 01, 2015, 11:15:13 AM


The idea that the Bible is the literal word of God is a recent development in the history of Christianity (considering the length of the history of Christianity) and not one that most Christians agree with.

Not an argument, but an honest question - Do you have a source or basis for that?  I'd like to see that viewpoint.  Not asking for a discussion or to tear you apart, just curious.

The Wikipedia article on the subject is a pretty good introduction: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Biblical_literalism
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Midwest on July 01, 2015, 11:16:38 AM


The idea that the Bible is the literal word of God is a recent development in the history of Christianity (considering the length of the history of Christianity) and not one that most Christians agree with.

Not an argument, but an honest question - Do you have a source or basis for that?  I'd like to see that viewpoint.  Not asking for a discussion or to tear you apart, just curious.

The Wikipedia article on the subject is a pretty good introduction: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Biblical_literalism

Thanks
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Tyson on July 01, 2015, 11:33:55 AM
Christians are people too, my friend.

When did I say or imply that? What I and I assume what I Kris meant as well is that the cardinal rule applies to all people including Christians

I have binders full of Christians!

Sorry, a little Romney humor...
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on July 01, 2015, 11:34:24 AM

Being drunk is condemned in the same verse and in the same fashion as homosexuality in the NT. Why don't all Christians condemn drunkenness, require vows of alcohol abstinence, and push to ban alcohol? Same with premarital sex and divorce?

Oh, maybe it's because they like to drink, and approximately 97% of people have premarital sex, and half of people get divorced. Maybe it's easier to discriminate against a small minority instead of against pretty much everyone.

Have you been to a baptist/fundamentalist church?  I assure you some Baptists/fundamentalist congregations condemn those things as well.  I'm not saying some of the attendees aren't doing those things, but the church leadership is not preaching that its ok or ignoring it.

Did you miss the part about all people (Christians included) having different beliefs.  That's why all Christians are not condemning those things or gay relationships or gay marriage.

They're in the same verse. I've heard arguments about ignoring the OT (thin but I hear it), or some parts of the OT (much less credible), or ignoring some parts of the NT (I don't understand this at all). But they're in the same verse.

I find it hard to square the things that people choose to ignore and choose to take as inscribed in blood on the foundation of the universe. It's a very common refrain for people to say 'XX is in the Bible so therefore YY must be this way'. I find the picking and the choosing to be suspect. Especially when another verse says that the whole book is the divinely inspired word of God.

I've spent a lot of time with fundamentalists, grew up in it, have a lot of family, etc. I've never heard of Baptists and fundamentalists requiring written vows of abstinence from alcohol or premarital sex as a part of membership in a church. But even less-conservative churches either ban entirely or require said vows from homosexuals. I don't know how those things could be seen differently if there weren't some prejudice at play.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on July 01, 2015, 11:47:46 AM
The idea that the Bible is the literal word of God is a recent development in the history of Christianity (considering the length of the history of Christianity) and not one that most Christians agree with.

If I'd made these statements on a different topic, I know you'd immediately challenge them and ask me for references :)

I don't know what "most Christians" agree with, or when those beliefs evolved into what they are today. But what we're talking about is the beliefs asserted by people who are the Christian leadership in the country who seem to have a large number of followers and have a large influence on public policy. They are the ones who talk about inerrancy and literalist interpretations of the Bible (on some issues--ignoring others of course).

Here's one argument for inerrancy:
https://bible.org/seriespage/bible-inerrant-word-god

Quote
Support for Inerrancy from the Teachings of Christ

A study of what Jesus said about the Bible reveals not only His belief in its verbal, plenary inspiration, but that He also believed it was inerrant. In fact, the greatest testimony to the authenticity of the Bible as God’s inspired and inerrant Word is the Lord Jesus. Why is His testimony so important? Because God authenticated and proved Him to be His own divine Son by the resurrection (cf. Acts 2:22-36; 4:8-12; 17:30-31; Rom. 1:4). Christ not only clearly confirmed the authority of the Old Testament, but He specifically promised the New Testament.

Note what Christ taught about the inspiration of the Old Testament:

(1) Its entirety; the whole of the Bible is inspired (Matt. 4:4; 5:17-18). In Matthew 4:4, Jesus responded to Satan’s temptation by affirming verbal plenary inspiration when He said, man is to live by every word (plenary) that proceeds out of the mouth of God (inspiration). In Matthew 5:17-18, Christ promised that the entire Old Testament, the Law and the Prophets, would be fulfilled, not abolished. In fact, He declared that not even the smallest Hebrew letter, the yodh, which looks like an apostrophe (‘), or stroke of a letter, a small distinguishing extension or protrusion of several Hebrews letters (cf. the extension on the letter R with it absence on the letter P), would pass away until all is fulfilled. Christ’s point is that it is all inspired and true and will be fulfilled.

(2) Its historicity; He spoke of the Old Testament in terms of actual history. Adam and Eve were two human beings, created by God in the beginning, who lived and acted in certain ways (Matt. 19:3-5; Mark 10:6-8). He spoke of Jonah and his experience in the belly of the great fish as an historical event (Matt. 12:40). He also verified the events of the flood in Noah’s day along with the ark (Matt. 24:38-39; Luke 17:26-27). He verified God’s destruction of Sodom and the historicity of Lot and his wife (Matt. 10:15; Luke 17:28-29). These are only a few illustrations; many others exist.

(3) Its reliability; because it is God’s word, the Scripture must be fulfilled (Matt. 26:54).

(4) Its sufficiency; it is sufficient to witness to the truth of God and His salvation (Luke 16:31).

(5) Its indestructibility; heaven and earth will not pass away until it is all fulfilled. Nothing can stop its fulfillment (Matt. 5:17-18).

(6) Its unity; the whole of the Bible speaks and witnesses to the person and work of Christ (Luke 24:27, 44).

(7) Its inerrancy; men are often in error, but the Bible is not; it is truth (Matt. 22:29; John 17:17).

(8) Its infallibility; the Bible cannot be broken, it always stands the test (John 10:35).
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Tyson on July 01, 2015, 12:08:01 PM
The problem with citing sources that show christian belief changed over time ultimately is not compelling, I have found, when engaging with believers.  At the end of the day they will simply state "This is what I believe in, and that is my faith".  And that is pretty much that.

So for homosexuality, you can show that literal interpretations of the bible have waxed and waned over time, that there's logical inconsistencies in that position, etc... But after all that, they'll still fall back on "But I still feel it's wrong, and that's my belief". 
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: beltim on July 01, 2015, 12:34:57 PM
The idea that the Bible is the literal word of God is a recent development in the history of Christianity (considering the length of the history of Christianity) and not one that most Christians agree with.

If I'd made these statements on a different topic, I know you'd immediately challenge them and ask me for references :)

I don't know what "most Christians" agree with, or when those beliefs evolved into what they are today. But what we're talking about is the beliefs asserted by people who are the Christian leadership in the country who seem to have a large number of followers and have a large influence on public policy. They are the ones who talk about inerrancy and literalist interpretations of the Bible (on some issues--ignoring others of course).

So there are really at least two conversations going on.  The first is that there is a group of people attempting to use religion as a justification to deny same-sex marriage.  And that's what you're talking about.

The second conversation is using that minority of opinions to say that religious people in general, or Christians in general, oppose social progress and same-sex marriage.  This is factually inaccurate.  I've provided several sources that most members of most Christian denominations support same-sex marriage in the US. 

Several people were wondering how this could be true given some quotation from the bible.  Well, that's because most Christians don't believe that the bible is the literal word of God.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Philociraptor on July 01, 2015, 12:43:09 PM
The idea that the Bible is the literal word of God is a recent development in the history of Christianity (considering the length of the history of Christianity) and not one that most Christians agree with.

If I'd made these statements on a different topic, I know you'd immediately challenge them and ask me for references :)

I don't know what "most Christians" agree with, or when those beliefs evolved into what they are today. But what we're talking about is the beliefs asserted by people who are the Christian leadership in the country who seem to have a large number of followers and have a large influence on public policy. They are the ones who talk about inerrancy and literalist interpretations of the Bible (on some issues--ignoring others of course).

So there are really at least two conversations going on.  The first is that there is a group of people attempting to use religion as a justification to deny same-sex marriage.  And that's what you're talking about.

The second conversation is using that minority of opinions to say that religious people in general, or Christians in general, oppose social progress and same-sex marriage.  This is factually inaccurate.  I've provided several sources that most members of most Christian denominations support same-sex marriage in the US. 

Several people were wondering how this could be true given some quotation from the bible.  Well, that's because most Christians don't believe that the bible is the literal word of God.

What we have here is a failure to communicate!

If what you say is true, it sounds like lots of lawmakers around the country are ignoring the general opinions of their constituents and instead voting with their individual party/religious views.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gin1984 on July 01, 2015, 12:45:46 PM
The idea that the Bible is the literal word of God is a recent development in the history of Christianity (considering the length of the history of Christianity) and not one that most Christians agree with.

If I'd made these statements on a different topic, I know you'd immediately challenge them and ask me for references :)

I don't know what "most Christians" agree with, or when those beliefs evolved into what they are today. But what we're talking about is the beliefs asserted by people who are the Christian leadership in the country who seem to have a large number of followers and have a large influence on public policy. They are the ones who talk about inerrancy and literalist interpretations of the Bible (on some issues--ignoring others of course).

So there are really at least two conversations going on.  The first is that there is a group of people attempting to use religion as a justification to deny same-sex marriage.  And that's what you're talking about.

The second conversation is using that minority of opinions to say that religious people in general, or Christians in general, oppose social progress and same-sex marriage. This is factually inaccurate.  I've provided several sources that most members of most Christian denominations support same-sex marriage in the US. 

Several people were wondering how this could be true given some quotation from the bible.  Well, that's because most Christians don't believe that the bible is the literal word of God.
I don't think it is the majority of Christians, but it my experience, it is the majority of leadership among Christians.  And when you fiscally support or vote based on your religious leadership, you can't not be held responsible.  For example, most Catholic women have used birth control yet the Catholic leadership is very opposed to birth control.  But if you go to a Catholic hospital or are employed by one, you can't get birth control.  Is it reasonable to say, Catholics are opposed to birth control even when the majority isn't?  Well given the leadership is and that leadership actively stops other from using it, yes.  If you join a group whose rules state one thing, you can't be angry when outsiders think you agree with you.  By joining that group you are supporting the leadership. 
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Russ on July 01, 2015, 12:46:20 PM
The second conversation is using that minority of opinions to say that religious people in general, or Christians in general, oppose social progress and same-sex marriage.  This is factually inaccurate.  I've provided several sources that most members of most Christian denominations support same-sex marriage in the US. 

I think we can grant you that most Christian s *currently* support same-sex marriage. The argument from the other side is that *in the past* Christians did not approve so highly and were *at that time* the main cause of such denial of rights which by default carries over to *today* leaving religion still to blame. Hopefully this clarifies the argument (unless I'm mistaken)
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: beltim on July 01, 2015, 01:00:27 PM
The idea that the Bible is the literal word of God is a recent development in the history of Christianity (considering the length of the history of Christianity) and not one that most Christians agree with.

If I'd made these statements on a different topic, I know you'd immediately challenge them and ask me for references :)

I don't know what "most Christians" agree with, or when those beliefs evolved into what they are today. But what we're talking about is the beliefs asserted by people who are the Christian leadership in the country who seem to have a large number of followers and have a large influence on public policy. They are the ones who talk about inerrancy and literalist interpretations of the Bible (on some issues--ignoring others of course).

So there are really at least two conversations going on.  The first is that there is a group of people attempting to use religion as a justification to deny same-sex marriage.  And that's what you're talking about.

The second conversation is using that minority of opinions to say that religious people in general, or Christians in general, oppose social progress and same-sex marriage.  This is factually inaccurate.  I've provided several sources that most members of most Christian denominations support same-sex marriage in the US. 

Several people were wondering how this could be true given some quotation from the bible.  Well, that's because most Christians don't believe that the bible is the literal word of God.

What we have here is a failure to communicate!

If what you say is true, it sounds like lots of lawmakers around the country are ignoring the general opinions of their constituents and instead voting with their individual party/religious views.

I think there are two issues here.  One, yes, some lawmakers are ignoring the general opinions of their constituents and vote with their individual party/religious views.  Second, (and I think larger although I don't have any data on the relative amounts) a lot of the religious opposition comes from certain denominations dominant in certain geographics regions - for example, evangelical Christians.  There are 15 states where white evangelical Christians are the largest religious group (not tied, and I would prefer data that didn't divide by race, but this is what I found).  13 of these states have net disapproval of same sex marriage, accounting for a large majority of the 17 states that have net disapproval of same-sex marriage according to https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Public_opinion_of_same-sex_marriage_in_the_United_States#By_state
http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/govbeat/wp/2015/02/26/the-religious-states-of-america-in-22-maps/
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Bob W on July 01, 2015, 01:17:46 PM
It has always amazed me that many christian appear to be opposed to gays given that Jesus appears as a gay man in many respects.  Of course many of these so called Christians are opposed to alcohol even if though JC was a wine swilling carpenter.           I'm looking forward to the relegalization of polygomay in the near future.  Their argument is at least as compelling as the gays and much wider accepted internationally.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: MDM on July 01, 2015, 02:16:40 PM
But if you go to a Catholic hospital or are employed by one, you can't get birth control. 
Is there an employment restriction that prevents an employee from using birth control?  Or is it a question of whether the insurance policy will pick up the cost?
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Midwest on July 01, 2015, 02:17:50 PM
The second conversation is using that minority of opinions to say that religious people in general, or Christians in general, oppose social progress and same-sex marriage.  This is factually inaccurate.  I've provided several sources that most members of most Christian denominations support same-sex marriage in the US. 

I think we can grant you that most Christian s *currently* support same-sex marriage. The argument from the other side is that *in the past* Christians did not approve so highly and were *at that time* the main cause of such denial of rights which by default carries over to *today* leaving religion still to blame. Hopefully this clarifies the argument (unless I'm mistaken)

I don't think most people supported same sex marriage or gay rights until recently.  There has been a massive societal shift on this issue over the past 15 years.

The first country to legalize same sex marriage was the Netherlands in 2001.  Since Europe is commonly held up as post-Christian in many circles, why was Europe so late to the party?

I believe the answer is that although Christians were slightly later to approve, the world (Christian and non-Christian) did not approve until recently.   Many on this thread attempt to indict Christianity when in reality it was society as a whole that didn't approve until very recently.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: MDM on July 01, 2015, 02:22:37 PM
More than just Christians have shifted on this issue.
Very true: http://abcnews.go.com/Politics/wireStory/obama-clinton-twisty-paths-gay-marriage-32068534
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gin1984 on July 01, 2015, 02:32:37 PM
But if you go to a Catholic hospital or are employed by one, you can't get birth control. 
Is there an employment restriction that prevents an employee from using birth control?  Or is it a question of whether the insurance policy will pick up the cost?
Depending on the employer it can be both, however, no other class of drugs can be refused to be covered by your employer which I consider almost as bad.  The exception is California which does not allow such foolishness.  There may be other states that don't allow you to discriminate, but I don't know how they responded to hobby lobby.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Tyson on July 01, 2015, 02:54:35 PM
The idea that the Bible is the literal word of God is a recent development in the history of Christianity (considering the length of the history of Christianity) and not one that most Christians agree with.

If I'd made these statements on a different topic, I know you'd immediately challenge them and ask me for references :)

I don't know what "most Christians" agree with, or when those beliefs evolved into what they are today. But what we're talking about is the beliefs asserted by people who are the Christian leadership in the country who seem to have a large number of followers and have a large influence on public policy. They are the ones who talk about inerrancy and literalist interpretations of the Bible (on some issues--ignoring others of course).

So there are really at least two conversations going on.  The first is that there is a group of people attempting to use religion as a justification to deny same-sex marriage.  And that's what you're talking about.

The second conversation is using that minority of opinions to say that religious people in general, or Christians in general, oppose social progress and same-sex marriage.  This is factually inaccurate.  I've provided several sources that most members of most Christian denominations support same-sex marriage in the US. 

Several people were wondering how this could be true given some quotation from the bible.  Well, that's because most Christians don't believe that the bible is the literal word of God.

What we have here is a failure to communicate!

If what you say is true, it sounds like lots of lawmakers around the country are ignoring the general opinions of their constituents and instead voting with their individual party/religious views.

I think there are two issues here.  One, yes, some lawmakers are ignoring the general opinions of their constituents and vote with their individual party/religious views.  Second, (and I think larger although I don't have any data on the relative amounts) a lot of the religious opposition comes from certain denominations dominant in certain geographics regions - for example, evangelical Christians.  There are 15 states where white evangelical Christians are the largest religious group (not tied, and I would prefer data that didn't divide by race, but this is what I found).  13 of these states have net disapproval of same sex marriage, accounting for a large majority of the 17 states that have net disapproval of same-sex marriage according to https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Public_opinion_of_same-sex_marriage_in_the_United_States#By_state
http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/govbeat/wp/2015/02/26/the-religious-states-of-america-in-22-maps/

This is very true.  Which is why you get people in these areas bleating about "States Rights", because they don't want to toe the line with regard to national changes.  Almost always "States Rights" translates to "Things are regressive around here, just the way we like it."  You saw this same crap argument with regard to segregation and the civil rights movement. 
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on July 01, 2015, 03:25:41 PM
But if you go to a Catholic hospital or are employed by one, you can't get birth control. 
Is there an employment restriction that prevents an employee from using birth control?  Or is it a question of whether the insurance policy will pick up the cost?

I have heard of religious employers refusing to hire someone because they had sex outside of marriage. Or firing them because they had sex outside of marriage. But I don't know about preventing them from using birth control.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Kris on July 01, 2015, 03:33:36 PM


Sigh.  I guess I forgot the cardinal rule of trying to make sense of people: they believe whatever they want to believe, randomly choosing what they think the important parts and ignoring the rest.

That's not a trait unique to Christianity.  That's one of the problems when we try and put people into homogeneous groups.  Often they are not nearly as similar as we think they are.
Notice how Kris said it's a cardinal rule of people, not Christians.

Yes, this is exactly what I meant. Which is why I said "people".
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gin1984 on July 01, 2015, 03:40:23 PM
But if you go to a Catholic hospital or are employed by one, you can't get birth control. 
Is there an employment restriction that prevents an employee from using birth control?  Or is it a question of whether the insurance policy will pick up the cost?

I have heard of religious employers refusing to hire someone because they had sex outside of marriage. Or firing them because they had sex outside of marriage. But I don't know about preventing them from using birth control.
Employees of the Madison Catholic Diocese were warned in 2010 that if they used birth control, they could face termination.
Kelly Romenesko was fired from her 7 year job teaching French at two Wisconsin Catholic schools because she and her husband used in vitro fertilization to become pregnant.

I went to Catholic school from first through high school.  It happens a lot.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on July 01, 2015, 04:06:46 PM
But if you go to a Catholic hospital or are employed by one, you can't get birth control. 
Is there an employment restriction that prevents an employee from using birth control?  Or is it a question of whether the insurance policy will pick up the cost?

I have heard of religious employers refusing to hire someone because they had sex outside of marriage. Or firing them because they had sex outside of marriage. But I don't know about preventing them from using birth control.
Employees of the Madison Catholic Diocese were warned in 2010 that if they used birth control, they could face termination.
Kelly Romenesko was fired from her 7 year job teaching French at two Wisconsin Catholic schools because she and her husband used in vitro fertilization to become pregnant.

I went to Catholic school from first through high school.  It happens a lot.

I feel like that should be illegal. How is it your employer's business what medical care you get? Or how you choose to get pregnant?
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: MDM on July 01, 2015, 04:32:23 PM
A couple of sites with good, although far from identical, perspectives:
http://www.nwlc.org/resource/states-take-action-stop-bosses%E2%80%99-religious-beliefs-trumping-women%E2%80%99s-reproductive-health-care
http://www.thefederalistpapers.org/us/facts-liberals-dont-want-you-to-hear-how-many-kinds-of-contraception-hobby-lobby-offers-its-employees

And a recent comment indicating that, in practice, all but the most extreme on either side may end up satisfied:
http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/billofhealth/2015/06/25/hobby-lobby-fall-out/
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gin1984 on July 01, 2015, 04:44:23 PM
But if you go to a Catholic hospital or are employed by one, you can't get birth control. 
Is there an employment restriction that prevents an employee from using birth control?  Or is it a question of whether the insurance policy will pick up the cost?

I have heard of religious employers refusing to hire someone because they had sex outside of marriage. Or firing them because they had sex outside of marriage. But I don't know about preventing them from using birth control.
Employees of the Madison Catholic Diocese were warned in 2010 that if they used birth control, they could face termination.
Kelly Romenesko was fired from her 7 year job teaching French at two Wisconsin Catholic schools because she and her husband used in vitro fertilization to become pregnant.

I went to Catholic school from first through high school.  It happens a lot.

