Yeah, it's an ambiguous convention. I have mixed feelings about it. I really like my marriage. But a lot of people get into bad ones and it makes their lives miserable. It's very helpful for when people are financial partners and make personal sacrifices for the benefit of the family unit. Having one standard set of rules that people can opt into does decrease the cost of lawyers getting involved to make customized contracts for each couple. But it does irritate me that having the convention is accompanied by there being a societal expectation that people should participate in it. It's one of those things where relationships have to go through a lot of stress in order to not conform to norms because the parties to the relationship come into it with their own societally induced expectations.But it works for me.
Quote from: forummm on June 27, 2015, 02:18:34 PMYeah, it's an ambiguous convention. I have mixed feelings about it. I really like my marriage. But a lot of people get into bad ones and it makes their lives miserable. It's very helpful for when people are financial partners and make personal sacrifices for the benefit of the family unit. Having one standard set of rules that people can opt into does decrease the cost of lawyers getting involved to make customized contracts for each couple. But it does irritate me that having the convention is accompanied by there being a societal expectation that people should participate in it. It's one of those things where relationships have to go through a lot of stress in order to not conform to norms because the parties to the relationship come into it with their own societally induced expectations.But it works for me.I feel the same way. I was very anti-marriage when I was younger. Then I got married to the wrong person and was even more against marriage, for me personally. Then I met Mr. Awesome, and eventually overcame my skittishness and married the hell out of him. I am so deliriously happy to be married to him, I can't even tell you. Marriage can be a horrible thing, and it can be a wonderful thing. I just want everyone to have the opportunity to decide for themselves.
Quote from: Kris on June 27, 2015, 04:45:23 PMQuote from: forummm on June 27, 2015, 02:18:34 PMYeah, it's an ambiguous convention. I have mixed feelings about it. I really like my marriage. But a lot of people get into bad ones and it makes their lives miserable. It's very helpful for when people are financial partners and make personal sacrifices for the benefit of the family unit. Having one standard set of rules that people can opt into does decrease the cost of lawyers getting involved to make customized contracts for each couple. But it does irritate me that having the convention is accompanied by there being a societal expectation that people should participate in it. It's one of those things where relationships have to go through a lot of stress in order to not conform to norms because the parties to the relationship come into it with their own societally induced expectations.But it works for me.I feel the same way. I was very anti-marriage when I was younger. Then I got married to the wrong person and was even more against marriage, for me personally. Then I met Mr. Awesome, and eventually overcame my skittishness and married the hell out of him. I am so deliriously happy to be married to him, I can't even tell you. Marriage can be a horrible thing, and it can be a wonderful thing. I just want everyone to have the opportunity to decide for themselves.My parents were enough to convince me marriage was stupid. And I'd never really seen a good one up close. And everything you hear in the media is people saying how terrible it is--especially comedic performances. And I even had a long term relationship with a person who reconfirmed for me that it was a terrible idea.But then I found DW and it all made sense. And we've been inseparable ever since.
Also: I have had the "correct" number of glasses of wine for a Friday night. And counting.
