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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #350 on: February 10, 2018, 09:24:19 AM »
Is your husband the United Kingdom?

Niiiiiice. I lol'd.

And welcome if you're new/post more if you're a lurker.

Cosign.  Funniest response I've ever seen on this forum.
Thanks! I've been around for a while but haven't posted much. I love this thread though.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #351 on: February 11, 2018, 01:13:13 AM »
Good ol Savage Love..
 https://www.thestranger.com/slog/2018/01/30/25763823/savage-love-letter-of-the-day-time-management-for-a-poly-newb/comments

That's a "neat" move, get caught cheating, then convince your wife that you're really poly, then spend more time with your girlfriend.  I'm not sure how he can even say he loves his wife.  It sounds like he loves having someone to split the chores with.

Oof. This letter hit too close to home. After my husband broke up with me, he offered us continue to live together, have sex together, and share chores together, but that otherwise he had no limitations on him. Funny I didn't take him up on that offer. Ironically, there are parts of me that still love him. But I can't be with him because he doesn't have a clue what a real relationship is, which includes among many, treating your partner with respect.

I read this post a week ago, and reading it again now still has me shaking my head. He left your marriage but still wanted to be effectively married? And he seriously thought you'd say yes to that?

Mind. Blown. Glad you've moved on @partgypsy

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« Reply #352 on: February 12, 2018, 02:54:08 AM »
Mind. Blown. Glad you've moved on @partgypsy

It wasn't till @marty998 and I were talking about this that I realised (well, he pointed out) that you are @partgypsy. You'll always be partygypsy to me!

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« Reply #353 on: February 12, 2018, 03:06:23 AM »
Thought of this thread tonight while watching Dirty Money: Payday on Netflix.

Scott Tucker is the king of "OP is the only one who doesn't see it".

Despite a record judgment from the FTC and a 16-year prison sentence for illegal payday lending, he remains convinced that he is the victim.

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« Reply #354 on: February 12, 2018, 06:20:38 AM »
Mind. Blown. Glad you've moved on @partgypsy

It wasn't till @marty998 and I were talking about this that I realised (well, he pointed out) that you are @partgypsy. You'll always be partygypsy to me!

: )  It's because on another forum I wanted to use gypsy as my handle, but someone already had it, so I used part-gypsy instead. I'm ok with being partygypsy too!

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #355 on: February 12, 2018, 06:26:28 AM »
Mind. Blown. Glad you've moved on @partgypsy

It wasn't till @marty998 and I were talking about this that I realised (well, he pointed out) that you are @partgypsy. You'll always be partygypsy to me!
OMG, me too! Mind.Blown. Sorry, "part" gypsy. This changes everything!

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« Reply #356 on: February 12, 2018, 06:51:28 AM »
Mind. Blown. Glad you've moved on @partgypsy

It wasn't till @marty998 and I were talking about this that I realised (well, he pointed out) that you are @partgypsy. You'll always be partygypsy to me!

OMG add me to that list too!

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #357 on: February 12, 2018, 12:08:13 PM »
Mind. Blown. Glad you've moved on @partgypsy

It wasn't till @marty998 and I were talking about this that I realised (well, he pointed out) that you are @partgypsy. You'll always be partygypsy to me!
OMG, me too! Mind.Blown. Sorry, "part" gypsy. This changes everything!

I've always read it as "party gypsy" as well!  Oh that is great!  If you ever want to change your handle, go for PartyGypsy!

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #358 on: February 12, 2018, 01:56:04 PM »
Mind. Blown. Glad you've moved on @partgypsy

It wasn't till @marty998 and I were talking about this that I realised (well, he pointed out) that you are @partgypsy. You'll always be partygypsy to me!
OMG, me too! Mind.Blown. Sorry, "part" gypsy. This changes everything!

I've always read it as "party gypsy" as well!  Oh that is great!  If you ever want to change your handle, go for PartyGypsy!

I feel like my life has been a lie.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #359 on: February 12, 2018, 02:17:19 PM »
Mind. Blown. Glad you've moved on @partgypsy

It wasn't till @marty998 and I were talking about this that I realised (well, he pointed out) that you are @partgypsy. You'll always be partygypsy to me!
OMG, me too! Mind.Blown. Sorry, "part" gypsy. This changes everything!

