Author Topic: 2 vs. 3  (Read 3793 times)

Chris Pascale

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Re: 2 vs. 3
« Reply #50 on: June 24, 2021, 06:14:23 PM »
4 was enough for us. ages 10-20. We're happy to have them, and they are happy to have each other. Some years were lean (not lean FIRE, but lean lean) but it was what was right for us.

During the lockdown, I was very fortunate that we had enough space for privacy, but enough people not to be lonely.

mrs sideways

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Re: 2 vs. 3
« Reply #51 on: July 05, 2021, 05:26:35 PM »
I'd disagree that you'll know for sure if you have the right amount of kids. I will always kind of regret not having a 3rd (especially because our families on both sides are whittling down to nothing, due to childfree adults and only children) but I think we made the right decision stopping at 2. Various reasons include:

- Our house is 1200 sq ft with 3 bedrooms: another kid meant someone would have to share a room, and there's not a lot of room to share.
- The second kid was much, MUCH harder than the first, and the sleep deprivation nearly broke me.
- Husband and I were getting older and autism (along with other disorders) loomed large in our minds.
- Our neighbors two houses away went for kid #3, and got surprise #4 at the same time.

If we had started younger or gotten a bigger house, we might have gone for it. As it was, getting my tubes taken out was, I think, probably, hopefully, the right move.
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