I guess I started reading the blog and began thinking, if this guy can do it, I can do it too. If he only needs $25k with a family of 3 how much do I really need being a DINK. And I loved the "spend where it will improve your life" part. It wasn't just "live in a box while raking in a full-time salary." But when I started crunching numbers (to see where my "problem areas" were) things just weren't adding up. Like, his cell phone was listed as $120 - which is $5/month/adult. What?? Republic's $5 plan doesn't include internet but he has a new iPhone? His utilities were only $1260; mine are $1800 - but our internet (we canceled cable and have regular speed internet) is another $936 - which isn't listed on his budget. His spending money (or at least things that I categorize in my "spending money" envelope on GoodBudget) was $9495 and mine is $18,600. I know he's frugal, and in a better headspace about this and has had more practice, but it left me thinking - does the guy not use toilet paper? Does he not use soap in the dishwasher, he's had nothing hemmed or cobbled? What about that cool phone he got? Then I just started thinking, alright there's got to be some things unaccounted for on this list - even if it's stuff he legitimately does use for business purposes. There are some expenses that I don't see that he has to have (like internet). And I don't want this to turn into a math lesson, and I'm not saying that he's doing anything wrong by splitting out business vs personal, and it's his spreadsheet, he can do what he wants. My point is that my plan was to emulate him, or try my best to. I was going to get as close to $25K as I could! But the little things that weren't added in because they're business expenses killed it for me. It's like if someone tells you they lost a bunch of weight just by eating right and exercising. I'd think, "Awesome, tell me what you did and I'll do the same." And then it turns out they're a trust fund baby, don't have to work and started exercising 6 hours a day. It quickly goes from, "I can do that too," to, "Good for them, but it doesn't seem like that could apply to me." I'd probably be way more gung-ho still if MMM broke it down by saying if all of my living/fun/quality of life expenses came out of my personal accounts, we'd only need $35K. Then I feel like I could compare my budget better.
And I think that might have been Clearwater's point also. We think it's so cool that you retired at 30 that we want to copy you. But how can we do that when some typical expenses are calculated in another inaccessible column.
Don't get me wrong, I've learned a lot and my husband and I have made some great changes. We've cut our utility bills and went from the worst 25% to the best 50% on our quarterly usage chart. We're paying off $14K in bills that probably would have languished for another 5 years. We're paying more attention to our Roths and subsequently opened a Vanguard account and we will start socking more money away into my husband's 401k (after the bills are paid off). Lots of great stuff! So while I've learned from MMM and others on these forums, I no longer believe I can be like MMM and get my living expenses to $25k.
As far as biking and DIY go, "making sense" could be debated. I don't usually bike or DIY, I don't have any intrinsic desire to, I don't really enjoy either one (though maybe I would have learned to), but I was willing to if it meant getting down to a $25k budget and being able to retire in 10 years. However since I don't think I can ever get down to $25k by trying to copy MMM, I don't know that I'll be able to retire that soon. So why do something I don't like just to try to reach a goal I no longer think is reachable. Hence the dusty bike and the free-but needs-to-be-taken-to-a-laundromat lace sitting in my garage.