I don't know what the answer is.
But it is something I've thought about a lot.
In the U.K. if I held a door open for a women she would likely look at me like I'm some antiquated nob head.
Yet here in Canada I've had other guys (I'm male) chastise me for 'not holding the door open for the lady' like it's any of their business.
Also I've had women insist on 'chivalry' whatever the F that is, and that I should for some reason open car doors for them, then when 'me lady' is comfortably seated, I'm supposed to tip my hat and close the door for her. All the while of course respecting that she is an independent women.
Something's a bit off in Canada, it's like how people use both imperial inches and metric here and jumble it all up.... it's like this feminist, chivalrous approach???? baffling to me.
In that way I like how it is in the U.K. more. Two female prime ministers so far, 1st one over 30 years ago, served 3 terms over 10 years, female monarch.... hardly ever hear a whisper from them about being a women. They just seem to get on with it.