I feel like that should be illegal. How is it your employer's business what medical care you get? Or how you choose to get pregnant?
I agree with you but when the Supreme Court says "This decision concerns only the contraceptive mandate and should not be understood to mean that all insurance mandates, that is for blood transfusions or vaccinations, necessarily fail if they conflict with an employer's religious beliefs.", it is obvious that they are willing to put the medical decisions regarding reproductive health as a lower priority than ANY of other medical care.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on July 01, 2015, 05:00:36 PM
A couple of sites with good, although far from identical, perspectives:
http://www.nwlc.org/resource/states-take-action-stop-bosses%E2%80%99-religious-beliefs-trumping-women%E2%80%99s-reproductive-health-care
http://www.thefederalistpapers.org/us/facts-liberals-dont-want-you-to-hear-how-many-kinds-of-contraception-hobby-lobby-offers-its-employees

And a recent comment indicating that, in practice, all but the most extreme on either side may end up satisfied:
http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/billofhealth/2015/06/25/hobby-lobby-fall-out/

The employer behavior in the first link is just horrible. Echoing my prior comments here.

If Hobby Lobby does provide 16 of the 20 methods, that's great. It's interesting that the article is totally misinterpreting the tweet they put in the article. Fluke accurately characterizes the SCOTUS ruling on the Hobby Lobby case. But then she's called a liar. And then nothing is provided to contradict the tweet.

The Harvard link is correct. The administration is trying to work something out so that women will still have access to contraceptive coverage even if their employer says no, and still complies with the SCOTUS ruling.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: MDM on July 01, 2015, 05:51:42 PM
It's interesting that the article is totally misinterpreting the tweet they put in the article. Fluke accurately characterizes the SCOTUS ruling on the Hobby Lobby case. But then she's called a liar. And then nothing is provided to contradict the tweet.
Definitely open for interpretation.  E.g., does the tweet, "Supreme Court rules that bosses can deny employees coverage of birth control," mean that an employer may decline to provide such coverage, or does it mean an employer may prevent an employee from purchasing such coverage elsewhere? 

And in another politics-makes-strange-bedfellows twist, there's the Republican proposal to allow birth control to be sold over the counter (without prescription) that Democrats oppose.  Of course both sides claim to have good reasons for their positions....
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gin1984 on July 01, 2015, 05:56:53 PM
It's interesting that the article is totally misinterpreting the tweet they put in the article. Fluke accurately characterizes the SCOTUS ruling on the Hobby Lobby case. But then she's called a liar. And then nothing is provided to contradict the tweet.
Definitely open for interpretation.  E.g., does the tweet, "Supreme Court rules that bosses can deny employees coverage of birth control," mean that an employer may decline to provide such coverage, or does it mean an employer may prevent an employee from purchasing such coverage elsewhere? 

And in another politics-makes-strange-bedfellows twist, there's the Republican proposal to allow birth control to be sold over the counter (without prescription) that Democrats oppose.  Of course both sides claim to have good reasons for their positions....
Which do the MDs agree with?  What are the side effects of those birth control pills in comparison to other prescription drugs vs over the counter drugs?  How likely can you OD and what are complication/risks of such?  Let's remove social policy and go with medical reasoning before anything, because really if it is medically contraindicated that should overrule social policy, IMO.  Then again, Hobby won even though their position had nothing to do with medical fact, so maybe reality does not matter in medical matters, lol.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: MDM on July 01, 2015, 06:12:25 PM
Which do the MDs agree with?  What are the side effects of those birth control pills in comparison to other prescription drugs vs over the counter drugs?  How likely can you OD and what are complication/risks of such?  Let's remove social policy and go with medical reasoning before anything, because really if it is medically contraindicated that should overrule social policy, IMO.

In this case, it appears the MDs generally agree with the Republicans.  E.g., http://www.acog.org/Resources-And-Publications/Committee-Opinions/Committee-on-Gynecologic-Practice/Over-the-Counter-Access-to-Oral-Contraceptives and http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/wonkblog/wp/2015/06/15/why-republicans-are-pushing-for-over-the-counter-birth-control/.

Of course there are counterarguments from various perspectives.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gin1984 on July 01, 2015, 06:18:50 PM
Which do the MDs agree with?  What are the side effects of those birth control pills in comparison to other prescription drugs vs over the counter drugs?  How likely can you OD and what are complication/risks of such?  Let's remove social policy and go with medical reasoning before anything, because really if it is medically contraindicated that should overrule social policy, IMO.

In this case, it appears the MDs generally agree with the Republicans.  E.g., http://www.acog.org/Resources-And-Publications/Committee-Opinions/Committee-on-Gynecologic-Practice/Over-the-Counter-Access-to-Oral-Contraceptives and http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/wonkblog/wp/2015/06/15/why-republicans-are-pushing-for-over-the-counter-birth-control/.

Of course there are counterarguments from various perspectives.
Thank you for posting that.  I do wonder if opinions/data have changed from 2012 (when it was published) and 2004 (when some of the data was collected) and now with the ACA. 
Though, I don't buy the second article at all, give the GOP leadership's history on women's reproductive issues.  Just from that my assumption is the GOP is saying this should be done in regards to women, don't do it.  I admit my bias there.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on July 01, 2015, 06:29:01 PM
It's interesting that the article is totally misinterpreting the tweet they put in the article. Fluke accurately characterizes the SCOTUS ruling on the Hobby Lobby case. But then she's called a liar. And then nothing is provided to contradict the tweet.
Definitely open for interpretation.  E.g., does the tweet, "Supreme Court rules that bosses can deny employees coverage of birth control," mean that an employer may decline to provide such coverage, or does it mean an employer may prevent an employee from purchasing such coverage elsewhere? 

And in another politics-makes-strange-bedfellows twist, there's the Republican proposal to allow birth control to be sold over the counter (without prescription) that Democrats oppose.  Of course both sides claim to have good reasons for their positions....

I think getting super word-parsy on a tweet is a little silly. By nature they have to be short hand. In practice, prohibiting coverage through an employer plan is tantamount (absent additional action by the administration) to denying the ability to get coverage elsewhere. No plan sells coverage for just contraception. And purchasing an entire additional (and duplicative) health plan is prohibitively expensive. So if she had more characters and thought of it she could have appended "through employer health plans" to the end to make the meaning even more clear.

But that wasn't the way that the linked article was taking it anyway.

It's interesting that the article is totally misinterpreting the tweet they put in the article. Fluke accurately characterizes the SCOTUS ruling on the Hobby Lobby case. But then she's called a liar. And then nothing is provided to contradict the tweet.
Definitely open for interpretation.  E.g., does the tweet, "Supreme Court rules that bosses can deny employees coverage of birth control," mean that an employer may decline to provide such coverage, or does it mean an employer may prevent an employee from purchasing such coverage elsewhere? 

And in another politics-makes-strange-bedfellows twist, there's the Republican proposal to allow birth control to be sold over the counter (without prescription) that Democrats oppose.  Of course both sides claim to have good reasons for their positions....
Which do the MDs agree with?  What are the side effects of those birth control pills in comparison to other prescription drugs vs over the counter drugs?  How likely can you OD and what are complication/risks of such?  Let's remove social policy and go with medical reasoning before anything, because really if it is medically contraindicated that should overrule social policy, IMO.  Then again, Hobby won even though their position had nothing to do with medical fact, so maybe reality does not matter in medical matters, lol.

Public health and physician groups have mixed feelings about this issue. There are risk factors that should be screened for before anyone starts a hormonal contraceptive. And you need a pregnancy test as well otherwise you can harm the fetus. And women also need to know the proper way to use the method. If it's your first time using that method you may not know and may be too embarrassed to ask. And methods are very ineffective if not used correctly. There's also a concern that women may not know the best dosage for themselves. And if women are going to a physician to get the prescription, they can get all the other associated care that is recommended for them like counseling to prevent STIs (since hormonal contraception doesn't prevent those), intimate partner violence screening, cervical cancer screening, etc. There's also the issue that it is against the law for an employer-sponsored health plan to reimburse for an OTC medication that was not prescribed by a doctor, so women would be out of pocket for the cost.

On the other hand, it would be more convenient for women who 1) have already visited a physician, 2) have already established which medication and dosage works for them, 3) have already received the recommended preventive care, 4) already know how to use the method appropriately, and 5) are able to pay for it out of pocket to be able to get it without a prescription.

Generally people feel that, in this case, increasing access is more important than the other risks stated. But with mixed feelings.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on July 01, 2015, 06:35:27 PM
My guess is that Republicans are trying this tactic because it will remove a plank of the argument about the 'war against women'. Since it was clearly conservative groups that worked to strike down the requirement for contraceptive coverage for some employer sponsored plans, they are associated with restricting access to contraceptives for women. By allowing it to be OTC, they 1) don't anger the religious employer groups, and 2) provide more convenient access to it for women. So it makes the argument about contraceptives (which are used by almost 100% of women at some point in their life) have less political blowback against the party. With all the Republican candidates talking about rape and whether it was a legitimate rape and passing many laws around the country to restrict or effectively eliminate abortion access in a state and trying to block equal pay for women laws, etc, they've taken quite a beating on women's issues. This is a step to change the narrative.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gin1984 on July 01, 2015, 06:47:15 PM
My guess is that Republicans are trying this tactic because it will remove a plank of the argument about the 'war against women'. Since it was clearly conservative groups that worked to strike down the requirement for contraceptive coverage for some employer sponsored plans, they are associated with restricting access to contraceptives for women. By allowing it to be OTC, they 1) don't anger the religious employer groups, and 2) provide more convenient access to it for women. So it makes the argument about contraceptives (which are used by almost 100% of women at some point in their life) have less political blowback against the party. With all the Republican candidates talking about rape and whether it was a legitimate rape and passing many laws around the country to restrict or effectively eliminate abortion access in a state and trying to block equal pay for women laws, etc, they've taken quite a beating on women's issues. This is a step to change the narrative.
Except that most poor women can't afford many types of birth control, some can't even afford birth control pills which would keep them from access it.  There have been studies that show an IUD being one of the most effective means of birth control (less chance of user error), but is it the number one method, no.  Because it is too costly.  In addition, not every birth control works for each woman, and for pain relief, it can become ineffective. The only one that works for me now, after many years on is $50 every month.  Most poor Americans don't have an extra $600 laying around.
Because once they are over the counter, they can attack planned parenthood for subsiding them (even though planned parenthood gives out condoms). 
You assume this is to change how they are seen on women's issues, I think it is same shit, different way. 
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: MDM on July 01, 2015, 07:43:46 PM
My guess is that Republicans are trying this tactic because it will remove a plank of the argument about the 'war against women'.
I tend to agree. 

There is a fraction of politicians who do things primarily because they think those things are good for the country.  The different parties tend to have different opinions on what constitutes said goodness, but at least I can respect people who reason that way.

There is a fraction of politicians who do things primarily because they think those things will get them (re)elected.  I have little to no respect for those.

One can debate the size of the above fractions, but it seems clear that each major party has both.

It would be nice if Democrats would work with the Republicans on the OTC birth control issue rather than reflexively deriding it.  Similarly, it would be nice if Republicans would work with Democrats on, to take the most recent example, Obama's overtime proposal, rather than reflexively deriding it.  Oh, well, one can dream....
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: KodeBlue on July 01, 2015, 08:20:33 PM
Why do discussions of same sex marriage always become debates about Christianity? I'm not a Christian, I'm in a same sex marriage and I fail to see why some one else's religious beliefs should have any bearing on my life.
If you don't believe in same sex marriage don't marry some one of the same sex.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: arebelspy on July 01, 2015, 09:05:30 PM
Why do discussions of same sex marriage always become debates about Christianity?

Because they tend to be the people against it.  There's not many non-religious arguments against it.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Turkey Leg on July 01, 2015, 09:05:50 PM
Maybe someone has mentioned this during this thread, but I missed it because, after reading this thread for a while, I decided I didn't want to read it any longer.

I am a Christian, and I think the Christians who protest gay marriage are wrong. There is nothing in the Bible against gay marriage...nothing at all. There are several verses addressing the act of homosexual sex, but no verses in which God or Jesus condemns the joining in marriage of two women or two men.

I think those Christians opposed to gay marriage should instead use their energy to protest against the homosexual act. If they wait until the marriage ceremony to protest, they have likely missed several occurrences of what they consider sin.

But wait! Don't sinners marry all the time? Gossipers, liars, gluttonous people...they all marry, and there is no hue and cry from the Christian community about those people getting married, even though those sins are mentioned in the Bible. (Some ministers do, however, refuse to marry those they know to be actively, unrepentantly, committing some sort of sin.) Protesting the act of homosexual sex, to me, seems more in line with the verses often quoted from the Bible than protesting gay marriage.

It also seems to me this issue is similar to common "pro-choice" abortion arguments—there is a lack of understanding about the actual issue. The issue, I think, is that pro-life Christians get this main argument from pro-choice people: "It's the woman's right to choose!"

But those who argue this are missing the point entirely. They need to focus on convincing the pro-life Christians that life does NOT begin at conception, and, thus, abortion is not murder. Sure, anyone walking down the street can "choose" to murder someone, but everyone says that's wrong. If ending the life of a fetus/embryo/baby while inside the womb is not murder, then Christians, I assume, would be quite all right with a woman's right to choose. (And I'm not even going to get into being against abortion but being for capital punishment.)

Note I have not stated my personal opinions on gay marriage, homosexual sex, or abortion. I am stating what I have observed about the arguments and disagreements that I see occur in this forum, on TV, and during conversations.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gin1984 on July 01, 2015, 09:40:29 PM
Why do discussions of same sex marriage always become debates about Christianity?

Because they tend to be the people against it.  There's not many non-religious arguments against it.
Wait there is ANY?  Arebelspy, you have been holding out on us.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gin1984 on July 01, 2015, 09:44:19 PM
Maybe someone has mentioned this during this thread, but I missed it because, after reading this thread for a while, I decided I didn't want to read it any longer.

I am a Christian, and I think the Christians who protest gay marriage are wrong. There is nothing in the Bible against gay marriage...nothing at all. There are several verses addressing the act of homosexual sex, but no verses in which God or Jesus condemns the joining in marriage of two women or two men.

I think those Christians opposed to gay marriage should instead use their energy to protest against the homosexual act. If they wait until the marriage ceremony to protest, they have likely missed several occurrences of what they consider sin.

But wait! Don't sinners marry all the time? Gossipers, liars, gluttonous people...they all marry, and there is no hue and cry from the Christian community about those people getting married, even though those sins are mentioned in the Bible. (Some ministers do, however, refuse to marry those they know to be actively, unrepentantly, committing some sort of sin.) Protesting the act of homosexual sex, to me, seems more in line with the verses often quoted from the Bible than protesting gay marriage.

It also seems to me this issue is similar to common "pro-choice" abortion arguments—there is a lack of understanding about the actual issue. The issue, I think, is that pro-life Christians get this main argument from pro-choice people: "It's the woman's right to choose!"

But those who argue this are missing the point entirely. They need to focus on convincing the pro-life Christians that life does NOT begin at conception, and, thus, abortion is not murder. Sure, anyone walking down the street can "choose" to murder someone, but everyone says that's wrong. If ending the life of a fetus/embryo/baby while inside the womb is not murder, then Christians, I assume, would be quite all right with a woman's right to choose. (And I'm not even going to get into being against abortion but being for capital punishment.)

Note I have not stated my personal opinions on gay marriage, homosexual sex, or abortion. I am stating what I have observed about the arguments and disagreements that I see occur in this forum, on TV, and during conversations.
We have tried and come up with same issues gay marriage activist get. "Well I don't believe it".  You can show that it was allowed by the Church up to a certain point.  You can show that prior to a certain point it has not CNS.  You can explain that we all have the right of autonomy and that if the government would not force you to give blood/marrow/organs (even as a corpse) to keep a living human alive, they should not require it from a woman with a fetus.  None of that seems to matter.  It boils down to, "My religion says what you are doing is icky so I am going to try to force my morals on you".  It has nothing to do with a lack of understand.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: arebelspy on July 01, 2015, 09:47:55 PM
Why do discussions of same sex marriage always become debates about Christianity?

Because they tend to be the people against it.  There's not many non-religious arguments against it.
Wait there is ANY?  Arebelspy, you have been holding out on us.

None that I think are credible.  I mentioned the one I hear most often earlier in the thread (and some problems with it).  But I gave the benefit of the doubt that some non-religious ones exist, even if I disagree with them.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: johnny847 on July 01, 2015, 09:48:41 PM
Why do discussions of same sex marriage always become debates about Christianity?

Because they tend to be the people against it.  There's not many non-religious arguments against it.
Wait there is ANY?  Arebelspy, you have been holding out on us.

I have seen an argument based on state rights. It was not a well thought out argument, but it wasn't based on religion.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: sol on July 01, 2015, 10:51:05 PM
I have seen an argument based on state rights. It was not a well thought out argument, but it wasn't based on religion.

States' rights is just a euphemism for thinly veiled bigotry.

The South tried to use states' rights as their justification for the civil war, in an attempt to say it wasn't really about slavery.  But the only right they wanted was the right to keep slaves.

It's the same thing with gay marriage.  The only right they want the state to have today is the right to ban gay marriage, which they want for religious reasons.  It's just an attempt to rephrase their desire to discriminate in patriotic language. 

Arguments are not improved or strengthened by using code words for what you really mean.  If what you really want is for everyone to follow your interpretation of an ancient spiritual text, just come out and say it.  Don't lie to us about your desire to uphold the Constitution.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Tyson on July 01, 2015, 11:06:36 PM
I have seen an argument based on state rights. It was not a well thought out argument, but it wasn't based on religion.

States' rights is just a euphemism for thinly veiled bigotry.

The South tried to use states' rights as their justification for the civil war, in an attempt to say it wasn't really about slavery.  But the only right they wanted was the right to keep slaves.

It's the same thing with gay marriage.  The only right they want the state to have today is the right to ban gay marriage, which they want for religious reasons.  It's just an attempt to rephrase their desire to discriminate in patriotic language. 

Arguments are not improved or strengthened by using code words for what you really mean.  If what you really want is for everyone to follow your interpretation of an ancient spiritual text, just come out and say it.  Don't lie to us about your desire to uphold the Constitution.

But I thought the constitution was written by God.  Didn't he speak through the founders like he did through the prophets?  We are a Christian Nation, aren't we?
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Sparafusile on July 02, 2015, 08:12:50 AM
the Christians who protest gay marriage are wrong.

Thank you for that voice of reason, we all appreciate it.

Christians opposed to gay marriage should instead use their energy to protest against the homosexual act.

Wait... what? You can be gay and you can get married, but the the moment you make love it's wrong? Christians have no right whatsoever to "protest" what other non-believers do in the privacy of their own home at all. Your line of reasoning seems like you're trying to reconcile what the supreme court has ruled, but still hold onto intolerance with both hands.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on July 02, 2015, 08:47:52 AM
But wait! Don't sinners marry all the time? Gossipers, liars, gluttonous people...they all marry, and there is no hue and cry from the Christian community about those people getting married, even though those sins are mentioned in the Bible. (Some ministers do, however, refuse to marry those they know to be actively, unrepentantly, committing some sort of sin.) Protesting the act of homosexual sex, to me, seems more in line with the verses often quoted from the Bible than protesting gay marriage.

I guess I'd be OK with respectful protests of "the act". But only if they first protest all the other things they have chosen to ignore (because they like to do them). Like heterosexual sodomy (oral sex is included), premarital sex, divorce, drunkenness, coveting, lying, not honoring parents, etc. Singling out one minority group and ignoring everything else the majority does smacks of hypocrisy and smells of bigotry.

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How can you say to your brother, 'Brother, let me take the speck out of your eye,' when you yourself fail to see the plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye.
--Luke 6:42
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on July 02, 2015, 08:53:00 AM
Also

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So when they continued asking him, he lifted up himself, and said unto them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.
--Jesus in John 8:7
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: davisgang90 on July 02, 2015, 09:09:22 AM
Also

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So when they continued asking him, he lifted up himself, and said unto them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.
--Jesus in John 8:7

One of my favorite verses.  Here's the rest:

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At this, those who heard began to go away one at a time, the older ones first, until only Jesus was left, with the woman still standing there.  Jesus straightened up and asked her, "Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?" "No one, sir," she said. "Then neither do I condemn you,"Jesus declared. "Go now and leave your life of sin."
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on July 02, 2015, 09:30:43 AM
I would also have bolded:
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"Then neither do I condemn you,"Jesus declared.

Which suggests that maybe the protesting itself (discussed above) would be wrong.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: tele25 on July 02, 2015, 09:34:55 AM
I have seen an argument based on state rights. It was not a well thought out argument, but it wasn't based on religion.

States' rights is just a euphemism for thinly veiled bigotry.

The South tried to use states' rights as their justification for the civil war, in an attempt to say it wasn't really about slavery. But the only right they wanted was the right to keep slaves.



This is not true, is it. After all most people in the South didn't have slaves, did they?

