Exes

[MrsK]

Do you ever have that moment where you are soooo thankful for an ex years later and the fact that they broke it off with you?  I realized today that there are at least 5 men out there that I am forever thankful that I didn't end up with. 

[mwulff]

I can think of one that I will forever regret leaving, and several others that I am happy to have left behind.

That's just life.

[HappierAtHome]

I'm grateful to younger-happier pretty much every day that I broke off all those relationships with losers (including a few pretty serious ones). Plus, thankful that I was able to recognise the BF for the gem he was and is!

[kaizen soze]

The real question is, how sorry are my exes to have let me go?

[YK-Phil]

I am so glad they are exes, none of them aged well...

[sol]

I have dated some amazing women in my life, but I don't miss any of them.  I would much rather be with my wife than any of them.

Which kind of makes sense.  Unless you're a huge dumbass, you probably aren't going to stay with people who aren't right for you. 

Equivalently, you could say "Every relationship you've ever had has ended in failure" unless you are currently married, or "Every marriage in history has ended in divorce or death."  It's sort of self-fulfilling.

Unless you're Spartana and deliberately dragging out a doomed relationship just because you enjoy suffering.  Run away, woman.  Like band-aids, the slower you go the more it hurts.

[Kriegsspiel]

I am so glad they are exes, none of them aged well...

Hah!

[The Borgs]

Oh, where to start to answer this, since I made so many poor dating choices when I was younger.

In reverse order, there's the ex-husband I bumped into a couple of years back who lost all the money he got from me in the divorce by making poor choices and now looks about 10 years older than his actual age. Boy I got off lightly by divorcing him and losing half of what I had financially.

There's the one who I briefly dated but had a bad feeling about so broke it off with, he turned out to be married (when I was later introduced to his other half at a function).

There's the chap who turned out to be an alcoholic (hard to tell at university, we all drank and partied).

There's the feller who was abusive and was arrested for attempted murder after trying to drive the girlfriend subsequent to me off a cliff in his car.

I could go on, but you get the gist. All I can say in my defence was I had issues.

[Zikoris]

My exes have not aged well either - one of them has gained what looks like 80-100lbs, and he wasn't skinny to begin with. I, on the other hand, get better looking with age!

But seriously, I used to look for different things. I haven't been in that many relationships. When I was 16, my primary criteria was looks and bad boy-ness, and that relationship lasted five years. Brief relationship break of a few months, during which I had a ton of fun dating and meeting new people in Vancouver, and moved to a new apartment. Then my priority was finding someone fun to hang out with and go do things together. That one lasted six months. Brief dating break of a couple months, during which I had laser eye surgery and learned to ballroom dance. Then my priority was a person I was actually compatible with, and we've been together ever since.

I'm very glad I didn't end up with any of my exes, or other people I considered dating. I don't know where that would have led, but ER probably wouldn't be it.

[eostache]

The real question is, how sorry are my exes to have let me go?

I am so glad they are exes, none of them aged well...

Over a dozen years ago, after 6 years of marriage, he suddenly left me for someone else because he thought the grass was greener.
I got on with my life pretty quickly, put myself through college (BS geology) and met my current bf (also a geologist).

I've been friendly with his twin sister all along and I did just recently friend him on FB. Do you think I'm a bit too PA if I post pics of the awesome hikes and bike rides I go on in Utah? He remarried long ago and has posted pics of his vacations on cruise ships. He doesn't look like he hikes or rides a bike much. (dodged bullet there, ya think?)