he may not feel 'old enough' because he doesn't have the kind of job he wants, because he can't afford the kind of wedding he thinks they should have/the family expects, because he has so much debt.
Yep. That's totally it. Add to the mix that most marriages he's seen (his parents, friends, etc) were with couples that dated 4+ years before marrying, and my bf and I have been together 2 years. Also add to the mix that I'm his first serious girlfriend, so for a while much of this felt new to him, whereas I was looking for the next level, having "been there, done that" with the whole gf/bf thing. We're really low on money and time right now, so I think the idea of planning a wedding is not fun for him to think about.
BUT GUESS WHAT?
My bf and I are very open. On the plan from hometown to temporary town, I told him I was feeling sad about leaving hometown (we had had a GREAT visit). I then told him about this MMM thread that I started, and how lhmao had asked, "why are you waiting three years to get married?" and I didn't have a good answer! I asked him, why are we waiting so long? Which opened up a good conversation. The end result: I am going to be proposed to some time between now and August 10th, 2014. Yaaaaaaaaaaaay!!!!!! Honestly, this is making it much easier for me to commit to this city. And I already knew that he was determined to be with me forever, but making this more official sounds good to me. So... now I wait, with bated breath! He even asked if I would rather that he pick the ring, or if we pick it together <3 He's a sweetie.
And I'm feeling better. Even though I hate living here, this is a drop in the bucket and will show us that we can get through the easy times and the hard.
So, thanks MMM Forum Commenters! You've helped me become more mustachian, helped me help my sweetie become more mustachian, and you've helped me feel better about my present while getting really truly excited about my future. You guys seriously rule. <3