And didn't the South pay more than their fair share in taxation? Hence, it really is about States rights not to be overtaxed.

Look, I'm not american but most of you lot are, don't you lot actually know this?
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It's the same thing with gay marriage.  The only right they want the state to have today is the right to ban gay marriage, which they want for religious reasons.  It's just an attempt to rephrase their desire to discriminate in patriotic language. 


Perhaps not.

Consider this, what happened before the govt/religion stuck its nose in.

People formed monoganous pair bonds because it is better for bringing up children.

Homosexuals didn't have children so no point the wider society celebtationg their union. Also consider that homosexuals are much more promiscuous than other pair bondings.

Also consider that if the govt can legislate for homosexual marriage what else can they do. Legalise marriage to your pet goat, a housebrick?
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: GuitarStv on July 02, 2015, 09:47:02 AM
Took a while for someone to compare a gay person to a goat or a 'housebrick' (sic), but we finally got there.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gin1984 on July 02, 2015, 09:49:34 AM
I have seen an argument based on state rights. It was not a well thought out argument, but it wasn't based on religion.

States' rights is just a euphemism for thinly veiled bigotry.

The South tried to use states' rights as their justification for the civil war, in an attempt to say it wasn't really about slavery. But the only right they wanted was the right to keep slaves.



This is not true, is it. After all most people in the South didn't have slaves, did they?

And didn't the South pay more than their fair share in taxation? Hence, it really is about States rights not to be overtaxed.

Look, I'm not american but most of you lot are, don't you lot actually know this?
Quote

It's the same thing with gay marriage.  The only right they want the state to have today is the right to ban gay marriage, which they want for religious reasons.  It's just an attempt to rephrase their desire to discriminate in patriotic language. 


Perhaps not.

Consider this, what happened before the govt/religion stuck its nose in.

People formed monoganous pair bonds because it is better for bringing up children.

Homosexuals didn't have children so no point the wider society celebtationg their union. Also consider that homosexuals are much more promiscuous than other pair bondings.


Also consider that if the govt can legislate for homosexual marriage what else can they do. Legalise marriage to your pet goat, a housebrick?
None of that is actually true.  And if you look at evolutionary psychology there is a benefit to villages in which there are adults without children. 
Also, you don't seem to understand the requirement for consent in marriage do you?
And btw, just because the majority did not have slave did not mean the majority was not pro-slavery.  I understand that if you are not from our country, you might not have a full breath of education in regards to our civil war but then you might not want to tell an American that their understand is incorrect.  Unless of course you have studied this academically and have citations to support your hypothesis that the civil war was not about slavery other than the absurd idea that because someone could not afford a slave means that they were not pro-slavery.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on July 02, 2015, 10:01:12 AM
People in the South "benefitted" from slavery, even if they did not own slaves, because it made goods cheaper for them. And they may have had jobs overseeing slaves. And it gave them a class of people to feel superior to. When you're a poor, backwater, uneducated white person, you still have the slaves to look down on.

Plus, it's not the common person who sets policy in our country. It's the rich and powerful. The plantation owners in those days. Back then we didn't even have direct election of senators or the right for women to vote.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Glenstache on July 02, 2015, 10:21:37 AM
One of the things that has long puzzled me in the debate over same-sex marriage (SSM) is the idea that somehow granting marriage licenses would redefine marriage. The license is secular, and doesn't really change what the ceremony an individual couple would choose to do or how they would lead their shared lives. This has long struck me as one of the many instances of code language or use of phrasing to invoke another set of concepts discussed in social circles I am not actively involved in. A friend passed this article around earlier today, and while I do not think the thesis of the piece is universally applicable across those who oppose SSM, I think it illuminates a strong thread in the fabric of the debate and is worth a read. It makes a reasonable case for what is invoked the "redefinition" language beyond just face value text of the language.

http://talkingpointsmemo.com/cafe/gay-marriage-scotus-ross-douthat-oppression-vs-love

Edit: I would really like to hear the feedback on this from those who oppose SSM. While the language of the article may be seen as confrontational, the concept of redefining roles within a marriage seems worthy of feedback.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Bob W on July 02, 2015, 10:47:39 AM
People in the South "benefitted" from slavery, even if they did not own slaves, because it made goods cheaper for them. And they may have had jobs overseeing slaves. And it gave them a class of people to feel superior to. When you're a poor, backwater, uneducated white person, you still have the slaves to look down on.

Plus, it's not the common person who sets policy in our country. It's the rich and powerful. The plantation owners in those days. Back then we didn't even have direct election of senators or the right for women to vote.

I think it is so interesting that in this discussion that gays are compared to blacks -- when the black population at large is like 80-90% opposed to gays and given the opportunity would vote them out of the country.   Makes for an interesting juxtaposition.   It is also interesting that a high percentage of blacks self identify as Baptist Christians.   

I also find the word "gay" to be a brilliant rebranding strategy.   


Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Midwest on July 02, 2015, 10:57:49 AM
People in the South "benefitted" from slavery, even if they did not own slaves, because it made goods cheaper for them. And they may have had jobs overseeing slaves. And it gave them a class of people to feel superior to. When you're a poor, backwater, uneducated white person, you still have the slaves to look down on.
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People in the south benefited from slavery because they had a huge cotton export which required slaves.  Slaves were a huge part of their wealth.  http://www.outsidethebeltway.com/the-economics-of-slavery/

The majority of the country was racist at the time.  Doesn't it make it right, but insinuating that racism in the period existing only in the south is simply untrue.   

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emancipation_Proclamation

Lincoln for example, had a plan to remove at least some slaves from the US https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abraham_Lincoln_and_slavery

The bottom line is, the US at the time of the civil war was a racist country.  The south benefited economically from the unjust system of slavery and was thus much more reluctant to free slaves.  The north had a lot less to lose by ending slavery. 
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: beltim on July 02, 2015, 11:05:02 AM
I have seen an argument based on state rights. It was not a well thought out argument, but it wasn't based on religion.

States' rights is just a euphemism for thinly veiled bigotry.

The South tried to use states' rights as their justification for the civil war, in an attempt to say it wasn't really about slavery. But the only right they wanted was the right to keep slaves.



This is not true, is it. After all most people in the South didn't have slaves, did they?

And didn't the South pay more than their fair share in taxation? Hence, it really is about States rights not to be overtaxed.

Look, I'm not american but most of you lot are, don't you lot actually know this?

No, it's pretty much true (they wanted some other slave-related rights too, like the ability to take their slaves with them when they traveled to states that outlawed slavery).  You should learn more history before lecturing people who have their facts correct.  Here's a good start: http://www.washingtonpost.com/posteverything/wp/2015/07/01/why-do-people-believe-myths-about-the-confederacy-because-our-textbooks-and-monuments-are-wrong/?hpid=z3
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: TrulyStashin on July 02, 2015, 11:13:51 AM
I have seen an argument based on state rights. It was not a well thought out argument, but it wasn't based on religion.

States' rights is just a euphemism for thinly veiled bigotry.

The South tried to use states' rights as their justification for the civil war, in an attempt to say it wasn't really about slavery.  But the only right they wanted was the right to keep slaves.

It's the same thing with gay marriage.  The only right they want the state to have today is the right to ban gay marriage, which they want for religious reasons.  It's just an attempt to rephrase their desire to discriminate in patriotic language. 

Arguments are not improved or strengthened by using code words for what you really mean.  If what you really want is for everyone to follow your interpretation of an ancient spiritual text, just come out and say it.  Don't lie to us about your desire to uphold the Constitution.

But I thought the constitution was written by God.  Didn't he speak through the founders like he did through the prophets?  We are a Christian Nation, aren't we?

Maybe this is sarcasm...?   

No, legally speaking vis-a-vis the Constitution, we are NOT a Christian nation.  James Madison's Notes on the Constitutional Convention (available here:  http://avalon.law.yale.edu/subject_menus/debcont.asp (http://avalon.law.yale.edu/subject_menus/debcont.asp)) contain almost no reference to God, religion or Christianity.  The only time the Founders discussed the topic was when they agreed to include Article VI which bans religious tests for those who might hold office.

Culturally, we may be a Christian nation, but legally we are secular.  That's a key distinction.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gin1984 on July 02, 2015, 11:20:33 AM
I have seen an argument based on state rights. It was not a well thought out argument, but it wasn't based on religion.

States' rights is just a euphemism for thinly veiled bigotry.

The South tried to use states' rights as their justification for the civil war, in an attempt to say it wasn't really about slavery.  But the only right they wanted was the right to keep slaves.

It's the same thing with gay marriage.  The only right they want the state to have today is the right to ban gay marriage, which they want for religious reasons.  It's just an attempt to rephrase their desire to discriminate in patriotic language. 

Arguments are not improved or strengthened by using code words for what you really mean.  If what you really want is for everyone to follow your interpretation of an ancient spiritual text, just come out and say it.  Don't lie to us about your desire to uphold the Constitution.

But I thought the constitution was written by God.  Didn't he speak through the founders like he did through the prophets?  We are a Christian Nation, aren't we?

Maybe this is sarcasm...?   

No, legally speaking vis-a-vis the Constitution, we are NOT a Christian nation.  James Madison's Notes on the Constitutional Convention (available here:  http://avalon.law.yale.edu/subject_menus/debcont.asp (http://avalon.law.yale.edu/subject_menus/debcont.asp)) contain almost no reference to God, religion or Christianity.  The only time the Founders discussed the topic was when they agreed to include Article VI which bans religious tests for those who might hold office.

Culturally, we may be a Christian nation, but legally we are secular.  That's a key distinction.
What was that treaty where a founding father specifically said that as the US was not a Christian nation they could be allied with a Muslim nation.  Ach, this is going to drive me nuts until I remember or someone takes pity on me.  :)
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on July 02, 2015, 11:21:08 AM
One of the things that has long puzzled me in the debate over same-sex marriage (SSM) is the idea that somehow granting marriage licenses would redefine marriage. The license is secular, and doesn't really change what the ceremony an individual couple would choose to do or how they would lead their shared lives. This has long struck me as one of the many instances of code language or use of phrasing to invoke another set of concepts discussed in social circles I am not actively involved in. A friend passed this article around earlier today, and while I do not think the thesis of the piece is universally applicable across those who oppose SSM, I think it illuminates a strong thread in the fabric of the debate and is worth a read. It makes a reasonable case for what is invoked the "redefinition" language beyond just face value text of the language.

http://talkingpointsmemo.com/cafe/gay-marriage-scotus-ross-douthat-oppression-vs-love

Edit: I would really like to hear the feedback on this from those who oppose SSM. While the language of the article may be seen as confrontational, the concept of redefining roles within a marriage seems worthy of feedback.

I don't oppose SSM. But I think the article is interesting. I think that marriage isn't for everyone. And that it should be a relationship of equals. And I'm glad it's moving in that direction. But as long as the government grants special status, rights, privileges, and obligations to a group of people (for whatever public policy purpose), there should not be descrimination with respect to who can be in that group of people. If marriage becomes passe and almost no one has one, but there's no discrimination that prohibits people from getting married to any consenting adult they want to, great.

People in the South "benefitted" from slavery, even if they did not own slaves, because it made goods cheaper for them. And they may have had jobs overseeing slaves. And it gave them a class of people to feel superior to. When you're a poor, backwater, uneducated white person, you still have the slaves to look down on.

Plus, it's not the common person who sets policy in our country. It's the rich and powerful. The plantation owners in those days. Back then we didn't even have direct election of senators or the right for women to vote.

I think it is so interesting that in this discussion that gays are compared to blacks -- when the black population at large is like 80-90% opposed to gays and given the opportunity would vote them out of the country.   Makes for an interesting juxtaposition.   It is also interesting that a high percentage of blacks self identify as Baptist Christians.   

I also find the word "gay" to be a brilliant rebranding strategy.   

The numbers you cite are either really old or not accurate. The numbers used to be high but have declined dramatically (like the nation as a whole). You've identified why the African American community was so overwhelmingly opposed to SSM--high rates of strong fundamentalist-leaning Christian beliefs, and strong vocal condemnation of homosexuality from black church leaders. Once Obama "evolved" on the issue and announced his support, those numbers plummeted almost overnight. I recall something like a 20% drop after his announcement. I think it was around 50% the last I saw.


But I thought the constitution was written by God.  Didn't he speak through the founders like he did through the prophets?  We are a Christian Nation, aren't we?

Maybe this is sarcasm...?   

Yes, it was.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: I'm a red panda on July 02, 2015, 11:39:25 AM

Wait... what? You can be gay and you can get married, but the the moment you make love it's wrong? Christians have no right whatsoever to "protest" what other non-believers do in the privacy of their own home at all. Your line of reasoning seems like you're trying to reconcile what the supreme court has ruled, but still hold onto intolerance with both hands.

I think the idea behind what you quoted (which I hope was somewhat facetious) was not that gay married people shouldn't have sex; but that if Christians truly believe they are protecting the sinner by not allowing them to sin; they really need to focus earlier.  It isn't marriage that is introducing the act of homosexual sex (what the Bible actually says is a sin, since homosexual marriage is not mentioned).  So it shouldn't be marriage they are against, specifically.   Because with or without marriage, sex is occurring. 


Or maybe Christians think this is already covered by the force towards abstinence only education.  If you can't get married, you can't have sex?
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: tele25 on July 02, 2015, 11:51:04 AM
I have seen an argument based on state rights. It was not a well thought out argument, but it wasn't based on religion.

States' rights is just a euphemism for thinly veiled bigotry.

The South tried to use states' rights as their justification for the civil war, in an attempt to say it wasn't really about slavery. But the only right they wanted was the right to keep slaves.



This is not true, is it. After all most people in the South didn't have slaves, did they?

And didn't the South pay more than their fair share in taxation? Hence, it really is about States rights not to be overtaxed.

Look, I'm not american but most of you lot are, don't you lot actually know this?
Quote

It's the same thing with gay marriage.  The only right they want the state to have today is the right to ban gay marriage, which they want for religious reasons.  It's just an attempt to rephrase their desire to discriminate in patriotic language. 


Perhaps not.

Consider this, what happened before the govt/religion stuck its nose in.

People formed monoganous pair bonds because it is better for bringing up children.

Homosexuals didn't have children so no point the wider society celebtationg their union. Also consider that homosexuals are much more promiscuous than other pair bondings.


Also consider that if the govt can legislate for homosexual marriage what else can they do. Legalise marriage to your pet goat, a housebrick?
None of that is actually true.  And if you look at evolutionary psychology there is a benefit to villages in which there are adults without children. 
Also, you don't seem to understand the requirement for consent in marriage do you?
And btw, just because the majority did not have slave did not mean the majority was not pro-slavery.  I understand that if you are not from our country, you might not have a full breath of education in regards to our civil war but then you might not want to tell an American that their understand is incorrect.  Unless of course you have studied this academically and have citations to support your hypothesis that the civil war was not about slavery other than the absurd idea that because someone could not afford a slave means that they were not pro-slavery.

Is it true that most people in the south did not have slaves? Yes.

What perceentage didn't have slaves? 75% to 80% Does anybody know this.

Were tarriffs enacted after the 1860 election that affected southerners more than notherners. Yes.

Did some union states still have slavery. Yes.

Were the majority of non slave owners subsistance farmers. Yes.

Its a hard life being a subsistance farmer and whilst they would have looked down upon the blacks due to human ingroup preference, the subsistance farmers would also not give a flying fuck about the gentry who owned all the slaves.

Given that only about 12% of the Confederate Army were conscripted the rest were willing volunteers. If you are a subsistence farmer who is never going to be able to afford slaves why bother to join up and fight over something that is never going to affect you.

Southerners without slaves would only benefit from slavery by being able to buy cheaper cotton goods. Northerners would also benefit from cheaper cotton goods because of interstate trade. the slave owners benefitted from slavery but most people in the south did not own slaves.

I'm not saying that slavery was not a major factor.

However, the evidence does clearly indicate it is more complex than just about slavery.

If this is wrong explain why.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: TrulyStashin on July 02, 2015, 11:51:44 AM
I have seen an argument based on state rights. It was not a well thought out argument, but it wasn't based on religion.

States' rights is just a euphemism for thinly veiled bigotry.

The South tried to use states' rights as their justification for the civil war, in an attempt to say it wasn't really about slavery.  But the only right they wanted was the right to keep slaves.

It's the same thing with gay marriage.  The only right they want the state to have today is the right to ban gay marriage, which they want for religious reasons.  It's just an attempt to rephrase their desire to discriminate in patriotic language. 

Arguments are not improved or strengthened by using code words for what you really mean.  If what you really want is for everyone to follow your interpretation of an ancient spiritual text, just come out and say it.  Don't lie to us about your desire to uphold the Constitution.

But I thought the constitution was written by God.  Didn't he speak through the founders like he did through the prophets?  We are a Christian Nation, aren't we?

Maybe this is sarcasm...?   

No, legally speaking vis-a-vis the Constitution, we are NOT a Christian nation.  James Madison's Notes on the Constitutional Convention (available here:  http://avalon.law.yale.edu/subject_menus/debcont.asp (http://avalon.law.yale.edu/subject_menus/debcont.asp)) contain almost no reference to God, religion or Christianity.  The only time the Founders discussed the topic was when they agreed to include Article VI which bans religious tests for those who might hold office.

Culturally, we may be a Christian nation, but legally we are secular.  That's a key distinction.
What was that treaty where a founding father specifically said that as the US was not a Christian nation they could be allied with a Muslim nation.  Ach, this is going to drive me nuts until I remember or someone takes pity on me.  :)

The Barbary Treaties 1786-1816, Treaty of Peace and Friendship, Signed at Tripoli November 4, 1796.   

"ARTICLE 11.

As the government of the United States of America is not in any sense founded on the Christian Religion,-as it has in itself no character of enmity against the laws, religion or tranquility of Musselmen,-and as the said States never have entered into any war or act of hostility against any Mehomitan nation, it is declared by the parties that no pretext arising from religious opinions shall ever produce an interruption of the harmony existing between the two countries."


Available at http://avalon.law.yale.edu/18th_century/bar1796t.asp (http://avalon.law.yale.edu/18th_century/bar1796t.asp)
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Tyson on July 02, 2015, 11:52:47 AM
But I thought the constitution was written by God.  Didn't he speak through the founders like he did through the prophets?  We are a Christian Nation, aren't we?

Maybe this is sarcasm...?   

Yes, it was.

Yes, very much so.  Apologies for not indicating that.  I forgot about Poe's Law - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Poe's_law - Poe's law is an internet adage which states that, without a clear indicator of the author's intent, parodies of extremism are indistinguishable from sincere expressions of extremism.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: tele25 on July 02, 2015, 12:00:33 PM
I have seen an argument based on state rights. It was not a well thought out argument, but it wasn't based on religion.

States' rights is just a euphemism for thinly veiled bigotry.

The South tried to use states' rights as their justification for the civil war, in an attempt to say it wasn't really about slavery. But the only right they wanted was the right to keep slaves.



This is not true, is it. After all most people in the South didn't have slaves, did they?

And didn't the South pay more than their fair share in taxation? Hence, it really is about States rights not to be overtaxed.

Look, I'm not american but most of you lot are, don't you lot actually know this?

No, it's pretty much true (they wanted some other slave-related rights too, like the ability to take their slaves with them when they traveled to states that outlawed slavery).  You should learn more history before lecturing people who have their facts correct.  Here's a good start: http://www.washingtonpost.com/posteverything/wp/2015/07/01/why-do-people-believe-myths-about-the-confederacy-because-our-textbooks-and-monuments-are-wrong/?hpid=z3

Thanks for the link.

However, I am somewhat perturbed that it is written by a professor of sociology instead of a professor of history who would actually be informed about their specialist subject and can be expected to know more than a layman.  After all, this is a rather important part of american history.

Most southerners didn't own slaves and would never be in the position to own slaves, why would they give a fuck about moving to states which outlawed slavery?
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: johnny847 on July 02, 2015, 12:03:14 PM
But I thought the constitution was written by God.  Didn't he speak through the founders like he did through the prophets?  We are a Christian Nation, aren't we?

Maybe this is sarcasm...?   

Yes, it was.

Yes, very much so.  Apologies for not indicating that.  I forgot about Poe's Law - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Poe's_law - Poe's law is an internet adage which states that, without a clear indicator of the author's intent, parodies of extremism are indistinguishable from sincere expressions of extremism.
It's incredible how many times on this thread your sarcasm has been interpreted otherwise (or at the very least, been possibly confused)
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: beltim on July 02, 2015, 12:07:20 PM
However, I am somewhat perturbed that it is written by a professor of sociology instead of a professor of history who would actually be informed about their specialist subject and can be expected to know more than a layman.  After all, this is a rather important part of american history.

Most southerners didn't own slaves and would never be in the position to own slaves, why would they give a fuck about moving to states which outlawed slavery?

