I am even older and I can assure you SwordGuy and JestJes are right. IMO, there's nothing sadder than people who end up with nothing because they refused to make lifestyle adjustments along the way. I think you should give yourself and your family a hard time limit on keeping the house. No job paying over X by this date, and we're going on the market. Assuming the market holds, of course.
Come to think of it, the paid-for house I'm living in came about because the owner/builder turned down what he thought was a lowball offer just before the market tanked in 2008. He and his family decided to move into it. Five years later, he had to short sell the house. He basically lost everything. They are now divorced and he's estranged from them. Very sad.
OP, you're not going to like my opinion, but it's this: Dicey's comment here is your future unless you sell that house.
It sounds like you came here in 2014 hoping for financial freedom but then got lucky in your job and engaged in lifestyle inflation via Previously Unattainable Wife. I apologize if I'm overstating, guessing wrong or being unduly personal about people I haven't met - and for the record, I'm sure your wife is a beautiful lady with intelligence and heartfelt dreams, which your fat paycheck allowed her to bring into fruition. It's understandable you wouldn't want to take that away from her.
But if her staying with you is premised on keeping the house she just designed, by definition you're not going to Mustache your way out of this. You already gave up on that, and she didn't sign up for it, and you're only keeping the house long term if you go out and get another job that pays as well as the last one. (ETA: On re-reading, I notice you mention some other frugal signs. No disrespect, you've done a lot well.)
You posted upthread that you weren't going to get another job that pays as well?
Crap. You are probably right!
It's kind of inevitable though. Once you go into lifestyle inflation, the desires are always bigger than the paycheck. Getting lucky at work meant you had a choice between financial freedom and lifestyle inflation. You can't have both. It's just not how the world works.
You are extremely lucky that you have a year of severance, that the upcoming recession hasn't arrived yet, and that you have a chance to cut your losses without losing everything. Don't blow it.
In other words, if you face the emotional suffering now by selling the house and processing the short term pain, you have a brief window where you can still achieve FI. You're retired, but not FI. If your wife loves you enough to stay with you after you sell the house and say your future earnings are somewhere between zero and Relatively Low (compared to what she's used to), true love wins and your decisive new action will preserve financial security for the rest of your lives. Plus, it's possible that selling now will save you from a soon-to-come collapse in PNW real estate values. You might end up very happy not to be paying a huge mortgage in a couple of years. Heck, maybe you could even buy the house back at half price after the new owner goes broke! So go on a growth journey together - experience the loss together, go through the joy of building/buying/renting/rehabbing something different that's better but cheaper, grow closer from your unified experience. I hope that's what happens.
If your wife can't handle that, your dream of satisfying (or delighting) her is over and the question is how much of your current equity you will lose by delaying.
Gamblers lose everything because they keep playing when the odds are against them. What will you do?
PS. I will admit that your current plan - sell the rentals, get the job you can get, more or less scrape by accepting modest cuts elsewhere in order to hang on to the house - has a chance of working. It just also has a chance of failing, and makes it highly likely you will work for whatever you get, and that you may work a long time and still lose the house someday.
In the end, it's a values decision that involves both of your values. Maybe you both value the house (her recent effort) more than your time (your future effort). It's also a pain now vs pain later decision, where pain now probably (I think) brings much joy later, but it's hard to see the joy later through the pain that selling the house now would bring. I wouldn't blame you and your wife if you decided the next year was Farewell to House Year and you had special parties in it before you left or something, while selling the other properties. Maybe at some point your wife will find a cheaper new plan that she likes. Best of luck, and keep us posted.
Again, sorry if this isn't what you want to hear. It's just my opinion based on what you wrote.