I've always read it as "party gypsy" as well!  Oh that is great!  If you ever want to change your handle, go for PartyGypsy!

I feel like my life has been a lie.

Agreed.  I can't even trust my own eyes.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #360 on: February 12, 2018, 05:59:57 PM »
Mind. Blown. Glad you've moved on @partgypsy

It wasn't till @marty998 and I were talking about this that I realised (well, he pointed out) that you are @partgypsy. You'll always be partygypsy to me!
OMG, me too! Mind.Blown. Sorry, "part" gypsy. This changes everything!

I've always read it as "party gypsy" as well!  Oh that is great!  If you ever want to change your handle, go for PartyGypsy!

I feel like my life has been a lie.

Agreed.  I can't even trust my own eyes.


So, what you're all saying is that, in this case, the OP is virtually the only one who did see it. :P

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #361 on: February 13, 2018, 08:03:58 AM »
Mind. Blown. Glad you've moved on @partgypsy

It wasn't till @marty998 and I were talking about this that I realised (well, he pointed out) that you are @partgypsy. You'll always be partygypsy to me!
OMG, me too! Mind.Blown. Sorry, "part" gypsy. This changes everything!

I've always read it as "party gypsy" as well!  Oh that is great!  If you ever want to change your handle, go for PartyGypsy!

I feel like my life has been a lie.

Agreed.  I can't even trust my own eyes.


So, what you're all saying is that, in this case, the OP is virtually the only one who did see it. :P

That's it. Thread over. We're done. We've won! Or lost. I can't really tell.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #362 on: February 13, 2018, 08:38:09 AM »
Mind. Blown. Glad you've moved on @partgypsy

It wasn't till @marty998 and I were talking about this that I realised (well, he pointed out) that you are @partgypsy. You'll always be partygypsy to me!
OMG, me too! Mind.Blown. Sorry, "part" gypsy. This changes everything!

I've always read it as "party gypsy" as well!  Oh that is great!  If you ever want to change your handle, go for PartyGypsy!

I feel like my life has been a lie.

Agreed.  I can't even trust my own eyes.


So, what you're all saying is that, in this case, the OP is virtually the only one who did see it. :P

lol. And by the way I'M Keyser Soze

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #363 on: March 01, 2018, 03:54:33 PM »
PTF, fo sho

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #364 on: March 01, 2018, 03:57:02 PM »
This thread got so great so fast, I'm sort of dizzy.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #365 on: March 13, 2018, 08:59:35 AM »
Dear Prudence today...  https://slate.com/human-interest/2018/03/dear-prudence-help-im-about-to-quit-my-dream-job.html

Second writer just wants to be able to throw away his higher salary on his expensive hobbies and get his wife to pay for his other priorities (his folks) because she has cheap hobbies and saves much of her smaller salary. Bonus: he mocks her when she helps out her family out of her salary.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #366 on: March 13, 2018, 09:09:54 AM »
Dear Prudence today...  https://slate.com/human-interest/2018/03/dear-prudence-help-im-about-to-quit-my-dream-job.html

Second writer just wants to be able to throw away his higher salary on his expensive hobbies and get his wife to pay for his other priorities (his folks) because she has cheap hobbies and saves much of her smaller salary. Bonus: he mocks her when she helps out her family out of her salary.

I dunno, he seemed somewhat aware that he was going to look stupid, but felt it was worth the cost. Whether or not he's willing to cut back on his own crap to make up for it ....

Edit: the last question in that post totally gutted me

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #367 on: March 13, 2018, 05:44:16 PM »
Dear Prudence today...  https://slate.com/human-interest/2018/03/dear-prudence-help-im-about-to-quit-my-dream-job.html

Second writer just wants to be able to throw away his higher salary on his expensive hobbies and get his wife to pay for his other priorities (his folks) because she has cheap hobbies and saves much of her smaller salary. Bonus: he mocks her when she helps out her family out of her salary.

