Hello,
My daughter (age 5) was supposed to attend the birthday party of a classmate, but she came down with the stomach flu and couldn't go. She was devastated but we were following the public health rules. I texted the parents and explained , they said no problem, hope she feels better.
Once my daughter returned to school, I brought the gift we were going to give her at the party and approached the parent with it. He said, "No thanks. I don't want it." I was quite shocked. I said, "but my daughter picked this out and made a beautiful card." He said " My daughter has too much stuff, so no, we don't want it. Save it for next year."
I checked the party invite. There was no mention of the party being gift free so I can only assume that gifts were received at the party. And we had already bought the gift because we thought we'd be attending. I get they might be minimalists, but am I wrong in finding this rude?
It's also created an issue because my daughter told her she has a gift for her, but fo course, now she keeps wondering where it is and thinks my daughter is lying.