Well, I'd add a few things.
First of all, venting your attic wouldn't help. You have a conditioned attic and if you wanted to use attic ventilation to prevent ice dams you'd be talking about freezing temps in your attic.
You're probably thinking of venting the roof deck, which from the sounds of it is already occurring - but not because the slate is more vapor/air permeable than asphalt. Yes, that probably allows the slate to cool more easily than asphalt, but it doesn't matter because it's releasing its heat to the snow above just the same. In fact, you DON'T want warm air to be able to reach your roofing material. You want the roof deck to be cooled by outdoor air rather than warmed by indoor air.
With enough insulation, you don't need a vented roof deck as there won't be enough heat escaping to melt any snow. This is a TON of insulation though, and if you use rigid foam you have to use 2 layers and stagger the seams. This is known as a hot roof and you can't be careful enough to ensure you're doing it right.
It sounds like your insulation/roof ventilation combo is working for you - that's great! Wish I could say the same about my current roof assembly.