If I were the wife, I'd tell him to sell some of his toys if he wants to help his parents. And I'd wonder why he thinks it's OK to demand my money for his parents, and why he thinks they have a say in our marital finances.  Just because you ate all your candy at once and I saved some of mine does not make me obligated to give you any.

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« Reply #368 on: March 14, 2018, 10:37:04 AM »
Dear Prudence today...  https://slate.com/human-interest/2018/03/dear-prudence-help-im-about-to-quit-my-dream-job.html

Second writer just wants to be able to throw away his higher salary on his expensive hobbies and get his wife to pay for his other priorities (his folks) because she has cheap hobbies and saves much of her smaller salary. Bonus: he mocks her when she helps out her family out of her salary.

If I were the wife, I'd tell him to sell some of his toys if he wants to help his parents. And I'd wonder why he thinks it's OK to demand my money for his parents, and why he thinks they have a say in our marital finances.  Just because you ate all your candy at once and I saved some of mine does not make me obligated to give you any.
It's totally reasonable for him to request it!  It's just also totally reasonable for her to require an established payment plan and acceptable interest rate... she might want to do a credit check, too.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #369 on: March 14, 2018, 12:36:05 PM »
It would suck to be her, in that scenario. She has to balance the ridiculousness of being asked for money after being the frugal one and the one mocked for helping her family against her (possible) desire to maintain her marriage. Tough spot to be in.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #370 on: March 15, 2018, 01:57:07 AM »
I'd need that request to come with a BIG helping of "I recognise I was being an ass and I'm sorry" and "this is how I'm going to pay you back and sort out my financial shit". The OP seems to focus on losing face rather than having been an ass.

Also, your family are Facebook stalking you and demanding money? Fewer surprises that OP turned out with a blind spot being raised in that environment.

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« Reply #371 on: March 15, 2018, 03:16:35 AM »
Yeah, it’s not a crazy request on it’s face except the tone is bad and the choices they’ve made about setting up their finances could mean they already don’t really respect each other’s approach to money much.

Both my family and my husbands family have needed cash, not huge amounts, a few times and it’s more likely to come from my personal accounts than his because I fritter less away but we have a joint plan that acknowledges that and has a joint budget category for bailouts of this sort.


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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #374 on: March 15, 2018, 08:49:23 AM »
I'd like to submit the entire r/ChoosingBeggars subreddit.

A couple of highlights:

I need a free 100-mile bus trip for 20 people

I can't afford food but I can buy festival tickets for hundreds of dollars

Ooo, sounds promising.

The nerve of that lady in the first post! I mean, she actually had some people volunteer and offer help, and all she could say was NEXT!!!

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #375 on: March 15, 2018, 10:10:44 AM »
I'd like to submit the entire r/ChoosingBeggars subreddit.

A couple of highlights:

I need a free 100-mile bus trip for 20 people

I can't afford food but I can buy festival tickets for hundreds of dollars

Ooo, sounds promising.

The nerve of that lady in the first post! I mean, she actually had some people volunteer and offer help, and all she could say was NEXT!!!
I was pretty amazed she could say "Next!" expecting to get a better offer. 

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #376 on: March 15, 2018, 10:21:01 AM »
I'd like to submit the entire r/ChoosingBeggars subreddit.

A couple of highlights:

I need a free 100-mile bus trip for 20 people

I can't afford food but I can buy festival tickets for hundreds of dollars

Ooo, sounds promising.

The nerve of that lady in the first post! I mean, she actually had some people volunteer and offer help, and all she could say was NEXT!!!
I was pretty amazed she could say "Next!" expecting to get a better offer.

I'm amazed that people kept offering to help!

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #377 on: March 15, 2018, 10:22:18 AM »
I'd like to submit the entire r/ChoosingBeggars subreddit.

A couple of highlights:

I need a free 100-mile bus trip for 20 people

I can't afford food but I can buy festival tickets for hundreds of dollars

Ooo, sounds promising.

The nerve of that lady in the first post! I mean, she actually had some people volunteer and offer help, and all she could say was NEXT!!!
I was pretty amazed she could say "Next!" expecting to get a better offer.

I'm amazed that people kept offering to help!

Right? I would have been SOOOO tempted to offer EXACTLY what she needed and then not show up.

