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I am a college professor, so I can't face punch them like I would like to. Bu I would like to teach my students how to be non-complainy pants when dealing with a problem. So I'm looking for suggestions.
Today's episode is brought to you by Martin Luther King Day. I teach a lecture for 5 different discussion sections of 28 students (so a total of 140 students). 3 of the 5 sections are on M. It gets better, classes started on a Wednesday, so the monday sections are already behind. Consequently, I designed a computer activity they could do at home. They did the same activity as the W and F sections, though W and F did it in the computer lab.
Student X in M section turns complainy pants. Now there are a number of ways he could have expressed his disgruntledness, but his was particularly whiny. There are ways to say, "I'm having a hard time with this. Could you help me or give me more time?" instead of "this is a stupid assignment and it's not fair that I have to do it." What's my role re: coaching him on living a non-complain-y pants life? this is the second thing he's gone complainy on.
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I am a college professor, so I can't face punch them like I would like to. Bu I would like to teach my students how to be non-complainy pants when dealing with a problem. So I'm looking for suggestions.
Today's episode is brought to you by Martin Luther King Day. I teach a lecture for 5 different discussion sections of 28 students (so a total of 140 students). 3 of the 5 sections are on M. It gets better, classes started on a Wednesday, so the monday sections are already behind. Consequently, I designed a computer activity they could do at home. They did the same activity as the W and F sections, though W and F did it in the computer lab.
Student X in M section turns complainy pants. Now there are a number of ways he could have expressed his disgruntledness, but his was particularly whiny. There are ways to say, "I'm having a hard time with this. Could you help me or give me more time?" instead of "this is a stupid assignment and it's not fair that I have to do it." What's my role re: coaching him on living a non-complain-y pants life? this is the second thing he's gone complainy on.
Put in your syllabus that their grade drops one letter each time they whine and that you are the sole arbiter of what whining is.
Whiners make me itch to go all Lizzie Borden.
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Just point out that he either has to do the work, or lose points on his grade. If he doesn't like that, he can drop the class or flunk.
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My sister-in-law just started teaching in her first professorship after finishing her PhD. So far her standard reply to whiny students is "Welcome to college!"
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My sister-in-law just started teaching in her first professorship after finishing her PhD. So far her standard reply to whiny students is "Welcome to college!"
I like that. :)
College is not compulsory. If they don't like the rules, they are free to leave.
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My sister-in-law just started teaching in her first professorship after finishing her PhD. So far her standard reply to whiny students is "Welcome to college!"
This, and many variations on this, are what I do: cheerful, but relentless and unflappable, insistence that personal responsibility for your own outcomes is what life in professional spaces entails.
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Student X in M section turns complainy pants. Now there are a number of ways he could have expressed his disgruntledness, but his was particularly whiny. There are ways to say, "I'm having a hard time with this. Could you help me or give me more time?" instead of "this is a stupid assignment and it's not fair that I have to do it." What's my role re: coaching him on living a non-complain-y pants life? this is the second thing he's gone complainy on.
Well, *is* it a stupid assignment? Maybe he's just speaking truth to power.
/devil's advocate
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With small children, my all purpose response is, "Bummer". Say it with a smile and a nod, and then just move on. Seems like it would be appropriate here.
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Saw this yesterday and thought you might like it...
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My sister-in-law just started teaching in her first professorship after finishing her PhD. So far her standard reply to whiny students is "Welcome to college!"
This. Really.
Trying to think of my college years, I don't think anything would have kept me from complaining if I felt like it. I just would have found a different group to complain to. :) Keep yourself upbeat--they'll learn eventually or move on.
For some reason I felt like this was a computer programming assignment (projecting? :) ). "Most first assignments are kind of boring. We have to give everyone the same base to build on. Make it interesting for yourself."
Or, "If you like, I could give you more challenging assignments." :D
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Or, "If you like, I could give you more challenging assignments." :D
I know this was meant to be snarky, but it isn't an altogether bad plan if done genuinely. If by "this is a stupid assignment" the student is really saying "this seems to be pointless busy-work from which I will gain nothing" then yeah, a more challenging assignment might very well help.
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Or, "If you like, I could give you more challenging assignments." :D
I know this was meant to be snarky, but it isn't an altogether bad plan if done genuinely. If by "this is a stupid assignment" the student is really saying "this seems to be pointless busy-work from which I will gain nothing" then yeah, a more challenging assignment might very well help.
Not entirely snarky, just thinking that it's unlikely that a student will take up the offer. If they do, they aren't being complainy pants, just genuinely unhappy.
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After about 5 years it becomes easier to tell them when they are being unreasonable. After about 10 years you just stop replying. I'm on my 7th year and aggressively trying to get to 10.
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Or, "If you like, I could give you more challenging assignments." :D
I know this was meant to be snarky, but it isn't an altogether bad plan if done genuinely. If by "this is a stupid assignment" the student is really saying "this seems to be pointless busy-work from which I will gain nothing" then yeah, a more challenging assignment might very well help.
My gen chem professor did this. Pulled 3 of us after class and gave us extra work. We loved it. i