Where's she getting the money for marijuana?
What would you do?
Actually the wife and I discussed your scenario when you first posted this thread.
We both agreed that this:
And she's way too proud to get welfare, section 8, food stamps, etc.
Would not be acceptable. You can take our money, but not the government's? Nope, not happening.
So our first thing would be: you're applying for any aid you can get. Don't want charity? Too bad. Work on getting yourself to a position where you don't need it (i.e. employed). Right now you need it.
Second thing: We'd subsidize her, but she wouldn't live with us.
In other words, if she got a section 8 apartment, we'd pay her portion of the rent that the government didn't. If she had food stamps, we'd supplement that with some extra money.
So we'd help support her, but only extra needed above the aid she was getting. Refusing to do that and move in with us and rely on us for 100% of it (housing, food, etc.) is not our method.
I'm sure that won't help you, but you asked. ;)
I hope it all works out, somehow. Maybe her spiffy new resume will help her land a stable job that doesn't require drug testing.