Ha ha ha, my daughter was an angel at 7 months. Now, at 5, she is a hellion compared to my two boys. Good grief her strong will and determination are terrifying. The boys were rule followers, and she couldn't care less. So, yes, it is definitely possible to raise a little boy who behaves himself, to answer the original question. How much of it is nature vs. nurture though, ??? I have cousins who had wonderful, stable, firm but loving, consistent parents, and all three of them (my cousins, 1 boy and 2 girls, about my age) were total shits when they were kids. They are all stable, productive, fantastic adults now who look back with some shame and remorse on how they were as kids. Looking back I don't see any obvious parenting fails on the part of their parents.
Some of it is definitely just a matter of luck I think, although I would certainly not disregard the food/environment relationship to behavior. I've not seen it personally myself, but I've heard enough anecdotally, in enough different circles, to believe there's something to it. As for my daughter, she does eat differently from the boys because she's at a preschool where the food is provided. I'll be curious to observe if there's any change in behavior in a couple weeks when she moves to the public school and we control most of her food again. We don't do any food dyes at all, or a lot of the other crappy additives. I cut most of them out a few years ago trying to get my migraines under control, and since I went from having 30+ per year, to 4, I haven't seen a need to add any of that crap back into our diets.