Edit: So many responses and so much advice is very overwhelming. I don't get a lot of social interaction with other adults. So I'm stepping away from this post for a bit. I'll be back to update as things progress.
Thanks everyone for your advice and guidance.
Life Situation: Married filing joint, 3 kiddos all under 10, living in Portland, OR. +my brother who is on SSI = 6 people
Gross Salary: $125,000
Pre-tax deductions: $5,000 annually to 401k to meet employer match, $600 monthly for health, dental, vision.
Other income: $20k VA disability pension
Adjusted Gross Income: $132,000
Taxes on W2: federal $12,749, FICA $9,563, state $9,220, local arts tax $35
Total income after taxes: $109,996
Expenses Monthly:
Mortgage Principle $559.66 Interest $921.18, Taxes/Ins $361.16 = $1,842
Utilities (nat gas, trash, water/sewer,electric, internet, cell phones $42 - no land line) $489
Credit Cards: $936
Personal loans: $862
Car loan: $563
Car ins: $50
Car Reg: $0 - veteran's get free registration in OR.
Student loan: $398
Spotify $15
Food for 3 adults, 3 children/toiletries/animal care: $2,500
Total: $7,655
Total annual expenses w/debt: $91,860
Assets: home valued at $370k (owe $303k, we had $0 down), we don't consider our car an asset as we were upside down on our F-150 and got that $20k rolled into our loan for our smaller/more fuel efficient car. So we owe $34k on a $12k car.
EDIT: We also have $7k in cash.
Liabilities (which were listed above in expenses but have more detail here): I am not sure what the interest rate will be on the 0% cards when the promotional period is up. I will look into that.
US Bank CC balance $17,538, payment $176, currently at 0% interest for first year, ends in June, we had other credit cards that we consolidated to this one and have no put a new balance on. 3 of our cards are at a $0 balance.
Paypal Credit: balance $4,071, payment $36, interest currently 0%, ends in July
Citi Costco Anywhere Visa: balance $9,005, payment $196, interest 16.74%
Chase Amazon Rewards Card: balance $5,762.18, payment $169, interest 23.74
Chase Sapphire Card: balance $8,933, payment $89, interest 0% until Oct
Cap 1 Platinum card: balance, $2,914, Payment $12, interest 4% (yes 4%)
Cap 1 Journey card: balance $2,347, payment $67, interest 21.3%
Home Depot card: balance $11,999 , payment $230, interest varies per purchase, anything more than $200 is interest free for 6 months. we have only had the card for about 3 months. & are pretty much done using it as our project is complete.
US Bank Loan 1 balance (originally $15k)$8,072 , payment $388, interest 10.57%
US Bank Loan 2 balance (originally $20k)$18,069, payment $473, interest 14.49%
Car loan (originally $36,465) $34,683, payment $563, interest 6.89%
Student Loan (originally around $45k spread over 3 loans, paid only minimum for about 8 years, still had around 25 years left, consolidated to 1 loan and are currently paying amount to payoff in 10 years. Interest was also much higher on original loans) current balance $33,688, payment $398, interest 5.11%
Credit card totals: $62,569
Edit: I trimmed this post a bit so it wasn't so long to read. The spotify stays. My husband listens to it literally all day while he is working. My children listen to it a lot during the day. I listen to it at least a few hours a day. My husband is not disabled in any way that requires extra care from me. He get's VA disability for bad knees & sleep apnea from having his nose broken in the service. The pets are staying as well. We made a commitment to take care of them and you don't just discard another living thing because it is inconvenient. My brother feeds and deals with the dog poo. My husband plays frisbee with the dogs at least once per day for exercise. The cats are indoor outdoor and are the least expensive of the 3. I only need about 3 bags of food a year for them. Litter maybe once every 2 months as they rarely go in the box.
As far as the spending on the credit cards. It was trips, food, booze, various home-school related activities, entertainment, & remodeling our basement. Oh and I fronted the cost of my step-dad's funeral for my broke mother. She unfortunately cut contact with me after that and I haven't seen a dime of that money paid back.
Last month we did NONE of that. We do desperately wan't to change and HAVE changed a lot of our habits. We found a wonderful website that has all things needed for school work for FREE. So we got rid of about $100 worth of subscription based learning programs. We also cancelled $135 in streaming TV services. I just called my internet provider yesterday and had our bill brought down by $20. We are trying. The 2 things we won't budge on are the $15 spotify and our animals. We are willing to do the work anywhere else.
The $7k unfortunately is going to be paying to have our faulty electrical panel replaced in a few days. It is dangerous and cannot be put off. I am expecting it to cost closer to $5k. So we will see how much is left. That can go towards debt.
I just logged into my mortgage and changed the amount so that we aren't paying the extra $158 and changed the calculations above to reflect that.
As far as my husband working two jobs... If anyone can do it, it's him. He has a very interesting personality. He gets shit done, for lack of a better way of putting it. I have removed that extra income from the calculations as it will not be coming in until March. We are pretty confident it will be coming in as DH signed the contract yesterday. Also he is not the only person we know that is working on more than one software project. It's not like this is unheard of. If/when the job starts, we can expect about $8,000 extra per month. We were paying about $2k on debt until Nov. When we had issues with our electrical panel. We have since then been putting any extra in savings. So we will be putting that $2k on debt again in Feb. Assuming job #2 works out for my husband, we will have $10,000 per month to throw at debt. Our tax return should also be around $12k. So that will be put straight towards debt as well. I fully anticipate having the CC debt paid off in 6 months or less.
I'll re-address the buying of a new property. That is a GOAL. A huge motivating factor in our lives. We absolutely HATE living in the city. It is a great source of stress & depression for all of us. We have no plans for moving until all of our debt is paid off. & until we have at least 20% down for a new place.
My spending habits are something I have been working on for YEARS. I won't go into specifics about how or why I have had such a huge change mentally. I do slip up from time to time and spend where I don't need to and then I feel like dog crap. I don't want to even slip up anymore. However there was a point in my life, not that long ago that I thought I was entitled to spend money and buy whatever I wanted because I took care of everyone and everything in my house. Also I have tried getting a job as well as my husband working. It did not work. The small amount of money I was able to bring in (about $1,500 working full time) was not enough to offset the cooking and cleaning that was not getting done at home.
I'll be posting and/or updating as things are paid off. I'm going to go with highest interest & credit cards first. Thank you all very much for your advice. I really do appreciate it.