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« Reply #378 on: March 15, 2018, 02:19:50 PM »
I'd like to submit the entire r/ChoosingBeggars subreddit.

A couple of highlights:

I need a free 100-mile bus trip for 20 people

I can't afford food but I can buy festival tickets for hundreds of dollars

Ooo, sounds promising.

The nerve of that lady in the first post! I mean, she actually had some people volunteer and offer help, and all she could say was NEXT!!!
I was pretty amazed she could say "Next!" expecting to get a better offer.

I'm amazed that people kept offering to help!

Right? I would have been SOOOO tempted to offer EXACTLY what she needed and then not show up.


I just saw a few of the Reddit comments and they were hilarious: "if she's so devout, why not just let Jesus take the wheel?" NEXT!

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #379 on: March 15, 2018, 02:42:14 PM »

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #380 on: March 16, 2018, 10:16:46 PM »
It's for church, honey. Don't need the attitude. NEXT!

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #381 on: March 18, 2018, 01:49:31 AM »
2. Repeated assertions about her own awesomeness

Oh, + fucking 1.

I've read journals on here with fewer personal pronouns.

Yes, I'm 40 and I have been in perfect shape and health my entire life - in the gym all the time, eating only healthy stuff, always watching my lifestyle. So, I look and feel 30 - inside and out and better than many 25-year olds. I get a lot of dates but I'm picky because I worked hard for everything in my life. Could I just have any man that comes into my life, actually YES - I have many of those options but for what? -Just to have a mediocre sperm donor that's lukewarm about how he feels about me, isn't super healthy, mediocre looks and finances, and also looking for a second mother - NO THANKS! I have friends that have those kinds of men in their life - no thanks!  This may sound selfish, yet again but here it is: - I look great and I will say life is easier as a beautiful person. I want a gorgeous child and I get to choose that. With money, I can do enough on my own without a deadbeat man-child around. I don't have the time and energy to raise a 40+ year old man that never wants to grow up. ... anyway... thank you for your input. The experience on this forum has been quite eye-opening and terrifying as to how evil some people can be.

And I am the most caring, kind person I know (I know it may not look that way from these posts but I am), so many of my local and out-of-state friends offered to help and that's so heartwarming.

As I said, I am an immigrant who started at negative in a brand new country and English isn't my native language, but I do speak 3 other ones - two of them fluently...

Of course I will survive - I'm the strongest person I know, I am a fighter and I have full confidence in my health and ability to get a well=paying job and hold it down.

If she is so convinced of her own awesomeness at absolutely everything, why is she on here asking for our permission, then casting aspersions when she doesn't get it?


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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #382 on: March 18, 2018, 02:18:29 AM »
Holy shit, it’s terrifying that you can successfully survive four decades with that little self-awareness!

*grabs popcorn*

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #383 on: March 18, 2018, 07:18:33 AM »
I understand the sentiment, and as a mother of two handicapped kids (with no genetic cause), I could pile onto the discussion about preparredness. But since Eva_Eva has a thread on this forum where this discussion could be taken in the open, and where she could be allowed to defend herself, I don't thing it is OK to have another discussion in a different thread. Especially when it is more mocking than discussion.

Please keep things sivil.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #384 on: March 18, 2018, 08:26:16 AM »
Since you mentioned it, something that occurred to me reading that other thread is that the likelihood of having a Downs Syndrome baby is much higher above a certain age.  From the tone of the OP this is largely going to be an unacceptable turn of events since there is often a real guilt-factor and personalization for the parent where that occurs; they blame themselves even if that is not warranted.  The Downs baby will require enormous effort and special lifelong care.  I don't think the poster is considering anything less than perfection.  This comment is not worth posting on Eva's thread, I can hear the tomatoes being hurled at my head already in her replies so I won't bother. 

She is really not seeking an understanding of all the nuances that go into this decision from a broad and varied audience in order to come to a sound conclusion.  She should just post her dream on facebook and collect the likes.   

Since this thread is entirely about other threads it is logical that those threads are discussed here.  That it is our own forum makes it a little stickier, but nonetheless that is the fact.     

