And you keep ignoring that women, unlike men, are stuck with the physical impact of pregnancy.
Yes, I am, because
THAT'S WHAT FEMINISM MEANS! You don't want women to be treated differently because of their biology? Then don't treat them differently!
That women, unlike men, cannot just skip town when they want to escape the consequences of their actions. That women, unlike men, cannot impregnate three different men in the same night. That your idea of 'fairness' would require women to not only have to bear the physical, psychological and medical burden of pregnancy but also the logistical and financial burden of hiring a lawyer to make sure the guy's feet are held to the fire DURING THE FIRST FEW MONTHS OF THE PREGNANCY and which even if done can still be fought over in court by some sleazebag who later wants avoid being responsible. You are essentially laying out a situation in which a poor and/or young woman is incentivized to get an abortion rather than deal with all the hassles that you seem to think needed for the 'poor' guy to be 'fair'.
Sexist, all of it!
Apparently you think men are unfeeling beasts who never face the "psychological burden" of wanting to care for their child but not having the means to do so. Apparently only men can be "sleazebags," while all women are angels of unimpeachable character simply by virtue of their genitalia. Apparently you think women are so helpless that it's unreasonable for one to handle the tiniest responsibility of
simply telling the father that the baby exists. Apparently you think it's impossible for men to be young and poor too.
The only reason the timing is different is because we believe in bodily autonomy. As I said before "You are not correct here. Neither parent must give organs, blood or any other body parent for the child, even if the living child would die. Only when a mother is being treated as an incubator is this where she is forced. That is the core ideal of bodily autonomy. Your body is considered sacrosanct even if it would cause another's death, even if you yourself are a corpse. Do you really want the law changed that you may be forced to give up an organ, blood, marrow etc, to save your child's life? What if it would not save it, just prolong the life? Would you like to be forced then?" Until you are willing to agree that all people lose their bodily autonomy because of having a child, a woman does not. To say otherwise, is the sexist comment.
"Body autonomy" is a total non-sequitur. I am not, and never have been, objecting to that. Your attempt to imply my disagreement on that point is dishonest on your part and I will thank you to desist from lying about me.
What we're discussing here is that you think women should have the right to hold men financially hostage as a consequence of a decision they have no control over (i.e., whether to keep an unwanted pregnancy). To be clear: we are
NOT discussing whether men should have control over that decision. We are discussing whether women should have the superior right to impose the consequences unilaterally.
And side note, as I have posted prior family court is not sexist against men. Men who fight for their child get custody.
Again, you are disingenuously cherry-picking one aspect of the system that (allegedly) works, and pretending that somehow proves that
all of it works, but that does not follow. I again that you have pointedly avoided mentioning child support and only addressed custody.
And even if you're right that it works well (as a whole) in NY and Massachusetts, you have failed to prove that it works well in all (or even a majority of) jurisdictions. Until then, I can continue disprove your argument by
counterexample.
It truly seems you just don't want to pay for a child and want to find away not to do so. Then get a vasectomy and your problem would be solved.
That is a personal attack, and a libelous lie to boot! (I have no children, and would support them -- namely, by being married and cohabiting with their mother in a traditional two-parent household, not by merely paying child support -- if I did.) I was discussing public policy in general, and you have now turned it into a personal attack: it is the equivalent of if I were to accuse you of only supporting abortion because you want to have one yourself. I demand an apology!