Sigh.. you're not going to be happy until you get primary sources, are you.  Well, here you go: the letters of secession of Georgia, Mississippi, South Carolina, Texas, and Virginia.  Read the words of the people who actually tried to secede and see that the major reason is slavery.
http://www.civilwar.org/education/history/primarysources/declarationofcauses.html
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Glenstache on July 02, 2015, 12:14:55 PM
Most southerners didn't own slaves and would never be in the position to own slaves, why would they give a fuck about moving to states which outlawed slavery?

Look at all the economically disadvantaged persons in the south who vote Republican despite the fact that it is manifestly not in their own financial best interest. The same people who are getting welfare and public assistance voting into office those that would take the safety net out from under them and also complaining about freeloaders at the same time (I'm not making a value judgement about them here). Those types of mental gymnastics are entirely consistent with what you say above. Americans have an ability to align themselves with the place they would like to be, or aspire to be, rather than with the position they are actually in. Those subsistence farmers may not have owned slaves, but they may have wanted the option to.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: TrulyStashin on July 02, 2015, 12:18:39 PM
I'm a big fan of understanding history by reading what people at the time wrote about why they did what they did.

The Civil War was fought because the Confederate states wanted to protect their "right" to hold slaves.  Don't believe me?  Read it in their own words from the official articles of secession passed by each Confederate state as a public declaration of why they seceded:

Georgia:  The people of Georgia having dissolved their political connection with the Government of the United States of America, present to their confederates and the world the causes which have led to the separation. For the last ten years we have had numerous and serious causes of complaint against our non-slave-holding confederate States with reference to the subject of African slavery. They have endeavored to weaken our security, to disturb our domestic peace and tranquility, and persistently refused to comply with their express constitutional obligations to us in reference to that property . . . .

Mississippi: In the momentous step which our State has taken of dissolving its connection with the government of which we so long formed a part, it is but just that we should declare the prominent reasons which have induced our course.  Our position is thoroughly identified with the institution of slavery-- the greatest material interest of the world. Its labor supplies the product which constitutes by far the largest and most important portions of commerce of the earth. These products are peculiar to the climate verging on the tropical regions, and by an imperious law of nature, none but the black race can bear exposure to the tropical sun. These products have become necessities of the world, and a blow at slavery is a blow at commerce and civilization. That blow has been long aimed at the institution, and was at the point of reaching its consummation. There was no choice left us but submission to the mandates of abolition, or a dissolution of the Union, whose principles had been subverted to work out our ruin.

South Carolina:
We hold that the Government thus established is subject to the two great principles asserted in the Declaration of Independence; and we hold further, that the mode of its formation subjects it to a third fundamental principle, namely: the law of compact. We maintain that in every compact between two or more parties, the obligation is mutual; that the failure of one of the contracting parties to perform a material part of the agreement, entirely releases the obligation of the other; and that where no arbiter is provided, each party is remitted to his own judgment to determine the fact of failure, with all its consequences.

In the present case, that fact is established with certainty. We assert that fourteen of the States have deliberately refused, for years past, to fulfill their constitutional obligations, and we refer to their own Statutes for the proof.

The Constitution of the United States, in its fourth Article, provides as follows: "No person held to service or labor in one State, under the laws thereof, escaping into another, shall, in consequence of any law or regulation therein, be discharged from such service or labor, but shall be delivered up, on claim of the party to whom such service or labor may be due."

This stipulation was so material to the compact, that without it that compact would not have been made. The greater number of the contracting parties held slaves, and they had previously evinced their estimate of the value of such a stipulation by making it a condition in the Ordinance for the government of the territory ceded by Virginia, which now composes the States north of the Ohio River.


Texas: We hold as undeniable truths that the governments of the various States, and of the confederacy itself, were established exclusively by the white race, for themselves and their posterity; that the African race had no agency in their establishment; that they were rightfully held and regarded as an inferior and dependent race, and in that condition only could their existence in this country be rendered beneficial or tolerable.

That in this free government all white men are and of right ought to be entitled to equal civil and political rights; that the servitude of the African race, as existing in these States, is mutually beneficial to both bond and free, and is abundantly authorized and justified by the experience of mankind, and the revealed will of the Almighty Creator, as recognized by all Christian nations; while the destruction of the existing relations between the two races, as advocated by our sectional enemies, would bring inevitable calamities upon both and desolation upon the fifteen slave-holding states.


Available at http://avalon.law.yale.edu/subject_menus/csapage.asp (http://avalon.law.yale.edu/subject_menus/csapage.asp).  We need to end the myth that the Confederate cause was noble and that it was about anything other than white supremacy and the preservation of slavery -- that myth is destructive to the needs of our pluralistic nation.  Time to let it go.

I am a Southerner born in Georgia and reared in Virginia.  My great-great-grandfather, Franklin Lafayette Riley (a poor, dirt farmer) fought for the 16th Mississippi from Bull Run in 1861 to his capture at Five Forks in 1865.  He did what he thought was right at that time.  In each generation, we have to answer that question anew.  I'm glad the Confederacy failed and I shudder to think of what our modern world would be like had it succeeded.  /rant
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Midwest on July 02, 2015, 12:19:47 PM
Most southerners didn't own slaves and would never be in the position to own slaves, why would they give a fuck about moving to states which outlawed slavery?

Look at all the economically disadvantaged persons in the south who vote Republican despite the fact that it is manifestly not in their own financial best interest. The same people who are getting welfare and public assistance voting into office those that would take the safety net out from under them and also complaining about freeloaders at the same time (I'm not making a value judgement about them here). Those types of mental gymnastics are entirely consistent with what you say above. Americans have an ability to align themselves with the place they would like to be, or aspire to be, rather than with the position they are actually in. Those subsistence farmers may not have owned slaves, but they may have wanted the option to.

NOT JUSTIFYING THE MORALITY OF SLAVERY -
If you are in an openly racist society of which slavery is helpful to being upwardly mobile, wouldn't it be logical to want to continue and expand slavery.  Limiting slavery to then current south and/or eliminating slavery wasn't helpful to their upward aspirations.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: TrulyStashin on July 02, 2015, 12:23:10 PM
^^^   +1

In the antebellum South, non-slaveholding whites aspired to own slaves the same way we aspire to FIRE.   Abolitionists were threatening to move their cheese.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Kris on July 02, 2015, 12:33:16 PM


However, I am somewhat perturbed that it is written by a professor of sociology instead of a professor of history who would actually be informed about their specialist subject and can be expected to know more than a layman.  After all, this is a rather important part of american history.

Most southerners didn't own slaves and would never be in the position to own slaves, why would they give a fuck about moving to states which outlawed slavery?

I don't have any primary sources for you on this (and I think it would be pretty hard to find primary sources to "prove" an attitude), but is it really so hard to figure out why?

Imagine that you are a poor white southerner. Maybe you're a sharecropper.  You have very little -- almost nothing, in fact.  You certainly could never own a slave, and you certainly aren't benefiting, directly or indirectly, from slavery. Your existence is really hard.  But you know what?  You are at least white.  You're better than a common slave.  And some people think that (I'm not going to use the derogatory word here, but you know what it is) "they" shouldn't be slaves any more.  That "they" deserve the same rights as you, a good, God-fearing white person.  That's against the natural order of things! It's in the Bible, after all!  By God, if we let them free, pretty soon they'd be (and here, we could insert Dylann Roof's diatribe), taking our jobs, raping our women... That will never happen as long as I'm alive! 

...

Is it really that hard to understand why someone who is not at all benefiting from a system, and arguably being hurt by it, could be convinced that it's exactly otherwise?  And with that, we're right back where we started with the "Christian" opposition to gay marriage in this country.  It affects them not one iota.  But it offends their sensibilities, "cheapens" "traditional" marriage, and it's "against God's word."  Very similar arguments for very different situations. 

Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on July 02, 2015, 12:46:30 PM
What was that treaty where a founding father specifically said that as the US was not a Christian nation they could be allied with a Muslim nation.  Ach, this is going to drive me nuts until I remember or someone takes pity on me.  :)

The Barbary Treaties 1786-1816, Treaty of Peace and Friendship, Signed at Tripoli November 4, 1796.   

"ARTICLE 11.

As the government of the United States of America is not in any sense founded on the Christian Religion,-as it has in itself no character of enmity against the laws, religion or tranquility of Musselmen,-and as the said States never have entered into any war or act of hostility against any Mehomitan nation, it is declared by the parties that no pretext arising from religious opinions shall ever produce an interruption of the harmony existing between the two countries."


Available at http://avalon.law.yale.edu/18th_century/bar1796t.asp (http://avalon.law.yale.edu/18th_century/bar1796t.asp)

I'd heard about this. Since this was approved of by 2/3 of the Senate and ratified, it's United States law.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: enigmaT120 on July 02, 2015, 01:01:39 PM
I think the idea behind what you quoted (which I hope was somewhat facetious) was not that gay married people shouldn't have sex; but that if Christians truly believe they are protecting the sinner by not allowing them to sin; they really need to focus earlier. 

I don't fully understand why so many of my fellow Christians are so concerned with the behavior of unbelievers.  If somebody isn't saved in the Christian sense, then what difference do his actions make?  Is it just to try to keep the general culture more in line with Christian ideals?  I don't think that is sufficient reason to try to control other people.  I believe that instead of trying to use laws to force non-believers to conform to Christian ideals of behavior, we should be trying to introduce them to Jesus and let Him change them. 

Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gin1984 on July 02, 2015, 01:12:39 PM
I think the idea behind what you quoted (which I hope was somewhat facetious) was not that gay married people shouldn't have sex; but that if Christians truly believe they are protecting the sinner by not allowing them to sin; they really need to focus earlier. 

I don't fully understand why so many of my fellow Christians are so concerned with the behavior of unbelievers.  If somebody isn't saved in the Christian sense, then what difference do his actions make?  Is it just to try to keep the general culture more in line with Christian ideals?  I don't think that is sufficient reason to try to control other people.  I believe that instead of trying to use laws to force non-believers to conform to Christian ideals of behavior, we should be trying to introduce them to Jesus and let Him change them.
I like you. If you think I am going to hell, can I at least have some fun until I get there?  :D
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Cookie78 on July 02, 2015, 01:15:32 PM
I think the idea behind what you quoted (which I hope was somewhat facetious) was not that gay married people shouldn't have sex; but that if Christians truly believe they are protecting the sinner by not allowing them to sin; they really need to focus earlier. 

I don't fully understand why so many of my fellow Christians are so concerned with the behavior of unbelievers.  If somebody isn't saved in the Christian sense, then what difference do his actions make?  Is it just to try to keep the general culture more in line with Christian ideals?  I don't think that is sufficient reason to try to control other people.  I believe that instead of trying to use laws to force non-believers to conform to Christian ideals of behavior, we should be trying to introduce them to Jesus and let Him change them.

Ironically, I bet you'd have a lot more success recruiting and maintaining membership with your method compared to the control/laws/hate method.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gin1984 on July 02, 2015, 01:22:27 PM
I have seen an argument based on state rights. It was not a well thought out argument, but it wasn't based on religion.

States' rights is just a euphemism for thinly veiled bigotry.

The South tried to use states' rights as their justification for the civil war, in an attempt to say it wasn't really about slavery. But the only right they wanted was the right to keep slaves.



This is not true, is it. After all most people in the South didn't have slaves, did they?

And didn't the South pay more than their fair share in taxation? Hence, it really is about States rights not to be overtaxed.

Look, I'm not american but most of you lot are, don't you lot actually know this?
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It's the same thing with gay marriage.  The only right they want the state to have today is the right to ban gay marriage, which they want for religious reasons.  It's just an attempt to rephrase their desire to discriminate in patriotic language. 


Perhaps not.

Consider this, what happened before the govt/religion stuck its nose in.

People formed monoganous pair bonds because it is better for bringing up children.

Homosexuals didn't have children so no point the wider society celebtationg their union. Also consider that homosexuals are much more promiscuous than other pair bondings.


Also consider that if the govt can legislate for homosexual marriage what else can they do. Legalise marriage to your pet goat, a housebrick?
None of that is actually true.  And if you look at evolutionary psychology there is a benefit to villages in which there are adults without children. 
Also, you don't seem to understand the requirement for consent in marriage do you?
And btw, just because the majority did not have slave did not mean the majority was not pro-slavery.  I understand that if you are not from our country, you might not have a full breath of education in regards to our civil war but then you might not want to tell an American that their understand is incorrect.  Unless of course you have studied this academically and have citations to support your hypothesis that the civil war was not about slavery other than the absurd idea that because someone could not afford a slave means that they were not pro-slavery.

Is it true that most people in the south did not have slaves? Yes.

What perceentage didn't have slaves? 75% to 80% Does anybody know this.

Were tarriffs enacted after the 1860 election that affected southerners more than notherners. Yes.

Did some union states still have slavery. Yes.

Were the majority of non slave owners subsistance farmers. Yes.

Its a hard life being a subsistance farmer and whilst they would have looked down upon the blacks due to human ingroup preference, the subsistance farmers would also not give a flying fuck about the gentry who owned all the slaves.

Given that only about 12% of the Confederate Army were conscripted the rest were willing volunteers. If you are a subsistence farmer who is never going to be able to afford slaves why bother to join up and fight over something that is never going to affect you.

Southerners without slaves would only benefit from slavery by being able to buy cheaper cotton goods. Northerners would also benefit from cheaper cotton goods because of interstate trade. the slave owners benefitted from slavery but most people in the south did not own slaves.

I'm not saying that slavery was not a major factor.

However, the evidence does clearly indicate it is more complex than just about slavery.

If this is wrong explain why.
Normally when someone bolds something, that is what they are referencing.  So, to be even more clear, your statement of "People formed monoganous pair bonds because it is better for bringing up children.

Homosexuals didn't have children so no point the wider society celebtationg their union. Also consider that homosexuals are much more promiscuous than other pair bondings" is complete is completely and utterly false,if you actually look at the research done by people that consider this their field. 
I'm not going to address the rest, because everyone else already has.  But if you want, you can, again, go actual look at what the experts in the field are saying instead of making wild ass guesses and tell people whose actual country it is, that they are wrong, without any anything to back you up other than, but but there has to be something else there.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Kris on July 02, 2015, 01:29:59 PM
^^^ And on the subject of "wild ass guesses" masquerading as "research by experts," I came across this gem by the Heritage Foundation today:

http://samuel-warde.com/2015/04/heritage-foundation-same-sex-marriage-will-900000/

Apparently, same-sex marriage will result in 900,000 abortions. 

Let that one sink in for a bit.

I particularly love that their "researchers" were able to come up with such a precise estimate. 

SMDH. 
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Annamal on July 02, 2015, 02:48:06 PM


Homosexuals didn't have children so no point the wider society celebtationg their union. Also consider that homosexuals are much more promiscuous than other pair bondings.

I just wanted to chime in and point out that if we're going by widely believed stereotypes (which you apparently are) then lesbians are legendary for forming long lasting stable bonds i.e. this terrible old joke:

    Question: What does a lesbian bring on a second date?

    Answer: A U-Haul.

Of course those stereotypes have been formed at a time when gay relationships could never have recognition and being gay was something to hide so it will be interesting to see how gay society changes over time (I suspect it will just become society with all the width and breadth of attitudes which can accompany that which means some gay people will be promiscuous and some will be very monogamous and the majority will be somewhere in between).
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Glenstache on July 02, 2015, 03:31:19 PM
^^^ And on the subject of "wild ass guesses" masquerading as "research by experts," I came across this gem by the Heritage Foundation today:

http://samuel-warde.com/2015/04/heritage-foundation-same-sex-marriage-will-900000/

Apparently, same-sex marriage will result in 900,000 abortions. 

Let that one sink in for a bit.

I particularly love that their "researchers" were able to come up with such a precise estimate. 

SMDH.

This makes my brain hurt. So much terrible logic and dog-whistling.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on July 02, 2015, 03:53:06 PM
^^^ And on the subject of "wild ass guesses" masquerading as "research by experts," I came across this gem by the Heritage Foundation today:

http://samuel-warde.com/2015/04/heritage-foundation-same-sex-marriage-will-900000/

Apparently, same-sex marriage will result in 900,000 abortions. 

Let that one sink in for a bit.

I particularly love that their "researchers" were able to come up with such a precise estimate. 

SMDH. 

HAHAHAHAHA!! That's so absurd! I had to click on it because I couldn't even guess how they could possibly have thought that.

My prediction is that for abortions in the US, 2014 > 2015 > 2016.

Actually I can prove* that gay marriage decreases abortion. Gay marriage was legalized in some of the provinces starting in 2003 and nationwide in Canada in 2005. Look at how the number of abortions has decreased every year since 2003:
http://www.johnstonsarchive.net/policy/abortion/ab-canada.html


Spoiler: show
*obvious sarcasm, but felt necessary to clarify
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: KodeBlue on July 02, 2015, 06:38:09 PM
^^^ And on the subject of "wild ass guesses" masquerading as "research by experts," I came across this gem by the Heritage Foundation today:

http://samuel-warde.com/2015/04/heritage-foundation-same-sex-marriage-will-900000/

Apparently, same-sex marriage will result in 900,000 abortions. 

Let that one sink in for a bit.

I particularly love that their "researchers" were able to come up with such a precise estimate. 

SMDH.

Baloney. My own research shows that same sex marriage will only result in 899,997 abortions. They added the other 3 just to inflate the figure and make gays look bad.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on July 02, 2015, 08:05:05 PM
Some conservatives are talking about banning the issuance of marriage licenses altogether. When they said that allowing gays to marry would "destroy the Institution of Marriage" (always capitalized for some reason), I had no idea that they meant that *they* would destroy it themselves out of spite.

http://www.newsweek.com/following-supreme-court-decision-mississippi-may-stop-issuing-any-marriage-347740

Looks like at least a handful of officials in at least 5 states have stopped issuing licenses.

http://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-33352734
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: TrulyStashin on July 02, 2015, 08:41:44 PM
Some conservatives are talking about banning the issuance of marriage licenses altogether. When they said that allowing gays to marry would "destroy the Institution of Marriage" (always capitalized for some reason), I had no idea that they meant that *they* would destroy it themselves out of spite.

http://www.newsweek.com/following-supreme-court-decision-mississippi-may-stop-issuing-any-marriage-347740

Looks like at least a handful of officials in at least 5 states have stopped issuing licenses.

http://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-33352734

It's a mirror image of Massive Resistance which was the segregationist's answer to integrated schools.  Make us integrate?  No way, we'll just shut down all the public schools.  Problem solved.    [sarcasm]  http://www.vahistorical.org/collections-and-resources/virginia-history-explorer/civil-rights-movement-virginia/massive (http://www.vahistorical.org/collections-and-resources/virginia-history-explorer/civil-rights-movement-virginia/massive)
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Tyson on July 02, 2015, 10:00:02 PM
From the article, it's Alabama, Kentucky, Mississippi, Texas and Louisiana refusing to obey the law (and thumbing their nose at the constitution).  The South.  Of course.  These people are an albatross around our neck.  We should just let them secede already.  The rest of us would be better off.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: johnny847 on July 02, 2015, 10:02:09 PM
From the article, it's Alabama, Kentucky, Mississippi, Texas and Louisiana refusing to obey the law (and thumbing their nose at the constitution).  The South.  Of course.  These people are an albatross around our neck.  We should just let them secede already.  The rest of us would be better off.
http://www.amazon.com/Better-Off-Without-Manifesto-Secession/dp/145161666X (http://www.amazon.com/Better-Off-Without-Manifesto-Secession/dp/145161666X)
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: GuitarStv on July 03, 2015, 05:51:00 AM
From the article, it's Alabama, Kentucky, Mississippi, Texas and Louisiana refusing to obey the law (and thumbing their nose at the constitution).  The South.  Of course.  These people are an albatross around our neck.  We should just let them secede already.  The rest of us would be better off.

Hmm.  Interesting that (excepting Texas which is middling) they're all poor states.  By per capita income:  Texas (30), Louisiana(39) Alabama (45), Kentucky (46), Mississippi (50).
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on July 03, 2015, 05:56:30 AM
I think we'd be worse off splitting up. But it's hard to make a data-based case for this belief.

Yes, the south is a tax on the rest of the states. They are always paying in much less in tax than they receive in federal spending. And yes they pursue economically suboptimal policies that cause their economies to continually lag the other states. And yes their votes help shift the Congress (the Senate in particular) and presidential elections towards backwards policies.

But I think Lincoln was right that we're better together. And things in the south have improved a lot. Maybe dragging their heels kicking and screaming and over many generations. But still improving.

It would also be costly in many ways to split up:

I think it should be really hard. Just think how costly that would be now. Using the Texas example, all those citizens would now be stripped of their citizenship, their SS, their Medicare, etc. We'd have to spend money building a border around the state and monitoring it. Texas itself would be decimated by the huge stream of people moving out before the change happened. The rest of the US would be overrun by ten million people suddenly looking for new homes. The military installations and other federal facilities would be lost. The ports we've built there would have to be replicated in Mississippi. We'd have to start monitoring the gas and oil that comes through the pipelines crossing the border and assessing import duties. I'm kind of assuming Texas would still be friendly (like Canada), and we wouldn't need to build up military installations all along the border. But if they were willing to secede, maybe things would have gotten really ugly.

