Author Topic: Office gift giving  (Read 1953 times)

dragonwalker

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Office gift giving
« on: December 07, 2023, 10:27:42 PM »
I wanted to run this situation by some neutral people to see if I'm being to stingy or there is something to it. Within our department there sometimes is this spontaneous desire from a few people to get our boss and boss' boss a gift on special occasions like holidays, birthdays, special occasions. Since I've been in this department for "Boss Day." This last time really annoyed me because I just came back from a meeting to find the department of 7 people huddled together basically having decided to give our boss' boss a gift for his birthday.

The sad thing is usually we can't think of anything truly meaningful and give a giftcard, in this last instance my coworkers suggested one to Costco for $25 per person so $200 in all. I just thought we might as well give cash to the one person who makes more than all of us. People just asked if everyone was ok and ofcourse I can't say no because I'll be that ungrateful person but really I don't want to give anything or get anything.

Part of me resents having to essentially voluntold to give a gift when I really think a simple acknowledgement is sufficient. Not sure if this matters but all my coworkers make substantially more than I do as well so they can "afford it". Most of these people for instance order or get food nearly everyday, talk about all their spending while I just stay silent and bring my own lunch.  What really irks me is one time I volunteered to buy the actual gift once everyone decided upon something and I specifically asked $5.32 from everyone and 2 people never paid. It's a small, petty amount that I can't really bring up but it makes me not want to do these things even more like you spend so much, so often, and tell everyone on top of it and then to ask me to pay for something you want. As you can see I have other emotions and thoughts mixed up in here so hard for me to say in this instance if my assessment is fair.   

Am I just being a grinch here and being petty? If not, what is one way to put an end to it without being labeled as the person who isn't a teamplayer? 

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Re: Office gift giving
« Reply #1 on: December 07, 2023, 10:38:20 PM »
First, so curious why you put this in "Investor Alley?"

Second, I completely agree with you. And Alison at AskAManager does too. There should be no "gifting up" in an office. And I wish all bosses would put a stop to it. Any chance your colleagues would be open to a card with sincere messages written inside?

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Re: Office gift giving
« Reply #2 on: December 07, 2023, 10:40:07 PM »
Thanks for the advice, I meant to post in Ask a Mustachian, I will repost.