The problem here is that before one can put the "having a successful relationship" skillset into use, one must first manage to attract someone with whom to have the relationship. It doesn't matter if you are (or potentially could be) a world-class master at relationships if your attraction skillset is negligible.
ha - makes me think of the book The Game by Niel Struass (which will definetly be required reading before dating age if I ever have a daughter). The people who are the absolute best at attraction turn out to be beyond awful at relationships. Totoro is probably on to something.
Is that really such a problem? This is the age of internet dating!
That said - and going back to a question from a while ago...
I've got a question for all the guys out there who are lamenting the fact that many (but not all) women think that men with money are attractive.
Aren't you implicitly assuming that women are, to a degree, interchangeable? My thought is, if I were looking for a partner, and a potential partner thought that my worth and attractiveness were defined by how much money I am willing to spend on them, that person would not be a good match for me.
...I certainly don't lament that consumer minded women aren't interested in me, because, of course, its mutual.
I suppose if I lament anything, its that some women - who, in my opinion, I have a lot in common with and might potentially connect with - automatically make certain assumptions about a person who lives in an RV in a trailer park (much as we make certain assumptions about Taco Bell guy). Those assumptions may be totally subconscious, but if a person is scanning dating profiles or deciding who to talk more to at a party, they have to use some filter to figure out who to focus on, because there are tens of thousands of potentially eligible singles in any given area.
Another interesting one is height - while its equivalent in some ways to men's focus on a potential partner's fat percentage, its different in that there is this whole segment of culture devoted to reassuring women that its ok to have a little excess fat, that they can still be beautiful, who attack the modeling, advertising, and porn industries for only showing thin women, and chastise men for focusing on it.
There is really no equivalent to that to encourage women to be introspective about their preference for height in a partner. Add on top of that that, unlike excess fat, height is totally out of a person's control and being short isn't a health risk, while being overweight is.
The bottom range of heights listed as attractive by the average (US) woman starts exactly at the height which is average for (US) men - automatically excluding fully half of all males. Even the shortest women want a man at least 5'7", which is already above the 25th percentile.
Yes, but I suppose that has nothing to do with the initial money question. Just lamenting the filters in general.
I think this and my posts are really deviating from the OPs topic - sorry!
Thats ok! Its all interesting. I never had any particular point. I just wanted to encourage the discussion.
By the way, great name!
I liked that movie a lot. Especially the cat bus.