The economies of both countries would suffer due to new difficulties on trade, tourism, etc.

I'm probably not scratching the surface of the costs here.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Sparafusile on July 03, 2015, 09:00:13 AM
I take back all the nice things I said about Catholics earlier:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/ed-coffin/bigots-tear-up-in-antigay_b_7707708.html
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on July 03, 2015, 09:19:00 AM
I take back all the nice things I said about Catholics earlier:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/ed-coffin/bigots-tear-up-in-antigay_b_7707708.html

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PFkAAvDkj9k
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Tyson on July 03, 2015, 11:10:23 AM
I think we'd be worse off splitting up. But it's hard to make a data-based case for this belief.

Yes, the south is a tax on the rest of the states. They are always paying in much less in tax than they receive in federal spending. And yes they pursue economically suboptimal policies that cause their economies to continually lag the other states. And yes their votes help shift the Congress (the Senate in particular) and presidential elections towards backwards policies.

But I think Lincoln was right that we're better together. And things in the south have improved a lot. Maybe dragging their heels kicking and screaming and over many generations. But still improving.

It would also be costly in many ways to split up:

I think it should be really hard. Just think how costly that would be now. Using the Texas example, all those citizens would now be stripped of their citizenship, their SS, their Medicare, etc. We'd have to spend money building a border around the state and monitoring it. Texas itself would be decimated by the huge stream of people moving out before the change happened. The rest of the US would be overrun by ten million people suddenly looking for new homes. The military installations and other federal facilities would be lost. The ports we've built there would have to be replicated in Mississippi. We'd have to start monitoring the gas and oil that comes through the pipelines crossing the border and assessing import duties. I'm kind of assuming Texas would still be friendly (like Canada), and we wouldn't need to build up military installations all along the border. But if they were willing to secede, maybe things would have gotten really ugly.

The economies of both countries would suffer due to new difficulties on trade, tourism, etc.

I'm probably not scratching the surface of the costs here.

Oh I know.  And I agree.  But I was born in Texas and most of my family is still in Texas.  And unless you are in the Austin area, it's pretty much a cultural wasteland.  Glad we ended up in Denver, where people are sane.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: tele25 on July 03, 2015, 07:19:22 PM


However, I am somewhat perturbed that it is written by a professor of sociology instead of a professor of history who would actually be informed about their specialist subject and can be expected to know more than a layman.  After all, this is a rather important part of american history.

Most southerners didn't own slaves and would never be in the position to own slaves, why would they give a fuck about moving to states which outlawed slavery?

I don't have any primary sources for you on this (and I think it would be pretty hard to find primary sources to "prove" an attitude), but is it really so hard to figure out why?

Imagine that you are a poor white southerner. Maybe you're a sharecropper.  You have very little -- almost nothing, in fact.  You certainly could never own a slave, and you certainly aren't benefiting, directly or indirectly, from slavery. Your existence is really hard.  But you know what?  You are at least white.  You're better than a common slave.  And some people think that (I'm not going to use the derogatory word here, but you know what it is) "they" shouldn't be slaves any more.  That "they" deserve the same rights as you, a good, God-fearing white person.  That's against the natural order of things! It's in the Bible, after all!  By God, if we let them free, pretty soon they'd be (and here, we could insert Dylann Roof's diatribe), taking our jobs, raping our women... That will never happen as long as I'm alive! 

...



This is a good arguement.

However, consider this. 88% of southern troops volunteered. Would they have really left their farms to ruin and faced the prospect of a rather nasty death just to look down on the slaves. The plantation owners were only about 5% of the population and the white sharecroppers weren't going to join up just so the elite could keep all their wealth and privilage. So use propaganda about states rights and taxes/tariffs etc. And all good propaganda that works is at least moderately based on the truth which is why states rights/ tariffs were also a factor and it wasn't just about slavery.

As an aside, I don't see why you need to self censor yourself about using the word "nigger". If its good enough for your  president to use then surely its also good enough for you. Doesn't your constitution mention something about all being equal?

As a further aside, I'm pretty sure the bible doesn't mention that blacks should be slaves. But does say that having sex slaves is OK.

Quote
Is it really that hard to understand why someone who is not at all benefiting from a system, and arguably being hurt by it, could be convinced that it's exactly otherwise?  And with that, we're right back where we started with the "Christian" opposition to gay marriage in this country. It affects them not one iota.  But it offends their sensibilities, "cheapens" "traditional" marriage, and it's "against God's word."  Very similar arguments for very different situations.

Coming back to same sex marriage, unfortunately it can and will affect them.

There is a clear difference between the govt treating everybody the same and the govt forcing ordinary people to do likewise. Churches might not have to marry homosexuals because of your first amendment but ordinary people engaged in the wedding business such as photographers and bakers will be forced to pander to homosexual demands.

It would be far better for the govt to remove itself entirely from human monogamous pair bonding. And if homosexuals want to get married in church they can set up their own religion, it must be easy enough, L. Ron Hubbard did it.

As an analogy, consider this. The former American athlete Bruce Jenner is taking hormone theraphy, has chaged his first name and wears dresses. Fair enough if thats what he wants to do, fuck all to do with me, no skin off my nose etc. However, so long as Mr Jenner has a penis and a y chromosome I shall refer to him as Mr Jenner and the law should not demand otherwise.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: matchewed on July 04, 2015, 08:17:41 AM
Is it really that hard to understand why someone who is not at all benefiting from a system, and arguably being hurt by it, could be convinced that it's exactly otherwise?  And with that, we're right back where we started with the "Christian" opposition to gay marriage in this country. It affects them not one iota.  But it offends their sensibilities, "cheapens" "traditional" marriage, and it's "against God's word."  Very similar arguments for very different situations.

Coming back to same sex marriage, unfortunately it can and will affect them.

There is a clear difference between the govt treating everybody the same and the govt forcing ordinary people to do likewise. Churches might not have to marry homosexuals because of your first amendment but ordinary people engaged in the wedding business such as photographers and bakers will be forced to pander to homosexual demands.

It would be far better for the govt to remove itself entirely from human monogamous pair bonding. And if homosexuals want to get married in church they can set up their own religion, it must be easy enough, L. Ron Hubbard did it.

As an analogy, consider this. The former American athlete Bruce Jenner is taking hormone theraphy, has chaged his first name and wears dresses. Fair enough if thats what he wants to do, fuck all to do with me, no skin off my nose etc. However, so long as Mr Jenner has a penis and a y chromosome I shall refer to him as Mr Jenner and the law should not demand otherwise.

You say it affects them but don't say how. How is a wedding photographer affected by the SCOTUS decision? The definition of marriage doesn't force people to provide services to homosexual couples.

Religions aren't the authority behind marriages anymore. Governments took that power a long time ago. You may disagree on whether they should but that doesn't change that they do.

That analogy fails on close inspection. Sex != gender first of all. Secondly it tries to create a binary system of people when the reality of people is much more complex. How about people with two x chromosomes and a y? Or XX male syndrome? How does your worldview categorize them? Frankly the law doesn't demand that you call Caitlyn Jenner a Mr. or Ms. What the law is asking people to do is well nothing... the law in this case is just formally stating that a union between two consenting adults is acceptable between any combination of the man/woman categorization. At most it is saying that government cannot discriminate. It's closer to the ideal that you are asking for; namely that government get out of the way of marriage.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: arebelspy on July 04, 2015, 08:31:57 AM
You say it affects them but don't say how. How is a wedding photographer affected by the SCOTUS decision? The definition of marriage doesn't force people to provide services to homosexual couples.

Equal protection under the law says you can't discriminate against them, essentially saying yes, you must provide services to them.

Oregon, for example, two days ago fined a bakery $135k for refusing to make a cake for a homosexual couple.

http://www.katu.com/news/local/Final-order-Oregon-Bureau-of-Labor-and-Industries-BOLI-Gresham-Sweet-Cakes-Melissa-bakery-must-pay-135000-to-lesbian-couple-311494301.html

That's a good thing, IMO.  Discrimination based on sexual orientation ought to be illegal.

But your question was asking how people are affected, and that they aren't forced to provide services to homosexual couples.  They are if they want to provide services to anyone.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: matchewed on July 04, 2015, 08:45:53 AM
You say it affects them but don't say how. How is a wedding photographer affected by the SCOTUS decision? The definition of marriage doesn't force people to provide services to homosexual couples.

Equal protection under the law says you can't discriminate against them, essentially saying yes, you must provide services to them.

Oregon, for example, two days ago fined a bakery $135k for refusing to make a cake for a homosexual couple.

http://www.katu.com/news/local/Final-order-Oregon-Bureau-of-Labor-and-Industries-BOLI-Gresham-Sweet-Cakes-Melissa-bakery-must-pay-135000-to-lesbian-couple-311494301.html

That's a good thing, IMO.  Discrimination based on sexual orientation ought to be illegal.

But your question was asking how people are affected, and that they aren't forced to provide services to homosexual couples.  They are if they want to provide services to anyone.

Fair enough but even with that law individuals frequently don't provide equal treatment under the law...

In theory individuals feel it's their right to discriminate and the government should stay out of it. In practice they (some) do discriminate (sometimes) and it's hard to prove it.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: johnny847 on July 04, 2015, 08:47:16 AM
You say it affects them but don't say how. How is a wedding photographer affected by the SCOTUS decision? The definition of marriage doesn't force people to provide services to homosexual couples.

Equal protection under the law says you can't discriminate against them, essentially saying yes, you must provide services to them.

Oregon, for example, two days ago fined a bakery $135k for refusing to make a cake for a homosexual couple.

http://www.katu.com/news/local/Final-order-Oregon-Bureau-of-Labor-and-Industries-BOLI-Gresham-Sweet-Cakes-Melissa-bakery-must-pay-135000-to-lesbian-couple-311494301.html

That's a good thing, IMO.  Discrimination based on sexual orientation ought to be illegal.

But your question was asking how people are affected, and that they aren't forced to provide services to homosexual couples.  They are if they want to provide services to anyone.

Now I'm just ranting and (for the most part) preaching to the choir, but it really bothers me when somebody counters that with well why didn't the homosexual couple just ask somebody else to make the cake? Why would you want to buy services from someone who doesn't want to serve you?
That's not the point. If there was literally only one baker that did this, then maybe that proposed solution isn't so bad (though I still don't like it). But if you allow one baker to do that then you allow all bakers to do that. Obviously not all bakers will refuse service to homosexuals. But it allows for a discriminatory environment where homosexuals may not get the service they want because those who provide the desired service do not serve homosexuals.  And now you have a serious problem.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Kris on July 04, 2015, 08:48:59 AM


However, I am somewhat perturbed that it is written by a professor of sociology instead of a professor of history who would actually be informed about their specialist subject and can be expected to know more than a layman.  After all, this is a rather important part of american history.

Most southerners didn't own slaves and would never be in the position to own slaves, why would they give a fuck about moving to states which outlawed slavery?

I don't have any primary sources for you on this (and I think it would be pretty hard to find primary sources to "prove" an attitude), but is it really so hard to figure out why?

Imagine that you are a poor white southerner. Maybe you're a sharecropper.  You have very little -- almost nothing, in fact.  You certainly could never own a slave, and you certainly aren't benefiting, directly or indirectly, from slavery. Your existence is really hard.  But you know what?  You are at least white.  You're better than a common slave.  And some people think that (I'm not going to use the derogatory word here, but you know what it is) "they" shouldn't be slaves any more.  That "they" deserve the same rights as you, a good, God-fearing white person.  That's against the natural order of things! It's in the Bible, after all!  By God, if we let them free, pretty soon they'd be (and here, we could insert Dylann Roof's diatribe), taking our jobs, raping our women... That will never happen as long as I'm alive! 

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This is a good arguement.

However, consider this. 88% of southern troops volunteered. Would they have really left their farms to ruin and faced the prospect of a rather nasty death just to look down on the slaves. The plantation owners were only about 5% of the population and the white sharecroppers weren't going to join up just so the elite could keep all their wealth and privilage. So use propaganda about states rights and taxes/tariffs etc. And all good propaganda that works is at least moderately based on the truth which is why states rights/ tariffs were also a factor and it wasn't just about slavery.

As an aside, I don't see why you need to self censor yourself about using the word "nigger". If its good enough for your  president to use then surely its also good enough for you. Doesn't your constitution mention something about all being equal?

As a further aside, I'm pretty sure the bible doesn't mention that blacks should be slaves. But does say that having sex slaves is OK.

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Is it really that hard to understand why someone who is not at all benefiting from a system, and arguably being hurt by it, could be convinced that it's exactly otherwise?  And with that, we're right back where we started with the "Christian" opposition to gay marriage in this country. It affects them not one iota.  But it offends their sensibilities, "cheapens" "traditional" marriage, and it's "against God's word."  Very similar arguments for very different situations.

Coming back to same sex marriage, unfortunately it can and will affect them.

There is a clear difference between the govt treating everybody the same and the govt forcing ordinary people to do likewise. Churches might not have to marry homosexuals because of your first amendment but ordinary people engaged in the wedding business such as photographers and bakers will be forced to pander to homosexual demands.

It would be far better for the govt to remove itself entirely from human monogamous pair bonding. And if homosexuals want to get married in church they can set up their own religion, it must be easy enough, L. Ron Hubbard did it.

As an analogy, consider this. The former American athlete Bruce Jenner is taking hormone theraphy, has chaged his first name and wears dresses. Fair enough if thats what he wants to do, fuck all to do with me, no skin off my nose etc. However, so long as Mr Jenner has a penis and a y chromosome I shall refer to him as Mr Jenner and the law should not demand otherwise.


Troll.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on July 04, 2015, 09:14:33 AM
You have to be a pretty hateful and illogical person to not sell someone a cake or a pizza or a balloon because of who they are. Their money is green, the transaction makes you better off. Take it. Stamping your feet and not taking a gay couple's $2000 for your overpriced glob of sugary flour because of the ceremony that proceeded the eating of that cake is just childish. They're not going to call off the marriage because they couldn't get a cake from you. They're going to find another baker, or go without a cake altogether. You aren't enabling their marriage to occur.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: davisgang90 on July 04, 2015, 09:20:43 AM
Speaking of hateful:

http://dailysignal.com/2015/07/02/state-silences-bakers-who-refused-to-make-cake-for-lesbian-couple-fines-them-135k/
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: sol on July 04, 2015, 11:42:19 AM
Speaking of hateful:

http://dailysignal.com/2015/07/02/state-silences-bakers-who-refused-to-make-cake-for-lesbian-couple-fines-them-135k/

Had this been 1960 Greensboro, things might have gone differently.  I still don't see the difference between a bakery refusing to sell a cake to couple because they are women and a Woolworth refusing to sell lunch to four college students because they are black.

So let me repeat myself.  Business owners are legally prohibited from discriminating against people because they are black, or gay, or fat, or wearing a confederate flag.  We had a whole civil rights movement spanning decades, in which hundreds of people gave their lives, to establish these protections.

As to all of the folks here saying "start your own religion" or "you can use a gays-only bakery" let me remind you that "Separate Is Not Equal. (http://americanhistory.si.edu/brown/history/1-segregated/separate-but-equal.html)"
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Glenstache on July 04, 2015, 11:44:39 AM
Now I'm just ranting and (for the most part) preaching to the choir, but it really bothers me when somebody counters that with well why didn't the homosexual couple just ask somebody else to make the cake? Why would you want to buy services from someone who doesn't want to serve you?
That's not the point. If there was literally only one baker that did this, then maybe that proposed solution isn't so bad (though I still don't like it). But if you allow one baker to do that then you allow all bakers to do that. Obviously not all bakers will refuse service to homosexuals. But it allows for a discriminatory environment where homosexuals may not get the service they want because those who provide the desired service do not serve homosexuals.  And now you have a serious problem.

Yes, this. As a side note, this argument structure is also why states/cities are not allowed to use things like restrictive zoning to preclude a business they don't like. If it is to be illegal, it has to actually be made illegal instead of trying to do it through the back door through outright restriction of availability.

I think it is also interesting to consider different ways that a hypothetical baker could deny service. If someone came in and asked the baker to make a cake that would reasonably be considered to be grotesquely explicit, offensive, violent and hateful, the baker (in my opinion) should be allowed to decline to make that specific cake because the cake itself and the act of making it is an undue burden. On the other hand, if the content of the cake is not in question and the reason to decline is the class of person buying the cake, that is slam-dunk discrimination and should be verboten. The baker may reserve the right to have a sign up saying that they believe marriage is for heterosexual couples only, or that anything living in water that has no fins or scales shall be an abomination to you (ie, shellfish), or that miscegnation is some sort of sin, but still has to provide service. Equally.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: MDM on July 04, 2015, 12:23:31 PM
Speaking of hateful:
http://dailysignal.com/2015/07/02/state-silences-bakers-who-refused-to-make-cake-for-lesbian-couple-fines-them-135k/
davisgang90 can comment on intent, but I read "speaking of hateful" as applied to the Oregon official who (perhaps) is attempting to limit the bakery owners' free speech rights about their court case.  It isn't clear from the various quotes whether the issue is about discriminatory statements themselves (that seem properly subject to a "cease and desist" order), or about statements that the bakery owners intend to appeal the ruling through legal channels (which they should have every right to do and talk about).

It's still true that two wrongs don't make a right...

...and speaking of which:
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In order to reach the total amount, $135,000, Rachel and Laurel submitted a long list of alleged physical, emotional and mental damages they claim to have experienced as a result of the Kleins’ unlawful conduct.

Examples of symptoms included “acute loss of confidence,” “doubt,” “excessive sleep,” “felt mentally raped, dirty and shameful,” “high blood pressure,” “impaired digestion,” “loss of appetite,” “migraine headaches,” “pale and sick at home after work,” “resumption of smoking habit,” “shock” “stunned,” “surprise,” “uncertainty,” “weight gain” and “worry.”
Again, there seems no doubt that Oregon law (http://www.oregonlaws.org/ors/659A.403) prohibited the bakery from refusing service, and whatever criminal penalty applies is defensible, but that list seems, shall we say, somewhere between an overreach and complainypants....
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Cathy on July 04, 2015, 12:42:36 PM
As you would expect from the popular news media, the articles almost certainly grossly misstate the actual order that the bakers are subject to.

First, the Oregon Labor Commissioner had no discretion about whether to order injunctive relief. This was not an act of malice but was mandated by law. According to 2013 ORS § 659A.850(4), the commissioner "shall order" injunctive relief "against any respondent found to have engaged in any unlawful practice alleged in the complaint". The purpose of the relief is to "[e]liminate the effects of the unlawful practice that the respondent is found to have engaged in": 2013 ORS § 659A.850(4)(a)(B).

In this case, one unlawful practice was the bakers announcing that their place of business would be engaging in illegal discrimination, contrary to 2013 ORS § 659A.409, which prohibits such announcements. The commissioner was required by law to enjoin the bakers from further violating 2013 ORS § 659A.409. Requiring them to refrain from announcing their discriminatory policy is just requiring them to do what is already required by Oregon statutes (and the statutes of most or all jurisdictions in US and Canada). In Canada, the constitutionality of these laws has been extensively litigated and consistently upheld. In the US, it's not quite as settled, but I don't feel like writing too much about that right now.

Not all jurisdictions in the US include sexual orientation as a ground in these laws. In a famous case, the Supreme Court of Canada held that the exclusion of sexual orientation from anti-discrimination laws is unconstitutional: Vriend v. Alberta, [1998] 1 SCR 493, 1998 CanLII 816 (https://www.canlii.org/en/ca/scc/doc/1998/1998canlii816/1998canlii816.html). I'd expect this to be litigated in the US in due course.

P.S. Thanks for MDM for locating the relevant section of the Oregon statutes so I didn't have to find it myself.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: PeteD01 on July 04, 2015, 12:51:56 PM
396 posts and only 6796 views.
I guess we have moved on to the next contentious subject and we can all go home now.

Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on July 04, 2015, 02:58:13 PM
396 posts and only 6796 views.
I guess we have moved on to the next contentious subject and we can all go home now.

I don't know how the view tally works. Does it count each unique person only once? Or each time they view separately?
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Cressida on July 04, 2015, 03:04:00 PM
Not all jurisdictions in the US include sexual orientation as a ground in these laws.

I think this is one part of this issue that a lot of people are missing. If your jurisdiction (might be city, state, etc.) has a law on the books outlawing discrimination by businesses against customers, it will explicitly list all of the bases for discrimination that the law covers. The list is getting longer as time goes on: it typically includes race, religion, etc, but not always sexual orientation as Cathy states.

That means that if, say, I'm in Seattle and I have a taco truck, if Dick Cheney walks up and orders a taco, I can say, "fuck you Dick Cheney, buy a taco somewhere else," and that's not discrimination illegal because neither Seattle nor Washington State nor the U.S. has a law on the books that outlaws discrimination against assholes. Even if Dick Cheney were gay, if my discrimination isn't based on that, it's lawful.

