With 1.5% fees in your wife's 403(b), why are you maxing that out before your own 401(k) at 0.11%? Those fees are killer. Depending on when she plans to leave the job, the tax advantage to contributing may still outweigh the fees, but you should definitely be maxing out your own low-fee 401(k) before you put cash into that 403(b).
As to diversification between different asset classes, the overall mix is something you need to decide on for yourself based on your own risk tolerance. Do you want 100% stocks? 80%? 60%? Once you make that decision, do the best you can to implement it based on the funds you have available. If the only place you have a cheap bond fund available is in your 401(k), then buy your bond allocation there, and so on.