Have you considered staying at home? I hear so many people talk about how expensive childcare is, and then I hear that they do it so they can work.
How much are you making?
How much is childcare?
What's the difference?
Is the difference worth the time spent with the child? (At least until they go to kindergarten?)
Long answer to short question (and sorry to the OP for hijacking your thread). But I wanted to write it all out because it I don't see it being as simple as simply the difference between what I make and what day care would cost.
My salary is 63000 a year (will go up next year, but do not know how much). That does not include matching for 457 plan and teacher pension, nor insurance benefits (though we are most likely all going on DH's insurance (same employer) once baby is born). We are using a figure of $1200/mo. for child care in our area in our calculations. That's actually a tad on the low side for an infant in a center in our neighborhood. Our research is just beginning, so we're hopeful to find something for less (we've only looked near our home in an urban core neighborhood, not near either workplace, each in the suburbs - only looked at centers with published rates, haven't looked at home based care yet, etc.).
With our pretax contributions to retirement ($10K/year each to our 457s, would like to up it, but have not with figuring out baby's impact on our lives/finances), DH and I each have take home pay of $2800 a month. If I quit working, we'll have $2800/mo., and I won't be making any contribution to my retirement funds. (I'm confident in my ability to find some flexible replacement income, but it wouldn't be at the count-on-it level of a salaried position, at least not at first). We could discontinue DH's retirement contributions to gain some more take home pay, I guess, but he's 42 and it'd be less than desirable to cut back now. Our mortgage + HELOC is $1700/mo. We are not willing to move at this time - I'll be honest about that. We like our house, and we like our neighborhood.
So I guess from a cash flow perspective, we could probably do it. It'd be tight, but we have room to cut. If one of our cars died, we wouldn't need to replace it if I weren't working (right now, knock on wood, our cars are paid off long ago and in good shape, so aren't costing us a lot out of pocket). I could economize expenditures like food, we could definitely make cuts to our cell phone bills, but we'd be sacrificing a lot of retirement savings for me. I have a full budget posted over on my journal.
https://forum.mrmoneymustache.com/journals/fidgiegirl's-journal/msg170342/#msg170342I am torn, because I really want there to be a choice, and I feel like there isn't one right now. There is also some accompanying emotional baggage in that DH believes we should both be working outside of the home and that frankly, he'd make "better use" of time available staying home because he's typically more of a get-'er-done person than I am, puttering around the house, doing projects, etc. (I am not really sure what he expects staying home WITH A BABY would be like, but he only has his personal experience to draw from, I guess, which doesn't include one). He also will not yet quite break from the idea of working until 62 or 65 or whatever and so it is nearly inconceivable to him that either of us should quit prior to that. And he is not as well-positioned career-wise to be able to make a reentry if he did. He has a more limited, competitive license area than I do (I have two, and they are both high-demand areas, as well as some quasi-administrative experience). I am thankful that being in education, I don't worry so much about stepping out of the profession and not being able to step back in like people in other professions might. With my particular licenses, I could have a number of years off and still get back in easily.
So. Very long answer to a short question, but you have me thinking again. I had closed that door in my mind but maybe we need to look more closely again at how we can reopen it. I am pretty much scared shitless for this little person to arrive and would prefer not to make any decisions until after s/he is born to see how staying home with an infant really plays out. We'll be able to take a few months to see, luckily.
Thanks for asking. :)