That's my understanding, anyway. I'm sure Cathy will correct me if I've misstated anything. :)
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on July 04, 2015, 03:16:47 PM
Not all jurisdictions in the US include sexual orientation as a ground in these laws.

I think this is one part of this issue that a lot of people are missing. If your jurisdiction (might be city, state, etc.) has a law on the books outlawing discrimination by businesses against customers, it will explicitly list all of the bases for discrimination that the law covers. The list is getting longer as time goes on: it typically includes race, religion, etc, but not always sexual orientation as Cathy states.

That means that if, say, I'm in Seattle and I have a taco truck, if Dick Cheney walks up and orders a taco, I can say, "fuck you Dick Cheney, buy a taco somewhere else," and that's not discrimination because neither Seattle nor Washington State nor the U.S. has a law on the books that outlaws discrimination against assholes. Even if Dick Cheney were gay, if my discrimination isn't based on that, it's lawful.

That's my understanding, anyway. I'm sure Cathy will correct me if I've misstated anything. :)

Apparently you can be arrested for having a policy disagreement with Dick Cheney, either making that expression verbally, or via t-shirt or bumper sticker.

http://www.nytimes.com/2006/10/04/washington/04cheney.html
http://www.npr.org/2012/03/21/148606249/confronting-the-vp-may-be-impolite-is-it-a-crime
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Erica/NWEdible on July 04, 2015, 04:14:19 PM
That means that if, say, I'm in Seattle and I have a taco truck, if Dick Cheney walks up and orders a taco, I can say, "fuck you Dick Cheney, buy a taco somewhere else," and that's not discrimination because neither Seattle nor Washington State nor the U.S. has a law on the books that outlaws discrimination against assholes. Even if Dick Cheney were gay, if my discrimination isn't based on that, it's lawful.
Can confirm: Any random Seattleite aspires both to own a taco truck and to tell Dick Cheney to go fuck off. Very realistic scenario.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Glenstache on July 04, 2015, 06:43:51 PM
That means that if, say, I'm in Seattle and I have a taco truck, if Dick Cheney walks up and orders a taco, I can say, "fuck you Dick Cheney, buy a taco somewhere else," and that's not discrimination because neither Seattle nor Washington State nor the U.S. has a law on the books that outlaws discrimination against assholes. Even if Dick Cheney were gay, if my discrimination isn't based on that, it's lawful.
Can confirm: Any random Seattleite aspires both to own a taco truck and to tell Dick Cheney to go fuck off. Very realistic scenario.


I'll second that as a Seattle-ite who loves tacos (though maybe wouldn't want to work in a taco truck) and would love to tell Cheney off.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: justajane on July 04, 2015, 08:00:04 PM
the Christians who protest gay marriage are wrong.

Thank you for that voice of reason, we all appreciate it.

Christians opposed to gay marriage should instead use their energy to protest against the homosexual act.

Wait... what? You can be gay and you can get married, but the the moment you make love it's wrong? Christians have no right whatsoever to "protest" what other non-believers do in the privacy of their own home at all. Your line of reasoning seems like you're trying to reconcile what the supreme court has ruled, but still hold onto intolerance with both hands.

So, I go to a conservative Christian church, in large part because I've been there for 15 years and am loathe to move after so long. But my views regarding homosexuality did a 180 about a decade ago, yet I'm pretty sure my husband and I are probably the only people in the congregation who have no problem with same sex marriage. This is one of the many ways we are out of step with the rest of the flock.

Anyway, this is all a preface to say that I've watched the evolution of things over the last decade among fundamental Christians. Many have moved away from the idea that you can turn someone straight and that being gay is a choice. In that sense some evangelicals have progressed. They are recognizing that sexual preference is innate and that people can be born attracted to the same sex. But the problem is that they won't go the next step forward and accept that sex between two people of the same sex is not sinful. What this means is that they expect homosexuals to be chaste their whole lives. There were two lesbians turned evangelical Christians who were in our church for a while, and I felt very sad for them, because how lonely is that that you basically are doomed to a life of singleness, if you accept the philosophy of the conservative church.

I think this is a very cruel position for the church to take. In essence, it's not progress in any real sense. It might do away with those crazy and frankly abusive camps that attempt to change a person's sexuality. It might at some level accept people as they were born, but to not allow them theologically or morally (from their perspective) to have relationships, have sex, and get married is just heartless.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Cathy on July 04, 2015, 08:03:47 PM
If your jurisdiction (might be city, state, etc.) has a law on the books outlawing discrimination by businesses against customers, it will explicitly list all of the bases for discrimination that the law covers.

Some jurisdictions have open-ended anti-discrimination statutes that aren't limited to a set of listed grounds. For example, California Civil Code § 51 prohibits discrimination by businesses in general, and also contains a list of example grounds, but it's not limited to discrimination on those grounds.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: PeteD01 on July 04, 2015, 10:05:20 PM
396 posts and only 6796 views.
I guess we have moved on to the next contentious subject and we can all go home now.

I don't know how the view tally works. Does it count each unique person only once? Or each time they view separately?

It doesn't seem count each person only once but it also doesn't seem to count every single visit. I've been puzzled by this before.
In any case, the ratio of posts to views appears to be higher for this thread than the typical thread in this subforum.
Maybe this is due to the thread being young or due to a lack of interest - time will tell.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: arebelspy on July 04, 2015, 10:26:16 PM

the Christians who protest gay marriage are wrong.

Thank you for that voice of reason, we all appreciate it.

Christians opposed to gay marriage should instead use their energy to protest against the homosexual act.

Wait... what? You can be gay and you can get married, but the the moment you make love it's wrong? Christians have no right whatsoever to "protest" what other non-believers do in the privacy of their own home at all. Your line of reasoning seems like you're trying to reconcile what the supreme court has ruled, but still hold onto intolerance with both hands.

So, I go to a conservative Christian church, in large part because I've been there for 15 years and am loathe to move after so long. But my views regarding homosexuality did a 180 about a decade ago, yet I'm pretty sure my husband and I are probably the only people in the congregation who have no problem with same sex marriage. This is one of the many ways we are out of step with the rest of the flock.

I would bet there's a lot more than you think, and they're also thinking they're the only ones, so no one says anything.

It's really common among groups, actually.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pluralistic_ignorance
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Cressida on July 05, 2015, 01:48:24 AM
If your jurisdiction (might be city, state, etc.) has a law on the books outlawing discrimination by businesses against customers, it will explicitly list all of the bases for discrimination that the law covers.

Some jurisdictions have open-ended anti-discrimination statutes that aren't limited to a set of listed grounds. For example, California Civil Code § 51 prohibits discrimination by businesses in general, and also contains a list of example grounds, but it's not limited to discrimination on those grounds.

Wow, that seems confusing. Thanks for the clarification.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: justajane on July 05, 2015, 06:26:43 AM

the Christians who protest gay marriage are wrong.

Thank you for that voice of reason, we all appreciate it.

Christians opposed to gay marriage should instead use their energy to protest against the homosexual act.

Wait... what? You can be gay and you can get married, but the the moment you make love it's wrong? Christians have no right whatsoever to "protest" what other non-believers do in the privacy of their own home at all. Your line of reasoning seems like you're trying to reconcile what the supreme court has ruled, but still hold onto intolerance with both hands.

So, I go to a conservative Christian church, in large part because I've been there for 15 years and am loathe to move after so long. But my views regarding homosexuality did a 180 about a decade ago, yet I'm pretty sure my husband and I are probably the only people in the congregation who have no problem with same sex marriage. This is one of the many ways we are out of step with the rest of the flock.

I would bet there's a lot more than you think, and they're also thinking they're the only ones, so no one says anything.

It's really common among groups, actually.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pluralistic_ignorance

You may be right, but I have to say that Facebook has opened my eyes to people's bigotry even more, though that is just a selection of vocal people and hopefully not the norm either. The stalker functions on FB make it easy to see what people really think. For instance, a friend commented on an article about same sex marriage and said, "I'd rather be on the right side of heaven than the right side of history." Yuck, just yuck. But it does illuminate in a pithy way how high some Christians think the stakes are here, as if her accepting that two dudes or gals can love each other and express that love legally would somehow bring into question her status in the afterlife. That's some warped theological thinking.

I think millenials and younger Christians struggle with the older congregation's focus on social issues. I think these individuals are coming around to the idea that we don't live in a Christian nation and therefore can't expect people to abide by their morality. And that IMO is progress. I had coffee with a church friend right after Caitlyn Jenner announced her transition officially, and the friend could not understand why other Christians cared so much and how they truly felt like the sky was falling. I was glad to find that common ground.   
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: sol on July 05, 2015, 07:56:07 AM
I think millenials and younger Christians struggle with the older congregation's focus on social issues.

I suspect that conservative religious groups will only change after conservative political groups have already done so.

Political parties are creatures of expedience.  They need votes to stay in power.  The Republican party currently gains more votes than it loses by taking a strong stand in favor of bigotry, but I know a ton of fiscally conservative young voters who would much prefer to vote Republican but have a strong distaste for all of the anti-gay, anti-women, anti-immigration type policy planks.

There will come a day when the Republican party leadership realizes that they will win over more fiscally conservative young voters than they will alienate old evangelical voters if they join the 21st century on social issues.  It may not be this cycle or even this decade, but it will happen eventually.  The party will have to adapt, or else risk riding their aged demographic right into the grave.

But the conservative religious groups, the Baptists and the Mormons and such, are IMO more resistant to this kind of change.  I think they'll be the last stalwarts of hatred and bigotry by the time my lifespan wraps up.  By 2050 or so, I expect that Evangelicals will play a social role somewhat similar to the one white supremacists played in the 1980s and 90s; widely reviled by society at large, but still going strong in certain pockets of the country.  Their death throws will be equally as unpleasant.

Consider how long it took between Brown vs Board of Education (1954), a SCOTUS decision analogous to the recent gay marriage ruling, and the passage of the Civil Rights Act (1968) as a reflection of more widespread public support for equality between human beings.  Just because gay marriage is legal in every US state today doesn't mean discrimination against homosexuals, and the regressive attitudes that support it, are going to disappear overnight. 
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: justajane on July 05, 2015, 08:30:30 AM
By 2050 or so, I expect that Evangelicals will play a social role somewhat similar to the one white supremacists played in the 1980s and 90s; widely reviled by society at large, but still going strong in certain pockets of the country.  Their death throws will be equally as unpleasant.

Interesting point. I'm not even sure it will take that long. I already see how they feel like they are under siege and persecuted, even though they are the majority in most places. But you can't call them on it, because it just feeds their persecution complex even more. My husband and I have learned not to do that with our conservative Christian friends. I would just pull out my popcorn and watch the misplaced "woe is me" complex with amusement if it wasn't something that directly affected the lives of gay people I know and care about.

Regarding the cake issue (who knew flour, eggs, and sugar could be so controversial?), if you can't make confectionery for the entire public, then maybe you shouldn't be in the cake business at all. And it's not just cakes. I've heard stories from gay friends in the past about how contractors, when they come to give a bid, clearly react when they realize the sexual preference of the homeowners. How awful to be confronted on a regular basis with the reality that who you are is somehow so offensive to some that they don't want to do business with you. That type of treatment is the true tragedy here, not the fact that a Christian is confronted with the fact that their beliefs are out of step with modern life. 
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Tyson on July 05, 2015, 01:45:45 PM
I think millenials and younger Christians struggle with the older congregation's focus on social issues.

I suspect that conservative religious groups will only change after conservative political groups have already done so.

Political parties are creatures of expedience.  They need votes to stay in power.  The Republican party currently gains more votes than it loses by taking a strong stand in favor of bigotry, but I know a ton of fiscally conservative young voters who would much prefer to vote Republican but have a strong distaste for all of the anti-gay, anti-women, anti-immigration type policy planks.

There will come a day when the Republican party leadership realizes that they will win over more fiscally conservative young voters than they will alienate old evangelical voters if they join the 21st century on social issues.  It may not be this cycle or even this decade, but it will happen eventually.  The party will have to adapt, or else risk riding their aged demographic right into the grave.

But the conservative religious groups, the Baptists and the Mormons and such, are IMO more resistant to this kind of change.  I think they'll be the last stalwarts of hatred and bigotry by the time my lifespan wraps up.  By 2050 or so, I expect that Evangelicals will play a social role somewhat similar to the one white supremacists played in the 1980s and 90s; widely reviled by society at large, but still going strong in certain pockets of the country.  Their death throws will be equally as unpleasant.

Consider how long it took between Brown vs Board of Education (1954), a SCOTUS decision analogous to the recent gay marriage ruling, and the passage of the Civil Rights Act (1968) as a reflection of more widespread public support for equality between human beings.  Just because gay marriage is legal in every US state today doesn't mean discrimination against homosexuals, and the regressive attitudes that support it, are going to disappear overnight.

The trend you will see first is purple states turning blue and (some) red states turning purple.  It's already happening here in CO, FL, NV, and VA.  And it's entirely the deep south conservative social issues being broadcast at a national level that are driving these changes.  At some point, you are completely correct, the political calculus starts to favor cutting the old white bigots free and embracing the young fiscal conservatives.  I hope that happens sooner than later.

But, if you are thinking that any of the states in the deep south are going to change any time soon, I wouldn't hold my breath.  They are too isolated and we are talking hundreds of years of embedded beliefs and that's just not going to change very quickly.  I predict the South will continue to be an albatross around our neck and an embarrassment to our nation for the foreseeable future. 

The irony is that they really did it to themselves by their more or less open/naked intolerance.  Back in the 80's and early 90's, most of the nation didn't really believe they were as deadly serious about this stuff as they actually were.  The advent of social media, blogs, and online news article commentaries have seriously disabused the rest of that idea that social conservatives were a quaint artifact of a bygone era.  So the more of a "voice" they have had at a national level, the more they have hastened their own demise.  Irony is ironic in that way (and delicious, I might add).
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: sisto on July 07, 2015, 02:19:50 PM
There is NOTHING in this ruling that says practitioners of any religion must marry same-sex couples. Churches are free to continue doing as they wish.

This says that marriage is a constitutional right, and that a STATE must recognize marriage between same sex couples.

To the extent that church officials are blessed with the power of the state to give legal effect to marriages, allowing them to opt out of ratifying marriages on the basis of the gender of the participants does potentially raise constitutional concerns, although not ones discussed in the decision. I won't say those issues have a clear resolution in US constitutional law, but the arguments aren't frivolous.

The next marriage-related frontier will likely be an onslaught of state laws that purport to authorise marriage officials to decline, at their option, to grant a marriage licence on the basis of personal beliefs. Those laws are typically passed under the rubric of promoting freedom of religion, but they can have the effect of making it logistically difficult to find an official to ratify a marriage in less-progressive regions. In Marriage Commissioners Appointed Under The Marriage Act (Re), 2011 SKCA 3 (https://www.canlii.org/en/sk/skca/doc/2011/2011skca3/2011skca3.html), the Court of Appeal for Saskatchewan considered legislation that authorised marriage officials to implement their personal religious beliefs by, at their option, refusing to perform same-sex marriages. The Court found that such legislation is contrary to the constitution of Canada. I expect that this issue will be litigated in the US in due course.
I debate with religious people over these things all of the time. The best answer IMHO is to separate church and state. Let the church do whatever they want with marriage, but don't allow any legal rights attached to that said marriage. Define how the legal aspects of two people uniting will work and have that be how anything related to legal matters is addressed. There are many other areas where this separation should be made. Another constant example is voting. I absolutely hate that in all but one time in my entire voting life has it been in a church. I think this is very wrong.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gin1984 on July 07, 2015, 03:06:44 PM
There is NOTHING in this ruling that says practitioners of any religion must marry same-sex couples. Churches are free to continue doing as they wish.

This says that marriage is a constitutional right, and that a STATE must recognize marriage between same sex couples.

To the extent that church officials are blessed with the power of the state to give legal effect to marriages, allowing them to opt out of ratifying marriages on the basis of the gender of the participants does potentially raise constitutional concerns, although not ones discussed in the decision. I won't say those issues have a clear resolution in US constitutional law, but the arguments aren't frivolous.

The next marriage-related frontier will likely be an onslaught of state laws that purport to authorise marriage officials to decline, at their option, to grant a marriage licence on the basis of personal beliefs. Those laws are typically passed under the rubric of promoting freedom of religion, but they can have the effect of making it logistically difficult to find an official to ratify a marriage in less-progressive regions. In Marriage Commissioners Appointed Under The Marriage Act (Re), 2011 SKCA 3 (https://www.canlii.org/en/sk/skca/doc/2011/2011skca3/2011skca3.html), the Court of Appeal for Saskatchewan considered legislation that authorised marriage officials to implement their personal religious beliefs by, at their option, refusing to perform same-sex marriages. The Court found that such legislation is contrary to the constitution of Canada. I expect that this issue will be litigated in the US in due course.
I debate with religious people over these things all of the time. The best answer IMHO is to separate church and state. Let the church do whatever they want with marriage, but don't allow any legal rights attached to that said marriage. Define how the legal aspects of two people uniting will work and have that be how anything related to legal matters is addressed. There are many other areas where this separation should be made. Another constant example is voting. I absolutely hate that in all but one time in my entire voting life has it been in a church. I think this is very wrong.
I have voted in a union office, a church and a gym.  I don't see the problem with renting any of this space.  Can you explain what your issue is?
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: arebelspy on July 07, 2015, 05:48:15 PM
I have voted in a union office, a church and a gym.  I don't see the problem with renting any of this space.  Can you explain what your issue is?

Potential subconscious influences?
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: johnny847 on July 07, 2015, 06:05:29 PM
I have voted in a union office, a church and a gym.  I don't see the problem with renting any of this space.  Can you explain what your issue is?

Potential subconscious influences?

So a perfectly neutral location would be...?
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gin1984 on July 07, 2015, 06:11:56 PM
I have voted in a union office, a church and a gym.  I don't see the problem with renting any of this space.  Can you explain what your issue is?

Potential subconscious influences?
Are people really making voting decision AT the polls?  Aren't you suppose to figure how you are voting before you go?
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: arebelspy on July 07, 2015, 06:14:16 PM
I have voted in a union office, a church and a gym.  I don't see the problem with renting any of this space.  Can you explain what your issue is?

Potential subconscious influences?
Are people really making voting decision AT the polls?  Aren't you suppose to figure how you are voting before you go?

Absolutely, in theory.  But don't underestimate psychology.  I could see people changing last minute based on guilt, or something they don't even realize, or whatever.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gray Matter on July 08, 2015, 08:02:22 PM
I have voted in a union office, a church and a gym.  I don't see the problem with renting any of this space.  Can you explain what your issue is?

Potential subconscious influences?
Are people really making voting decision AT the polls?  Aren't you suppose to figure how you are voting before you go?

Absolutely, in theory.  But don't underestimate psychology.  I could see people changing last minute based on guilt, or something they don't even realize, or whatever.

I don't think I've ever been influenced  by the building in which I voted (always followed through on who I intended to vote for), but I don't like that I have to go into a place of worship to vote--that doesn't seem very "separation of church and state" to me.  I'm uncomfortable in houses of worship--find them slightly creepy to be honest--and don't feel like I should have to set foot in one to do my civic duty.

I'd prefer to vote only in public buildings--schools, libraries, county or city rec centers, etc.--but that's not my polling place.  I supposed I could vote by absentee ballot, but I like to rub elbows with my neighbors at the polls.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: justajane on July 09, 2015, 05:30:51 AM
I think one reason they use churches instead of schools is because churches are by and large vacant on Tuesdays, whereas at schools you have to deal with having random voters in the same space as minors. There's safety and practical issues.

I vote in the basement of a church, and it doesn't even feel like a church. There's nothing there to indicate religion -- just a kitchen, an open space and a food pantry on the wall. I don't think the church gets any money for it. It's just a public service they provide. There just wouldn't be enough civil and public spaces if churches stopped allowing it or were banned from doing it.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gray Matter on July 09, 2015, 05:48:23 AM
I think one reason they use churches instead of schools is because churches are by and large vacant on Tuesdays, whereas at schools you have to deal with having random voters in the same space as minors. There's safety and practical issues.

I vote in the basement of a church, and it doesn't even feel like a church. There's nothing there to indicate religion -- just a kitchen, an open space and a food pantry on the wall. I don't think the church gets any money for it. It's just a public service they provide. There just wouldn't be enough civil and public spaces if churches stopped allowing it or were banned from doing it.

I agree with you.  I know there are practical reasons why they use places of worship, so I've never made a stink about it, just don't like it, you know?  And I think it could be much harder for people who feel like they've been persecuted by a particular religious group, and now they have to step into that place of worship.  But not high on my list of Things to Try to Change About the US.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: justajane on July 09, 2015, 06:07:20 AM
I think one reason they use churches instead of schools is because churches are by and large vacant on Tuesdays, whereas at schools you have to deal with having random voters in the same space as minors. There's safety and practical issues.

