Wow, thank you! That's pretty intense. Do you mind me asking how old your children are? They seem like they must be in their mid-teens?
Certainly some things I never would have thought to go into. Food for discussion with Mr SLTD for sure.
I have 4 daughters. They are now 8-18.
I started this about 5 years ago, so have had time to think through things as time has gone by, and the older girls, the guardian, and executor have posed a question or two that have been helpful.
What got me going with this was that my original choice for guardian said, in response to me letting him know I had a $500k life insurance policy (now it's a million), was "that's good for their college," which made me realize that he would definitely - with the best of intentions - spend $500k on bachelor's degrees. He ended up being unable to take on the responsibility for personal reasons.
When I told my next choice my financial situation, he said, "ok, I'll make it work," like he was just going to get the money, buy a bigger house to raise them in, etc. I sent he and his wife the document and put them in touch with the executor, and that helped them see that they weren't on their own to figure it all out, but they later got divorced.
Now that my girls are older, and we live close to my mother, who is still young and very active, she is the primary choice. She personally hates anything dealing with death, and that includes my plans for this unlikely situation, but has been good about reviewing it the 2 times I've sent it to her.