But the thing is, when you try to talk to people about this stuff, they don't want to listen. Horse and water, something like that.
Plus I have known several people who were happy as clams following the standard script (counterpoint that not all people are well adjusted: I have also known a nihilistic man who spends every dime because he plans on committing suicide at a certain age because he doesn't want to age). It just seems to work for most people.
I make way less money per year here than a lot of posters but even my comparatively modest efforts to harness the ideas of early retirement blogs to my own advantage make me a pariah among my peers at times. "Whaaaat you don't have the special edition rose gold IPhone with the ruby ear buds!? What's wrong do you have brain damage?"
I occasionally meet the person who "gets it" but the funny thing is, you rarely have much to talk about with such people because you're both "boring". You don't have trashy stories of your own desperation and you aren't very dramatic compared to most because you live with more purpose and focus than most people.
The point being this approach isn't for everyone. People do all kinds of things with their lives I think are misguided and people think I in turn am misguided. Maybe I am right or maybe they are, who knows?
But to reign it back in, most people following the standard life script of zero balance retirement accounts and max balance credit accounts do seem to at least tacitly realize this extreme behavior is extreme even if it is culturally celebrated. I am a big fan of libertarian paternalism (I.e. set people up with a marginally prudent course of action as a default and only allow them to deviate if they consciously wish to do so) so I would be open to any suggestions how to stop this from being so widespread, but any solution I can think of that is governmental or institutional carries so many perverse downsides I think they would do more harm than good.
The only exception being a practical education in personal finances, however some sacred cows are going to have to be slaughtered politically before that can ever happen. My high school actually did use to have a math of money curriculum, but it was phased out after No Child Left Behind and left as only a one semester elective, and then common core and standardized test score driven school evaluations killed it completely.
The only way it's going to stop is the culture will have to shift and that means individuals are going to have to make decisions like I did. What's the old saying, be the change you want to see inn the world?