Author Topic: Sharing a rented Ski Condo-Am I being Bxxchy?  (Read 8207 times)

Letj

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Re: Sharing a rented Ski Condo-Am I being Bxxchy?
« Reply #50 on: September 27, 2017, 07:10:05 PM »
It's not the money, folks, it's that the new guy "took it upon himself" to organise the trip.  Toes have been trodden upon.
So what. Be glad that he saved you the trouble. Life is too short to steam over such pettiness. No reason to create conflict over this.

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Re: Sharing a rented Ski Condo-Am I being Bxxchy?
« Reply #51 on: September 29, 2017, 04:48:33 AM »
When I read a post like this, my immediate reaction is this:

One of the things I like best about living below my means is that it allows me to be less obsessive about money, so that a little thing like this would never cause me one moment of hesitation or frustration.
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Do you have money, or does money "have" you? One thing I hated about not having very much money when I was much younger was I always felt like money "had" me. When money is tight, you think about it constantly. It takes up tons of your time and emotional energy, and can easily affect your well-being.

My main money goal was always to have enough of it that I could stop worrying. Which now I do.

Which means I don't stress over stupid, petty crap like this.

OP: Yes, you are being bitchy. Let it go. Life is too short. And friends are more important than $36 damn dollars. You are letting money get in the way of your well-being. Stop.
I love this comment! Now that I'm FIRE,  I've noticed I hardly think about money any more, but I hadn't really analyzed the why of it.

To your other point: I am a vegetarian and I drink sparingly, if at all. Water is always my preference. If I go out with friends, I ALWAYS pay an equal share of the bill. I do not nit-pick. I figure I was an equal participant in the meal and conversation and never stress over it. It's just not worth the mental energy. When people notice the difference and adjust for the discrepancy, it just makes me happy. Not allowing the reverse to make me sad has saved a lot of mental bandwidth.

Now that I'm married and have a house with a kick-ass 11' long dining table, we prefer to have people over than eat out. I don't serve overly fancy food, so it never strains the budget, because I'm FIRE and there is no budget any more!