I vote in the basement of a church, and it doesn't even feel like a church. There's nothing there to indicate religion -- just a kitchen, an open space and a food pantry on the wall. I don't think the church gets any money for it. It's just a public service they provide. There just wouldn't be enough civil and public spaces if churches stopped allowing it or were banned from doing it.

I agree with you.  I know there are practical reasons why they use places of worship, so I've never made a stink about it, just don't like it, you know?  And I think it could be much harder for people who feel like they've been persecuted by a particular religious group, and now they have to step into that place of worship.  But not high on my list of Things to Try to Change About the US.

I can certainly understand that, especially if, like you say, if the church had offended someone in the past. Can't anyone vote a week earlier absentee now if they want? That could be a solution, albeit one that would necessitate planning.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gray Matter on July 09, 2015, 06:21:49 AM
I think one reason they use churches instead of schools is because churches are by and large vacant on Tuesdays, whereas at schools you have to deal with having random voters in the same space as minors. There's safety and practical issues.

I vote in the basement of a church, and it doesn't even feel like a church. There's nothing there to indicate religion -- just a kitchen, an open space and a food pantry on the wall. I don't think the church gets any money for it. It's just a public service they provide. There just wouldn't be enough civil and public spaces if churches stopped allowing it or were banned from doing it.

I agree with you.  I know there are practical reasons why they use places of worship, so I've never made a stink about it, just don't like it, you know?  And I think it could be much harder for people who feel like they've been persecuted by a particular religious group, and now they have to step into that place of worship.  But not high on my list of Things to Try to Change About the US.

I can certainly understand that, especially if, like you say, if the church had offended someone in the past. Can't anyone vote a week earlier absentee now if they want? That could be a solution, albeit one that would necessitate planning.

I do believe that anyone can vote absentee ballot now, so yes, that is a solution and probably the best one.  Although (and I'm totally surmising here), if I felt persecuted, I wouldn't want to have to vote absentee (I realize it's a choice, but neither one feels very good to me).  It's as if everyone else gets to come together as a community to vote, but in order to feel comfortable voting, I have to remove myself from that and be marginalized, in a sense.  My preference would be for people within a community to be able to select another voting place if they're not comfortable with their designated one, but that adds complications we don't need, so I just shrug it off.

But to arebelspy's point about the psychology behind things, while I don't think it has changed my vote, it might dissuade me from voting at all (unconsciously) if I weren't particularly comfortable in the voting place--it's just an extra barrier to entry.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gin1984 on July 09, 2015, 07:38:49 AM
I think one reason they use churches instead of schools is because churches are by and large vacant on Tuesdays, whereas at schools you have to deal with having random voters in the same space as minors. There's safety and practical issues.

I vote in the basement of a church, and it doesn't even feel like a church. There's nothing there to indicate religion -- just a kitchen, an open space and a food pantry on the wall. I don't think the church gets any money for it. It's just a public service they provide. There just wouldn't be enough civil and public spaces if churches stopped allowing it or were banned from doing it.

I agree with you.  I know there are practical reasons why they use places of worship, so I've never made a stink about it, just don't like it, you know?  And I think it could be much harder for people who feel like they've been persecuted by a particular religious group, and now they have to step into that place of worship.  But not high on my list of Things to Try to Change About the US.

I can certainly understand that, especially if, like you say, if the church had offended someone in the past. Can't anyone vote a week earlier absentee now if they want? That could be a solution, albeit one that would necessitate planning.

I do believe that anyone can vote absentee ballot now, so yes, that is a solution and probably the best one.  Although (and I'm totally surmising here), if I felt persecuted, I wouldn't want to have to vote absentee (I realize it's a choice, but neither one feels very good to me).  It's as if everyone else gets to come together as a community to vote, but in order to feel comfortable voting, I have to remove myself from that and be marginalized, in a sense.  My preference would be for people within a community to be able to select another voting place if they're not comfortable with their designated one, but that adds complications we don't need, so I just shrug it off.

But to arebelspy's point about the psychology behind things, while I don't think it has changed my vote, it might dissuade me from voting at all (unconsciously) if I weren't particularly comfortable in the voting place--it's just an extra barrier to entry.
My state won't let me vote absentee without a valid reason (NY).  It pisses me off because I pretty much voted absentee for years in Ca. 
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Mississippi Mudstache on July 09, 2015, 09:55:28 AM
I would bet there's a lot more than you think, and they're also thinking they're the only ones, so no one says anything.

It's really common among groups, actually.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pluralistic_ignorance

Thanks for introducing me to a new concept. I've surmised the existence of pluralistic ignorance many times, but never knew it by name. That was an interesting read.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: sisto on July 09, 2015, 01:37:54 PM
There is NOTHING in this ruling that says practitioners of any religion must marry same-sex couples. Churches are free to continue doing as they wish.

This says that marriage is a constitutional right, and that a STATE must recognize marriage between same sex couples.

To the extent that church officials are blessed with the power of the state to give legal effect to marriages, allowing them to opt out of ratifying marriages on the basis of the gender of the participants does potentially raise constitutional concerns, although not ones discussed in the decision. I won't say those issues have a clear resolution in US constitutional law, but the arguments aren't frivolous.

The next marriage-related frontier will likely be an onslaught of state laws that purport to authorise marriage officials to decline, at their option, to grant a marriage licence on the basis of personal beliefs. Those laws are typically passed under the rubric of promoting freedom of religion, but they can have the effect of making it logistically difficult to find an official to ratify a marriage in less-progressive regions. In Marriage Commissioners Appointed Under The Marriage Act (Re), 2011 SKCA 3 (https://www.canlii.org/en/sk/skca/doc/2011/2011skca3/2011skca3.html), the Court of Appeal for Saskatchewan considered legislation that authorised marriage officials to implement their personal religious beliefs by, at their option, refusing to perform same-sex marriages. The Court found that such legislation is contrary to the constitution of Canada. I expect that this issue will be litigated in the US in due course.
I debate with religious people over these things all of the time. The best answer IMHO is to separate church and state. Let the church do whatever they want with marriage, but don't allow any legal rights attached to that said marriage. Define how the legal aspects of two people uniting will work and have that be how anything related to legal matters is addressed. There are many other areas where this separation should be made. Another constant example is voting. I absolutely hate that in all but one time in my entire voting life has it been in a church. I think this is very wrong.
I have voted in a union office, a church and a gym.  I don't see the problem with renting any of this space.  Can you explain what your issue is?
I'm not a religious person, but always seem to have to vote at a church. Luckily now there is absentee ballots so I have a choice, but in the past I did not. I don't believe I should be forced to go to a church if I want to cast my vote.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: sol on July 09, 2015, 01:42:08 PM
I'm pretty sure the south would try to secede again of we made them all vote in mosques, surrounded by Muslim iconography.

Our worse yet, a satanic temple.

Our worst yet, a secular building like a fire station.  "Those damn atheists, always trying to push their views on everyone else."
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: sisto on July 09, 2015, 01:42:47 PM
I have voted in a union office, a church and a gym.  I don't see the problem with renting any of this space.  Can you explain what your issue is?

Potential subconscious influences?
Are people really making voting decision AT the polls?  Aren't you suppose to figure how you are voting before you go?

Absolutely, in theory.  But don't underestimate psychology.  I could see people changing last minute based on guilt, or something they don't even realize, or whatever.

I don't think I've ever been influenced  by the building in which I voted (always followed through on who I intended to vote for), but I don't like that I have to go into a place of worship to vote--that doesn't seem very "separation of church and state" to me.  I'm uncomfortable in houses of worship--find them slightly creepy to be honest--and don't feel like I should have to set foot in one to do my civic duty.

I'd prefer to vote only in public buildings--schools, libraries, county or city rec centers, etc.--but that's not my polling place.  I supposed I could vote by absentee ballot, but I like to rub elbows with my neighbors at the polls.
Thank you Gray Matter! I agree with this 100%
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: sisto on July 09, 2015, 01:46:15 PM
I think one reason they use churches instead of schools is because churches are by and large vacant on Tuesdays, whereas at schools you have to deal with having random voters in the same space as minors. There's safety and practical issues.

I vote in the basement of a church, and it doesn't even feel like a church. There's nothing there to indicate religion -- just a kitchen, an open space and a food pantry on the wall. I don't think the church gets any money for it. It's just a public service they provide. There just wouldn't be enough civil and public spaces if churches stopped allowing it or were banned from doing it.

I agree with you.  I know there are practical reasons why they use places of worship, so I've never made a stink about it, just don't like it, you know?  And I think it could be much harder for people who feel like they've been persecuted by a particular religious group, and now they have to step into that place of worship.  But not high on my list of Things to Try to Change About the US.
Yes Gray Matter EXACTLY why I personally don't like it. I live in CA where a majority of churches were against Prop 8. I'm sure everyone here is aware of this proposition due to all of the attention and the last SCOTUS ruling over it, so I won't go into it. So to then have to go to a church and vote on the issue IMO is wrong.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: sisto on July 09, 2015, 01:49:43 PM
I'm pretty sure the south would try to secede again of we made them all vote in mosques, surrounded by Muslim iconography.

Our worse yet, a satanic temple.

Our worst yet, a secular building like a fire station.  "Those damn atheists, always trying to push their views on everyone else."
Sol, the more I read your posts on this the more I like you and think I might actually be an atheist. I've always thought I might be, but thought maybe more agnostic. I never really looked into it, but I may now. Thanks for some awesome information!
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Midwest on July 09, 2015, 01:50:03 PM
I'm pretty sure the south would try to secede again of we made them all vote in mosques, surrounded by Muslim iconography.

Our worse yet, a satanic temple.

Our worst yet, a secular building like a fire station.  "Those damn atheists, always trying to push their views on everyone else."

If the atheists would like to pay for and maintain a polling place as convenient as a church, I'll be happy to vote there.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: arebelspy on July 09, 2015, 01:56:22 PM
I'm pretty sure the south would try to secede again of we made them all vote in mosques, surrounded by Muslim iconography.

Our worse yet, a satanic temple.

Our worst yet, a secular building like a fire station.  "Those damn atheists, always trying to push their views on everyone else."

If the atheists would like to pay for and maintain a polling place as convenient as a church, I'll be happy to vote there.

I've never voted in a church.

And the concept is really weird to me.

Sol's post makes a great point--I'd bet Christians would be offended to have to go into another place of worship to vote, why should theirs be different?

I've voted in multiple libraries and elementary school gymnasiums, and even in a mall.  Those seem perfectly adequate to me, and (to your funding point, though I'm not really sure what the point is), they are funded by the taxpayers (besides the mall, which was obviously voluntary on their part).  How is a church more convenient than a library or school? (Or any other public building.)
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Midwest on July 09, 2015, 02:07:43 PM
I'm pretty sure the south would try to secede again of we made them all vote in mosques, surrounded by Muslim iconography.

Our worse yet, a satanic temple.

Our worst yet, a secular building like a fire station.  "Those damn atheists, always trying to push their views on everyone else."

If the atheists would like to pay for and maintain a polling place as convenient as a church, I'll be happy to vote there.

I've never voted in a church.

And the concept is really weird to me.

Sol's post makes a great point--I'd bet Christians would be offended to have to go into another place of worship to vote, why should theirs be different?

I've voted in multiple libraries and elementary school gymnasiums, and even in a mall.  Those seem perfectly adequate to me, and (to your funding point, though I'm not really sure what the point is), they are funded by the taxpayers (besides the mall, which was obviously voluntary on their part).  How is a church more convenient than a library or school? (Or any other public building.)

In my state, schools are often excluded because of safety concerns (adults entering while children present).  I live in a town of 8000 now and grew up in a town of 12,000.  In both of those, libraries and govt buildings were used, but many precincts did not have such a building so churches were utilized in those cases.  My precincts in both cases have happened to fall in a church.  I don't recall seeing any religious symbols in the voting area.

In both cases of churches being used, I could walk to the voting precinct.  This type of access increase voting availability so seems like a good trade off to me.  Neither of the polling places was a church I attended but was simply convenient to my house.

To the funding point, churches were used because they were the only suitable building readily available in the precinct.  If someone is offended, they are free to offer an alternative.  I'd be more than happy to vote in a mosque or atheist voting area as long as religious (or non-religious) symbols were equally removed.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: I'm a red panda on July 09, 2015, 02:08:24 PM
I've voted in a grocery store and in a school.  Never had a church as a polling place.


One time there was major school budget issue on the ballot- the school offered free lunch to anyone who voted.  Now, you didn't have to vote FOR the issue, but I think the school knew most people would, and voter apathy would be the main issue in preventing it from passing.  (It did pass, and lunch was delicious.) 
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Chris22 on July 09, 2015, 02:10:46 PM
I'm pretty sure the south would try to secede again of we made them all vote in mosques, surrounded by Muslim iconography.

Our worse yet, a satanic temple.

Our worst yet, a secular building like a fire station.  "Those damn atheists, always trying to push their views on everyone else."

If the atheists would like to pay for and maintain a polling place as convenient as a church, I'll be happy to vote there.

I've never voted in a church.

And the concept is really weird to me.

Sol's post makes a great point--I'd bet Christians would be offended to have to go into another place of worship to vote, why should theirs be different?

I've voted in multiple libraries and elementary school gymnasiums, and even in a mall.  Those seem perfectly adequate to me, and (to your funding point, though I'm not really sure what the point is), they are funded by the taxpayers (besides the mall, which was obviously voluntary on their part).  How is a church more convenient than a library or school? (Or any other public building.)

I'm not a hardcore Christian by any measure, but my polling place used to be an Asian church (couldn't tell if it was Christian or otherwise).  Never bothered me in the least. 

A church tends to be more convenient because there are usually more of them in a given area than libraries, and the schools have the security concerns. 
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: MDM on July 09, 2015, 02:17:13 PM
I think one reason they use churches instead of schools is because churches are by and large vacant on Tuesdays, whereas at schools you have to deal with having random voters in the same space as minors. There's safety and practical issues.

I vote in the basement of a church, and it doesn't even feel like a church. There's nothing there to indicate religion -- just a kitchen, an open space and a food pantry on the wall. I don't think the church gets any money for it. It's just a public service they provide. There just wouldn't be enough civil and public spaces if churches stopped allowing it or were banned from doing it.

I suspect justajane has given the most common scenario.  There might be a handful of counterexamples among the thousands of polling places, but it's unlikely that voting occurs in "sanctified" worship spaces.

If we are to move to a more inclusive society, people may need to deal with their own versions of "I'm uncomfortable [with] __________ --find them slightly creepy to be honest-- and don't feel like I should have to [have anything to do with them] to do my civic duty."
It's easy to agree with that statement when it matches one's own "uncomfort zone," but not so easy when one disagrees.  E.g., substitute "religious people" or "gay people" in the blank.  In either case, I respectfully suggest the uncomfortable ones build a bridge and get over it.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: enigmaT120 on July 09, 2015, 02:46:36 PM
You guys are weird. * I vote at home and drop my sealed ballot off in a special box at the county courthouse or a local library.  We call it "vote by mail" but I'm too cheap to pay the postage when I'm going right by the place anyway.

*  Yeah, I know Oregon is different.


Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gin1984 on July 09, 2015, 03:05:20 PM
I think one reason they use churches instead of schools is because churches are by and large vacant on Tuesdays, whereas at schools you have to deal with having random voters in the same space as minors. There's safety and practical issues.

I vote in the basement of a church, and it doesn't even feel like a church. There's nothing there to indicate religion -- just a kitchen, an open space and a food pantry on the wall. I don't think the church gets any money for it. It's just a public service they provide. There just wouldn't be enough civil and public spaces if churches stopped allowing it or were banned from doing it.

I suspect justajane has given the most common scenario.  There might be a handful of counterexamples among the thousands of polling places, but it's unlikely that voting occurs in "sanctified" worship spaces.

If we are to move to a more inclusive society, people may need to deal with their own versions of "I'm uncomfortable [with] __________ --find them slightly creepy to be honest-- and don't feel like I should have to [have anything to do with them] to do my civic duty."
It's easy to agree with that statement when it matches one's own "uncomfort zone," but not so easy when one disagrees.  E.g., substitute "religious people" or "gay people" in the blank.  In either case, I respectfully suggest the uncomfortable ones build a bridge and get over it.
But I think we do have to take into account the privilege of being a majority religion.  Would those in that religion be comfortable in another place of worship?  I know that for OJs, it is against their religion to enter another's place of worship.  How is that not, in effect, discrimination?
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: sol on July 09, 2015, 03:06:20 PM
think I might actually be an atheist. I've always thought I might be, but thought maybe more agnostic. I never really looked into it, but I may now.

Meh, you're not alone.  The western world is full of millions of atheists who just haven't embraced the label yet.  Lots of them still go to church.

It's getting harder and harder to convince thinking adults in a modern society to believe seriously in the supernatural.  Science and logic and reason have just done too much for them to be tossed aside in favor of voodoo chicken feet or talking snakes bearing forbidden fruits.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gray Matter on July 09, 2015, 03:12:02 PM
I think one reason they use churches instead of schools is because churches are by and large vacant on Tuesdays, whereas at schools you have to deal with having random voters in the same space as minors. There's safety and practical issues.

I vote in the basement of a church, and it doesn't even feel like a church. There's nothing there to indicate religion -- just a kitchen, an open space and a food pantry on the wall. I don't think the church gets any money for it. It's just a public service they provide. There just wouldn't be enough civil and public spaces if churches stopped allowing it or were banned from doing it.

I suspect justajane has given the most common scenario.  There might be a handful of counterexamples among the thousands of polling places, but it's unlikely that voting occurs in "sanctified" worship spaces.

If we are to move to a more inclusive society, people may need to deal with their own versions of "I'm uncomfortable [with] __________ --find them slightly creepy to be honest-- and don't feel like I should have to [have anything to do with them] to do my civic duty."
It's easy to agree with that statement when it matches one's own "uncomfort zone," but not so easy when one disagrees.  E.g., substitute "religious people" or "gay people" in the blank.  In either case, I respectfully suggest the uncomfortable ones build a bridge and get over it.

I think it's easy, when you're not the one uncomfortable, to tell others they need to get over it.  "Oh, you're uncomfortable?  Well, I'm not.  So too bad, you need to get over it."  I personally think I've gotten over it as much as I need to (I go to said place, despite my discomfort, to do my civic duty, and I don't say anything to the good citizens who are helping at the poll booth, and I've thought through the practical implications of what might be, in my opinion, a better solution and have decided it's probably not). 

And I didn't say "religious people," I said "houses of worship," so it's not the equivalent of "gay people" (also, have never had a gay person try to convert me, but whatever).  I stand by my right to feel uncomfortable in a building that is laden with pictures and statues of a dead guy with blood running down him and who many people have insisted on telling me died for my sins (oh no, he didn't!).  And I believe I am entitled to feel uncomfortable doing my civic duty in a building/institution that has, repeatedly and with heavy-handed tactics (in my opinion) overstepped the line between separation of church and state. 

I would be interested in see what would happen if more people were asked to vote in mosques, or houses of devil worship, or Wiccan sacred space.  I believe I have built the bridge I need to and I do not act on my uncomfortable feelings--I do my civic duty--but my feelings are my own to have if I want to.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gin1984 on July 09, 2015, 03:17:22 PM
I think one reason they use churches instead of schools is because churches are by and large vacant on Tuesdays, whereas at schools you have to deal with having random voters in the same space as minors. There's safety and practical issues.

I vote in the basement of a church, and it doesn't even feel like a church. There's nothing there to indicate religion -- just a kitchen, an open space and a food pantry on the wall. I don't think the church gets any money for it. It's just a public service they provide. There just wouldn't be enough civil and public spaces if churches stopped allowing it or were banned from doing it.

I suspect justajane has given the most common scenario.  There might be a handful of counterexamples among the thousands of polling places, but it's unlikely that voting occurs in "sanctified" worship spaces.

If we are to move to a more inclusive society, people may need to deal with their own versions of "I'm uncomfortable [with] __________ --find them slightly creepy to be honest-- and don't feel like I should have to [have anything to do with them] to do my civic duty."
It's easy to agree with that statement when it matches one's own "uncomfort zone," but not so easy when one disagrees.  E.g., substitute "religious people" or "gay people" in the blank.  In either case, I respectfully suggest the uncomfortable ones build a bridge and get over it.

I think it's easy, when you're not the one uncomfortable, to tell others they need to get over it.  "Oh, you're uncomfortable?  Well, I'm not.  So too bad, you need to get over it."  I personally think I've gotten over it as much as I need to (I go to said place, despite my discomfort, to do my civic duty, and I don't say anything to the good citizens who are helping at the poll booth, and I've thought through the practical implications of what might be, in my opinion, a better solution and have decided it's probably not). 

