reggaeton is a kind of music. i dont like reggaeton, i would hate to have a reaggaeton event with people dancing and listening to that crap at my house. i dont want my house associated with reggaeton listening and dancing. is not a matter of being legal or not, marijuana is ilegal here and i dont care if people smoke it. reggaeton and swinging is not ilegal and i dislike it at my house.
for instance, by your message i can imagine that you would not enjoy naked people at your house. if you have a roommate, you probably expect this person to let you know and ask your permission before inviting 40+ naked people for a naturalism party at your place, am i right? just asking for your permission is not a matter of FORCING you to change your habits and REQUIRING you to become a naturalist. this is just common sense.
My point is that this is just a roommate communication issue, it happens in most families and most shared flats. It`s not a discussion of veganism. Everyone should live with people that know you and respect you.
its an issue of veganism/veggieism b/c that is the approach the OP took ... only after being destroyed for the selfishness of that, was it exposed that they had not asked the OP about throwing said party to which everyone here said yes they should have asked ... but the original premise of the thread was just about the act of roasting a pig and how awful it is to look at for someone who doesnt eat it.
well maybe some people took this personally.
if you live with a pastor, dont invite friends for a drugs & orgy at home. if you live with obama, don't do a pro-trump event at home. if you live with a vegan, dont pig roast at home. it's common sense, let's have some empathy and ask our roommates if it's ok to do something that you already know is not aligned with his/her values. communication is free and beautiful!
none of that is common sense. if i live with obama and we're both reasonable humans entitled to our own beliefs i can let him know i'm doing it but still throw the party. how about if you are a vegan dont take personal offense to someone eating meat. its a free world. and you're still saying ASK the OP wasnt about the fact they didnt ASK it was about the fact they were doing it.
lets see there are 4 people there 1 of which shares a different view and is flabbergasted they would do something of their view. how bout if you're views are that strong WTF are you even living with the meat eaters for or better yet have one of the as your SO.
grow thicker skin ... but i guess that may take a meat product.
well board42, i do not think you're wrong, i just think a little empathy costs nothing and goes great miles to having a nice friendly environment where everyone feels comfortable.
I guess my `common sense` was too optimist hahaha let me correct it for `manners` or `etiquette`. Living in a community requires some sacrifices in order to have a good vibe.
if the roommates had personally ASKED her (talking about a final date in front of other people is not asking) she could have answered no, and the problem would not exist. Just asking probably would make her feel better, regardless of having it there or not. Im sure Obama would rather have some thoughtful empathic roommates than a selfcentered thick skin one :P
if i know my mom doesnt like to swear, of course i can yell my lungs out FUCK, MOM, I AM FREE TO SAY WHAT I WANT. I FUCKING ENJOY SWEAR WORDS! STOP BEING A PUSSY, GROW SOME BALLS AND THICKER SKIN!!! - but i might as well just ask "mom, i know you dont like swear words, do you mind if i use them when im with you?", or i could even make an effort and just in case avoid saying swear words on her company. That would be very mature and nice.