So I don't have children of my own but I work at a school. What's driving me crazy lately is the emphasis on things. I try to compliment a child on his or her kindness, or honesty, or hard work, or cleanliness, or intelligence, or athleticism, or humility, etc rather than what they are wearing that day or even how cute they are. I feel like teaching children that their worth is what they look like or what they have just isn't healthy.
Anyway, I've been having difficulty especially with children showing off what they have and even my own hypocrisy in incentives. For the former, what am I supposed to say when a three year-old child tries to impress me with her new Hello Kitty shirt/light-up shoes/lunchbox/whatever? And for the latter, what kind of incentive system would be best for fostering morality? My system now is giving children "points" when they behave well and giving them a reward from a "prize box" when they accumulate ten of these points. Unfortunately, all this seems to teach them is: good behavior = toys! Yikes! I don't like that the current system is basically bribery and would love input. What have you Mustachian parents used to demonstrate that good behavior is worth it because it makes you a better person?