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #385 on: March 18, 2018, 09:11:24 AM »

Yes, I'm 40 and I have been in perfect shape and health my entire life - in the gym all the time, eating only healthy stuff, always watching my lifestyle. So, I look and feel 30 - inside and out and better than many 25-year olds. I get a lot of dates but I'm picky because I worked hard for everything in my life. Could I just have any man that comes into my life, actually YES - I have many of those options but for what? -Just to have a mediocre sperm donor that's lukewarm about how he feels about me, isn't super healthy, mediocre looks and finances, and also looking for a second mother - NO THANKS! I have friends that have those kinds of men in their life - no thanks!  This may sound selfish, yet again but here it is: - I look great and I will say life is easier as a beautiful person. I want a gorgeous child and I get to choose that. With money, I can do enough on my own without a deadbeat man-child around. I don't have the time and energy to raise a 40+ year old man that never wants to grow up. ... anyway... thank you for your input. The experience on this forum has been quite eye-opening and terrifying as to how evil some people can be.

Pity she can't fissiparate.  The world would be so much better off. 

As it is, the genetics of looks is not all that assured; we all know fabulously sensational movie-star couples that somehow fail to produce offspring that are 11 on the Celestial Beauty Scale.  "I want a gorgeous child and I get to choose that"?  How is this not monstrous hubris?  How will a small child who (of necessity, given this mother) has sub-maternal-quality genes be treated by a mother whose perfection is publicly announced?

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #386 on: March 18, 2018, 01:29:02 PM »
I think she was mostly misunderstood, and that English isn't her first language.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #387 on: March 18, 2018, 01:50:46 PM »
I think she was mostly misunderstood, and that English isn't her first language.

I don't think she was misunderstood.  She keeps calling the people who provide any caution for financial planning "evil."  And she says, "I have zero concerns right now and I will financially prepare to deal with problems when they arise, not before."  So then why is she on this forum asking for input if she has no concerns and doesn't want to plan for any potential problems?  I agree with englishteacheralex and mustachepungoeshere.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #388 on: March 18, 2018, 02:06:09 PM »
I think she was mostly misunderstood, and that English isn't her first language.

I don't think she was misunderstood.  She keeps calling the people who provide any caution for financial planning "evil."  And she says, "I have zero concerns right now and I will financially prepare to deal with problems when they arise, not before."  So then why is she on this forum asking for input if she has no concerns and doesn't want to plan for any potential problems?  I agree with englishteacheralex and mustachepungoeshere.
Wow! I'm so glad I found this. The mother-to-be in question made what I thought was an unnecessarily snarky comment. When I called her out, whoa, did I get a load of [mostly irrelevant] shit dumped on my head! I gave myself a 24 hour time out before responding, but I'm still fuming. Thanks to this thread for providing a much-needed pressure relief valve. Whew! I needed that!

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #389 on: March 18, 2018, 03:40:27 PM »
I understand the sentiment, and as a mother of two handicapped kids (with no genetic cause), I could pile onto the discussion about preparredness. But since Eva_Eva has a thread on this forum where this discussion could be taken in the open, and where she could be allowed to defend herself, I don't thing it is OK to have another discussion in a different thread. Especially when it is more mocking than discussion.

Please keep things sivil.

This.

I think mocking a member here "behind their back" violates forum rule #1, Don't Be A Jerk.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #390 on: March 18, 2018, 03:46:16 PM »
I'm feeling guilty. Gonna delete my snarky post.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #391 on: March 18, 2018, 05:37:16 PM »
Okay. I have also deleted my post.

But, honest question, why is the Anti-Mustiachian Wall of Shame & Comedy allowed? It's okay to mock people on the internet, so long as they aren't members here?

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #392 on: March 18, 2018, 05:40:39 PM »
It's funny. Whenever I see this thread, I immediately think of a bunch of posts on the MMM forum that I would class as "OP doesn't get it." And I always laughed at the thought that someday, someone would link one to this thread.


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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #393 on: March 18, 2018, 05:44:26 PM »
It's funny. Whenever I see this thread, I immediately think of a bunch of posts on the MMM forum that I would class as "OP doesn't get it." And I always laughed at the thought that someday, someone would link one to this thread.

