Hi, new and writing from Ireland. Here’s the deal, own two houses, one we live in - 2 children aged 10 and 8 and a half yrs old. Second home has tenants ( too unstable to sell rental prop as it’s in Republic of Ireland and Brexit is a dog’s dinner). Combined mortgages remaining on both houses is approx £185k ( total combined value after repaying both mortgages in a good market climate = £550k ish. Husband self employed and I teach ( promoted post brings in approx £400 net extra to my take home.
Key issue is that promotion means I continually work in the evenings = missing time with kids, husband and having freed up time for life. Life feels very squashed and stressful. I have suspended promotion for a year and whilst I miss the extra £400 a month, the lowered stress and time with kids gives me breathing space. Our aim is to sell up both properties, downsize and not to return to promotion but remain in full time work trying out mortgage free life.
Conundrum, I’m 48, off the blocks late with children, have worked my ass off to get this promotion ( always fought my through to get promotions). Why do I feel embarrassed at the thought of going back down the ladder in work and surrendering this promotion? Financially I do charity shop clothes purchases, neither drink or smoke and our lives are good.
Why this feeling, maybe as a working mother, that aiming for mortgage free and giving up the promotion feels so odd?