And I didn't say "religious people," I said "houses of worship," so it's not the equivalent of "gay people" (also, have never had a gay person try to convert me, but whatever).  I stand by my right to feel uncomfortable in a building that is laden with pictures and statues of a dead guy with blood running down him and who many people have insisted on telling me died for my sins (oh no, he didn't!).  And I believe I am entitled to feel uncomfortable doing my civic duty in a building/institution that has, repeatedly and with heavy-handed tactics (in my opinion) overstepped the line between separation of church and state. 

I would be interested in see what would happen if more people were asked to vote in mosques, or houses of devil worship, or Wiccan sacred space.  I believe I have built the bridge I need to and I do not act on my uncomfortable feelings--I do my civic duty--but my feelings are my own to have if I want to.
Hey now, let's be reasonable, we vote in November.  Wiccan sacred spaces are often OUTSIDE.  Are you crazy?  No voting in Wiccan space, no, no, no.  I need that backing up octopus right now. 
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: justajane on July 09, 2015, 03:34:47 PM
I see where people are coming from, and perhaps there should be an exemption or a way to switch polling places if you are offended by the one assigned to you. Perhaps this already exists in certain places.

FWIW, I just checked and the Ethical Society near my house is also a polling place. I imagine if there were more Ethical Societies than one in this metro area of 4 million that there would be more non-religious basements in which to vote. The reality is that there are a lot of churches and there needs to be a lot of polling places. There are only 3 schools in my city of 8,000 but probably 7 or so polling places. Even if we disregarded the safety issue of schools, there just aren't enough schools or public places. Then you get into the issues of long lines. If we really want to rant about something, in my city certain urban areas of town always have long lines to vote; yet in my suburban area it's easy peasy. Why so few polling places in urban disadvantaged areas?

It's true that many Christians would probably have a coronary if they had to vote in a mosque. There's a new mosque going up in a certain area of town that I wouldn't describe as the most progressive (I'm being polite here), and it totally cracks me up. It's in a mostly residential area. I can just imagine the discussions of those who can see the minaret from their back deck.  I'll have to check back when it is finished to see if it becomes a polling place.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Chris22 on July 09, 2015, 03:35:08 PM
And I believe I am entitled to feel uncomfortable doing my civic duty in a building/institution that has, repeatedly and with heavy-handed tactics (in my opinion) overstepped the line between separation of church and state. 

The church can't overstep the line of separation, it's up to the state to keep the church in check.  The church is free to pursue as much influence as it can and the state is responsible for holding it back. 
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: MDM on July 09, 2015, 04:19:16 PM
But I think we do have to take into account the privilege of being a majority religion.  Would those in that religion be comfortable in another place of worship?  I know that for OJs, it is against their religion to enter another's place of worship.  How is that not, in effect, discrimination?

Following that reasoning, do you also think it is discrimination against those who consider it "against their religion" to support gay marriage when the state enforces anti-discrimination laws?

Sorry for the multiple double negatives but I suspect most will get the gist....
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gray Matter on July 09, 2015, 04:20:27 PM
I think one reason they use churches instead of schools is because churches are by and large vacant on Tuesdays, whereas at schools you have to deal with having random voters in the same space as minors. There's safety and practical issues.

I vote in the basement of a church, and it doesn't even feel like a church. There's nothing there to indicate religion -- just a kitchen, an open space and a food pantry on the wall. I don't think the church gets any money for it. It's just a public service they provide. There just wouldn't be enough civil and public spaces if churches stopped allowing it or were banned from doing it.

I suspect justajane has given the most common scenario.  There might be a handful of counterexamples among the thousands of polling places, but it's unlikely that voting occurs in "sanctified" worship spaces.

If we are to move to a more inclusive society, people may need to deal with their own versions of "I'm uncomfortable [with] __________ --find them slightly creepy to be honest-- and don't feel like I should have to [have anything to do with them] to do my civic duty."
It's easy to agree with that statement when it matches one's own "uncomfort zone," but not so easy when one disagrees.  E.g., substitute "religious people" or "gay people" in the blank.  In either case, I respectfully suggest the uncomfortable ones build a bridge and get over it.

I think it's easy, when you're not the one uncomfortable, to tell others they need to get over it.  "Oh, you're uncomfortable?  Well, I'm not.  So too bad, you need to get over it."  I personally think I've gotten over it as much as I need to (I go to said place, despite my discomfort, to do my civic duty, and I don't say anything to the good citizens who are helping at the poll booth, and I've thought through the practical implications of what might be, in my opinion, a better solution and have decided it's probably not). 

And I didn't say "religious people," I said "houses of worship," so it's not the equivalent of "gay people" (also, have never had a gay person try to convert me, but whatever).  I stand by my right to feel uncomfortable in a building that is laden with pictures and statues of a dead guy with blood running down him and who many people have insisted on telling me died for my sins (oh no, he didn't!).  And I believe I am entitled to feel uncomfortable doing my civic duty in a building/institution that has, repeatedly and with heavy-handed tactics (in my opinion) overstepped the line between separation of church and state. 

I would be interested in see what would happen if more people were asked to vote in mosques, or houses of devil worship, or Wiccan sacred space.  I believe I have built the bridge I need to and I do not act on my uncomfortable feelings--I do my civic duty--but my feelings are my own to have if I want to.
Hey now, let's be reasonable, we vote in November.  Wiccan sacred spaces are often OUTSIDE.  Are you crazy?  No voting in Wiccan space, no, no, no.  I need that backing up octopus right now.

OK, so only Wiccan sacred space in the South, how about that?  Northerners get a free pass.  :-)
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gray Matter on July 09, 2015, 04:20:57 PM
And I believe I am entitled to feel uncomfortable doing my civic duty in a building/institution that has, repeatedly and with heavy-handed tactics (in my opinion) overstepped the line between separation of church and state. 

The church can't overstep the line of separation, it's up to the state to keep the church in check.  The church is free to pursue as much influence as it can and the state is responsible for holding it back.

We'll just have to agree to disagree on that one.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Glenstache on July 09, 2015, 04:22:47 PM
Why so few polling places in urban disadvantaged areas?

Sad to say that there is nothing surprising here:
http://www.nytimes.com/2014/09/25/opinion/long-lines-at-minority-polling-places.html?_r=0

Yet another example of systematic discrimination.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: MDM on July 09, 2015, 04:24:14 PM
I think it's easy, when you're not the one uncomfortable, to tell others they need to get over it.  "Oh, you're uncomfortable?  Well, I'm not.  So too bad, you need to get over it."

Agree completely.  That was in fact the main point I was trying to make, with the follow-up that all should be cognizant of the potential for others' discomfort and be considerate.  All the while helping them to build those bridges.  E.g., you might help others understand perspective A, while others help you understand perspective B.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gray Matter on July 09, 2015, 04:27:33 PM
I think it's easy, when you're not the one uncomfortable, to tell others they need to get over it.  "Oh, you're uncomfortable?  Well, I'm not.  So too bad, you need to get over it."

Agree completely.  That was in fact the main point I was trying to make, with the follow-up that all should be cognizant of the potential for others' discomfort and be considerate.  All the while helping them to build those bridges.  E.g., you might help others understand perspective A, while others help you understand perspective B.

OK, I'm tracking with you, and it makes sense.  Thanks for clarifying.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gin1984 on July 09, 2015, 04:35:27 PM
I think one reason they use churches instead of schools is because churches are by and large vacant on Tuesdays, whereas at schools you have to deal with having random voters in the same space as minors. There's safety and practical issues.

I vote in the basement of a church, and it doesn't even feel like a church. There's nothing there to indicate religion -- just a kitchen, an open space and a food pantry on the wall. I don't think the church gets any money for it. It's just a public service they provide. There just wouldn't be enough civil and public spaces if churches stopped allowing it or were banned from doing it.

I suspect justajane has given the most common scenario.  There might be a handful of counterexamples among the thousands of polling places, but it's unlikely that voting occurs in "sanctified" worship spaces.

If we are to move to a more inclusive society, people may need to deal with their own versions of "I'm uncomfortable [with] __________ --find them slightly creepy to be honest-- and don't feel like I should have to [have anything to do with them] to do my civic duty."
It's easy to agree with that statement when it matches one's own "uncomfort zone," but not so easy when one disagrees.  E.g., substitute "religious people" or "gay people" in the blank.  In either case, I respectfully suggest the uncomfortable ones build a bridge and get over it.

I think it's easy, when you're not the one uncomfortable, to tell others they need to get over it.  "Oh, you're uncomfortable?  Well, I'm not.  So too bad, you need to get over it."  I personally think I've gotten over it as much as I need to (I go to said place, despite my discomfort, to do my civic duty, and I don't say anything to the good citizens who are helping at the poll booth, and I've thought through the practical implications of what might be, in my opinion, a better solution and have decided it's probably not). 

And I didn't say "religious people," I said "houses of worship," so it's not the equivalent of "gay people" (also, have never had a gay person try to convert me, but whatever).  I stand by my right to feel uncomfortable in a building that is laden with pictures and statues of a dead guy with blood running down him and who many people have insisted on telling me died for my sins (oh no, he didn't!).  And I believe I am entitled to feel uncomfortable doing my civic duty in a building/institution that has, repeatedly and with heavy-handed tactics (in my opinion) overstepped the line between separation of church and state. 

I would be interested in see what would happen if more people were asked to vote in mosques, or houses of devil worship, or Wiccan sacred space.  I believe I have built the bridge I need to and I do not act on my uncomfortable feelings--I do my civic duty--but my feelings are my own to have if I want to.
Hey now, let's be reasonable, we vote in November.  Wiccan sacred spaces are often OUTSIDE.  Are you crazy?  No voting in Wiccan space, no, no, no.  I need that backing up octopus right now.

OK, so only Wiccan sacred space in the South, how about that?  Northerners get a free pass.  :-)
Lol, but winter is still cold in the south to the southerners.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Chris22 on July 09, 2015, 04:47:07 PM
And I believe I am entitled to feel uncomfortable doing my civic duty in a building/institution that has, repeatedly and with heavy-handed tactics (in my opinion) overstepped the line between separation of church and state. 

The church can't overstep the line of separation, it's up to the state to keep the church in check.  The church is free to pursue as much influence as it can and the state is responsible for holding it back.

We'll just have to agree to disagree on that one.

You can disagree, but you'll be wrong.  It's like saying my kid has too much influence over my decisionson their bedtime.  It may be true, it may not be, but ultimately it's my responsibility to make the decision, not my kid's, so if I let my kid sway me that's 100% my fault. 
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Cathy on July 09, 2015, 07:33:47 PM
It doesn't need to fall to either the church or the state to address the alleged injustice of polling stations based in churches.

Anybody aggrieved by this state of affairs is free to file a complaint in Court and have the matter adjudicated by a judge based on the law as applied to the evidence filed (which might include science showing the intimidating effects of the polling location).
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gray Matter on July 09, 2015, 09:02:39 PM
And I believe I am entitled to feel uncomfortable doing my civic duty in a building/institution that has, repeatedly and with heavy-handed tactics (in my opinion) overstepped the line between separation of church and state. 

The church can't overstep the line of separation, it's up to the state to keep the church in check.  The church is free to pursue as much influence as it can and the state is responsible for holding it back.

We'll just have to agree to disagree on that one.

You can disagree, but you'll be wrong.  It's like saying my kid has too much influence over my decisionson their bedtime.  It may be true, it may not be, but ultimately it's my responsibility to make the decision, not my kid's, so if I let my kid sway me that's 100% my fault.

From a legal perspective, of course you are right--churches are under no obligation to respect separation of church and state, and are certainly free to pursue their own interests.  However (and I know this makes me sound idealistic) from an ethical perspective, I think they have a responsibility to self-govern.  I don't expect you, or others, to agree with me, thus the "agree to disagree" thing.  I'm not much for "every man for himself" or "pursue your own interests until someone stops you" as an approach to life.  That doesn't make me a very good capitalist, I know, but it is still my opinion about how organizations ought to comport themselves, and as such, I can't be "wrong" (though you can think I am).

Also, the government is made up of adults, as is the church (those governing it, anyway), so your analogy is not compelling to me.  The relationship between churches and state is not that of parent/child, in my opinion.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Gin1984 on July 09, 2015, 10:07:06 PM
And I believe I am entitled to feel uncomfortable doing my civic duty in a building/institution that has, repeatedly and with heavy-handed tactics (in my opinion) overstepped the line between separation of church and state. 

The church can't overstep the line of separation, it's up to the state to keep the church in check.  The church is free to pursue as much influence as it can and the state is responsible for holding it back.

We'll just have to agree to disagree on that one.

You can disagree, but you'll be wrong.  It's like saying my kid has too much influence over my decisionson their bedtime.  It may be true, it may not be, but ultimately it's my responsibility to make the decision, not my kid's, so if I let my kid sway me that's 100% my fault.

From a legal perspective, of course you are right--churches are under no obligation to respect separation of church and state, and are certainly free to pursue their own interests.  However (and I know this makes me sound idealistic) from an ethical perspective, I think they have a responsibility to self-govern.  I don't expect you, or others, to agree with me, thus the "agree to disagree" thing.  I'm not much for "every man for himself" or "pursue your own interests until someone stops you" as an approach to life.  That doesn't make me a very good capitalist, I know, but it is still my opinion about how organizations ought to comport themselves, and as such, I can't be "wrong" (though you can think I am).

Also, the government is made up of adults, as is the church (those governing it, anyway), so your analogy is not compelling to me.  The relationship between churches and state is not that of parent/child, in my opinion.
And given that there has been at least one judge that said the government can't tell the church what to do, I'd hope the church would pretend to act like adults and respect the laws of the land.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: KodeBlue on July 14, 2015, 05:47:53 PM
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Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: sol on July 14, 2015, 07:31:34 PM
Kim Davis is the county clerk from Kentucky who has decided to stop issuing marriage licenses because she believes God forbids gay people from getting married.  She believes she has a constitutionally protected right to refuse to do her job.

Which is sort of true, I guess.  If a firefighter decides that fighting fires is against his religion, no one is going to force him to pick up a hose.  Probably not going to keep him on staff as a firefighter, either.

So the only question I have is this:  why does Kim Davis still have a job?
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on July 14, 2015, 07:52:31 PM
Kim Davis is the county clerk from Kentucky who has decided to stop issuing marriage licenses because she believes God forbids gay people from getting married.  She believes she has a constitutionally protected right to refuse to do her job.

Which is sort of true, I guess.  If a firefighter decides that fighting fires is against his religion, no one is going to force him to pick up a hose.  Probably not going to keep him on staff as a firefighter, either.

So the only question I have is this:  why does Kim Davis still have a job?

I'm sure Kim Davis would support tax dollars paying the salaries of other people who refuse to do their jobs too. I'm looking forward to the garbage man refusing to pick up her trash. And the county payroll officer refusing to cut her paycheck. I'm sure Kim Davis would also support a law requiring grocery stores to pay Muslims who work at check-out counters but refuse to touch meat or alcohol. And requiring telecommunications firms to pay Amish people who refuse to use technology.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Cathy on July 14, 2015, 07:58:01 PM
So the only question I have is this:  why does Kim Davis still have a job?

The short answer is that she can only be removed in accordance with the law. The position of County Court Clerk is an elected office created by § 99 of the Constitution of Kentucky. The position appears to be commonly referred to as "county clerk".

In accordance with the Constitution, Kim Davis was duly elected through the democratic process for a term of 4 years by the people of Rowan County, Kentucky. The main way that she can be removed is through the process codified at §§ 66-68 of the Constitution, which requires an impeachment by the Kentucky House of Representatives followed by the concurrence of two-thirds of the members present of the Senate of Kentucky.

This is not an "at-will employment" situation where she can just be summarily fired.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: MDM on July 14, 2015, 08:10:58 PM
Yup, Kim Davis, another one of those stereotypical good ol' gal Democrats who...oh, wait...that doesn't fit the stereotype, does it?
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on July 15, 2015, 06:21:44 AM
Yup, Kim Davis, another one of those stereotypical good ol' gal Democrats who...oh, wait...that doesn't fit the stereotype, does it?

It actually does, especially in KY. Gay rights issues tended to be more divided along party lines, but that's generally due to the evangelical religious affiliations and regional relationships with party ID (as discussed at length in this thread). So I would expect an evangelical in the South to be more likely to behave this way regardless of party. And local officials are not as tightly tied to the mainstream of the party--I don't even have any idea who my county clerk is, let alone their views on same-sex marriage. But I do know for my governor, congressional representatives, etc.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: MDM on July 15, 2015, 09:07:56 AM
Yup, Kim Davis, another one of those stereotypical good ol' gal Democrats who...oh, wait...that doesn't fit the stereotype, does it?

It actually does, especially in KY. Gay rights issues tended to be more divided along party lines, but that's generally due to the evangelical religious affiliations and regional relationships with party ID (as discussed at length in this thread). So I would expect an evangelical in the South to be more likely to behave this way regardless of party. And local officials are not as tightly tied to the mainstream of the party--I don't even have any idea who my county clerk is, let alone their views on same-sex marriage. But I do know for my governor, congressional representatives, etc.

So you're saying southern Democrats are expected to be against same sex marriage? 

Or is it only that those people who are against same sex marriage are the ones against same sex marriage, thus we shouldn't try to stereotype any diverse group of people?  I could agree with that.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: forummm on July 15, 2015, 09:23:42 AM
Yup, Kim Davis, another one of those stereotypical good ol' gal Democrats who...oh, wait...that doesn't fit the stereotype, does it?

It actually does, especially in KY. Gay rights issues tended to be more divided along party lines, but that's generally due to the evangelical religious affiliations and regional relationships with party ID (as discussed at length in this thread). So I would expect an evangelical in the South to be more likely to behave this way regardless of party. And local officials are not as tightly tied to the mainstream of the party--I don't even have any idea who my county clerk is, let alone their views on same-sex marriage. But I do know for my governor, congressional representatives, etc.

So you're saying southern Democrats are expected to be against same sex marriage? 

Or is it only that those people who are against same sex marriage are the ones against same sex marriage, thus we shouldn't try to stereotype any diverse group of people?  I could agree with that.

I was providing nuanced discussion of the issue. Local officials are less likely to be lined up with their policy opinions to the national party. Regional differences in opinions on issues are also a factor. And religious affiliation is the most strong on this issue. Same-sex marriage was definitely somewhat more favorable amongst Democrats than Republicans, but it was never an 80/20 D and 20/80 R split like many issues are. Even Obama was theoretically against it (secretly in favor, publicly pretending to be not in favor) until a few years ago. So I wouldn't be surprised to find out that a southern evangelical Democrat was against same-sex marriage. That's all.

If your point is that stereotypes don't apply to 100% of people in the stereotyped demographic, no one will disagree with that.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: Rural on July 15, 2015, 07:10:34 PM
Yup, Kim Davis, another one of those stereotypical good ol' gal Democrats who...oh, wait...that doesn't fit the stereotype, does it?

It actually does, especially in KY. Gay rights issues tended to be more divided along party lines, but that's generally due to the evangelical religious affiliations and regional relationships with party ID (as discussed at length in this thread). So I would expect an evangelical in the South to be more likely to behave this way regardless of party. And local officials are not as tightly tied to the mainstream of the party--I don't even have any idea who my county clerk is, let alone their views on same-sex marriage. But I do know for my governor, congressional representatives, etc.

So you're saying southern Democrats are expected to be against same sex marriage? 

Or is it only that those people who are against same sex marriage are the ones against same sex marriage, thus we shouldn't try to stereotype any diverse group of people?  I could agree with that.

I was providing nuanced discussion of the issue. Local officials are less likely to be lined up with their policy opinions to the national party. Regional differences in opinions on issues are also a factor. And religious affiliation is the most strong on this issue. Same-sex marriage was definitely somewhat more favorable amongst Democrats than Republicans, but it was never an 80/20 D and 20/80 R split like many issues are. Even Obama was theoretically against it (secretly in favor, publicly pretending to be not in favor) until a few years ago. So I wouldn't be surprised to find out that a southern evangelical Democrat was against same-sex marriage. That's all.

If your point is that stereotypes don't apply to 100% of people in the stereotyped demographic, no one will disagree with that.


There's still a contingent of Yellow Dog Democrats in the Deep South, especially rural areas and especially in local elections. I do think that's fading, especially over the last 5-8 years, but it still exists. There's a strong objection to voting for the party of Lincoln in the historical roots of the Yellow Dogs, but that's mostly been forgotten except by historians. Mostly, though, I think the old diehards are just plain getting old and dying out.


This has been a publice service announcement factual footnote that in no way condones the bigotry of folks like Kim Davis regardless of what party they joined most recently.
Title: Re: SCOTUS rules same sex marriage is constitutional right
Post by: MDM on July 15, 2015, 07:26:57 PM
If your point is that stereotypes don't apply to 100% of people in the stereotyped demographic, no one will disagree with that.

If only that were true.  Good to know you recognize that. 

Too many people, however, still lump all the "damn democrats", "rascally republicans", etc., together - and talk primarily with others who think likewise in their own echo chambers.