I kinda thought that's what the thread was originally for, but later branched out to the larger world. Guess I should have read the whole thing. Well, whoops ;)

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #394 on: March 18, 2018, 05:54:25 PM »
Okay. I have also deleted my post.

But, honest question, why is the Anti-Mustiachian Wall of Shame & Comedy allowed? It's okay to mock people on the internet, so long as they aren't members here?

I'm sure the line between the two varies for everyone, but for me, if you're mocking someone where they are reasonably likely to read what you've written, that's over the line of nasty behaviour. Whereas writing "my coworker thinks I should buy a bigger car for my dogs, LOL" in Overheard at Work isn't likely to be read by said coworker.

I would also posit that there is a big difference between someone writing "my coworkers are so spendy! they all buy lunch every day and drive SUVs!" versus "let's all mock this woman because she thinks she's attractive". One feels more... shitty... than the other to me.

But these are my personal opinions, others may feel differently.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #395 on: March 19, 2018, 01:21:01 AM »
I understand the sentiment, and as a mother of two handicapped kids (with no genetic cause), I could pile onto the discussion about preparredness. But since Eva_Eva has a thread on this forum where this discussion could be taken in the open, and where she could be allowed to defend herself, I don't thing it is OK to have another discussion in a different thread. Especially when it is more mocking than discussion.

Please keep things sivil.

This.

I think mocking a member here "behind their back" violates forum rule #1, Don't Be A Jerk.
Pretty sure I'm not mocking her, but I appreciate your point, gaja. I re-read my comment above and I'm going to let it stand. If anyone thinks otherwise, I'm willing to listen respectfully.

As to keeping things civil, the fact that many people have taken the time to write thoughtful comments in her journal that are based on real-life experience and a willingness to help, only to have them be rejected (and not politely) makes it perfectly okay to move their frustrations to this thread. it is patently obvious that she doesn't "get" the enormity of what she wants approval to do in any circumstance, let alone with her precarious finances. That's what this thread is for.

I appreciate your comments, HAH and gaja. I'm going to think about my response to E_E for another day, but I will not let it pass undefended.

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OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #396 on: March 19, 2018, 01:21:06 AM »
I would also posit that there is a big difference between someone writing "my coworkers are so spendy! they all buy lunch every day and drive SUVs!" versus "let's all mock this woman because she thinks she's attractive". One feels more... shitty... than the other to me.

But these are my personal opinions, others may feel differently.

I don’t understand how one of those things is any better than the other.
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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #397 on: March 19, 2018, 01:24:55 AM »
I would also posit that there is a big difference between someone writing "my coworkers are so spendy! they all buy lunch every day and drive SUVs!" versus "let's all mock this woman because she thinks she's attractive". One feels more... shitty... than the other to me.

But these are my personal opinions, others may feel differently.

I donít understand how one of those things is any better than the other.

If there's no difference to you, there's no difference to you. I was attempting to answer Sailor Sam's question from my point of view.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #398 on: March 19, 2018, 09:40:18 AM »
I would also posit that there is a big difference between someone writing "my coworkers are so spendy! they all buy lunch every day and drive SUVs!" versus "let's all mock this woman because she thinks she's attractive". One feels more... shitty... than the other to me.

But these are my personal opinions, others may feel differently.

I donít understand how one of those things is any better than the other.
I don't know about better or worse, but this is a financial forum.  It seems more appropriate to make light of financial decisions.

Brining it back to finances, more attractive people do make more money on average.  If attractive people are more likely to have attractive children, then you're giving your children a head start financially by finding another attractive person to procreate with.

http://www.businessinsider.com/a-few-surprising-facts-about-physical-attractiveness-and-income-2011-11

This would fall under, I don't agree with how the world works here, but since I know how it works, I'm going to try to take advantage of it.  Which I think is acceptable.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #399 on: March 19, 2018, 10:11:32 AM »
This would fall under, I don't agree with how the world works here, but since I know how it works, I'm going to try to take advantage of it.  Which I think is acceptable.
I think it is more than acceptable. It's learning the rules so you can use them to your advantage. Isn't that the mustachian way?